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This was inspired by another thread I just participated in, so thanks!

Ok, so... basically I don't like sex. I don't enjoy doing it, I don't enjoy talking about it, nothing at all about sex 'does it' for me.

On the rare occasions when this subject has come up in conversation, the women I'm talking to are absolutely gobsmacked, whereas the blokes I talk to can understand (and agree) with it.

That's the reason for my rather bizarre poll, and any comments are very, very welcome indeed! :)

Sex? I am female and I love it, it makes me tingle and I love how warm and contented I feel afterwards, I have a fairly high sex drive (my boyfriend thinks I am trying to kill him) Many of my friends think I am some kind of maniac, as I enjoy sex so much, and I like doing it outside, inside, daytime, night time, you name it really.

:fluffle:

What, No pancakes?

Mmmmm.... Pancakes.

What, No pancakes?

Mmmmm.... Pancakes.

What's up with pancakes? After Darknovae's poll with the pancake joke option, I've seen it in at least three others...

Sex... It's quite nice. Not a patch on a decent curry, though.

Admittedly I haven't had much sex, and experience probably counts for a lot, but when I have had it it's been nice but not to the point that it's worth all the attention and interest people surround it with.

Sex is built up by society today into such a big thing, it's not surprising that people are disappointed when it fails to meet up to the 'expected' standard.

Sex is built up by society today into such a big thing, it's not surprising that people are disappointed when it fails to meet up to the 'expected' standard.

Yeah, some people build it up to be The Ultimate Pinnacle Of All That Is Good And Right In The Universe.

'Course, some deride it as The Root Of All That Is Evil, Exploitative, Unclean and Unholy.

Both sets of people are very silly. It's quite a nice way to spend an afternoon, and a more entertaining use of certain bits of your body than widdling. It's also something where you have to be a bit careful. That's all.

As I've said here before, I don't want it.

What's up with pancakes? After Darknovae's poll with the pancake joke option, I've seen it in at least three others...

I was on another forum which had the pancake-joke option meme, and brought the meme here. While becoming the NSG Pancake in the process. It's been in nearly every poll since... that I've seen, anyway.

On topic... I want it, but not anytime soon.

:eek:

In a sex thread, too... :s

What, No pancakes?

Mmmmm.... Pancakes.

:eek:

Female, love sex.

Maybe for those of you that "hate" it just really need to look at what you and/or your partner is doing wrong? It's a pretty healthy part of a relationship, though it could be who you're having sex with. If you only do it with people that really suck then you probably won't like it too much if that's all you know, lol...

:eek:

I was waiting for you to show up. :p

OT:If I could get some. . . .
And I wasn't so shy. . . .
Or paranoid. . . .

This was inspired by another thread I just participated in, so thanks!

Ok, so... basically I don't like sex. I don't enjoy doing it, I don't enjoy talking about it, nothing at all about sex 'does it' for me.

On the rare occasions when this subject has come up in conversation, the women I'm talking to are absolutely gobsmacked, whereas the blokes I talk to can understand (and agree) with it.

That's the reason for my rather bizarre poll, and any comments are very, very welcome indeed! :)
It can be fairly rubbish to super spiffing. Depends, but it's one of life's more excellent pleasures IMO.

This was inspired by another thread I just participated in, so thanks!

Ok, so... basically I don't like sex. I don't enjoy doing it, I don't enjoy talking about it, nothing at all about sex 'does it' for me.

On the rare occasions when this subject has come up in conversation, the women I'm talking to are absolutely gobsmacked, whereas the blokes I talk to can understand (and agree) with it.

That's the reason for my rather bizarre poll, and any comments are very, very welcome indeed! :)

are you male or female?

have you had sex with other people?

have you had sex with another person more than once?

did you have an orgasm?

did you (if you are male) last more than one minute before orgasm?

sex is biologically programmed to feel great. that way we have an incentive to do it as often as possible.

of course people are more complicated than animals when it comes to sex. so when you arent having a great time, it means that you "arent doing it right".

meaning that you have poor technique, are doing it with someone with poor technique, in general havent had enough experience to know what does it for you, or are only sexually involved with people who mean nothing to you (not that that cant be great sex)

or you have a hormone imbalance.

so depending on your age you should either wait for a person who is so exciting to you that you cant wait to have sex with her/him

or see a doctor.

i love it but it tires me out too much... my sex drive is such i'd like to do it more often, but when i do i just get shattered :P

then again its usually pretty energetic with us ;)

Sex is the most entertaining exercise you can engage in. If it's not fun for you, you're not doing it right, asexuals aside.

