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So today at work a customer comes by asking for one of my coworkers after she was done her shift. I go in the back to look and see if she's still around, I ask a couple of the bakers if they've seen her et c and she's nowhere to be found. So I go back out front and tell the customer that she must have left.

About 20 mins later my coworker comes back in along with another coworker who finished half an hour before she did. I tell her that a lady came by looking for her and I told her that she wasn't around.
Apparently the lady who came by was supposed to give her a bastinet (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) and my coworker yelled at me because I didn't know that she was coming back.

I would have assumed that if you were expecting someone to come by, you would notify everyone working up front that this was the case and that you would be back shortly, instad of telling two people out of the whole staff, especially when you're taking one of those two people with you and especially since everyone else seems to take every opportunity to run away and leave me alone at the front of the store to wait on customers.

Right.

what's a bastinet? sounds like an eviler kind of clarinet. or at least one with questionable parentage.

doesn't sound like you were in the wrong though. just a communication failure.

Yes, she's so irresponsible for working a crap job to provide for her future child. Wow. She's just pure laziness and irresponsibility incarnate. Someone should shoot her and take her child...
Umm... no, she got knocked up because she was out drinking and cheating on her bf and apparently didn't know the meaning of getting the guy to wear a condom. She worked at the shitty minimum wage job (which certainly won't be enough to provide for her eventual child) long before she got herself in that situation.

And the fact that she's blaming me for the fact that she can't wait around for 20 mins for some lady to come by and give her free stuff for her kid (or even bother telling everybody that this is the case and letting them know where she can be located) is really irresponsable.

Yes, she's so irresponsible for working a crap job to provide for her future child. Wow. She's just pure laziness and irresponsibility incarnate. Someone should shoot her and take her child...

yeh that was rather harsh.

(my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable)

Yes, she's so irresponsible for working a crap job to provide for her future child. Wow. She's just pure laziness and irresponsibility incarnate. Someone should shoot her and take her child...

Umm... no, she got knocked up because she was out drinking and cheating on her bf and apparently didn't know the meaning of getting the guy to wear a condom. She worked at the shitty minimum wage job (which certainly won't be enough to provide for her eventual child) long before she got herself in that situation.

it's all in the details, eh?

Yes, she's so irresponsible for working a crap job to provide for her future child. Wow. She's just pure laziness and irresponsibility incarnate. Someone should shoot her and take her child...

I think what he means is that you should wait until you have a better job to get pregnant. You at least have to admit it's not a great idea to get pregnant at 19 while working a minimum wage job.

what's a bastinet? sounds like an eviler kind of clarinet. or at least one with questionable parentage.

doesn't sound like you were in the wrong though. just a communication failure.
It's like a crib, but you put newborns in it and I think they usually rock.

(my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable)
This is exactly why we shouldn't give women rights, because then they do something stupid like try to feed their child.

Do you think it possible he was referring to her being pregnant at 19?:rolleyes:

Incidentally, what the fuck is a bastinet?

I think it's like a crib, but I also think I'm wrong. I know it has SOMETHING to do with babies, I just don't know what.

Yes, she's so irresponsible for working a crap job to provide for her future child. Wow. She's just pure laziness and irresponsibility incarnate. Someone should shoot her and take her child...

Do you think it possible he was referring to her being pregnant at 19?:rolleyes:

Incidentally, what the fuck is a bastinet?

This is exactly why we shouldn't give women rights, because then they do something stupid like try to feed their child.
She's unlikely to accomplish that goal with the sorts of wages she's getting at this job anyways. Well, at least while feeding herself as well and paying rent at the same time.

yeh that was rather harsh.

I THINK he was being sarcastic.

I HOPE he was being sarcastic...

It's like a crib, but you put newborns in it and I think they usually rock.

ah, ok. well she can probably get it another time. i'd bet that she was being affected by hormones if she was pregnant. unless she is habitually narky. then she's just an arsehole.

So she's totally irresponsible... because she was date raped. Wow. Yeah, that makes sense now.

Did you even read that when you quoted it? She was stupid, not drugged.

