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... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

Alone like without any people or alone like without an intimate friend/significant other?

Alone like without any people or alone like without an intimate friend/significant other?

Both.

Buy a cat?

IIRC, you're stuck in Seattle, with the shittiest dating scene (origionally, I wrote dieting scene) in the US, but surely there are some local hangouts where you could go to meet people and pursue relationships?

that me this whole weekend

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?
Holy crap, I completely forgot it's Saturday night.

Goddamn drugs, messing with my sense of time. :mad:

Buy a cat?

IIRC, you're stuck in Seattle, with the shittiest dating scene (origionally, I wrote dieting scene) in the US, but surely there are some local hangouts where you could go to meet people and pursue relationships?

I have a cat, but it's at home in Oregon, and I live in the dorms anyway, so no pets.

that me this whole weekend

Well it was the same last night too, but now it's tonight so that's the way my OP went.

I pity you. Poor poor person.

I used to be like you, it was only in the last week of February that I changed. It was exam week and I had none so my parents decided for a trip to calgary. We stayed at my Dads old frields house.

I have know his (my dads friends) daughter for all of my 16 years. Until then I didnt really like her, now... lets just say that its her birthday weekend and my present is going to be given to her in the bedroom in a few minutes ;)

BTW she is also watching me type this...

Holy crap, I completely forgot it's Saturday night.

Goddamn drugs, messing with my sense of time. :mad:

when you get up next it be sunday for you
oh shit its monday when i get up :(

Well it was the same last night too, but now it's tonight so that's the way my OP went.

hows your sunday looking

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

I do... but I don't refer to it as a problem... should I be? :(

hows your sunday looking

It's pretty much booked solid with math homework.

You ain't gonna meet anyone sitting at home. Go out. Join clubs. Get active in volunteer organizations. Find hobby groups. Bake cookies and take them around to our neighbors. Join religious organization. Join political organization, call a politician that you like and join his/her campaign group. Use a little imagination and find people that like the same things you like. There's a group for every like in the world.

I was home for a while before I went out, so I was almost without anyone for the night. As for the significant other, I also lack that. But for what to do about them? I'm not entirely sure. See what your dormmates are up to if there are any there at the moment, or see what they will be doing earlier in the day next time.

I am now.

She fell asleep...

It's pretty much booked solid with math homework.

tonight for me NS for a bit then bed, then wake up to monday

You ain't gonna meet anyone sitting at home. Go out. Join clubs. Get active in volunteer organizations. Find hobby groups. Bake cookies and take them around to our neighbors. Join religious organization. Join political organization, call a politician that you like and join his/her campaign group. Use a little imagination and find people that like the same things you like. There's a group for every like in the world.

I'm not religious, I hate politics, I don't really have any hobbies that don't involve the internet. I have a hard time making friends. The only group that I hang out with is some guys who get together and play computer games once in a while.

I don't like parties because I always feel awkward (I rarely get invited to any anyways), but I hate just sitting here alone.

You're not alone, you have NSG. You are never alone with NSG.

*nods*

You're not alone, you have NSG. You are never alone with NSG.

*nods*

That's true. But it gets awfully slow this time of night on the west coast.

I'm not religious, I hate politics, I don't really have any hobbies that don't involve the internet. I have a hard time making friends. The only group that I hang out with is some guys who get together and play computer games once in a while.

I don't like parties because I always feel awkward (I rarely get invited to any anyways), but I hate just sitting here alone.

I fear that's what next year will be like for myself. :(
Although, I have been told that I have the ability to make the gatherings less awkward, so I really have no idea how I would be at parties.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

I wish I were alone on a Saturday night. My 36-year-old daughter lives with me and keeps trying to make me do things I don't want to do - like go to movies that don't interest me, go out to dinner (my treat) when I've just finished cooking paper-wrapped chicken, artichokes and sticky rice, clean 9 tarantula cages - you get the picture.

It could be a lot worse, enjoy it, it won't last.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

I'm at party. I'd invite you but it's whinding down adn wyou're likelyn not in the same state anyway.

I wish I were alone on a Saturday night. My 36-year-old daughter lives with me and keeps trying to make me do things I don't want to do - like go to movies that don't interest me, go out to dinner (my treat) when I've just finished cooking paper-wrapped chicken, artichokes and sticky rice, clean 9 tarantula cages - you get the picture.

It could be a lot worse, enjoy it, it won't last.

This is the problem with being old, ye?s

My sympathies.

I was out partying all night! Woot! (It was prom). The dancing was amazing, but I was sad as heck that my Manbeast wasn't there to see me looking all dolled up. Me and my best friend were sitting there lamenting not asking our guys to come. We were thinking, it seems so nerve-wracking at first, but once you get to prom, you're kicking yourself. Slow songs suck when you're alone, picturing the guy you like off at someone else's party. *Sigh*

This is the problem with being old, ye?s

My sympathies.