This is as silly as asking if I love or hate food.

There are some foods I hate. Broccoli, for instance. And mandarin oranges.

There are some foods to which I am indifferent. Bean sprouts would be a good example.

There are foods which I am fond of, such as rice or potatoes.

And there are foods I adore and would gladly gorge myself upon. Artichokes. Avocados. Asparagus. (For some weird reason, all my favorite foods are green and begin with the letter "A"...)

Sex comes in as many flavors as people do. Pun most definitely intended.

Sex comes in as many flavors as people do. Pun most definitely intended.

somewhere between spinach or black licorice?

somewhere between spinach or black licorice?

I was more interested in what she was doing with that artichoke.

Love it? Hate it? Are you kidding? I scarcely remember it! :headbang:

Sex also varies in quality.

Perhaps the reason the OP doesn't like it is because they haven't had great sex yet.

I was more interested in what she was doing with that artichoke.

Walking artichoke? (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pangolin)

http://data1.blog.de/blog/p/plasticine/img/8140-Evil-Clowns.jpg

:)

Meh. I think I have an imbalance of some sort. I'm great in bed, but it's just not that enjoyable (physically or mentally). It's more like an obligation.

Used to hate it, but now I'm pretty fond of it if done the "right" way...

Love sex and love trying new things. Luckily my girlfriend is just as adventurous as me

Love sex and love trying new things. Luckily my girlfriend is just as adventurous as me

It certainly helps. :)

Sex?
Yes please.

Sex is loads of fun. It's all that stuff beforehand where you have to clear your mind that's a bitch.

Humans heap tons of stress upon themselves. Stress kills sex drives. Lack of sex drive means lack of sex. Lack of sex means lack of procreation. How it is we're not all extinct I have no idea.

Hmmmm just to add a question of my own to this thread. How many people have faked an orgasm?

It's kinda funny, I agree with some opinions here that when you don't like it is because there's something wrong.

My girlfriend was like that, she didn't hated but wasn't too interested in it because she had a bad experience before, but with some time she got confident and interested in it and now her sex drive is really high that sometimes as one member already posted here, I think she's trying to kill me hehehe.

By the way we always have great sex and both of us enjoy it, although is not the most important thing in our relationship.

I remeber I told her and still believe in it: Sex is like cherries in a really delicious cake, we already have that cake but if we don't have the cherries it won't make the cake less delicious, and if we have them it won't affect the cake either because its already delicious. You are only adding more flavor to it.

Hmmmm just to add a question of my own to this thread. How many people have faked an orgasm?

If you count putting liquid soap in a condom and throwing it at someone, then yes, I have faked an orgasm.

If you count putting liquid soap in a condom and throwing it at someone, then yes, I have faked an orgasm.

Always fun to wake someone up from a drunken sleep to find you pouring some such liquid onto their face from a condom. They'll never sleep near you again

Hmmmm just to add a question of my own to this thread. How many people have faked an orgasm?

No, but I have reached the point where I've decided "I'm not going to come like this", she's mentioned she's getting dry/sore/had all her orgasms/look, we really need to get a move-on, were late, and therefore stopped. No need to fake anything.

If you count putting liquid soap in a condom and throwing it at someone, then yes, I have faked an orgasm.

"Yes, I did you last night. Yes, you were drunk, and sobbing, and I invited you in to try to console you. That's when you insisted that you owed me 200 dollars, and said you would never be able to raise the cash to pay me back. But you insisted that you could pay me back another way. I said no, but the way you clawed at my belt buckle made me give in and let you bend over. After the third time, you said you felt much better about the money, so I wiped myself off in your hair, and pushed you out the door with your pants around your ankles."

Sex? It used to be fun, I even sought it out. Then I hit menopause and regained my senses.

Hmmmm just to add a question of my own to this thread. How many people have faked an orgasm?

As a male... *sigh* many times.

Male, and I love sex, but it's not always for everyone - or, at the least, a particular technique isn't for everyone. And yes, I have faked an orgasm. I've also faked not having an orgasm. Either way, the GF didn't seem to mind.

I dont understand?

How can you not like sex?Its a biological need to have sex.

