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This morning.. about 2:30 ish am. I get a phone call from a crying Lisa. Seems that there was a huge miscomunication. She never wanted me to send her money... she wanted me to hold on to some money of hers. She claims there was no-one else to turn too. She never treid to blame me, only herself. She wouldn't stop crying for almost a half an hour until I calmed her down and then she explained what was happening. Her sister (not biological but church affiliated) has a $200 money order in Lisa's name. She wants me to put it into a savings account for her to use when she gets back to the states so she can travel back up this way. It still seems a little fishy, but I think I shall give her the benefit of a doubt just this once.. I like her, and part of freindship is making a leap of faith... and I for one and not certain she just wants to be my freind...

Words of advice anybody?

Words of advice anybody?
Talk to friends, not forums?

Talk to friends, not forums

Possibly the best advice you can get on a forum, that.

i was going to say in the last thread, "what's the problem?". she's not asking you to give up any of your money or release your banking details, she never did. maybe i'm not getting something but it seems totally harmless to me.

I think it's the real deal this time, dude.

Who's Ruby?

Don't spend a penny until the MO clears.

So what.. am I stupid or something?
Do not ask this kind of question on a public forum.

And...who? And what? And...you know, this might be a job for your flesh and blood friends...


EDIT: Ah, ongoing story I'm not aware of but others are. Sorry, I'll apply the 'not every thread has to be relevant to me' rule and go quietly...

Sounds like your friend is out to grift you. Don't be a sap - make some polite excuse. ;)

you are always way ahead of yourself in this relationship.

you havent known her very long. SLOW DOWN.

there is nothing wrong with trusting a woman you barely know as long as you protect yourself from any harm that might come of it.

if you want to hold $200 for her, do it and do some bit of paperwork on it--exactly how much it is, when she expects to get it back, stuff like that. if you dont want to do it, explain to her that you arent comfortable with it since such things can ruin a relationship through misunderstandings.

Sounds like your friend is out to grift you. Don't be a sap - make some polite excuse. ;)

how though? i don't get how he's got anything to lose doing what she asks.

you are always way ahead of yourself in this relationship.

you havent known her very long. SLOW DOWN.

there is nothing wrong with trusting a woman you barely know as long as you protect yourself from any harm that might come of it.

if you want to hold $200 for her, do it and do some bit of paperwork on it--exactly how much it is, when she expects to get it back, stuff like that. if you dont want to do it, explain to her that you arent comfortable with it since such things can ruin a relationship through misunderstandings.

Exactly. Sounds like something he should get in writing, and notarized if need be. Odd stuff.

how though? i don't get how he's got anything to lose doing what she asks.

If the money order is good, then he's probably okay. However, it seems like the first step in some kind of con game. Remember, the first part of any con job is building the "confidence" that gives it its name. ;)

the worst case is you end up paying £200 which is a good deal if you get some hot jacuzzi lovin' or she makes you a sandwich at 4 in the morning ;)

If the money order is good, then he's probably okay. However, it seems like the first step in some kind of con game. Remember, the first part of any con job is building the "confidence" that gives it its name. ;)

perhaps, but at this stage, even if it is a con, he's not losing a thing. and he clearly has his wits about him, so if it starts to go down the road of a con he can recognise it.

perhaps, but at this stage, even if it is a con, he's not losing a thing. and he clearly has his wits about him, so if it starts to go down the road of a con he can recognise it.

Thanks for the vote of confidence. I've got to run for today, peace all..

Thanks for the vote of confidence. I've got to run for today, peace all..

Good luck! And remember not to take any wooden nickels! :p

If the money order is good, then he's probably okay. However, it seems like the first step in some kind of con game. Remember, the first part of any con job is building the "confidence" that gives it its name. ;)

Yup, the traditional con of this type is where you gives you the money order and asks for the cash. However the money order does not clear.

Paranoia is not always bad

If the money order is good, then he's probably okay. However, it seems like the first step in some kind of con game. Remember, the first part of any con job is building the "confidence" that gives it its name. ;)

exactly

which is unfortunately true of anyone we might meet.

so he needs to keep his eyes open and never give her the opportunity to take advantage of him.

over time, if she really is an OK person, he will have reason to trust her and their relationship can progress; if she is a bad person, she will move on when he turns out not to be a mark after all.

Yes?

Psycho girlfriends have eject buttons, use it.

Yup, the traditional con of this type is where you gives you the money order and asks for the cash. However the money order does not clear.

Paranoia is not always bad

ah ok. but the impression i get is that she doesn't want the money now, just held onto til she is able to return to the states. by which time the cheque or money order would have cleared a long time previously.

I sense a scam coming.

Hold her, in a metaphorical sense, at arms length. Tis what I'm doing now.

I may be a page or two late, but....

GET A BLOG

I may be a page or two late, but....

GET A BLOG

Agreed, I don't know who any of these people are that is mentioned in the OP.

This morning.. about 2:30 ish am. I get a phone call from a crying Lisa. Seems that there was a huge miscomunication. She never wanted me to send her money... she wanted me to hold on to some money of hers. She claims there was no-one else to turn too. She never treid to blame me, only herself. She wouldn't stop crying for almost a half an hour until I calmed her down and then she explained what was happening. Her sister (not biological but church affiliated) has a $200 money order in Lisa's name. She wants me to put it into a savings account for her to use when she gets back to the states so she can travel back up this way. It still seems a little fishy, but I think I shall give her the benefit of a doubt just this once.. I like her, and part of freindship is making a leap of faith... and I for one and not certain she just wants to be my freind...

Words of advice anybody?

Comfort her and talk to her. That's the best advice I can give (not saying much though).

Anyway...... stop paying attention to the OP; angst filled 18 year old needs advice. And no, I'm not making an individual "tbc is an emotional noob" thread, I'm asking here;

Give me words to borach conversation with girl we are a little infatuated with that are neither sappy nor transparently obsessive.

Anyway...... stop paying attention to the OP; angst filled 18 year old needs advice. And no, I'm not making an individual "tbc is an emotional noob" thread, I'm asking here;

Give me words to borach conversation with girl we are a little infatuated with that are neither sappy nor transparently obsessive.

"Yo. What's up?"

Anyway...... stop paying attention to the OP; angst filled 18 year old needs advice. And no, I'm not making an individual "tbc is an emotional noob" thread, I'm asking here;

Give me words to borach conversation with girl we are a little infatuated with that are neither sappy nor transparently obsessive.
"Excuse me, but is your fly open?"
Works every time ;)