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Right I'm creating this thread so anyone can ask for advice on any problems they may be facing. It could be as trivial or as big as you wish but at least here someone may be able to help you. Obviously I've created such a thread because I need advice (warning: Emo type post ahead!):

Well as some of may know I have severe realtionship problems with my mum. She is a complete control freak. If she doesn't get her way she'l flip out completly. This attitude turned my father into an alcoholic who has now had o have numerous hospital vists due to the alcoholism and stressed. Well I feel like I'm going down that same path as my daf. I seem to want to forget my torubles and alcohol seems the quick option, add that to exam stress and its not a good thing. I feel if I don't stop soon then I'll completely ruin my life, since I'm 18 this is a big deal to me. I can't talk to my mum as every time I do she starts shouting and believeing she is right. So NSG have any advice?

I can't talk to my mum as every time I do she starts shouting and believeing she is right. So NSG have any advice?
Three paths are open to you; three cunning plans to cure thine ailments.

The first is simple. Kill mum!

Never? Then try the second. Kill yourself.

And the third? The third is to ensure that no possible circumstance can make you two talk to each other.

Kill everybody in the whole world! Ahahaha!


When in doubt, always trust the words of a wise woman.

*Nods sagely*

I only have joke advice, so I'll be back in about 10 pages.

Three paths are open to you; three cunning plans to cure thine ailments.

The first is simple. Kill mum!

Never? Then try the second. Kill yourself.

And the third? The third is to ensure that no possible circumstance can make you two talk to each other.

Kill everybody in the whole world! Ahahaha!


When in doubt, always trust the words of a wise woman.

*Nods sagely*

Hmm this idea of mass genocide intrigues me...*looks up plans to build nuclear warheads*:p

I only have joke advice, so I'll be back in about 10 pages.

All advice is good advice even joke ones.

Right I'm creating this thread so anyone can ask for advice on any problems they may be facing. It could be as trivial or as big as you wish but at least here someone may be able to help you. Obviously I've created such a thread because I need advice (warning: Emo type post ahead!):

Well as some of may know I have severe realtionship problems with my mum. She is a complete control freak. If she doesn't get her way she'l flip out completly. This attitude turned my father into an alcoholic who has now had o have numerous hospital vists due to the alcoholism and stressed. Well I feel like I'm going down that same path as my daf. I seem to want to forget my torubles and alcohol seems the quick option, add that to exam stress and its not a good thing. I feel if I don't stop soon then I'll completely ruin my life, since I'm 18 this is a big deal to me. I can't talk to my mum as every time I do she starts shouting and believeing she is right. So NSG have any advice?

my advice would be to leave home as soon as possible. my mum is/was like that, and she threatens suicide if anyone criticises her or tells her she's done something wrong. as soon as i was gone for a while and made it clear that i wasn't going to come back except for short visits she started really pandering to me and now we can comfortably have a conversation and even have fun for a good few hours before she goes off the rails again.

my advice would be to leave home as soon as possible. my mum is/was like that, and she threatens suicide if anyone criticises her or tells her she's done something wrong. as soon as i was gone for a while and made it clear that i wasn't going to come back except for short visits she started really pandering to me and now we can comfortably have a conversation and even have fun for a good few hours before she goes off the rails again.

Well I'm 17 weeks away from University, I plan to get a job whereever it is I end up and eventually find a flat or something of my own there. I'll come back once every few weeks or so but right now I feel like I'm trapped in this place.

stop drinking

spend as much time as possible away from home

when at home, spend as much time as possible locked in your room

keep increasing the amount of time you do the second 2

make sure you keep your grades up and avoid other kinds of troubles. you need to be able to make your own way as soon as possible.

All advice is good advice even joke ones.

Mass genocide seems to be a pretty good option. That or write to MTV and ask them to pimp your family.

Well I'm 17 weeks away from University, I plan to get a job whereever it is I end up and eventually find a flat or something of my own there. I'll come back once every few weeks or so but right now I feel like I'm trapped in this place.

then i guess you need to occupy yourself as much as possible away from home, stay out as long as possible, get an evening/weekend job. and don't go down the road of blocking it out with alcohol. i've done that, it doesn't work, it just postpones things and makes it all worse in the end because an alcoholic doesn't deal with things well when it comes to the crunch.

also, remember that at 17 you are your own person, you may not have reached the age of majority but you can legally move out and live by yourself. make sure your mum is aware of that, she may cool off a little.

oh, and if your mum is shouting at you, don't shout back talk in a level and measured way and if she doesn't respond in kind then just walk away, leave the house and go for a walk for an hour or so. then come back and act as if nothing has happened, see what she does.

Ignore her. Most problems solve themselves if you ignore them, because life always gives you an answer one time or another. Usually earlier than you expect.

Also, the easiest way to hurt someone is to ignore them. And when you ignore them, they usually come crawling to you. So, ignore your mother and let her come to you.

Mass genocide seems to be a pretty good option. That or write to MTV and ask them to pimp your family.

Ummm...I don't think MTV does that sort of thing, at least not publicly.