You may have a hormone imbalance or you could be doing it wrong.

I dont understand?

How can you not like sex?Its a biological need to have sex.

You may have a hormone imbalance or you could be doing it wrong.

its called asexuality

I dont understand?

How can you not like sex?Its a biological need to have sex.

You may have a hormone imbalance or you could be doing it wrong.

There's a whole lot of psychology involved as well as biology, and that can greatly affect how sex is perceived on an individual as well as societal level.

It's fun, but not as good as chocolate.
Less fattening, though.

Hmmmm just to add a question of my own to this thread. How many people have faked an orgasm?I wish I could. :(

I like sex. Well, it depends who I'm having sex with... there have been times when I've thoroughly not enjoyed myself, but usually it's good/great/speactacular.

Of course, this is if we're talking about foreplay as well, not just intercourse. Jumping right into that isn't quite so fun without an hour or so of other activities beforehand... well, sometimes it is...

I like sex. Well, it depends who I'm having sex with... there have been times when I've thoroughly not enjoyed myself, but usually it's good/great/speactacular.

Of course, this is if we're talking about foreplay as well, not just intercourse. Jumping right into that isn't quite so fun without an hour or so of other activities beforehand... well, sometimes it is...

Although I never had sex with anybody (i'm 20 years old and never had any girlfriend :(), I still have my fantasys and I believe sex must be absolutely GREAT. I'm male.

I already hate sex and I haven't even had it yet.

I already hate sex and I haven't even had it yet.

Why?

If I were a bell, I'd be ringin'...

Sex, it's the destroyer of societies and the corupptor of people. But damn it feels good!

At any given time on any given day, I can't really think of something I'd rather be doing. Maybe if I'm really hungry or really thirsty or someone is holding my head underwater, but short of that I think at any given moment I'd rather be having sex than doing anything else. Something about hundreds of millions of years of evolution building into your biology the need to propogate kinda makes claims by people saying they don't enjoy it fall a little flat. It would seem genes that make people want sex less than others would get bred out over the milenia. Maybe you should see a psychologist or perhaps a psychiatrist? Seems if you really don't like sex that there's something psychologically, maybe even physically wrong with you.

I'm always entertained, and somewhat amused, by those among us who are so sex obsessed that they can't even comprehend anyone disliking it without having a psychological difficulty! Personally I feel totally the reverse - anyone for whom it's such a crucial thing is, perhaps, the one in need of some guidance in life....

I'm always entertained, and somewhat amused, by those among us who are so sex obsessed that they can't even comprehend anyone disliking it without having a psychological difficulty!

I hear that being amused by sex obsessors is a sign of gayness.

I have not found anything that has given me more pleasure than sex with a woman. :fluffle:

If you hate it, you're doing it wrong.

its called asexuality

Oh this bullshit again.

Wow. There are more asexuals on NSG than there are in existance. It's truly amazing.

to all that don't like sex, i'm sorry that some one screwed it up for you. i'll be more than happy to fix your problem for ya. i know it sounds weird but i too had fucked it up for some one they likes slow love making and i prefer porn style f-cking, so after she didn't like sex until she met her slow love maker. now i read what the woman is telling me. and all is well. bad sex can turn anybody away. if it wasn't for brainy girls i would probably been gay. from a bad sex experience. keep the faith and remember masturbation is not a sin but foolproof birth control . practice everyday.

Oh this bullshit again.

Wow. There are more asexuals on NSG than there are in existance. It's truly amazing.

There'd likely be millions, easily. So, uh, NSG isn't -that- popular. Yet.

Oh this bullshit again.

Wow. There are more asexuals on NSG than there are in existance. It's truly amazing.

No, just a bunch of virgins who have not yet experienced the pleasure of the forbidden fruit. :eek:

Oh this bullshit again.

Wow. There are more asexuals on NSG than there are in existance. It's truly amazing.

What's bullshit is your ignorance. Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. If it's found in the rest of nature, guess what? It's found in humans too.

I'm a Dude, and sometimes I really feel like I hate Sex. It's distracting, it's ultimately boring, and sort of gross.

There'd likely be millions, easily. So, uh, NSG isn't -that- popular. Yet.

Bah you get my point. "Look at me! I don't like sex! But I'm going to post in every single sex-related thread, obsess about sex, and go on and on about how I just don't understand it so that people will talk even MORE about the sex I so hate but can't stay away from..."

