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i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.

i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.

My sister is having a BABBY!....that she COULDN'T NOT afford?

:p

I dunno...I guess I would try and help...If I felt like it...not my baby...but it is my neice/nephew...yeah, I guess I would help...

I wouldn't want to get involved.

i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.

If by 'village' you mean the little group of people - close family and good friends - who make up the kind of mutually supportive network that keeps one sane then yes, I like to think that I would do the same.

I'd tell them to get an abortion or put the baby up for adoption, if and only if my advice was sought.
If they weren't going to do that, would I help them out financially? I don't know. Out of me and my three brothers, I'm the only one that's ever going to be able to support our mother someday who'll be willing to. That's already a big responsibility I've taken on myself for the family.
In the end though, I probably would end up helping out to my detriment and, knowing my brothers, perpetual disappointment.

I suggest to her to get an abortion or give it up for adoption because they are too irresponsible and should not put a kid thru that.

If it was one of my sisters, well, that would depend which sister. The youngest I would let her know that I know where an abortion clinic in my city is and if she wanted one, she could come for a visit and I'd look after her and wouldn't say anything to my parents about it... well, I would make the same offer to any of my sisters who wanted one, it's just that the youngest is less likely to be able to get one of her friends' parents to put her up in such a condition. And well, if they opt for the adoption route then there's not much I can do in the way of helping.
If they wanted to keep it, well, there's not a hell of a lot I can do. For any of them it would be a really stupid decision, but I'd be as supportive as possible, given that I can't give anything in the way of financial support (yay being a student)... but I'd still try to be a cool aunt and buy toys and junk.


Although I should add that if me or one of my sisters did get pregnant and were keeping it then our parents would be supportive even if they point our our stupidity. If one of us let our parents know we wanted/got an abortion we'd probably be disowned.

I'd absolutely help in any way I could. Although, financial aid would be hard, 'cause I'm chronically unemployable...

If it was one of my sisters, well, that would depend which sister. The youngest I would let her know that I know where an abortion clinic in my city is and if she wanted one, she could come for a visit and I'd look after her and wouldn't say anything to my parents about it... well, I would make the same offer to any of my sisters who wanted one, it's just that the youngest is less likely to be able to get one of her friends' parents to put her up in such a condition. And well, if they opt for the adoption route then there's not much I can do in the way of helping.
If they wanted to keep it, well, there's not a hell of a lot I can do. For any of them it would be a really stupid decision, but I'd be as supportive as possible, given that I can't give anything in the way of financial support (yay being a student)... but I'd still try to be a cool aunt and buy toys and junk.


Although I should add that if me or one of my sisters did get pregnant and were keeping it then our parents would be supportive even if they point our our stupidity. If one of us let our parents know we wanted/got an abortion we'd probably be disowned.

yer so sensible i think i love you. i hope my sister makes friends with someone like you at uni. shit, i really hope my sis doesn't get pregnant at uni. our parents would be supportive too, but we don't have a very trustful relationship with them.

im a little old for this question but suppose that one of my neices were pregnant and poor.

no i woudlnt send her money every month but i would certainly help her out with a baby shower.

i would babysit if she needed a bit of coverage for the job she would need to support the baby.

i would love and have fun with the child.

i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.

How is babby made? How is babby made? How girl get pragnant?

Sorry, reminded of that my your typo.

i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.this situation would never happen. of course, my parents MAY make her life hell, but they would also help raise the child.

so if she ops not to tell them... yes, i would help her. even to the point of... *shudder* babysitting!!!

How is babby made? How is babby made? How girl get pragnant?

Sorry, reminded of that my your typo.

Oh, please say that was done on purpose... :D :D

My sister is having a BABBY!....that she COULDN'T NOT afford?

:p

I dunno...I guess I would try and help...If I felt like it...not my baby...but it is my neice/nephew...yeah, I guess I would help...

ach! shut it you :p.

babby is cuter than baby. and couldn't not was a drunken mistyping thing.

laugh and got some girl up the duff who happens to be better

huzzah for one-up-ship :p

ach! shut it you :p.

babby is cuter than baby. and couldn't not was a drunken mistyping thing.

Generally speaking, asking for advice while drunk generally means you will:

A) misstate the question
B) not hear the response as it is said, and
C) not remember it, either.

So, instead of having "In Case of Pregnancy," maybe we should have "In Case of Problem While I Happen to be Inebriated."

Then again, seeing as how this whole thing started off with drunken mistyping, I wonder if IR will even read this. :D

Generally speaking, asking for advice while drunk generally means you will:

A) misstate the question
B) not hear the response as it is said, and
C) not remember it, either.

So, instead of having "In Case of Pregnancy," maybe we should have "In Case of Problem While I Happen to be Inebriated."

Then again, seeing as how this whole thing started off with drunken mistyping, I wonder if IR will even read this. :D

yes. errr... whut?...

I'd tell them to go ask for a council house and a bunch of benefits :P

I wouldn't pay for anything, mainly because I can't afford it. One of my close friends (I don't have a sister, so closest thing I've got to one) has recently got pregnant, and has been told by her parents "get rid or get out"... I told her I'd support her emotionally whatever she chooses, and I'd babysit etc if she keeps it...but in the end it's her own fault and I can't afford to throw cash at her.

If I had spare money...I guess I'd help out a little, but not enough for them to become dependant on me.

If my sister got pregnant and chose to keep it...

...I'd probably smack the father and demand to know why he wasn't supporting the kid. 'cause he'd be old enough to and everything. Otherwise I don't see much of a reason why my sister and the child's father couldn't really support the kid themselves (although it might be hard, yes). And I'd probably demand to know why my parents weren't helping at all. Not doing much, sure. She's old enough to not need much support. But not at all if she explains why she can't manage it herself? That's just cold. It's not like they couldn't afford to.

I'd tell her to use this (http://www.goyk.com/video.asp?path=2460).

Don't click on that if you're pro-life.

I'd tell her to use this (http://www.goyk.com/video.asp?path=2460).

Don't click on that if your pro-life.

I'm not quite sure what my reaction is.

Steal whatever money the sibling had and force the child to live a life of squalor and poverty out of spite and to prove a point (that if you can't afford children, then stop having unprotected sex, damn it!).

I'd raze a village to the ground...

I'd berate them for being so stupid as to have unprotected sex and then lament the fact that dumbasses are breeding so fast.

...break glass

I'd tell her to use this (http://www.goyk.com/video.asp?path=2460).

Don't click on that if you're pro-life.

Wow.. just watching that made me graduate two steps closer to Chaotic Evil....


I'd do anything in my power to help my sister. But I know her boyfreind is a caring guy who makes about 8x what I do so while I might still be angry seeing as she wants to become a teacher and all, and it will be much harder on her. I would not be spiteful; she's an adult and can look to herself. I'm probably in better danger of having a child I can't afford anyway and I don't even have a significant other!

i just had a thought after reading dakini's thread. what would you do if your sister or brother was going to have a babby and couldn't not afford it and your parents would not help? i had that thought just now, and even though i don't entirely appreve of my sister's boyfriend i knew i would pay for everything i could. my sister is so important to me. just a thing about community and how far it could stretch for people i suppose.

if a person in my 'village' had the same situation i would do ~the same.

Whoa.

How's the hangover today? :p

http://www.uterus1.com/images/anatomy_uterus.jpg

"In case of pregnancy, break here"

When my wife's sister became a heroin addict (along with her idiot husband), we took in their two daughters as our own.

I think we would take in the baby in the OP. As many kids as we have in our house now, one more wouldn't be any different.