So she's totally irresponsible... because she was date raped. Wow. Yeah, that makes sense now.
She wasn't date raped. Drinking != drunk.

Also, if she had been date raped and was unable to provide for the eventual product of that date rape, she's still irresponsable for keeping it.

I THINK he was being sarcastic.

I HOPE he was being sarcastic...

she, very much a she. ;)

Did you even read that when you quoted it? She was stupid, not drugged.
Exactly.

you're in the right...I guess she's just a bitch...

Umm... no, she got knocked up because she was out drinking and cheating on her bf and apparently didn't know the meaning of getting the guy to wear a condom. She worked at the shitty minimum wage job (which certainly won't be enough to provide for her eventual child) long before she got herself in that situation.

So she's totally irresponsible... because she was date raped. Wow. Yeah, that makes sense now.

Incidentally, what the fuck is a bastinet?
I'll assume they just kind of set newborns on rocks and sharp objects in Britain. Also that Google Image search doesn't work there.
http://www.ababysplace.com/productimages/bassinet%20bedding/hoohobbers/bassinet_faire.jpg

So she's totally irresponsible... because she was date raped. Wow. Yeah, that makes sense now.
She could have gotten it taken care of.

I think it's like a crib, but I also think I'm wrong. I know it has SOMETHING to do with babies, I just don't know what.

So, in essence, she gets bladdered, cheats on bf and neglects to ask about a condom, and then gets crabby because you forgot to turn your psychic powers on?

Admirable though her working, as opposed to leeching money from the state, is, she was wrong.

i hope you yelled back at her for not telling she was stepping out and when she be back

So today at work a customer comes by asking for one of my coworkers after she was done her shift. I go in the back to look and see if she's still around, I ask a couple of the bakers if they've seen her et c and she's nowhere to be found. So I go back out front and tell the customer that she must have left.

About 20 mins later my coworker comes back in along with another coworker who finished half an hour before she did. I tell her that a lady came by looking for her and I told her that she wasn't around.
Apparently the lady who came by was supposed to give her a bastinet (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) and my coworker yelled at me because I didn't know that she was coming back.

I would have assumed that if you were expecting someone to come by, you would notify everyone working up front that this was the case and that you would be back shortly, instad of telling two people out of the whole staff, especially when you're taking one of those two people with you and especially since everyone else seems to take every opportunity to run away and leave me alone at the front of the store to wait on customers.

you're right. and she's probably hormonal.

i hope you yelled back at her for not telling she was stepping out and when she be back
Unfortunately there were customers around and since I was on duty, I'm not allowed to be a total bitch... so I just pointed out that she should have told everyone if she was expecting someone and that this whole thing simply wasn't my problem so I wasn't going to deal with it.

i seem to be warping all over this thread.

you're right. and she's probably hormonal.
I hope for the sake of that poor kid that she's just hormonal. I would hate to have someone that stupid (the stupidity has asserted itself in other ways totally unrelated to this event... even not including the whole bit of the unexpected pregnancy) and bitchy as a mother.

Also that Google Image search doesn't work there.
http://www.ababysplace.com/productimages/bassinet%20bedding/hoohobbers/bassinet_faire.jpg

It does, it's just that they weren't searching for 'small bath wrapped in a curtain'.

I hope for the sake of that poor kid that she's just hormonal. I would hate to have someone that stupid (the stupidity has asserted itself in other ways totally unrelated to this event... even not including the whole bit of the unexpected pregnancy) and bitchy as a mother.

belies the whole "all men [sic] are born equal" thing, huh. highlights the need for a coherent community too. some people are not capable of caring for the children they think they want.

unless she actually is badly hormonal. in which case she just needs a hand.

It does, it's just that they weren't searching for 'small bath wrapped in a curtain'.

Type in bassinet, that's whet you get. Have people seriously never heard of these things?

So she's totally irresponsible... because she was date raped. Wow. Yeah, that makes sense now.

Didn't this post used to be at the top of the page?

I'm waiting for the day where we finally get a thread that's so timewarped it's completely backwards.

