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What was the strangest date you ever went on?

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I thought that date would never end.

*giggles*

My strangest date was my first...

we went to see "Strange Invaders"

ho ho!:D

shoe museum would be weird so long as your not from Northampton:cool:

I went on a date with a woman who took me to see her friend in a Broadway show travelieng across the country. This stop was Seattle. We watched the show (Oliver! if it matters), which was good. Not spectacular, but not in any way bad.

(I had just met this woman a week ago and I'm not the kind to come out and ask someone out unless I'm certain that's what's either intended or at least not dreaded. I thrive on my good, solid lack of self-esteem.)

Before the show, we went to a wine bar she'd gushed about earlier...and it was pricey. Not the Plaza pricey, but in that neighborhood. Of course, I paid, but she'd gotten the show tickets (most likely comped because of her friend, but that's speculation...appropriate speculation, but speculation nonetheless).

So we wait at the stage door for about 30 minutes for her friend to come out so that we might congratulate her. Lo and behold, she's coming WITH us. I was not made aware of that, but I had no problem with it. In the back of my mind, I kinda figred something like that would happen...though I rather envisioned it being a short visit or at least a double date so that I could continue making a go of trying to get a second date. Silly me.

So we go to dinner...again, on me...for all three of us...and during the end-stage of the meal, the two women begin to argue with themselves over another guy they'd both wanted a few months ago. The argument is simmering, but intense, and as we leave, it begins to boil over. This goes on for another half-hour as I just stand around...spectating, I guess.

Finally, I've had enough, and I figure that since I've met the woman in town, I can leave. So I do. I tell her that I can see why the guy chose neither of them and I stroll toward my car. As I'm driving out of the garage, I notice that the two women are walking arm-in-arm like best friends across the street. Unfortunately, I'm hitting a freeway on-ramp, or I'd have u-turned and...and...hell I don't know. Demanded their portion of the dinner cost at least?

Point is, I was merely a vehicle to free dining and drink -- which is why I no longer follow too many impulses when it comes to women.

I tell her that I can see why the guy chose neither of them and I stroll toward my car.
*Puts hand up for a high five*
Point is, I was merely a vehicle to free dining and drink -- which is why I no longer follow too many impulses when it comes to women.

Most people suck. You shouldn't let that turn you off when it comes to finding one who doesn't or something...

*Puts hand up for a high five*


Most people suck. You shouldn't let that turn you off when it comes to finding one who doesn't or something...

*Adopts "The Todd" voice*

Commiseration Five!

*slap!*

Oh, I don't, but like my curbing of impulse purchases has dented my debt, so has the resistance of impulses from the "other head" kept me from making more unwise decisions than usual. So far. Don't worry, I'm still completely hopeful. Hopeless. Whichever's the one that means "still stupid enough to think anyone he digs will dig him back."

Oh God....There was this one time that I was with this woman, now the original plan was that it was going to be me and her ONLY, and I was going to take her to a nice restaurant. Well I get to the house, and all the sudden, her cousins (5 of them) decide to join us, and we ended up going to this cheapo buffet dinner restaurant which had terrible food, and it was just a very bad date because her cousins did not know how to act, of course I had to pick up the tab on this because she couldn't be 'bothered' to remember her wallet. After I paid for the dinner I decided to leave them at the restaurant and the next day I told the woman that I wasn't going to see her anymore because I don't like it when people use me, and I don't like it when plans change at the last minute, it's not nice! She bitched at me because apparently I'm susspose to be the 'man' and take care of her. Screw that.

Yea I'm a ladies man. :D

I went on a date with this guy who basically asked me for his first kiss, but made no attempt to do anything about it.
Well, first we went bowling, I beat him twice (and it wasn't like he was trying to let me win, no, I just owned him twice) and we got some pizza. After we ate the pizza he brought out some candy canes and said something about needing fresh breath and never having been kissed before. I was kinda like "uh... yeah...". If he ever got his first kiss it certainly wasn't from me.

Oh, there was one time I went to the bar with some guy (we each had one drink) and he thought it was a date and I didn't. He basically invited himself to my house and I had to stay up until like 4 am watching tv with him because he didn't take my repeated yawning and stretching and proclaiming "I'm tired" as a "get the fuck out of my house" hint. Then he (awkwardly) put some moves on me. I kissed him back, figuring this would increase the odds that he'd leave sooner... then he stopped, looked at the floor and proclaimed how he was probably doing something wrong.
Yeah... I was so happy to get him the hell out of my house.

