NationStates Jolt Archive

So, I was looking around for things to get mad about and found this:

"During the course of my life I have encountered many couples in which both work. Regardless of the salary split, the man's income pays for the house, cars, bills and taking his woman out. The woman's salary... well she only uses it on herself.

Not a cent goes towards the mortgage, not a cent towards the bills. Most of it ends up being squandered on things that aren't necessary because "you go girl, you deserve lavish spa treatments many times a month."

I have two close friends whose wives have this same belief. Not only do they pay for everything, but their wives pitch in less than 50% at home. They don't cook, clean or give their men sex."
http://truthformen.blogspot.com/2006/11/whats-mine-is-mine-whats-yours-is-ours.html

Really, when an idiot is this idiotic there is not much left to argue about but it did make me think to ask all of you couples what your income situation is like. Do you pool all of your money like me and my wife do? Is it split unevenly? Do one of you work while the other stays at home? A telepathic poll has already been taken.

Are you sure that site you're quoting from isn't a parody? It sure seems like it.

Are you sure that site you're quoting from isn't a parody? It sure seems like it.

He's very persistent. I'd like it if it were a joke because from that standpoint, very clever. But also sad in a way to spend so much time fooling people into thinking he's one of the worst types of jerks.

Wrong... the woman's paycheck goes to all the gift buying that the men are supposed to do. remember your friends birthday? she did and she sent the gift... remember your relatives on christmas? she did and she sent the gift. Secretary's day? yep... from her with the man's name signed on it. :D :D

I work three jobs, and my fiancee works one. He pays 75% of the bills.

Both my parents work, but my dad pays 100% of the bills... then again, he makes $178,000 more than her, so...

When I was working, my salary covered the childcare, the mortgage, and the bills. That was all I had. He paid for the food, the car and insurance, and put the rest into servicing our debts.

No, we don't ever really pool our money. I don't care if he spends money on himself, and I don't expect an accounting of it. The same is true of my money. We have certain commitments we have to deal with first, but after that, it's up to us as adults to spend the rest of our money as we see fit.

When I was working, my salary covered the childcare, the mortgage, and the bills. That was all I had. He paid for the food, the car and insurance, and put the rest into servicing our debts.

No, we don't ever really pool our money. I don't care if he spends money on himself, and I don't expect an accounting of it. The same is true of my money. We have certain commitments we have to deal with first, but after that, it's up to us as adults to spend the rest of our money as we see fit.

Sounds like a good system.

I actually agree with this guy on some points, men and women should be equal, period.

I actually agree with this guy on some points, men and women should be equal, period.

I agree with that. I don't agree with him saying that all women are like that or that society expects women to be like that.

Maybe I picked a bad quote from him to get angry about. Read some of his other posts, then get angry.

My dad makes roughly three times what my mom does. But they more or less combine the money together and then spend it.
Don't know what the percentages are, and don't care.

I agree with that. I don't agree with him saying that all women are like that or that society expects women to be like that.
It shouldn't be acceptable in our society for women to be dependent on men.

Maybe I picked a bad quote from him to get angry about. Read some of his other posts, then get angry.

He says plenty of stupid stuff, but not all of it's bad.

Not a cent goes towards the mortgage, not a cent towards the bills.

Considering the costs of mortgages, especially with the current US collapse, I consider that unlikely.

I'm not married, however when it comes to per say the expenses of any given matter, the girls I have known would have no problem covering their end. Say a fancy restaurant, it might be a gesture buying one another drinks, but the main $20 plate is covered in dutch.

Knowing average culture it's probably not as even as some might have the fortune of experiencing though.

If you're poking around for sexual equality though, you might consider perceiving cultural change first. In the "olden days" the man won the bread & the woman was just a house maid. Now, we have women winning bread & men left with children & house cleaning.

Simply, if she works, she should pitch in. Assuming theres no children (or none too young for independence) and both the female and male are working roughly 8 hours a day, they should divide expenses in half, and take it out of their earnings. The rest they should feel more than free to save for investments, have some fun, or get something nice from time to time.

My parents split their expenses about 50/50, with my ma paying for her car (my dad doesn't drive) and my dad paying for his business expenditures and his flight lessons (he's going for his IFR rating).

I'm single, but the married people I know generally pool their money, keeping separate accounts for their own hobbies/businesses.

It shouldn't be acceptable in our society for women to be dependent on men.
I think it is perfectly acceptable, I think that if it is expected then it is wrong. Just like it should be just as acceptable that a man be dependent on a woman. But it shouldn't be expected. As long as it does not happen either person cannot leave the relationship because they gave up their financial freedom, I don't see much wrong with it. (Uh.... fuck, did I say that right?)

The way things are with me and my wife now, I don't think either one of us will stop working and though I make slightly more than her we view what we make together as one paycheck and that works for us. Seriously. My brain stopped working... Hopefully somebody out there can catch my drift and make sense of what I'm trying to say.


He says plenty of stupid stuff, but not all of it's bad.

Well, I gave an example of him not being too bad but because I looked through the other things he had to say, this got blended in with the rest of the badness.

I pay for everything, and have done since we met, as my partner doesn't have a job. When he gets one he'll pay towards the expenses, and if we have children I will stop work and he'll have to cover everything. We're a team so it doesn't matter who brings in the money, so long as we have enough to live on.