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Well, yesterday a friend of mine who is a girl told me she saw the girl i used to really like, trying to make herself puke in the restroom. I kind of wonder how she got so skinny, i saw her a lot at school last year and over the summer i saw her like once.I am very clueless, but even i could tell she like me, but never asked me out. The begining of this school year she was different, super skinny and a different personallity (also she is hotter now than she was last year). You think she has an eating disorder or is this girl who told me this trying to get me to not like her?I dunno, i wanted to get your opinion.

Sorry, I missed "Mind-reading at Long Distances of People You've Heard About On the Internet 101". :(

Sorry, I missed "Mind-reading at Long Distances of People You've Heard About On the Internet 101". :(

ok

Hey, i want to know your opinion?

No you don't. You really really don't.

I really, really, really, really....



















don't care.

I can't bring myself to care so:
LEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEROOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOY JEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEENKINS!

no way for us to tell.

you shouldnt have anything to do with either girl. one is a gossipping drama queen and the other isnt interested in you.

get a better class of friends

It's impossible to make a diagnosis for any kind of disorder based on hearsay. You're hearing it second-hand from someone whose bias may well be real and whose motives in telling you are questionable. And we are hearing it third-hand from you. Psychological diagnosis involves (or at least it did when it was done by psychologists, instead of pill-pushers in white shirts) several weeks of regular meetings.

But I would say that if she *was* trying to make herself puke, there still could be several possible reasons. One is she just felt sick and wanted to puke. (I've been there. Puking makes you feel better than the general nausea and uncertainty.) Two is maybe she was stressed out and felt insecure that day and so was trying to make herself vomit to feel less fat. In that case it could be the beginning of an eating disorder, or it could be just a one-time thing. Impossible to tell either way. And third is, she is a bulimic, she does this often and she needs help. (Not from you, by the way.)

Of course, maybe she wasn't trying to make herself puke at all. Maybe your friend is lying. Or maybe the girl was actually just plain regular vomiting. It happens.

So, in short... impossible to say. You'll get no real help on this issue just by blabbing with anonymous online strangers.

no way for us to tell.

you shouldnt have anything to do with either girl. one is a gossipping drama queen and the other isnt interested in you.

get a better class of friends

People who are more like us.

Yeah. We can't run out on you, and if you don't like us, there's an ignore list.

People who are more like us.

HAHA, yea you guys are my friends

It's impossible to make a diagnosis for any kind of disorder based on hearsay. You're hearing it second-hand from someone whose bias may well be real and whose motives in telling you are questionable. And we are hearing it third-hand from you. Psychological diagnosis involves (or at least it did when it was done by psychologists, instead of pill-pushers in white shirts) several weeks of regular meetings.

But I would say that if she *was* trying to make herself puke, there still could be several possible reasons. One is she just felt sick and wanted to puke. (I've been there. Puking makes you feel better than the general nausea and uncertainty.) Two is maybe she was stressed out and felt insecure that day and so was trying to make herself vomit to feel less fat. In that case it could be the beginning of an eating disorder, or it could be just a one-time thing. Impossible to tell either way. And third is, she is a bulimic, she does this often and she needs help. (Not from you, by the way.)

Of course, maybe she wasn't trying to make herself puke at all. Maybe your friend is lying. Or maybe the girl was actually just plain regular vomiting. It happens.

So, in short... impossible to say. You'll get no real help on this issue just by blabbing with anonymous online strangers.

yea, your right, I don't know you, you don't know me. Honestly, this fourm is true, but i got bored and wanted to post something, so i picked this. Na, i go play Halo or Gears of war, better than these fourms, no offense

HAHA, yea you guys are my friends
So you wouldn't mind if I drunkenly stagger into your house one night, vomit on the furniture and pass out naked in the bath tub?
Because I'm pretty sure that's what friends are for.

First of all, I must say that you were an absolute idiot for not taking the opportunity last year. Alright, I grant that hindsight is 20/20, however, you know.

Secondly, it is difficult to tell whether this person has an eating disorder or not. I know a couple of thin people; and they love their food, and in spite of their eating, they simply don't gain weight - essentially they must have really good metabolisms. The super skinness could be the result of some exercise programme that was taken in the holidays or something.

Either way, I cannot express an opinion.

So you wouldn't mind if I drunkenly stagger into your house one night, vomit on the furniture and pass out naked in the bath tub?
Because I'm pretty sure that's what friends are for.

I might get creeped out.LOL

yea, your right, I don't know you, you don't know me. Honestly, this fourm is true, but i got bored and wanted to post something, so i picked this. Na, i go play Halo or Gears of war, better than these fourms, no offense

I think it was a reasonable answer. Everyone's just doing their best with the info given. It's better than a lot of idiots spewing nonsense.

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So you wouldn't mind if I drunkenly stagger into your house one night, vomit on the furniture and pass out naked in the bath tub?
Because I'm pretty sure that's what friends are for.

You forgot one thing. A true friend will give your drunk ass a blanket.


It gets cold sleeping in a bathtub naked.

Only if you're alone.

It would take a very good friend to join you in a vomit filled bath.

I might get creeped out.LOL
I'm not hearing a "no."
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You forgot one thing. A true friend will give your drunk ass a blanket as well.
I wouldn't want to impose, though.

You forgot one thing. A true friend will give your drunk ass a blanketl.