I love it very much.

What's bullshit is your ignorance. Asexuality is a legitimate sexual orientation. If it's found in the rest of nature, guess what? It's found in humans too.

No shit (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality). It's also rare. And yet...wow, we sure have a big concentration of them here. Usually very young, sexually inexperienced people who for some reason have decided they are abnormal...maybe it's the new 'cool thing', who knows. In fact, many of the people posting their hatred of sex and so on, would more accurately be described as anti-sexuals (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisexualism). Because you'd think...no having a sex drive or any interest in sex, that it would follow that these 'asexuals' wouldn't be so obsessed with talking about sex all the time.

Bah you get my point. "Look at me! I don't like sex! But I'm going to post in every single sex-related thread, obsess about sex, and go on and on about how I just don't understand it so that people will talk even MORE about the sex I so hate but can't stay away from..."

It's not quite as simple as you seem to think...

No shit (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality). It's also rare. And yet...wow, we sure have a big concentration of them here. Usually very young, sexually inexperienced people who for some reason have decided they are abnormal...maybe it's the new 'cool thing', who knows.

Me like this post better than my own

Proof please? The one chandelier gave just pointed out that it was existant in a significant proportion of the population but never said if it was a result of psychological or physiological pathologies or an actual norm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality
http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/14/asexual.study/index.html
http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6533
http://www.asexuality.org/docs/SSSS_2003.ppt
http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro06/web2/jengelman.html

No shit (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality). It's also rare. And yet...wow, we sure have a big concentration of them here. Usually very young, sexually inexperienced people who for some reason have decided they are abnormal...maybe it's the new 'cool thing', who knows. In fact, many of the people posting their hatred of sex and so on, would more accurately be described as anti-sexuals (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Antisexualism). Because you'd think...no having a sex drive or any interest in sex, that it would follow that these 'asexuals' wouldn't be so obsessed with talking about sex all the time.

3 is a large concentration? Really? That still falls into the 1% range. Hell, we could have 6,7,8 and still be in the expected range.

3 is a large concentration? Really? That still falls into the 1% range. Hell, we could have 6,7,8 and still be in the expected range.

Why don't you do a thread with a poll? There are more than 3 posters here who have claimed to be asexual.

I'm always entertained, and somewhat amused, by those among us who are so sex obsessed that they can't even comprehend anyone disliking it without having a psychological difficulty! Personally I feel totally the reverse - anyone for whom it's such a crucial thing is, perhaps, the one in need of some guidance in life....

Who said anything about being obsessed? Obsessions implies that you crave and use something to the point that it becomes unhealthy and interferes with your ability to live a normal life. I have a good job. I have hobbies. I have friends. I have an active social life. I also have sex. :) The sex part has never interfered with my ability to maintain of of the other important aspects of my life - quite the contrary. Sex has enhanced the other aspects of my life.

Why don't you do a thread with a poll? There are more than 3 posters here who have claimed to be asexual.

I just looked over Chandy's asexuality thread, I didn't see many more than the usual ones. I checked, and there's 1,435,438 registered jolt users. 1% of that is 14,354. The largest chunk of jolt users by a large majority is NationStates. We have nowhere near 14K asexuals on NationStates, not even half that.

Well, I'm sure as hell not asexual. I love it. Whenever, wherever, as many times a day as I can.

Hey Carisbrooke, wanna go for a roll in the hay? :D

I'll take some sex please.

I just looked over Chandy's asexuality thread, I didn't see many more than the usual ones. I checked, and there's 1,435,438 registered jolt users. 1% of that is 14,354. The largest chunk of jolt users by a large majority is NationStates. We have nowhere near 14K asexuals on NationStates, not even half that.

Only NationStates members can post in these forums.

I'll get jumped on for this, but I can't agree with Neesika more. Asexuality implies an indifference to sex, not a hatred of it. If you don't care about sex then why post about it all the time?

Brings to mind the boy who dips the girls pig tails in ink and calls her names - because he doesn't want to admit he has a huge crush on her.

Asexuality here may be a synonym for "can't get laid" or "afraid to be intimate with the opposite sex" or even "don't want to admit I'm gay."

I'll take some sex please.

I'll take sex for 500, Alex.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asexuality

"Because of this lack of research on the subject, there is little documented evidence in favor of either side of the debate. However, many asexuals and their supporters claim asexuality is a legitimate orientation."