Have people seriously never heard of these things?

It's not a word I've heard before.

She wasn't date raped. Drinking != drunk.

Also, if she had been date raped and was unable to provide for the eventual product of that date rape, she's still irresponsable for keeping it.

If a girl is drunk to the point of not being able to remember something as obvious as protection, she's definitely not able to actually consent to sex. The guy should have known better, and, honestly, he probably did know better, and just took advantage of the situation. Non-consensual sex is rape. Period.

And what if she's relying on her parent's to support her in the first place? Minimal wage is definitely not enough to live off of. Has it occurred to you that her parents might be pro-lifers, and throw her out on the street if she gets an abortion? Or, perhaps, she just doesn't want to terminate her pregnancy, for whatever reason? She's been thrust into a fucking awful situation, and she's just some dirty irresponsible slut for trying to provide for this kid as much as she can?

If a girl is drunk to the point of not being able to remember something as obvious as protection, she's definitely not able to actually consent to sex. The guy should have known better, and, honestly, he probably did know better, and just took advantage of the situation. Non-consensual sex is rape. Period.
Believe it or not, there are chicks stupid enough not to remember protection, or hell just think, "I'm sure I won't get pregnant this time." Not to say that this wasn't date-rape, but innocent until proven guilty still applies in rape cases.
And what if she's relying on her parent's to support her in the first place? Minimal wage is definitely not enough to live off of. Has it occurred to you that her parents might be pro-lifers, and throw her out on the street if she gets an abortion? Or, perhaps, she just doesn't want to terminate her pregnancy, for whatever reason? She's been thrust into a fucking awful situation, and she's just some dirty irresponsible slut for trying to provide for this kid as much as she can?
There was likely a point where she could have gotten an abortion without her parents knowing, and if she wanted the baby, in her current situation, then she is irresponsible to herself and society.
Another fucking criminal born.

If a girl is drunk to the point of not being able to remember something as obvious as protection, she's definitely not able to actually consent to sex. The guy should have known better, and, honestly, he probably did know better, and just took advantage of the situation. Non-consensual sex is rape. Period.
Umm... you're making a huge leap in assuming that everyone uses protection on a regular basis. Especially people who go about getting pregnant at a young age who have bad relationships with their parents.
Just because there is sex ed doesn't mean that everyone learns from it.

And really, I've been wrecked and had sex with boyfriends and I've never, ever forgotten protection. It's something I insist on because I don't want to go through with an abortion nor do I want to fuck up my life with a kid.

And what if she's relying on her parent's to support her in the first place? Minimal wage is definitely not enough to live off of. Has it occurred to you that her parents might be pro-lifers, and throw her out on the street if she gets an abortion? Or, perhaps, she just doesn't want to terminate her pregnancy, for whatever reason? She's been thrust into a fucking awful situation, and she's just some dirty irresponsible slut for trying to provide for this kid as much as she can?
She's not relying on her parents to support her. She lives on her own because she does not get along with her parents and I've gotten the feeling that they would be unwilling to support her in this whole parenting endeavour.

Also, I'm not saying that abortion is the only responsable solution here, she could adopt the kid to people who can afford to take care of it.

If a girl is drunk to the point of not being able to remember something as obvious as protection, she's definitely not able to actually consent to sex. The guy should have known better, and, honestly, he probably did know better, and just took advantage of the situation. Non-consensual sex is rape. Period.


what if the guy was too drunk to know what was going on as well though. i've been in that situation beofore. in fact every sexual liaison i've had has been like that, with girl or guy. you seem to be exonerating the female without any justification and assuming the guilt of the male. women are just as (ir)responsible as men, jsyn.

Believe it or nor, there are chicks stupid enough not to remember protection, or hell just think, "I'm sure I won't get pregnant this time."
True. However, she was drunk at the time.

And, now that I'm thinking of it, where the hell is the father at?
There was likely a point where she could have gotten an abortion without he parents knowing,
Good point.
and if she wanted the baby, in her current situation, then she is irresponsible to herself and society.
Another fucking criminal born.
Not necessarily.