I went on a date with this guy who basically asked me for his first kiss, but made no attempt to do anything about it.
Well, first we went bowling, I beat him twice (and it wasn't like he was trying to let me win, no, I just owned him twice) and we got some pizza. After we ate the pizza he brought out some candy canes and said something about needing fresh breath and never having been kissed before. I was kinda like "uh... yeah...". If he ever got his first kiss it certainly wasn't from me.

Oh, there was one time I went to the bar with some guy (we each had one drink) and he thought it was a date and I didn't. He basically invited himself to my house and I had to stay up until like 4 am watching tv with him because he didn't take my repeated yawning and stretching and proclaiming "I'm tired" as a "get the fuck out of my house" hint. Then he (awkwardly) put some moves on me. I kissed him back, figuring this would increase the odds that he'd leave sooner... then he stopped, looked at the floor and proclaimed how he was probably doing something wrong.
Yeah... I was so happy to get him the hell out of my house.

You have my sympathies and on behalf of decent men everywhere (even here), I apologize for those two tools.

Dating in your teens and early 20s is a minefield. I only wish more people would be up-front and honest about things when they date. It'd save a lot of time and perhaps a lot of money, too.

Not to take you to task, Dakini, but if you'd said "no" when he invited himself and explained that you weren't of the opinion that it was a date, you'd have gotten sleep that night without having to kiss a moron.

Just be clear with one another.

It wasn't where we went--it was the discovery at the end of the evening that the woman I'd been out with was wanted for failure to appear in federal court as an accessory to distribution of methamphetamine. It was the only time I ever went out with someone because of an internet personals ad.

the woman I'd been out with was wanted for failure to appear in federal court as an accessory to distribution of methamphetamine.

ah the things you scream out in the bedroom :D

I haven't had many of what could be considered dates, so I can't say I've had any strange dates.

I went on a date with this guy who basically asked me for his first kiss, but made no attempt to do anything about it.
Well, first we went bowling, I beat him twice (and it wasn't like he was trying to let me win, no, I just owned him twice) and we got some pizza. After we ate the pizza he brought out some candy canes and said something about needing fresh breath and never having been kissed before. I was kinda like "uh... yeah...". If he ever got his first kiss it certainly wasn't from me.

Oh, there was one time I went to the bar with some guy (we each had one drink) and he thought it was a date and I didn't. He basically invited himself to my house and I had to stay up until like 4 am watching tv with him because he didn't take my repeated yawning and stretching and proclaiming "I'm tired" as a "get the fuck out of my house" hint. Then he (awkwardly) put some moves on me. I kissed him back, figuring this would increase the odds that he'd leave sooner... then he stopped, looked at the floor and proclaimed how he was probably doing something wrong.
Yeah... I was so happy to get him the hell out of my house.

First off, let me say that I'm sorry you dated basically a jackass, and I would like to say that I never go into anyone's house unless they (they being the owner or resident of the house) invite me in and meh, usually I don't try any move until 2nd or 3rd date.

So there are decent guys out there.

It wasn't where we went--it was the discovery at the end of the evening that the woman I'd been out with was wanted for failure to appear in federal court as an accessory to distribution of methamphetamine. It was the only time I ever went out with someone because of an internet personals ad.

Yikes!

I can't imagine which would be worse: running into the cops, or running into her meth buddies.

The strangest date was probably when I'd just started seeing my last girlfriend. It began with us deciding to spend an afternoon together and after trying to decide what to do for a while eventually settling on going to lazer quest for a couple of games. With me being the rebel I am, I ignored those 'Do not run' signs they have all over the place and ended up piercing my side on some of the scenery and having to spend a few hours sat with her in A and E waiting to get stitched up.

Once we left hospital the concensus was that it hadn't been all that much fun so we both went home to get changed (I'd left a fair percentage of my blood on her clothes) but agreed to meet up for dinner and maybe go out. After something to eat and a couple of drinks we decided to meet up with some mutual friends in a club before heading home. At the time there was a bit of a vogue for tapping the bottom of your bottle of beer on the top of someone elses' because it makes the brew fizz over the top and generally winds your friend up. One of our friends, the shortest and most hairy chap you've ever met called Egg for some reason lost in the sands of time, did it to this girl but with a touch too much force and broke the bottle in her hand. Back to A and E we went, but this time it was her bleeding all over the place, and we finally left at about 5am what with all the custom they get around that time on a Friday night.

The strange thing is that day is one of the ones I remember most fondly from when we were together.

You have my sympathies and on behalf of decent men everywhere (even here), I apologize for those two tools.