This is my main hang-up. The lack of research. I'm not resistant to the idea of asexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation but I have doubts as to the proportion of the population involved and the causation.

http://www.cnn.com/2004/TECH/science/10/14/asexual.study/index.html

This doesn't question a possible cause. I don't doubt that many people may be asexual but the controversy generally surrounds whether it is a legitimate sexual orientation or not.

http://www.newscientist.com/article.ns?id=dn6533

Much better. I need to look at the details of the studies listed though to be honest

http://www.asexuality.org/docs/SSSS_2003.ppt

Doesn't look at causation, etc.

http://serendip.brynmawr.edu/bb/neuro/neuro06/web2/jengelman.html

Kind of re-quotes your third link

I'll take sex for 500, Alex.

I get mine for free.

I'll get jumped on for this, but I can't agree with Neesika more. Asexuality implies an indifference to sex, not a hatred of it. If you don't care about sex then why post about it all the time?

Brings to mind the boy who dips the girls pig tails in ink and calls her names - because he doesn't want to admit he has a huge crush on her.

Asexuality here may be a synonym for "can't get laid" or "afraid to be intimate with the opposite sex" or even "don't want to admit I'm gay."

For the same reason athiests post in threads about religion. They want to share their views just like anyone else. I don't see Chandy posting in most sex threads here. This particular thread on sexuality would appeal to her. Look at the poll options.

Also, asexuals are stuggling to be taken seriously. Many people think this is a fictional orientation and it's not.

I just looked over Chandy's asexuality thread, I didn't see many more than the usual ones. I checked, and there's 1,435,438 registered jolt users. 1% of that is 14,354. The largest chunk of jolt users by a large majority is NationStates. We have nowhere near 14K asexuals on NationStates, not even half that.

There are no where near 14K posters regularly accessing NSG period.

But nice move, with all the big numbers. Boy, you sure convinced me that the attention-seeking, sex-obsessed asexuals here are for real.

I honestly have no problem with asexuality. Just kids who decided that Satanism, or Goth wasn't cool enough anymore and have decided to jump on some other 'odd' bandwagon. Ah hell...I don't even really have a problem with that...kids need to rebel and support one another in that. But some of it is pretty manipulative. "Oh I'm so ugly and I hate sex, please tell me I'm beautiful, and sex-talk me".

I just looked over Chandy's asexuality thread, I didn't see many more than the usual ones. I checked, and there's 1,435,438 registered jolt users. 1% of that is 14,354. The largest chunk of jolt users by a large majority is NationStates. We have nowhere near 14K asexuals on NationStates, not even half that.

How may of those members are active?

I'll get jumped on for this, but I can't agree with Neesika more. Asexuality implies an indifference to sex, not a hatred of it. If you don't care about sex then why post about it all the time?

Brings to mind the boy who dips the girls pig tails in ink and calls her names - because he doesn't want to admit he has a huge crush on her.

Asexuality here may be a synonym for "can't get laid" or "afraid to be intimate with the opposite sex" or even "don't want to admit I'm gay."

I did kinda chuckle when I started reading the OP when they said that they "hated talking about sex"

I'll take sex for 500, Alex.

I don't think so, Mr.Grant. *slaps on cuffs*

Male - no opinion. Though I assume, given the chance, that I'd be a fan. People seem to enjoy it. :p

How may of those members are active?

The correct question is "How many people with nations on NS actively post on the forums?"

For the same reason athiests post in threads about religion.
No, not all atheists. Some of us don't give a shit about religion, and don't engage in the debate. Disinterest. You know...like asexuality.


Also, asexuals are stuggling to be taken seriously. Many people think this is a fictional orientation and it's not.Well, it's a silly, in my mind, to tell someone what their orientation should be like, or what they should like, or not like, as it is to go on and on about hating sex at every single opportunity.

However...this might be hijacking, so...I'll leave it alone.

"Because of this lack of research on the subject, there is little documented evidence in favor of either side of the debate. However, many asexuals and their supporters claim asexuality is a legitimate orientation."

This is my main hang-up. The lack of research. I'm not resistant to the idea of asexuality as a legitimate sexual orientation but I have doubts as to the proportion of the population involved and the causation.



This doesn't question a possible cause. I don't doubt that many people may be asexual but the controversy generally surrounds whether it is a legitimate sexual orientation or not.



