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Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

If you find an answer tell me too.

99% of the time I'm fairly pleasant but when I get pissed I throw and break things. A couple months back I slammed my fist into my flat screen monitor. I don't mean or want to do these things, but when I get angry I really can't help it.

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Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

Sleep more, drink less, rub one out every now and then, and don't obsess about shit that is truly inconsequential. Let that which does not matter slide. There's very little in everyday life that is worth getting worked up over. Especially the dropping of hats.

Edit: Also, I find beating up the homeless to be a good way to fight rage. It gives you an outlet for your rage, and it gives them something to look forward to, to give their lives purpose again. Do that.

I started smoking.. :(

*tries to punch Ruffy but breaks another monitor*

I started smoking.. :(

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

Watch "Anger Management" ;) or engage in activities that will let out your rage on something like pulverizing a box or playing a violent war game where you let out your anger on the enemy guys.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?


Erm, might I suggest some vagisil? Sand can be hell on a vagina....

How to fight rage?

Why fight it? :D

Watch "Anger Management" ;) or engage in activities that will let out your rage on something like pulverizing a box or playing a violent war game where you let out your anger on the enemy guys.

Adam Sandler movies make me really angry because they're all so bad now.

My girlfriend doesn't like it that rough.

That caused the first monitor smash. :(

Man, just be chill and stuff.

If you find an answer tell me too.

99% of the time I'm fairly pleasant but when I get pissed I throw and break things. A couple months back I slammed my fist into my flat screen monitor. I don't mean or want to do these things, but when I get angry I really can't help it.

You think that's bad, I once destroyed a VCR with my baseball bat when it wrecked one of my tapes. I took an anger management class shortly afterwards, though, and it helped a lot.

You think that's bad, I once destroyed a VCR with my baseball bat when it wrecked one of my tapes. I took an anger management class shortly afterwards, though, and it helped a lot.

When i got into a fight with my mom I started 'golfing' my wrestling trophies to convince her how bad I wanted to quit. One of them went through my neighbor's window.

The other day i threw a bottle of soda against my door and it exploded. Sometimes when people tick me off, i envision myself on top of them, beating them into a coma or something. It scares me. :(

I sometimes go down to the batting cages for an hour or two. That helps in letting off steam.

99% of the time I'm fairly pleasant but when I get pissed I throw and break things. A couple months back I slammed my fist into my flat screen monitor. I don't mean or want to do these things, but when I get angry I really can't help it.

You think that's bad, I once destroyed a VCR with my baseball bat when it wrecked one of my tapes. I took an anger management class shortly afterwards, though, and it helped a lot.

When i got into a fight with my mom I started 'golfing' my wrestling trophies to convince her how bad I wanted to quit. One of them went through my neighbor's window.

The other day i threw a bottle of soda against my door and it exploded. Sometimes when people tick me off, i envision myself on top of them, beating them into a coma or something. It scares me.

I once shot a man for asking me for a piece of gum. Top that.



I joke, guys, I joke. Don't track me down in a fit of rage and brain me with a brick. :)

Really, I find it's best to just close your eyes and take a breath before lashing out. Acting on impulse usually leaves you with something to regret. Plus, I don't generally get angry...until I'm driving. Then everyone's an asshole.

take up martial arts classes. the ones where you get to kick and be kicked at/by people.

that way, you get to vent your anger, and if it wasn't enough, you won't be in any shape to do any real harm to anything/one around you. :p

Wrestling and Football just made me a more effective destroying machine.

take up martial arts classes. the ones where you get to kick and be kicked at/by people.

that way, you get to vent your anger, and if it wasn't enough, you won't be in any shape to do any real harm to anything/one around you. :p

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

Well, once when I was twelve I picked up the tail end of a car and shoved it halfway across the garage.

But that's usually a poor way to handle things. You need an anger management class and a way to focus your stress into something that doesn't hurt someone. Me, I train outside my house with my bo staff.

Look for "passion fruit" in your supermarket. Despite the funny name in English, it has pretty calming effects. You can eat it with the seeds, or make a juice out of it. Tastes pretty nice.

Don't sweat the small stuff. It's all small stuff. Drink less, meditate more. Try to get a few minutes to yourself each day just to vegetate. Rage is caused, directly and indirectly, by exposure to people. Escape from them for a little, when possible. Even people you love can be infuriating in sufficient doses.

Look for "passion fruit" in your supermarket. Despite the funny name in English, it has pretty calming effects. You can eat it with the seeds, or make a juice out of it. Tastes pretty nice.