Now I'm depressed.

I was out partying all night! Woot! (It was prom). The dancing was amazing, but I was sad as heck that my Manbeast wasn't there to see me looking all dolled up. Me and my best friend were sitting there lamenting not asking our guys to come. We were thinking, it seems so nerve-wracking at first, but once you get to prom, you're kicking yourself. Slow songs suck when you're alone, picturing the guy you like off at someone else's party. *Sigh*

jsut danece with your friend. nothing like two kichs dancing to make a praty even .. partier.

Also: Please, please bare with m n diecerphering these posts. I'm not exactly sober.

Now I'm depressed.

:( :( Sorry, didn't mena to be jerk. Juts saying myind.

The only group that I hang out with is some guys who get together and play computer games once in a while.

That's the key! Society tries to say that nerdy friends are rubbish, but really we're great. You get people, separated from society, complaining about being alone all the time - and the solution is staring us all in the face!

Let the ruling classes tremble at a nerd society. The nerds have nothing to lose but their chains. They have a world to win.

Nerds of all countries, unite!

Buy a cat?

IIRC, you're stuck in Seattle, with the shittiest dating scene (origionally, I wrote dieting scene) in the US, but surely there are some local hangouts where you could go to meet people and pursue relationships?

I use to be single in Seattle. It is by far not the worst dating scene. I use to pull girls from bars on a regular basis before I settled down. It was not that difficult. You just need to be creative and actively search for someone. It will happen with enough exposure out in the world.

I have this problem routinely. I have actually tried going out alone. I don't advise it. Usually, I end up ringing a friend and bugging them into taking me out.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

I have it, had it for three years now. Hope it'll change in a year and a couple of months when I start going to the university.

Meet people... make freinds, possibly a girlfreind/boyfreind. I'm not making fun of you when I point out that part of the problem is you are sitting at the computer. I'm never alone on saturday night unless I want to be. Shit.. 8:30 saturday morning my freinds and I get together, go do some community service projects because we were bored and we know the head of the in charge of groundskeeping for the historical society. I was hanging out with them non stop from then until I had to go to work at 5:30 am today.
Don't be shy, get out of your shell and meet people, its the only way you'll be not lonely on a saturday night. If that don't work.. try a dating site or something?

I spent my Saturday night driving from San Francisco to LA with two hours notice...and I just got here.

LA sucks, by the way...[/bitterness]

I was out partying all night! Woot! (It was prom). The dancing was amazing, but I was sad as heck that my Manbeast wasn't there to see me looking all dolled up. Me and my best friend were sitting there lamenting not asking our guys to come. We were thinking, it seems so nerve-wracking at first, but once you get to prom, you're kicking yourself. Slow songs suck when you're alone, picturing the guy you like off at someone else's party. *Sigh*

I went to our equivilant of the prom alone, it was great. Though that could be because I was fantastically drunk most of the time. Maybe that's why I can't remember if there even were any slow dances.......

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

same problem o'er here

wanna meet up in Kansas next Saturday and do something?

I was out partying all night! Woot! (It was prom). The dancing was amazing, but I was sad as heck that my Manbeast wasn't there to see me looking all dolled up. Me and my best friend were sitting there lamenting not asking our guys to come. We were thinking, it seems so nerve-wracking at first, but once you get to prom, you're kicking yourself. Slow songs suck when you're alone, picturing the guy you like off at someone else's party. *Sigh*

I hated my school formal. So much I didn't go to the second one.

You're not alone, you have NSG. You are never alone with NSG.

*nods*

too right :)
NSG is great when i'm all lonely at night or at work

i also second the idea of getting a cat! :D



and for the record, no i am not alone. glitzi is here :fluffle:

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

Take yourself to the movies. Or a museum. Or go bowling. Or join an art class. Or go to a singles dance. Or go out to eat. Or go for coffee. MEET PEOPLE.

Hell, I've taken solo vacation trips since the 80s. You wouldn't believe how many people you will meet if you're just open to the idea of, like, talking to them.

You ain't gonna meet anyone sitting at home. Go out. Join clubs. Get active in volunteer organizations. Find hobby groups. Bake cookies and take them around to our neighbors. Join religious organization. Join political organization, call a politician that you like and join his/her campaign group. Use a little imagination and find people that like the same things you like. There's a group for every like in the world.

cookies......mmmmmmmmmm......sweet delicious.....

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

Me. I have a family to deal with. And try dating in the suburbs. Damn place won't let ya walk anywhere. I just deal with it by reading NSG and playing my Locomotion demo.

Dont get a cat. Before you know it you have two, three, and you become the crazy guy/girl with cats who wears robes every day.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

Pretend it's sunday and go to bed early.
Boring, yes, but you'll live longer.

Well, I'm the same way. Sucks being socially inept.

I wish I'd spent Friday indoors its weird that I have so much more fun when I'm left to my own resources :confused:

You wouldn't believe how many people you will meet if you're just open to the idea of, like, talking to them.