Unfortunately there were customers around and since I was on duty, I'm not allowed to be a total bitch... so I just pointed out that she should have told everyone if she was expecting someone and that this whole thing simply wasn't my problem so I wasn't going to deal with it.

know where you coming from when i was bakers saw a lot of times when one girl want to have a go back at a coworker who was been a bitch but could not because of customers

True. However, she was drunk at the time.
I don't think she was drunk, I think she had had a few and was out partying. This does not make her drunk and it does not render her incapable of consent. Furthermore, she never stated anything about being raped and probably thought nothing of it until she found that she didn't have a period.

And, now that I'm thinking of it, where the hell is the father at?
She moved out of her parents house because she does not get along with them apparently.

I don't think she was drunk, I think she had had a few and was out partying. This does not make her drunk and it does not render her incapable of consent. Furthermore, she never stated anything about being raped and probably thought nothing of it until she found that she didn't have a period.


She moved out of her parents house because she does not get along with them apparently.

dakini, whatever the relationship with the father, and whatever her mental status is there is no way you are in the wrong for anything. so you should not worry.

Umm... you're making a huge leap in assuming that everyone uses protection on a regular basis. Especially people who go about getting pregnant at a young age who have bad relationships with their parents.
Just because there is sex ed doesn't mean that everyone learns from it.
*shrug* I'm just going by personal experience.
And really, I've been wrecked and had sex with boyfriends and I've never, ever forgotten protection. It's something I insist on because I don't want to go through with an abortion nor do I want to fuck up my life with a kid.
Alcohol effects different people different ways... and it's still as much the dad's responsibility as much as it is her's.
She's not relying on her parents to support her. She lives on her own because she does not get along with her parents and I've gotten the feeling that they would be unwilling to support her in this whole parenting endeavour.
Ah. Well, that bites.
Also, I'm not saying that abortion is the only responsable solution here, she could adopt the kid to people who can afford to take care of it.
Did she already say she wouldn't do that?

She moved out of her parents house because she does not get along with them apparently.

I was talking about the kid's father. ;)

True. However, she was drunk at the time.

And, now that I'm thinking of it, where the hell is the father at?
Probably getting ready to pay child support for the next eighteen years, as is proper.
Not necessarily.
No, but the odds aren't great for an unwanted child of a teenage mother in any respect.

*shrug* I'm just going by personal experience.
Possibly with girls who aren't complete idiots...

Alcohol effects different people different ways... and it's still as much the dad's responsibility as much as it is her's.
Yes, but if she doesn't know who the guy is then it's a little hard to make him take responsability. I think she's pretending that it's definitely her bf's and making him take responsability.

Did she already say she wouldn't do that?
I don't know that she wouldn't, I know that she's preparing to keep the kid, so she isn't. I'm just saying it would be a more responsable thing to do than what she is currently doing.

what if the guy was too drunk to know what was going on as well though. i've been in that situation beofore. in fact every sexual liaison i've had has been like that...

You sound like a real prize.

dakini, whatever the relationship with the father, and whatever her mental status is there is no way you are in the wrong for anything. so you should not worry.
Yay! I'm never wrong! :p

what if the guy was too drunk to know what was going on as well though. i've been in that situation beofore. in fact every sexual liaison i've had has been like that, with girl or guy. you seem to be exonerating the female without any justification and assuming the guilt of the male. women are just as (ir)responsible as men, jsyn.

I'm not trying to exonerate the girl (well, a little, but I'm not letting her entirely off the hook), but as much blame falls upon the guy as it does her.

And that's a dumb thing to do, IR. You shouldn't drink and fuck. :p

Possibly with girls who aren't complete idiots...

Good point.

Yes, but if she doesn't know who the guy is then it's a little hard to make him take responsability. I think she's pretending that it's definitely her bf's and making him take responsability.

That really sucks. My opinion of her is rapidly dropping.

I don't know that she wouldn't, I know that she's preparing to keep the kid, so she isn't. I'm just saying it would be a more responsable thing to do than what she is currently doing.

