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what stopped you from doing it?i am hanging on by a straw.
i have no reason to think the way i am,i could just pick up and go to florida and be happy.
it is weird feeling like this.
i raised both my kids by myself and now they are out of the house,their mom ditched them so she could party and i raised them,1 going to law school next year,1 in the army.
but they are done with me,and i feel pretty alone,i have friends all over that love me,but things have happenned lately that i cant shake off.
i quit my job cause i was getting ripped off,my girl only calls when she needs something from me,my son moved to his mom's and did not tell me he was homeless so i would not worry?
i owe my brother money i dont have and all he cares about is money..lol...my kid sister(the only one that ever stuck up for me) died,i am behind in rent and my utilities,i never paid a late bill in my life,now i am buried,my kids are gone,my bro is bitching cause he want s the money for bail he put up,and i dont have a penny.....i had so much and it is all gone.
i spent everything on my kids i have nothing left.
hell i dont even know what to do with my shit i have,if i am dead i guess i could will it to my kids,that seems the best way,cause i may go to jail and if i do,i will have nothing when i get out.
it is driving shit,but no joke shit....my ex wants me to move in with her and her husband,but thats just wrong..i am wits end.
who the fuck wants to go to jail at my age,even for a month,when i get out i will be basically starting over,cause i will lose all that i do have.
i have a gixxer750 a van,a blazer,a quad,a bunch of guns,a frozen bank account with 70,000.00 that will not help me,the case wont be over for years.
if i wrote a quick note i could give everything to my kids and instruct them to pay my bro the 1500.00 i owe him?
problem solved,
sorry..i was ranting...i am at wits end,ever since my sister died i am a mess.

this is inappropriate probably,but i dont know were else to turn....or at the least get some input...i dont want to die,but i aint going to jail and if i do,well i am giving my kids a leg up.

Wait.

How is your bank account frozen in a criminal case?

Is the internet really the best place to go for real advice? Why not ask someone who actually cares about you? There's got to be somebody.

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who the fuck wants to go to jail at my age,even for a month,when i get out i will be basically starting over,cause i will lose all that i do have.

i have a gixxer750 a van,a blazer,a quad,a bunch of guns,a frozen bank account with 70,000.00 that will not help me,the case wont be over for years.

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This seems to be the worst of your problems. What's the charge?

Counselling worked great for me. Give it a shot. Its a lot easier to figure things out with someone who knows what they're doing. Go see the doc too of course

Daminit man. I need details.

You said frozen. What are you up for? And in what jurisdiction. Also, why was it frozen.

I'm assuming this was a drugs charge, no?

Is the internet really the best place to go for real advice? Why not ask someone who actually cares about you? There's got to be somebody.

my ex cares and wants me to move in with her and her husband..pretty emasculating,my friend wants me to move to florida to his mansion,but then i am his bitch,my brother who i love wants his money,my kid is going to iraq in september and my other kid is on the path of selfishness and wants to be a supreme court justice....i aint getting in her way,the rest of my familt is dead now,my other family is pagan bikers and i dont want that life..so i guess i am stuck

my ex cares and wants me to move in with her and her husband..pretty emasculating,my friend wants me to move to florida to his mansion,but then i am his bitch,my brother who i love wants his money,my kid is going to iraq in september and my other kid is on the path of selfishness and wants to be a supreme court justice....i aint getting in her way,the rest of my familt is dead now,my other family is pagan bikers and i dont want that life..so i guess i am stuck

All these embelishments to your story make me think you're making this up but nevertheless if you feel like this you need to realise you need help and it's not emasculating to ask for it. Move in with your ex or friend if that will help you. No man is an island and all that

I know that you're ranting and didn't really seek advice here... but,... if it was me, I'd probably sell my guns and extra cars, and get lost for a while...

Wait.

How is your bank account frozen in a criminal case?

it is not a crimminal case,i have a civil case that the judge froze all accounts involved,an estate case.
just more bullshit to deal with..lol,my crimminal thing aint crimminal,just moter vehickle,but enought to keep me in jail for a few months

I know that you're ranting and didn't really seek advice here... but,... if it was me, I'd probably sell my guns and extra cars, and get lost for a while...
well thanks for you input,want to buy a quad or a van,i am keeping the guns the bike and the blazer for my kids.and yes i was serious,but no matter...peace...i will not trouble you again

it is not a crimminal case,i have a civil case that the judge froze all accounts involved,an estate case.
just more bullshit to deal with..lol,my crimminal thing aint crimminal,just moter vehickle,but enought to keep me in jail for a few months

Oh fuck that noise. Go make a hardship motion, actually an "order to show cause" or whatever they call it in yr jurisdiction that you need to get some money out of your account to live on.