Much better. I need to look at the details of the studies listed though to be honest



Doesn't look at causation, etc.



Kind of re-quotes your third link

Why do we need to look at a cause? It's no one's business but theirs. What causes you to be your sexual orientation? Looking for a cause implies a problem. If that's how they want to identify themselves that's great. Someone with no sex drive deserves to be able to claim that sexual orientation. That way they can tell the guy or girl definatively they aren't interested.

Most people who say they are asexual on NSG are probably afraid of having sex or cannot get laid. But there are some who are truely asexual.I have stated before I am, but the only reason I say that is because I am still young and haven't really been attracted to anyone in a sexual way.Who knows, years later I might find somebody I want to have sex with. For now I call myself asexual.

For the same reason athiests post in threads about religion. They want to share their views just like anyone else. I don't see Chandy posting in most sex threads here. This particular thread on sexuality would appeal to her. Look at the poll options.

Also, asexuals are stuggling to be taken seriously. Many people think this is a fictional orientation and it's not.


But most athiests, myself included, are passoinate about religion. Religion effects everything that happens in the world whether you're athiest or not.

For someone who is asexual talking about sex would seem to be more akin to me starting a thread about what brand of number 2 pencils I like or hate the most.

I'm a male and I love it. I love Women too.

I just looked over Chandy's asexuality thread, I didn't see many more than the usual ones. I checked, and there's 1,435,438 registered jolt users. 1% of that is 14,354. The largest chunk of jolt users by a large majority is NationStates. We have nowhere near 14K asexuals on NationStates, not even half that.

Really? #1?

*Resists urge to chant* :p

I'm always entertained, and somewhat amused, by those among us who are so sex obsessed that they can't even comprehend anyone disliking it without having a psychological difficulty! Personally I feel totally the reverse - anyone for whom it's such a crucial thing is, perhaps, the one in need of some guidance in life....

guidance in the direction of a penis?


what?!

I like sex, it's good.

The limited experience I've had (no intercourse, but just about everything up to it) has been pretty nice. The only thing that bothers me about it is the emotional baggage some people bring to it - don't get me wrong, you ought to feel something in my opinion, but you shouldn't toss your whole soul into it. That's what love is for, not sex. Again, in my opinion.

But most athiests, myself included, are passoinate about religion. Religion effects everything that happens in the world whether you're athiest or not.

For someone who is asexual talking about sex would seem to be more akin to me starting a thread about what brand of number 2 pencils I like or hate the most.

weren't you the one who said that sex is very important? or whatever...I wasn't paying attention.

Sex is everywhere, it's pretty much 'understood' that everyone likes it, and it's pretty high pressure to engage in it......asexuals probably have as much trouble with our sexual culture as atheists do in our religious culture.

There are no where near 14K posters regularly accessing NSG period.

But nice move, with all the big numbers. Boy, you sure convinced me that the attention-seeking, sex-obsessed asexuals here are for real.

I honestly have no problem with asexuality. Just kids who decided that Satanism, or Goth wasn't cool enough anymore and have decided to jump on some other 'odd' bandwagon. Ah hell...I don't even really have a problem with that...kids need to rebel and support one another in that. But some of it is pretty manipulative. "Oh I'm so ugly and I hate sex, please tell me I'm beautiful, and sex-talk me".

I was illustrating a point. 14K of the registered members here is 1%. My original point was the amount of asexuals we have posting here is well within reason. Look at Chandy's thread and count the number of people that claim to be asexual. Not a lot.

She never asks anyone to sex talk her. Neither to the other asexuals I've noticed.

Does she post in sex threads? Yes. All of them? Absolutely not. She didn't post in the "if I could shag one person thread" as far as I can tell. She doesn't post in any that aren't relevant to her orientation.

Why do we need to look at a cause? It's no one's business but theirs. What causes you to be your sexual orientation? Looking for a cause implies a problem. If that's how they want to identify themselves that's great. Someone with no sex drive deserves to be able to claim that sexual orientation. That way they can tell the guy or girl definatively they aren't interested.

Because if enough evidence comes out showing a lack of causation it'll be a hell of a lot easier for asexuals to gain respect as a sexual orientation. It's in the interests of asexuals really to help gain ammo for their arguments

I was illustrating a point. 14K of the registered members here is 1%. My original point was the amount of asexuals we have posting here is well within reason. Look at Chandy's thread and count the number of people that claim to be asexual. Not a lot.