It gets cold sleeping in bathtubs naked.

Only if you're alone.

It would take a very good friend to join you in a vomit filled bath.

Some people are into that sort of thing.







Thankfully I've never ran into one of those.

It would take a very good friend to join you in a vomit filled bath.

well two people can fill a bath with vomit much faster than one person can.

well two people can fill a bath with vomit much faster than one person can.

Good point.

Good point.

My points are always good :D

My points are always good :D

Stop flirting with me.:p

Stop flirting with me.:p

Only if I can start sleeping with you.
:fluffle:

Well, yesterday a friend of mine who is a girl told me she saw the girl i used to really like, trying to make herself puke in the restroom. I kind of wonder how she got so skinny, i saw her a lot at school last year and over the summer i saw her like once.I am very clueless, but even i could tell she like me, but never asked me out. The begining of this school year she was different, super skinny and a different personallity (also she is hotter now than she was last year). You think she has an eating disorder or is this girl who told me this trying to get me to not like her?I dunno, i wanted to get your opinion.

I'm a recognized professional in cases like these. She is in fact a robot specifically designed to seduce and destroy humanity.

And here's my source. (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=12542078&postcount=27)

Mwahahaha.

Only if I can start sleeping with you.
:fluffle:

As long as it's not in a bathtub full of vomit.

I'm Ron Burgundy??

I'm Ron Burgundy??

Erm. What?

Erm. What?
Y'know, in anchorman? someone types a question mark at the end of the teleprompter? it was the first thing I thought upon seeing the oddly misplaced question mark in the thread title.

I really, really, really, really....



















don't care.

Seconded.:D

Ah? I guess were all a little Ron Burgandy?
Guess so?

Y'know, in anchorman? someone types a question mark at the end of the teleprompter? it was the first thing I thought upon seeing the oddly misplaced question mark in the thread title.

Ah? I guess were all a little Ron Burgandy?

Guess so?

:eek: ?

:eek: ?
*Twiddles thumbs*
excellent....

She may have an eating disorder, or she may not. It sounds like she may be changing herself to fit in with the "cool kids" at school, and that's really sad. However, if you really like her, it shouldn't change the way you feel. The best thing you can do is be supportive. Do not, under any circumstances, confront her about it unless she specifically opens up to you, or you have concrete evidence and reason to believe she needs an intervention. Your part is to listen to her, trust what she says, and be completely understanding. Remember that eating disorders are diseases, beyond her control, and the last thing she needs is friends losing their respect for her. Please, please don't tell her that you think she's hotter now. Tell her you think she's beautiful and acceptable just the way she is. Because that's how you feel, right?

She may have an eating disorder, or she may not. It sounds like she may be changing herself to fit in with the "cool kids" at school, and that's really sad. However, if you really like her, it shouldn't change the way you feel. The best thing you can do is be supportive. Do not, under any circumstances, confront her about it unless she specifically opens up to you, or you have concrete evidence and reason to believe she needs an intervention. Your part is to listen to her, trust what she says, and be completely understanding. Remember that eating disorders are diseases, beyond her control, and the last thing she needs is friends losing their respect for her. Please, please don't tell her that you think she's hotter now. Tell her you think she's beautiful and acceptable just the way she is. Because that's how you feel, right?

ok that sounds like good advice. thanks

yea, your right, I don't know you, you don't know me. Honestly, this fourm is true, but i got bored and wanted to post something, so i picked this. Na, i go play Halo or Gears of war, better than these fourms, no offense

Great threads are made of this. Shame he quit, really.

Well, given that the OP never really gave a rats arse and just wanted to confirm his frustration with online relationships sans big guns, my advice is this:

Ask the girl out. Buy her a soda or whatever she wants, but then get carried away and buy the most expensive, highest carb thing the coffeeshop/drugstore/milkbar sells, and calling the waitstaff by name, insist on extra white chocolate/caramel/malt/tons-o-carbs on top. Make her eat it. Then when she goes to the rest-room, follow her in there. Be a bit careful at this stage -- most places disapprove of guys using the girls' rest-room.
Take pictures. Come back and tell your real friends what a freak she is, and show us the pics. And of course keep dating her -- you'll get plenty of sympathy dates when she dies of malnutrition.

Great threads are made of this. Shame he quit, really.

Well, given that the OP never really gave a rats arse and just wanted to confirm his frustration with online relationships sans big guns, my advice is this:

Ask the girl out. Buy her a soda or whatever she wants, but then get carried away and buy the most expensive, highest carb thing the coffeeshop/drugstore/milkbar sells, and calling the waitstaff by name, insist on extra white chocolate/caramel/malt/tons-o-carbs on top. Make her eat it. Then when she goes to the rest-room, follow her in there. Be a bit careful at this stage -- most places disapprove of guys using the girls' rest-room.
Take pictures. Come back and tell your real friends what a freak she is, and show us the pics. And of course keep dating her -- you'll get plenty of sympathy dates when she dies of malnutrition.


i am back.

i am back.

Er, ok. I've only just noticed that you are back, but I was so slow noticing that you've gone again. Got browser trouble? Boss sticking the nose in?

You know I'm joking right? Sometimes my advice on sex and romance might seem half-sensible (I have a dry sense of humour) but to put it in perspective I haven't got my end away in over a decade, don't really care, and wasn't much good at it back when I bothered to try.