That is true, although there's no guarantee that the kid would be better off.

Probably getting ready to pay child support for the next eighteen years, as is proper.
Or not, as mentioned above.

No, but the odds aren't great for an unwanted child of a teenage mother in any respect.
Again, this is just personal experience, but I know a number of teenage mothers, and their kids seem pretty well-adjusted. But, then again, most of them actually had support from their parents...

That really sucks. My opinion of her is rapidly dropping.
My opinion of her got pretty much as low as possible after I found out that not only was she pregnant, but a bitch.

That is true, although there's no guarantee that the kid would be better off.
Yes, nothing in life is guaranteed, it doesn't mean that the odds of the kid having a good life aren't significantly improved when it's placed in a better home though.

I'm not trying to exonerate the girl (well, a little, but I'm not letting her entirely off the hook), but as much blame falls upon the guy as it does her.

And that's a dumb thing to do, IR. You shouldn't drink and fuck. :p

and don't i know it :S :p. i'm entirely unprepared for the whole safe sex thing. i blame my religous parents. but i'm an expert at displacement. those fools haven't been responsible for my actions since i was 16. guess that's blessing wears thin when i don't excercise it myself eh? actuall fuck that, i know all about safe sex, i'm just too drunk to know about it most of the time.

Or not, as mentioned above.
Not the guy's fault if he doesn't know.
Again, this is just personal experience, but I know a number of teenage mothers, and their kids seem pretty well-adjusted. But, then again, most of them actually had support from their parents...
I'm just going by statistics.

Yes, nothing in life is guaranteed, it doesn't mean that the odds of the kid having a good life aren't significantly improved when it's placed in a better home though.

I was thinking more of the kids chances of actually being placed in a better home. What is the percentage of kids that actually get adopted? I thought most just ended up in group homes or whatever...

Yes, but if she doesn't know who the guy is then it's a little hard to make him take responsability. I think she's pretending that it's definitely her bf's and making him take responsability.


have you given any consideration to dropping a hint to this boyfriend that the baby might not be his?

not that im saying you SHOULD. just wondering if anyone thinks it would be the right thing to do.

...she was date raped. ...WTF?
How do you know she was date raped?

You sound like a real prize.

indeed. i'm a complete fuck-up. but then nobody' ever got pregnant off me. considering the law of averages this ent suprisin tho.

indeed. i'm a complete fuck-up. but then nobody' ever got pregnant off me. considering the law of averages this ent suprisin tho.

You're all right, guy.

In that situation you were in the right.


Also, if she had been date raped and was unable to provide for the eventual product of that date rape, she's still irresponsable for keeping it.

Okay, I'm pro-choice but due to moral/emotional burdens that come along with that I think that you are being completely unfair. Not being able to have an abortion isn't irresponsible. At the moment she is clearly trying to make money for herself and her child with her job and just because you dislike her doesn't mean that she will be a horrible mother. That kind of responsibility can make people grow up, and people do mature beyond the age of 19. Cut the poor girl some slack and try to be a little understanding. I know people who have younger mothers and are fine. Not the hardcore geeks who had to pull themselves up by their bootstraps but just kids who do well in school and who aren't criminals. (Despite what other people think of this kids future.)

I was thinking more of the kids chances of actually being placed in a better home. What is the percentage of kids that actually get adopted? I thought most just ended up in group homes or whatever...

If they are given up at birth there is a 100 person waaiting list at most agencies. After that (I think it's 18 months plus) everyone(adopting) assumes that they'll be horribly fucked up or they just are willing to wait an extra two years to have a little baby instead of helping another kid who actually need it for some sentimental reason.

Not your fault man, how would you know? Not like you need to keep tabs on everyone around you.

Not your fault man, how would you know? Not like you need to keep tabs on everyone around you.

You weren't wrong, Dakini, although I think that's been established. ;)
As for the rest - well, it's her choice. I pass no judgements, so long as no one is harmed, and she has yet to actually harm anyone (although cheating on the bf, not so cool, but that isn't the issue people are debating).

Did you even read that when you quoted it? She was stupid, not drugged.