QFT, though you do get assholes but well there assholes

QFT, though you do get assholes but well there assholes

Yeah, but if you spend all your time worrying if the person you're talking to is potentially an asshole, you're also eliminating the chance you'll find an utter kindred spirit.

Ta
Hell, I've taken solo vacation trips since the 80s. You wouldn't believe how many people you will meet if you're just open to the idea of, like, talking to them.

I did that twice when I was younger. Friends backed out because a lack of money. Went to Portugal and Italy at different times by myself. Those two vacations were some of the most fun. You would be suprised how many people as you say you would meet. I had no shortage of people to hang with. First thing I did when I got into the country was head to a busy bar with young people. Just get in there and start talking with people and the rest will follow.

You live in a dorm, surrounded by people your own age, yet you don't have any friends or anyone to bang.

This implies you're A) Fat
B) Fat and ugly
C) Ugly
D) Insane (like the VT shooter...)

Fortunately for you, three of these can be fixed easily.

A) Lose some wait, start by not eating in your dorm room, or fast food, or in your car. Indeedy, this also forces you to get out. Jog around campus, go to the campus gym or a nearby one.
B) See A, get a sense of humor (for friends) and get some alcohol (for girls)
C)See B


Don't waste what will be some the funnest years of your life as a dorm-rat.

Take yourself to the movies. Or a museum. Or go bowling. Or join an art class. Or go to a singles dance. Or go out to eat. Or go for coffee. MEET PEOPLE.

Hell, I've taken solo vacation trips since the 80s. You wouldn't believe how many people you will meet if you're just open to the idea of, like, talking to them.

... by myself. No, I'm really not that kind of person. Around here going to places like movie theaters and talking to random people usually just gets you funny looks, in my experience.

You live in a dorm, surrounded by people your own age, yet you don't have any friends or anyone to bang.

This implies you're A) Fat
B) Fat and ugly
C) Ugly
D) Insane (like the VT shooter...)

Fortunately for you, three of these can be fixed easily.

A) Lose some wait, start by not eating in your dorm room, or fast food, or in your car. Indeedy, this also forces you to get out. Jog around campus, go to the campus gym or a nearby one.
B) See A, get a sense of humor (for friends) and get some alcohol (for girls)
C)See B


Don't waste what will be some the funnest years of your life as a dorm-rat.

This is me (http://photos-956.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v55/213/67/10738879/n10738879_32616956_329.jpg), I assure you I'm none of the above, unless you think I'm ugly, in which case screw you.

I have some friends. But not ones that will hang out with me on the weekend. I also don't drink, it makes me uncomfortable, and besides getting drunk by yourself is just pointless. Oh, and forget a relationship, I can't even maintain a friendship with most girls. I don't know why.

This is me (http://photos-956.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v55/213/67/10738879/n10738879_32616956_329.jpg), I assure you I'm none of the above, unless you think I'm ugly, in which case screw you.

I have some friends. But not ones that will hang out with me on the weekend. I also don't drink, it makes me uncomfortable, and besides getting drunk by yourself is just pointless. Oh, and forget a relationship, I can't even maintain a friendship with most girls. I don't know why.

Could I suggest a couple things here. I would try a different look if what you got going is not working for you. Maybe go for a new haircut, shave and try a different style of clothing. Your change may change how you perceive yourself and give yourself a more approachable appeal.

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This is me (http://photos-956.ak.facebook.com/ip002/v55/213/67/10738879/n10738879_32616956_329.jpg), I assure you I'm none of the above, unless you think I'm ugly, in which case screw you.
That's a very natural look. I looked a lot like that as a young man, except my hair would never grow that long.
What I think happened to me, socially, was that people took me too seriously, like I was Jesus or something. To put it in the simplest possible terms: people don't talk to guys with beards. The onus is on the bearded one to strike up conversation.
Also, to not cut your hair or style it in any way other than to keep it brushed is a statement in itself, and the statement is pretty much "looks don't matter." That takes away the first, most obvious handle people have to who you are.

I have some friends. But not ones that will hang out with me on the weekend. I also don't drink, it makes me uncomfortable, and besides getting drunk by yourself is just pointless. Oh, and forget a relationship, I can't even maintain a friendship with most girls. I don't know why.
To be honest, from your posts I thought you WERE a girl. Or perhaps it's the feminine ending "-ia" of your name. I really can be quite shallow.

I think it's important to realize that every friendship is different, because each person is different. You can't be the same thing to everybody, and it's probably not a good idea to try ... you miss out on some crazy fun times for one thing. You can't control what people think of you, and if you don't relax and play it a bit like a game, you come across as an egotist who really isn't interested in other people.

Ah, what do I know? I'm still crap at friendships, online and IRL. My 2c.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

Alcohol.

... like every other Saturday night. Who else has this problem? And what can I do about it?

masturbate