Also, depending upon the frivolity of the suit in question, you may want to consider a counter suit against the plaintiff, and then attach their assets in a similar fashion. (I am assuming that you are the defendant here).

Get a real lawyer. Might help you.

well thanks for you input,want to buy a quad or a van,i am keeping the guns the bike and the blazer for my kids.and yes i was serious,but no matter...peace...i will not trouble you again

It wasn't a condescending post. I really getting lost for awhile and reorganizing your life in a new environ really helps,...

It wasn't a condescending post. I really getting lost for awhile and reorganizing your life in a new environ really helps,...

Not particularly if getting lost would involve dodging the courts

All these embelishments to your story make me think you're making this up but nevertheless if you feel like this you need to realise you need help and it's not emasculating to ask for it. Move in with your ex or friend if that will help you. No man is an island and all that

I don't think aj is making any of it up.

If a month in jail would get the matter cleared up, it might be worth considering. Wouldn't be supermax, would it?

And honestly, how could it be worse than the 's' thing?

Not particularly if getting lost would involve dodging the courts

Nah, seeing that his case is tied up for years and I think people deserve to take a break... getting lost is an euphemism for vacation.

Daminit man. I need details.

You said frozen. What are you up for? And in what jurisdiction. Also, why was it frozen.

I'm assuming this was a drugs charge, no?


the account,a janney montgomery acount is frozen,by the judge.not a crimminal case and not drugs.
it was a suspended license charge that mutated into giving false info to a cop,all minor but if i go down for this,i have no one to pick up the pieces,so my shit is all gone,but never mind.
all i accumulated thruought my life is gone,and my kids legacy is dad was in jail and now he is a bum,with nothing to offer,i dont like that option,i would prefer to leave what i do have so at least i did something correct
go figure,but i am aparrently embellishing..lol...walk a mile in my shoes..i raised those kids by myself,i aint leaving them with nothing,if i go out now they at least have what i accumulated and no estate bullshit like i am going thru with my account

the account,a janney montgomery acount is frozen,by the judge.not a crimminal case and not drugs.
it was a suspended license charge that mutated into giving false info to a cop,all minor but if i go down for this,i have no one to pick up the pieces,so my shit is all gone,but never mind.
all i accumulated thruought my life is gone,and my kids legacy is dad was in jail and now he is a bum,with nothing to offer,i dont like that option,i would prefer to leave what i do have so at least i did something correct
go figure,but i am aparrently embellishing..lol...walk a mile in my shoes..i raised those kids by myself,i aint leaving them with nothing,if i go out now they at least have what i accumulated and no estate bullshit like i am going thru with my account

If you don't want to see a counsellor or a doctor but find it easier to chat over the internet try e-mailing these guys http://www.samaritans.co.uk/. They take e-mails from all over the world and someone will always reply. They generally don't give advice (which is a good thing) but they will help you explore why you feel like you do and try to figure out a step forward

the account,a janney montgomery acount is frozen,by the judge.not a crimminal case and not drugs.
it was a suspended license charge that mutated into giving false info to a cop,all minor but if i go down for this,i have no one to pick up the pieces,so my shit is all gone,but never mind.
all i accumulated thruought my life is gone,and my kids legacy is dad was in jail and now he is a bum,with nothing to offer,i dont like that option,i would prefer to leave what i do have so at least i did something correct
go figure,but i am aparrently embellishing..lol...walk a mile in my shoes..i raised those kids by myself,i aint leaving them with nothing,if i go out now they at least have what i accumulated and no estate bullshit like i am going thru with my account

These problems are not - apparently - insurmountable. Send me a PM if'n you want, and we can see if we can get this shit cleared up. 'K.

Stop talking like that man. Every time you say something like "I'm a bum" or "I couldn't go through that" you make it more true.

I know it seems fake ... it probably sounds ridiculous to think it could make a difference ... but try telling yourself the good things instead of the bad ones.

You raised two kids, that's a total positive right there.
You're still around if those kids need your help. It's not all about money.
I've never heard you complain about health problems. Is that another positive?
You've got options, at least two people who have offered to put you up. An ex who still talks to you is fair going too.

I don't want to go too far with the hippy "think positive" stuff ... just, think of what you have instead of what you haven't got.