Drugs wear off. Stupid usually doesn't.

And really, I've been wrecked and had sex with boyfriends and I've never, ever forgotten protection. It's something I insist on because I don't want to go through with an abortion nor do I want to fuck up my life with a kid.

Congratulations on managing to keep your head during emotional periods. Many people don't manage to do that and some end up ruining their lives or burning their damn house down because they were so swept up by sadness or the figurative fire that they forgot about the literal one in the kitchen.

In the right. What an idiot.

Nice. Nice to see how judgmental people get. So the chick pissed you off, and that justifies everyone slagging her for being a stupid whore who got knocked up too young/too poor.

Milk of human kindness...it's just overflowing here.

Nice. Nice to see how judgmental people get. So the chick pissed you off, and that justifies everyone slagging her for being a stupid whore who got knocked up too young/too poor.

Milk of human kindness...it's just overflowing here.

Well fuck. Now you made me feel bad.

Well fuck. Now you made me feel bad.

Then I'm doing my job.

I'm the guilt-fairy.

Duh. No you aren't in the wrong. Tell her to stick it.


While I was reading your post, I was hoping it wasn't that you told someone she wasn't there, who wasn't suppose to know she wasn't.. or vice versa (even in that situation, they should let everyone know the deal-- so even then .. in a stalker or crazy jealous bf situation .. you still wouldn't be in the wrong.. because you were told nothing!).

Nice. Nice to see how judgmental people get. So the chick pissed you off, and that justifies everyone slagging her for being a stupid whore who got knocked up too young/too poor.

Milk of human kindness...it's just overflowing here.

I know you're talking about other peoples posts.. even though I haven't read anything but the OP and the page I'm responding on. But her being preggo in no way had anything to do with me telling her .. to tell her ... to stick it. :)

And if anyone did use that as the reason, or an added reason .. they are dumbasses.

But.. I'm hoping they didn't get the cue from Dak.. with the " (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) " .. I took that as being sarcastic. But I'm pretty sure it wasn't meant the way it sounded.

So today at work a customer comes by asking for one of my coworkers after she was done her shift. I go in the back to look and see if she's still around, I ask a couple of the bakers if they've seen her et c and she's nowhere to be found. So I go back out front and tell the customer that she must have left.

About 20 mins later my coworker comes back in along with another coworker who finished half an hour before she did. I tell her that a lady came by looking for her and I told her that she wasn't around.
Apparently the lady who came by was supposed to give her a bastinet (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) and my coworker yelled at me because I didn't know that she was coming back.

I would have assumed that if you were expecting someone to come by, you would notify everyone working up front that this was the case and that you would be back shortly, instad of telling two people out of the whole staff, especially when you're taking one of those two people with you and especially since everyone else seems to take every opportunity to run away and leave me alone at the front of the store to wait on customers.
You so need to be out of that job.

But.. I'm hoping they didn't get the cue from Dak.. with the " (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) " .. I took that as being sarcastic. But I'm pretty sure it wasn't meant the way it sounded.

Read more of her posts on the matter.

It wasn't sarcasm.

Funny story. :p I also agree that he/she didn't do anything wrong.

But.. I'm hoping they didn't get the cue from Dak.. with the " (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) " .. I took that as being sarcastic. But I'm pretty sure it wasn't meant the way it sounded.

Naw..judging by the thread..yeah she meant it.

Throwing that in there would just incite anger. IMO there was absolutely no need to put that in.

But of course when we are pissed off at someone..we GOT to make them more evil than what they might be.:rolleyes:

I'm riveted, here folks. 'How many pages can be spun out over this bit of drivel', I find myself sitting here and wondering.

And then I take another puff.

*puffs*

For me it's Makers Mark, and the occasional trip to the fridge for a little snacky. ;)

I'm riveted, here folks. 'How many pages can be spun out over this bit of drivel', I find myself sitting here and wondering.

And then I take another puff.

*puffs*

Incidentally, what the fuck is a bastinet?

It's a baby's wicker (usually) cradle with (usually) a hood...and it's commonly spelled with a double S instead of the T in the OP.