I work in the produce department of a supermarket and we have nothing of the sort. :(

If you really feel like you are out of control, engage in some hard physical activity. Like going for a long, fast run, so you deprive yourself of the energy with which you could really hurt somebody or their property. Second, wash the feelings of rage, that are probably still hanging around in your mind, by sitting down in a comfortable chair, and sipping some beverage that seems really intellectual to you, preferably not a depressant like alcohol, (I usually enjoy an espresso) and ponder...whatever it is you wish to ponder, so long as it is unconnected to whatever set you off. Through this you engage your mind in something deep, far away from those feelings of fury. If, however, you find yourself experiencing these emotions in a setting where going for a run or sitting down alone is not an option, try to react as cooly as possible. If you feel in control enough, it can be a lot of fun to make it seem like you are about to blow up, but then dismiss the situation with a few well-chosen words.

I work in the produce department of a supermarket and we have nothing of the sort. :(

Which one? I've seen it around here, but only in the more upscale ones and it's usually pretty seasonal IIRC.

Which one? I've seen it around here, but only in the more upscale ones and it's usually pretty seasonal IIRC.

Acme, and that's definately not upscale.

Acme, and that's definately not upscale.

That would explain it...

Which one? I've seen it around here, but only in the more upscale ones and it's usually pretty seasonal IIRC.

Well, it's sorta seasonal. I mean, you can easily get it here at most times of the year, but this is a tropical country. Other options are chamomile tea, catnip tea and others of the sort.

How to fight rage, you ask? Furiously, of cource.


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Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?Well, you could try those low-agression diets they've tried out in several prisons.
And distract yourself when you get angry. Or just think about the consequences before acting on your impulses. Exploding soda bottles are a mess to clean up, after all.

I usually try to just shrug things off that won't have that big of an impact in the long run to relieve my stress. I also find focusing on my interests and what I'm passionate about to be useful. It helps to keep my mind off the things in my life that bother me and keeps me refreshed. I think it helps that I've built up a certain apathy for alot of the things in my life to keep me from losing control of myself.

Whatever you do, don't get a nintendo wii... you'll break both your controller and your tv... and as everyone else has said, engage in something physical, running, sex, push-ups. Chocolate seems to work for some aswell. Get more sleep... gee, I'm just repeating what others already said. I'll stop now.

Take it out on mid-air.

No, seriously. When I was younger, I used to totally lose it when I got mad. I broke my hand (and my locker) when I was in 7th grade because I couldn't control my temper. I got a bad audition result in 10th grade, and I put a huge hole in the wall. Then I learned that you don't actually have to punch, anything. Just punch mid-air.

See, this time, when I got rejected at my top-two choices for college, all I did was lose it at mid-air. Nothing was harmed, except for both of my shoulders, which hurt for three days thereafter.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?
http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/Sith.gif "Good. I can feel your anger. Use your aggressive feelings, boy! Let the hate flow through you. Your hate has made you powerful. Now, fulfill your destiny and take your place at my side, and your journey towards the dark side will be complete!" (Yes, I combined quotes. So what?)

Been there, and still am sometimes, until I realized that I'm wasting a whole lot of energy that I need to focus somewhere else.

Listen to music, go for a walk, exercise, and most importantly realize how not-helpful and ridiculous the anger and rage are, for they do you no good.
And try not to act upon those flashes of rage and anger, for they are poor advisors and actions taken in that state of mind usually do more harm than good - to you, and others.

It takes time and patience, and maybe a vent to release some of that build-up energy but other than that, you'll be fine. ;)

Listen to some relaxing music. Picture a scene in your mind that embodies calm and peace, or perhaps a person you really love.

i would suggest hollaring at the top of your lungs in the direction that deserves and is at the true root of it, and that is the international corporatocracy and it's american and other puppet governments. those heads of states that have usurped their nation's constitutions to kiss its ass and commit mass murder in the proccess of doing so. especialy bush and company and their puppet masters.

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Buy a hammer. Doesn't have to be anything fancy; bog-standard claw hammer will do fine.

Then, when somebody annoys you, take that hammer, move them somewhere you don't have to clean up, and proceed to beat them to death with it. You can probably think of something interesting to use the claw-end for, whilst you're at it. There we go - problem solved! That person won't bother you any more, you've had a bit of exercise and worked out all your agression. You can carry on with whatever you were doing calmly again.

Problems aren't solved by meditation, or ignoring them, or sticking your fingers in your ears and saying "la la la, I can't hear you"; they are solved by facing them, and destroying them utterly.