She never asks anyone to sex talk her. Neither to the other asexuals I've noticed.

Does she post in sex threads? Yes. All of them? Absolutely not. She didn't post in the "if I could shag one person thread" as far as I can tell. She doesn't post in any that aren't relevant to her orientation.

If a more definitive answer would be helpful, I think a recent British poll had about 1% of adults claiming to be asexual. The whole plea for attention thing is probably less likely in a blind survey.

weren't you the one who said that sex is very important? or whatever...I wasn't paying attention. Yes. Sex is very important. especially in humans where it's not just about procreation but is intimately involved in self esteem, self identification and in bonding between mates.

Sex is everywhere, it's pretty much 'understood' that everyone likes it, and it's pretty high pressure to engage in it......asexuals probably have as much trouble with our sexual culture as atheists do in our religious culture.
Maybe, but it seems to me that, like a young child, they'd just tune out a lot of what they are not interested in.

No, not all atheists. Some of us don't give a shit about religion, and don't engage in the debate. Disinterest. You know...like asexuality.
Did I say all athiests? No. Are there atheists in religion threads here? Most definately. Not one or two either.

Well, it's a silly, in my mind, to tell someone what their orientation should be like, or what they should like, or not like, as it is to go on and on about hating sex at every single opportunity.

However...this might be hijacking, so...I'll leave it alone.

Again, look at a religion thread. Athiests will jump into a "question for christians only" thread.

Most asexuals just want their orientation to be recognized. Every day they have people tell them their orientation does not exist. Education would solve this.

If a more definitive answer would be helpful, I think a recent British poll had about 1% of adults claiming to be asexual. The whole plea for attention thing is probably less likely in a blind survey.

Asexual or celibate?

Because if enough evidence comes out showing a lack of causation it'll be a hell of a lot easier for asexuals to gain respect as a sexual orientation. It's in the interests of asexuals really to help gain ammo for their arguments

And why can't people just be tolerant and leave them alone? They say they are, I don't see any reason to doubt them personally. Yes, research is lacking. Just like it's lacking for homosexuality, heterosexuality, ect.

Like the articles I've linked you to say, it's found in nature, I don't see why we should doubt humans would be an exception.

Asexual or celibate?

I believe they said that "I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone." was a true statement about them or something like that. I can check if you want.

Edit: it was "I have never felt sexually attracted to anyone at all."

Why?

Well, masturbation, although in the short term slightly pleasant, depresses me. And, for the most part, I find most of the idea of sex repulsive.

meh, sexuality is what it is, but there really is quite a bit more to life and i think older members would probably recognize this. I realize it is necessary, is nice, and is ultimately considered (in spirituality) some sort of climax (pun intended) of spiritual connectedness. With that said, it is marketed far too much, people are uneducated about its downsides, and it leads to breakups/scandals and whatnot due to (my hypothesis) the stress that society also puts on people due to alternating roles of men and women in modern society. So, with regard to sexuality, I don't hate it, I am *not* asexual, and whatever its not really an integral part of a happy life and in reality I used to think badly of it, but I realize it has a purpose now but still its not really my thing (no pun intended). So if I decide to procreate I suppose it would be integral but if not then whatever. My two cents to all the asexuals and sex fans.

Asexual or celibate?

The headline said asexual. But I can't say I bookmarked it or read it too closely. There was probably some crossover.

If a more definitive answer would be helpful, I think a recent British poll had about 1% of adults claiming to be asexual. The whole plea for attention thing is probably less likely in a blind survey.

I think more people would be likely to claim they aren't asexual who truely are. Look at it logically, why would you supress your sexual desire just to be labeled "cool." Why would you put up with all the bullshit that asexuals have to deal with (like being told they don't have a real sexual orientation), if they weren't.

Anyway, I'm off for the day, I'll have to pick this up tomorrow.

*snip*

Every day they have people tell them their orientation does not exist.

Every day? That's a lot...

I also msut confess, I find it interesting that after 38 years, two universities, too many jobs to count, three cities, three highschools, three jr. highschools...


I've never really had a single friend or acquaintance ever in all my life and in all my experience that claimed to not be interested in sex. You may say that the number of asexuals here is about right for society at large, but then it would seem the same thing couldn't be said about my life. There are lesbians, gay men and heterosexuals within my historical social circle, but I strain to remember one person who ever said they weren't interested in sex.