You so need to be out of that job.

Why? The lady did not tell her she was coming back. Why should Dak be out of a job because the lady wasn't there? If it was company policy to never tell anyone .. anything about employees .. coworkers.. she would have known to say.. I can't tell you shit. Very few places are that way.. from my experience.

The OP is the issue, not the teenage mother-to-be. I know I'm insane for asking, but can we all remember that?

The OP is not in the wrong for not knowing where the bassinet recipient was in the critical window of bassinet exchange. I suppose preggers co-worker doesn't have a cell phone and neither did bassinet benefactor?

So today at work a customer comes by asking for one of my coworkers after she was done her shift. I go in the back to look and see if she's still around, I ask a couple of the bakers if they've seen her et c and she's nowhere to be found. So I go back out front and tell the customer that she must have left.

About 20 mins later my coworker comes back in along with another coworker who finished half an hour before she did. I tell her that a lady came by looking for her and I told her that she wasn't around.
Apparently the lady who came by was supposed to give her a bastinet (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) and my coworker yelled at me because I didn't know that she was coming back.

I would have assumed that if you were expecting someone to come by, you would notify everyone working up front that this was the case and that you would be back shortly, instad of telling two people out of the whole staff, especially when you're taking one of those two people with you and especially since everyone else seems to take every opportunity to run away and leave me alone at the front of the store to wait on customers.
You did nothing wrong

I'm riveted, here folks. 'How many pages can be spun out over this bit of drivel', I find myself sitting here and wondering.

And then I take another puff.

*puffs*

Remember....you're on NSG.

We've got at least 20 pages left in this one.

Why? The lady did not tell her she was coming back. Why should Dak be out of a job because the lady wasn't there? If it was company policy to never tell anyone .. anything about employees .. coworkers.. she would have known to say.. I can't tell you shit. Very few places are that way.. from my experience.

I think he/she just meant that the OP could use a job with a bit less craziness. ;)

Why? The lady did not tell her she was coming back. Why should Dak be out of a job because the lady wasn't there? If it was company policy to never tell anyone .. anything about employees .. coworkers.. she would have known to say.. I can't tell you shit. Very few places are that way.. from my experience.

I think he meant...she needs to get a better job that isn't as annoying...not that she should LOSE her job.

" (my coworker is 19, pregnant and scraping by working a min wage job... how responsable) " .. I'm pretty sure it wasn't meant the way it sounded.I guess she means to say "the responsible thing to do in her situation (got pregnant while cheating) is to get an abortion"... instead of "living a life of lies with her Boyfriend."

and in a way I tend to agree..

Why? The lady did not tell her she was coming back. Why should Dak be out of a job because the lady wasn't there? If it was company policy to never tell anyone .. anything about employees .. coworkers.. she would have known to say.. I can't tell you shit. Very few places are that way.. from my experience.

A few days ago, I believe, Dakini started a thread about whether or not she should quit, and if she should, how much notice she should give. I was commenting to her that she just needs to give that place the heave-ho and do something else.

Naw..judging by the thread..yeah she meant it.

Throwing that in there would just incite anger. IMO there was absolutely no need to put that in.

But of course when we are pissed off at someone..we GOT to make them more evil than what they might be.:rolleyes:


I'm glad I'm the opposite, when someone makes someone out to be bad.. or the crowd yells fire.. I quickly step outside.. and ignore everyone else opinion until I form my own. That part in no way, made me feel pity for the preggo chic.. or contempt for Dak. From what we know.. Dak wasn't told anything. I see no wrong in her telling the other woman she wasn't there. Period.

A few days ago, I believe, Dakini started a thread about whether or not she should quit, and if she should, how much notice she should give. I was commenting to her that she just needs to give that place the heave-ho and do something else.

Ahh okay.

I guess she means to say "the responsible thing to do in her situation is to get an abortion"...

and in a way I tend to agree..

Oh for the love of...

The chick is WORKING. She's not bringing in big bucks, but so fucking what.