Dating in your teens and early 20s is a minefield. I only wish more people would be up-front and honest about things when they date. It'd save a lot of time and perhaps a lot of money, too.

Not to take you to task, Dakini, but if you'd said "no" when he invited himself and explained that you weren't of the opinion that it was a date, you'd have gotten sleep that night without having to kiss a moron.

Just be clear with one another.
Yeah, maybe... I dunno, when we left the bar he asked what I wanted to do and I was like "I'm probably going to go home... " and he asked if he could come. At this point I still didn't think he considered it a date and I didn't think that he'd want to stay as late as he did, so I let him in and we watched tv, which was mildly entertaining (much moreso than he was).

First off, let me say that I'm sorry you dated basically a jackass, and I would like to say that I never go into anyone's house unless they (they being the owner or resident of the house) invite me in and meh, usually I don't try any move until 2nd or 3rd date.

So there are decent guys out there.
Oh yes, I know there are decent guys out there and I've found a number of them. The really awkward ones are just awful though.

I also don't mind guys who make moves on first dates... though usually I like to know that it's a date and usually I prefer if the move is made either before 4 in the morning unless I'm being well entertained by conversation with said guy until 4 in the morning, when he makes his move.

edit: oh, and I have also been known to make moves of my own on first dates... so yeah...

I have only ever participated in rather crappy sex while drunk, (hey im only 19 theres still time) at the risk of sounding niaeve how do you know if someone is making "moves" subtle ones for instance.

Im totally dumb towards subtelty and only seem to sleep with dumb people who are all like "fancy a shag love" (yes its lame but true, and no I deplore prostitution) I need advice lol.

One date I had, after the meal I was tasked with checking the fence and traps while my date fed his pheasants. He was a gamekeeper and Lady Chatterley's Lover it wasn't!!
Another date I had (one of those blind date things) was with a tractor driver who did tractor driving for a hobby as well. Not so much strange as more of a nightmare. At the end of the date he thought we got on so well and communicated fantastically. I actually looked behind me at the wall and asked who he was talking too.

Oh yes, I know there are decent guys out there and I've found a number of them. The really awkward ones are just awful though.

I also don't mind guys who make moves on first dates... though usually I like to know that it's a date and usually I prefer if the move is made either before 4 in the morning unless I'm being well entertained by conversation with said guy until 4 in the morning, when he makes his move.

edit: oh, and I have also been known to make moves of my own on first dates... so yeah...

Is it just me, or does the weird shit always happen to you?

Is it just me, or does the weird shit always happen to you?
I think that I have a tendency to attract two types of men: insecure ones who are likely to become emotionally abusive towards me if I stick around long enough and ones who are ambitious and generally awesome, but their ambitions take them far away from me.

Yikes!

I can't imagine which would be worse: running into the cops, or running into her meth buddies.
Fortunately, I ran into neither, though it was odd getting a phone call at 8:00 p.m. a couple of days later asking if I could call a friend of hers to bring personal items to the jail for her.

I think that I have a tendency to attract two types of men: insecure ones who are likely to become emotionally abusive towards me if I stick around long enough and ones who are ambitious and generally awesome, but their ambitions take them far away from me.

Yeah, I guess that's true. I have a tendency to attract nobody. (Except maybe one girl, but that's debatable and probably not true)

I once walked around with like five different friends, pretending to be in a gian polyamorous relationship. That was strange, and mildly like a date.

Oh yes, I know there are decent guys out there and I've found a number of them. The really awkward ones are just awful though.

I also don't mind guys who make moves on first dates... though usually I like to know that it's a date and usually I prefer if the move is made either before 4 in the morning unless I'm being well entertained by conversation with said guy until 4 in the morning, when he makes his move.

edit: oh, and I have also been known to make moves of my own on first dates... so yeah...

May the Good Lord bless and keep you forever. There needs to be more women like you.

Oh children… when will you ever learn…

Two posts in particular need responses: I hope everyone reads and takes this to heart.

I went on a date with a woman who took me to see her friend in a Broadway show travelieng across the country.
-snip-

Point is, I was merely a vehicle to free dining and drink -- which is why I no longer follow too many impulses when it comes to women.

You were essentially used – a lot of young women do this (in no way do I intend to say that this is all or even most, but it happens). Anyone who behaves like this should be ashamed of themselves.

You made a good faith effort to show her a good time, and I’m sure you decided to take her to the wine bar and such to impress her. Yes, those tickets were free. When you learned that the friend was going to tag along, you should have just said something like “you two obviously have a lot of catching up to do” and made your exit. If she really was interested in dating you, and not just using you for a free night out, she would have apologized and made some comment about getting together for coffee or something some other night.