Of course, after solving a problem some people might become upset with you, and become problems themselves; you've still got the hammer, yes? Solve them, then! Sooner or later people will learn to leave you alone in peace and quiet, and that's what we all want really, isn't it?

I started smoking.. :(

Works for me.

Get a punching bag, light up a cigarette, drink a beer, find a girl. All good tips to relieve stress! ;)

You could also try to do something constructive with your energy, like writing songs, building things, playing a sport, etc. Or, if its a person who is making you angry, confront them about it.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

I used to suffer from massive rage, I mean for a loooooog time. I developed a way that works for me.

When I feel it building, I take a few mins out to thing about why I feel so angry, I get all nilistic about it. I say to myself, well you know it could have been worse, i imagine exactly how much more bad it could have been.

After that I realise that I actualy getting angry over nothing, and so the anger goes.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

The problem is your approach. You can't fight rage. Rage is what you feel when you're fighting. If you try to suppress rage by act of will, the difficulty will be frustrating and only compound your problem. You have to think about something else, but you'll have to find it.

To this day I get cheered up by remembering a Staples Christmas commercial in which a guy looks at all his badly wrapped presents that are easy to identify. Then a dog that's been wrapped in paper barks and wags its tail. I still find it oddly funny. Lately I'm also mollified by my daughter's new habit of calling me "Daddy-Daddy."

take up vigorous physical exercise.

make an appointment at the college mental health office. they love to talk to people that they can actually help. its a good break from the psychotics and suicidals.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

Get laid.

That is a common thing with adolescents, the most effective cure is to grow up.

Lately, i have noticed that I am full of anger and rage, and I snap at the drop of a hat. I don't know why, or when this happened to me, but its rather frustrating in itself. I know I am better than this type of mindset, but I am constantly drawn to it. How do you wise NSGers think I should handle this?

Cheer up, emo kid. :p

That is a common thing with adolescents, the most effective cure is to grow up.

Sex works wonders as well.

Find a creative, non-destructive outlet. I used to draw. I took up running until it started taking a major toll on my body. For awhile GTA was my outlet. Now I skateboard or longboard. Not the best outlet. I tend to push myself too far past my limits now. I think there's something inside me that wants to feel pain when I rage.

maybe you should go to a doctor, he'll either recommend counselling or drugs

maybe you should go to a doctor, he'll either recommend counselling or drugs

Or maybe he'd recommend not being so self-absorbed.

My advice is to focus the rage. When I do that, then I'm able to control it, and use it as a motivator to some goal of mine.

I once shot a man for asking me for a piece of gum. Top that.



I joke, guys, I joke. Don't track me down in a fit of rage and brain me with a brick. :)

Really, I find it's best to just close your eyes and take a breath before lashing out. Acting on impulse usually leaves you with something to regret. Plus, I don't generally get angry...until I'm driving. Then everyone's an asshole.

Ever noticed how anyone going slower than you is an idiot and anyone going faster is a maniac? :D

Also, regarding the OP's question: DO tell me if you get an answer. I have an atheist friend who's getting on my nerves more than a little bit at times nowadays simply because he's so damned intolerant of theists; as an agnostic I don't mind what he believes, but he could at least use good, reasonable arguments, or even better none at all.

Why can't people get along? :(

Ilaer

My advice is to focus the rage. When I do that, then I'm able to control it, and use it as a motivator to some goal of mine.

Well, it helps when you're trying to get a really big shit out...

Eww...

Ilaer

Just trying to be practical and constructive... :rolleyes:

Well, it helps when you're trying to get a really big shit out...

Eww...

Ilaer

Best way to avoid anger, take a zen like calm. Understand your place in the world, and what is truely important. Look at the big picture and do not get caught up in the moment.

99.9% of things in this world we live in are completely unimportant. The key is recognizing that and ignoring those things that don't really matter.

get a punch bag or something. or smoke a spliff. or go for a walk or a run. or have a cup of tea. or have a drink. or buy some cheap crockery, a teatowel and a hammer and smash them.

what i do when a situation frustrates me enough that i feel i'm going to get in a rage is i just get up quickly and walk away and i just keep walking until my heartrate and breathing gets back to normal and i start thinking clearly agiain. then i either go back to the situation and try to be reasonable or whatever or i just go and do something else and forget about it if it doesn't need an immediate resolution.

if walking away is not an option and you have to deal with it just there and then just go into a rage, you'll probably feel better afterwards and whoever you're raging at will know better in future. unless you're raging at someone on the interweb, in which case you need to just chill out. the internet isn't real and it doesn't matter.