Jesus christ people, since when did it become okay to say, 'hey, hey you...yeah, you....you're a stupid, poor twat. Get an abortion'.

Not your choice. And your various opinions on the matter (get one, don't get one, whatever) are...worthless.

I would have kicked you in the teeth had you ever approached me whilst I was pregnant and offered any advice whatsoever on my living situation, my pregnancy, etc.

Oh for the love of...

The chick is WORKING. She's not bringing in big bucks, but so fucking what.

Jesus christ people, since when did it become okay to say, 'hey, hey you...yeah, you....you're a stupid, poor twat. Get an abortion'.

Not your choice. And your various opinions on the matter (get one, don't get one, whatever) are...worthless.

I would have kicked you in the teeth had you ever approached me whilst I was pregnant and offered any advice whatsoever on my living situation, my pregnancy, etc.
Sorry--I haven't weighed in on this part of the conversation, but you're absolutely right. I'm a supporter of choice, and that means choice to have a baby even in a situation I wouldn't choose for myself. And that certainly includes not going up to someone and saying "hey, you're an idiot and ought to get an abortion." Instead, we ought to be saying "we've got this child care program and a way for you to go to college if you want."

I would have kicked you in the teeth had you ever approached me whilst I was pregnant and offered any advice whatsoever on my living situation, my pregnancy, etc.LOL...
Tu sabes que yo no puedo resistir lo prohibido.. now I must give you advice.. cueste lo que cueste. :D

-imminent violence from la tigresa makes Occean horny-

ahh damn Nazz.

for the record I am a supporter of choice too.

so in a way I am contradicting myself.. :p
complicated it is.

LOL...
Tu sabes que yo no puedo resistir lo prohibido.. now I must give you advice.. cueste lo que cueste. :D

-imminent violence from la tigresa makes Occean horny-

No hay nada prohibido, solo unas cosas que son mas dificles que hacer que otras.

Y si quieres que te pege fuerte para hacerte sentir algo aun mas profundo que el deseo, solo tienes que decirmelo...

don't think much of it, you said so yourself that she is pregnant. enough said.

Why would she want to put a baby into a medieval metal helmet?

Y si quieres que te pege fuerte para hacerte sentir algo aun mas profundo que el deseo, solo tienes que decirmelo...naw.. its OK baby..

I was kinda lost in the woods.. and you (+Nazz) me llamaron por telefono. ;)

I still (very much) disaprove any woman making believe a boyfriend its his baby.. when its not.

Founding a family on lies is.. a disgrace.

I still (very much) disaprove any woman making believe a boyfriend its his baby.. when its not.

Founding a family on lies is.. a disgrace.

especially if the girl has never even yet had sex with said boyfriend

Why would she want to put a baby into a medieval metal helmet?

It's dangerous out there these days. Make sure to put some good padding inside it, and give the baby a broadsword.

It's dangerous out there these days. Make sure to put some good padding inside it, and give the baby a broadsword.

A pike would be much more effective.

I still (very much) disaprove any woman making believe a boyfriend its his baby.. when its not.

Founding a family on lies is.. a disgrace.

Well, yeah. That is a pretty awful thing to do. I really don't think anyone would think lying to a guy about it being his kid when its not is acceptable.

It's like a crib, but you put newborns in it and I think they usually rock.
A bassinet (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bassinet)?

Well, yeah. That is a pretty awful thing to do. I really don't think anyone would think lying to a guy about it being his kid when its not is acceptable.

It's a REALLY scummy thing to do. Especially if it causes the guy to feel like he can't break up with her or it forces the guy to pay child support. Really, it wasn't exactly the best idea to get pregnant in the first place, but lying to someone about whose child it is is simply...foul and disgusting, I think that's the description I'm going to go for here.

It's a REALLY scummy thing to do. Especially if it causes the guy to feel like he can't break up with her or it forces the guy to pay child support. Really, it wasn't exactly the best idea to get pregnant in the first place, but lying to someone about whose child it is is simply...foul and disgusting, I think that's the description I'm going to go for here.

Agreed, I'll just go with your post instead of mine, I like it more.