Do not try to impress a woman on a first date by taking her somewhere pricey.
Just say no – a first date should be something quick and quiet that is easy for either of you to get out of early if you want, or can just carry on if you are really hitting it off.

Getting together at some café for a little coffee and a quiet chat is probably best. Lunch dates are great. No matter what, do not go in for dinner and a show – it’s very cliché and you can rack up quite a tab. Any woman that demands an expensive date is not worth it – period.

One of the great things about living around Washington DC is the art galleries – both public and private. A fantastic date that lets you really get to know someone is walking meeting someone for a quick coffee at a café and then walking through the national gallery of art, the Hirshhorn museum of modern art, or maybe all the little galleries around Dupont during an open-house night. You sit down with a coffee to have a little get-to-know-you chat for a bit, then when there is a lull in the conversation (or you need a quick change of topic) you mention wandering through the gallery. It gives you endless opportunities for topics of discussion while probing exactly how they think and feel about everything. No uncomfortable lulls in the conversation, you get a fantastic sense of who they are, and it’s cheap.

I don’t much like going to a theater or to the movies as a first date – you spend a huge chunk of time no talking to each other (though as a second or third date it gives you great opportunities to snuggle up while watching the show).

Point is, follow impulses! Embrace life and take a chance. Chat up every woman you meet (it is great practice), and if they seem nice, ask them if they want to grab a coffee sometime. The vast majority of women are not manipulative bitches out to use a man just for his money. Even if the vast majority end up not being compatible, you get practice asking women out (so you wont be nervous about it), you learn to be a better judge of character, you boost their ego a bit being asked out (which can make their day), all that practice makes you better at smiling and flirting (always a fabulous skill) which in turn makes you feel so much better about yourself. A cup of coffee doesn’t cost much; I think you can afford it.


Oh, there was one time I went to the bar with some guy (we each had one drink) and he thought it was a date and I didn't. He basically invited himself to my house and I had to stay up until like 4 am watching tv with him because he didn't take my repeated yawning and stretching and proclaiming "I'm tired" as a "get the fuck out of my house" hint. Then he (awkwardly) put some moves on me. I kissed him back, figuring this would increase the odds that he'd leave sooner... then he stopped, looked at the floor and proclaimed how he was probably doing something wrong.
Yeah... I was so happy to get him the hell out of my house.

You really need to be more assertive with what you want and do not want.
When did you get the impression that he thought it a date? Why didn’t you just say “I’m sorry, I just thought we were grabbing a beer as friends” or something? That has to be one of the worst reasons I have ever heard for kissing someone.

His behavior was inappropriate, but you did not do anything to correct the situation.
When you want someone to leave, just tell them to leave. It really is that simple.

I feel sorry for both of you – he sounds like a socially awkward guy that has a little trouble getting a hint (not that uncommon) and you were not making it clear how you felt. Open and honest communication is of paramount importance – do not let guys pressure you into anything, but at the same time do not let them labor under false pretence. Chances are he would have appreciated you being open with him.

This is actually something that might be just a little dangerous for you – do not ever let a guy into your house if you fell in the least bit uncomfortable with him. You feel uncomfortable for a reason. This does not mean that he might be a rapist or something, but it gives him the wrong impression (that his presence is welcome) and might lead to a bad situation.

Yeah, I've always wondered if lunch and a trip to the Guggenheim would constitute a nice first date.

Especially now that I have the cash to actually pull that off.

Oh children… when will you ever learn…

I don't know -- when you stop being pedantic?

You were essentially used – a lot of young women do this (in no way do I intend to say that this is all or even most, but it happens). Anyone who behaves like this should be ashamed of themselves.

Thanks, but I'd sussed that, as I wrote in my post.

You made a good faith effort to show her a good time, and I’m sure you decided to take her to the wine bar and such to impress her. Yes, those tickets were free. When you learned that the friend was going to tag along, you should have just said something like “you two obviously have a lot of catching up to do” and made your exit. If she really was interested in dating you, and not just using you for a free night out, she would have apologized and made some comment about getting together for coffee or something some other night.

Actually, as I wrote in my post, she suggested the wine bar. The post-show restaurant was also her call. My crime was being stupid enough to go right along.

Do not try to impress a woman on a first date by taking her somewhere pricey.
Just say no – a first date should be something quick and quiet that is easy for either of you to get out of early if you want, or can just carry on if you are really hitting it off.

