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Are you a confident person or someone who is quite shy in a social situation? I believe I'm a mix of the two above with last ngith as an example. I was at a party talking to a girl who I got on with but as I was leaving I just couldn't bring myself to ask them their number or any contact details or ask if we wanted to meet. I always play it through in my mind but then bam its like something just keeps the words in and I lose the confidence. So are you like this, more confident or not very in a social or any situation? Also is confidence a necessity to succeeding in life or not?

Are you a confident person or someone who is quite shy in a social situation? I believe I'm a mix of the two above with last ngith as an example. I was at a party talking to a girl who I got on with but as I was leaving I just couldn't bring myself to ask them their number or any contact details or ask if we wanted to meet. I always play it through in my mind but then bam its like something just keeps the words in and I lose the confidence. So are you like this, more confident or not very in a social or any situation? Also is confidence a necessity to succeeding in life or not?

When I was younger I was painfully shy but I actively went about changing it. I always tried to get jobs that would force me to interact with people (hence why I work on a PR team talking to people to try and persuade them to spend their night at the club I work for), take part in sports that build confidence (boxing, skydiving, etc) and generally just try to force a change in myself.

The main thing that contributed to my shyness was overthinking everything but it's not the end of the world if you make an ass of yourself. I've done it plenty of times and it washes aways over time.

I wouldn't say that it is absolutely necessary to be confident in order to succeed in life but it definitely is an asset

pretty shy, me. i often don't seem it as i conciously make an effort to overcome it, but on the inside i'm the kind of guy who'd rather leave the store when i can't find what i'm looking for rather than ask somebody.

i still hate talking on the phone, and thankfully at work i've successfully avoided it. but the idea of answering the phone and talking to someone i don't know without any prior idea as to the subject at hand is... terrifying.

i'm both an introvert and unconfident. but i overcome both when i have to.



edit: the meds i'm on for depression are also supposed to help with anxiety disorders. i had social anxiety pretty bad when i was at uni. its the kind of thing where you walk down the street and you know its not rationally true, but you're convinced everybody is staring at you and judging you, every time someone laughs you're sure its at you, because you must be doing something stupid... you just want to be invisible really. http://www.socialphobia.org/whatis.html#whatis1

I'm very shy, but it's gotten better and now at least I don't get nauseous whenever I'm around people.

I can be pretty open when it comes to talking about something logical. Especially if I get the time to compose my replies, like on this forum =P and on instant messenger services.

In social situations, its a different (or actually 'same') story. Can't get past stupid jokes and turning everything into a news sharing or discussion

I'm a mix, depends primarily on my mood.

When I was younger I was painfully shy but I actively went about changing it. I always tried to get jobs that would force me to interact with people (hence why I work on a PR team talking to people to try and persuade them to spend their night at the club I work for), take part in sports that build confidence (boxing, skydiving, etc) and generally just try to force a change in myself.

The main thing that contributed to my shyness was overthinking everything but it's not the end of the world if you make an ass of yourself. I've done it plenty of times and it washes aways over time.

I wouldn't say that it is absolutely necessary to be confident in order to succeed in life but it definitely is an asset

Edit: This is Londim by the way. Stupid automatic log in.

I'm trying to force changing myself. I work on a store counter so I'm talking to someone new every fiveminutes but these are people I'll never see again except for the regulars who are okay. I can be very confident at times like my Prom which was last week. No one was dancing so me and a friend decided to start the dancing in front of 300 people. I can also talk to strangers but when I'm really interested in in a girl I get a mental block stopping me from asking them out.

if anything I'm too confident, especially when it comes to silly things like social norms and standards :)

I'm rather shy in person, rather less so on IMs and the internet. I've been trying to change the shyness, and it's worked a bit. I still usually need an hour or so talking or being near a person to acclimatize, though.

It's quite dependent on mood and situation. I'm not very good around people I don't know very well i.e. I say nothing/very little, but even around friends I can lock up and not be able to say anything/join in an activity, to the extent that I have to leave for a while (go for a walk, extended toilet break, hide in my room). At times like that the solitude is really comforting. I guess it's a kind of social anxiety, I can really fear other people and interacting with them, even if they are my friends and I know they want to be with me.

Other times I can be very chatty and do confidant things (generally in things I know I'm good at i.e. music and some sports), have conversations with total strangers and not worry about being outcast from groups like I do at other times. If anything, I get more worried about being embarrassed in front of my friends than strangers.

EDIT: hmm, my sig seems rather fitting.

I wouldn't say I'm shy, so much as I would say when I'm in parties with people I don't know I never know what to talk about.

As far as asking girls out, I've probably asked more girls out then I should. Rejection ftw.