I think more people would be likely to claim they aren't asexual who truely are. Look at it logically, why would you supress your sexual desire just to be labeled "cool." Why would you put up with all the bullshit that asexuals have to deal with (like being told they don't have a real sexual orientation), if they weren't.

Anyway, I'm off for the day, I'll have to pick this up tomorrow.

Eh. There isn't usually much ridicule involved in surveys, I don't think. :p

Maybe, but it seems to me that, like a young child, they'd just tune out a lot of what they are not interested in.

I could say the same thing about atheists.

There are no where near 14K posters regularly accessing NSG period.

But nice move, with all the big numbers. Boy, you sure convinced me that the attention-seeking, sex-obsessed asexuals here are for real.

I honestly have no problem with asexuality. Just kids who decided that Satanism, or Goth wasn't cool enough anymore and have decided to jump on some other 'odd' bandwagon. Ah hell...I don't even really have a problem with that...kids need to rebel and support one another in that. But some of it is pretty manipulative. "Oh I'm so ugly and I hate sex, please tell me I'm beautiful, and sex-talk me".

God, Sin, do you have to keep saying what I think before I get a chance? :p

God, Sin, do you have to keep saying what I think before I get a chance? :p

Same goes for me.

I mean, ever since she came back, she's beaten me to the punch too many times to count.

*shakes fist*

Back?

She did stop posting for a month or two a while back, remember?

Same goes for me.

I mean, ever since she came back, she's beaten me to the punch too many times to count.

*shakes fist*

Back?

She did stop posting for a month or two a while back, remember?

You mean after she quit as Sin, but before she came back as Neesika?

I could say the same thing about atheists.

But you wont, since you have common sense.

She did stop posting for a month or two a while back, remember?

...Eh?

You mean after she quit as Sin, but before she came back as Neesika?

Yips.

And please do tell me, why are you not on MSN? Too busy for your friends?

WHY DO YOU DESPISE ME SO!?

Hey, I didn't even know enough to know she's not on MSN. That's like, double your despising.

*grabs banana and slaps you*

Yips.

And please do tell me, why are you not on MSN? Too busy for your friends?

WHY DO YOU DESPISE ME SO!?

Hey, I didn't even know enough to know she's not on MSN. That's like, double your despising.

Yips.

And please do tell me, why are you not on MSN? Too busy for your friends?

WHY DO YOU DESPISE ME SO!?

Because I just got in not that long ago and I'm about to go to bed, it's 4am here :p

*grabs banana and slaps you*

...

No no no, that's all wrong. You slap me with the fish, the banana is for slipping on later.

Because I just got in not that long ago and I'm about to go to bed, it's 4am here :p

You crazy youngsters, what with your nightlife and all.

Sex is seriously overrated. My girl-friend loves it, but puting her through her paces is more trouble than it's worth... I do all the work and then she wants me to stop so she can "catch her breath". If we just took an hour or so all at once, that'd be fine. I could live with that. The longest she lasts in a stretch is like 10 minutes though, then she wants a break to collect herself and then she's all about it again. She wants to turn it into an all day thing like 5 to 10 minutes at a time. I've got better things to do with my time; it's just not fun any more.

I assume I would enjoy sex.

However, I pity those who invest too much time in it or look upon it too highly, just as I pity gluttons, spiritualists, thrill-seekers, recreational drug users and all others who consistently distract themselves from the higher mental functions we as humans are privy to thanks to our unique brains.

I assume I would enjoy sex.

However, I pity those who put invest too much time in it or look upon it too highly, just as I pity gluttons, spiritualists, thrill-seekers, recreational drug users and all others who consistently distract themselves from the higher mental functions we as humans are privy to thanks to our unique brains.

We could totally use said brain functions to gain sex. Duh.

Sex - love it or hate it?

"...it beats the hell out of card games."

Fluffle for the reference!

That's the reason for my rather bizarre poll, and any comments are very, very welcome indeed! :)

I guess I'd like it...

"...it beats the hell out of card games."

Fluffle for the reference!

Mr. Jubal Harshaw, is that you?


Stranger in a strange land by Robert Heinlein...am I way off?

Sex is painful fun wrapped in ecstacy splashed with cocaine and ice water, mixed with the warmth of a summer's day, and served with a side of tenderness...