Getting together at some café for a little coffee and a quiet chat is probably best. Lunch dates are great. No matter what, do not go in for dinner and a show – it’s very cliché and you can rack up quite a tab. Any woman that demands an expensive date is not worth it – period.

One of the great things about living around Washington DC is the art galleries – both public and private. A fantastic date that lets you really get to know someone is walking meeting someone for a quick coffee at a café and then walking through the national gallery of art, the Hirshhorn museum of modern art, or maybe all the little galleries around Dupont during an open-house night. You sit down with a coffee to have a little get-to-know-you chat for a bit, then when there is a lull in the conversation (or you need a quick change of topic) you mention wandering through the gallery. It gives you endless opportunities for topics of discussion while probing exactly how they think and feel about everything. No uncomfortable lulls in the conversation, you get a fantastic sense of who they are, and it’s cheap.

I don’t much like going to a theater or to the movies as a first date – you spend a huge chunk of time no talking to each other (though as a second or third date it gives you great opportunities to snuggle up while watching the show).

Point is, follow impulses! Embrace life and take a chance. Chat up every woman you meet (it is great practice), and if they seem nice, ask them if they want to grab a coffee sometime. The vast majority of women are not manipulative bitches out to use a man just for his money. Even if the vast majority end up not being compatible, you get practice asking women out (so you wont be nervous about it), you learn to be a better judge of character, you boost their ego a bit being asked out (which can make their day), all that practice makes you better at smiling and flirting (always a fabulous skill) which in turn makes you feel so much better about yourself. A cup of coffee doesn’t cost much; I think you can afford it.


Seriously, do you read this stuff before you post it? I've got enough experience to know everything you posted and more -- I was merely relating an old experience that sucked, from which I learned a great deal. The thread was asking for strange experiences. In my experience at the time, what happened to me was strange.

I thank you for the mountains of advice...none of which I asked for...and the really special, "I-am-wise-you-poor-child-listen-to-me" way in which you presented it. That said, I know you meant well, and I appreciate the effort, I really do.

Finally, I've had enough, and I figure that since I've met the woman in town, I can leave. So I do. I tell her that I can see why the guy chose neither of them and I stroll toward my car.

<3
Sucky date, but that probably was a good thing to have pointed out.... :P

It wasn't where we went--it was the discovery at the end of the evening that the woman I'd been out with was wanted for failure to appear in federal court as an accessory to distribution of methamphetamine. It was the only time I ever went out with someone because of an internet personals ad.

>.<

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Okay, let's see, strangest date....
Strange, but not bad, while my latest (now ex) boyfriend and I walked around after having had dinner, I randomly decided that we should go to the top floor of a parking garage and look at the view. It was nice, though definitely strange. He seemed to take it well, for which I was grateful.

You really need to be more assertive with what you want and do not want.
When did you get the impression that he thought it a date? Why didn’t you just say “I’m sorry, I just thought we were grabbing a beer as friends” or something? That has to be one of the worst reasons I have ever heard for kissing someone.
I didn't think he thought it was a date until he put his arm around me after we'd been watching tv for a couple of hours.

His behavior was inappropriate, but you did not do anything to correct the situation.
When you want someone to leave, just tell them to leave. It really is that simple.

I feel sorry for both of you – he sounds like a socially awkward guy that has a little trouble getting a hint (not that uncommon) and you were not making it clear how you felt. Open and honest communication is of paramount importance – do not let guys pressure you into anything, but at the same time do not let them labor under false pretence. Chances are he would have appreciated you being open with him.
I'm sorry for being too polite to say "get the fuck out of my house" and thinking that nobody could be stupid enough to not get that a host yawning and reminding their guest that it was well past bedtime meant it was time to gtfo. It's not like these were subtle hints. I distinctly said a couple of times "I think I should go to bed soon." I think he probably did know that I wanted him to leave, but didn't make a move to do so.
And he didn't pressure me into anything, I don't really look at a kiss as anything terribly meaningful in most situations and it was a price I was willing to pay so I could go to sleep.

This is actually something that might be just a little dangerous for you – do not ever let a guy into your house if you fell in the least bit uncomfortable with him. You feel uncomfortable for a reason. This does not mean that he might be a rapist or something, but it gives him the wrong impression (that his presence is welcome) and might lead to a bad situation.
I didn't feel uncomfortable with the guy until just kept staying around. If I had, I would have said that I had to be up early in the morning and said goodbye after leaving the bar. Also, if he had been an attempted rapist, I could totally have taken him.