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I am in need of some help, I need some advice. While I do know the extreme danger, not to mention sheer folly of asking for relationship advice on an internet forum, I am going to do it any way. So feel free to give sarcastic,silly, stupid,down right dumb, or if you feel moved to do, so good advice. Heck you could even throw in a story of your own;)

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, some days I think yes, others no. Any who, I've asked on of my really good friends to find out who he likes, her brother is good friends with this guy. The thing is I think I would like to go to out him, but I am way to shy to ask if he likes me or about the whole dating thing, he is also quite shy. If he does like me should I ask him or should I wait and see what happens or should I tell him that I like him?

As you can see I don't know what to do so any help would be spiffy. Thanks in advance for listening to...well reading, my high school wont matter in 25 years dilemma:)

Well, you could invent some sort of group event and get your good friend to see if he wants to come along. It need not be a major event per se, just one where you can get a chance to talk to him outside of school.

For example, if you go as a group to see a movie, and get a chance to chat with him, ask him if he'd be interested in seeing another movie with you.

Do what you do in 2nd grade. Punch him. And if he punches you back, your going out. Problem solved.

Well, you could invent some sort of group event and get your good friend to see if he wants to come along. It need not be a major event per se, just one where you can get a chance to talk to him outside of school.

For example, if you go as a group to see a movie, and get a chance to chat with him, ask him if he'd be interested in seeing another movie with you.
that could work

Do what you do in 2nd grade. Punch him. And if he punches you back, your going out. Problem solved.
I actually really like this idea:p
mike gave good advice.

or you could ask your friend to see if the 2 of you can be set up on a date. she asks her brother to ask him for you kind of thing. if you choose something cool to go to he probably wont say no unless he is involved with someone else already.
I'd rather not have to have friends do the asking, but I know hes not involvd with any one else

edit: sweet my first time warp

mike gave good advice.

or you could ask your friend to see if the 2 of you can be set up on a date. she asks her brother to ask him for you kind of thing. if you choose something cool to go to he probably wont say no unless he is involved with someone else already.

Ask him out for a cup of coffee.

I am in need of some help, I need some advice. While I do know the extreme danger, not to mention sheer folly of asking for relationship advice on an internet forum, I am going to do it any way. So feel free to give sarcastic,silly, stupid,down right dumb, or if you feel moved to do, so good advice. Heck you could even throw in a story of your own;)

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, some days I think yes, others no. Any who, I've asked on of my really good friends to find out who he likes, her brother is good friends with this guy. The thing is I think I would like to go to out him, but I am way to shy to ask if he likes me or about the whole dating thing, he is also quite shy. If he does like me should I ask him or should I wait and see what happens or should I tell him that I like him?

As you can see I don't know what to do so any help would be spiffy. Thanks in advance for listening to...well reading, my high school wont matter in 25 years dilemma:)

My advice is to go ahead and ask him. If he does like you, or is even interested in you he should say yes. If not, it's his loss.

Do what you do in 2nd grade. Punch him. And if he punches you back, your going out. Problem solved.

I second that e-motion.

My advice is to go ahead and ask him. If he does like you, or is even interested in you he should say yes. If not, it's his loss.

That's an even more mature response. I would, however, punch him first. Baby Steps and all.

If you don't risk it you'll regret it for the rest of your life. How many daytime talk shows are about 'the one that got away'? People spend decades obsessing with what might have been. Whatever you do, make sure you find out for sure if you two can make a couple. If he doesn't like you, then at least you know. If he does, and you try it out, and it doesn't work, then at least you know. If he does, and you try it out, and it works (!!!) then you've found your mate for life and all is happy :) Very little to lose, here, with lots to gain.

Just ask. If he says yes to a date, rejoyce! If he says no, well, it will hurt like hell and you'll feel like shit for a few days and then get over it and find someone else. Don't take the easy way out.

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, some days I think yes, others no. Any who, I've asked on of my really good friends to find out who he likes, her brother is good friends with this guy. The thing is I think I would like to go to out him, but I am way to shy to ask if he likes me or about the whole dating thing, he is also quite shy. If he does like me should I ask him or should I wait and see what happens or should I tell him that I like him?


Let me understand... you're too shy to ask him out privately, yet you're not too shy to reveal your feelings to a lot of people?:confused:

Let me understand... you're too shy to ask him out privately, yet you're not too shy to reveal your feelings to a lot of people?:confused:

Humans are funny like that.

Ask him out for a cup of coffee.

Clear and simple. And with the benefit that if it's totally nothing then you (or he) can easily go away after the coffee :)

The only problem is if he doesn't like coffee ;)

Ask him out for a coffee or something. that way you can make it more relaxed and intimate, it is only you and you'll have all his attention. (more nerves but nerves are cute)

in group meetings you might not act like yourself completely because you'll be either shying away from any attention he throws your way or making a fool of yourself trying to get his attention.

The "what if he doesn't like coffee", that should really tell if he likes you or not. my boyf detests coffee, but when i asked him if he wanted to go for a coffee - he accepted and just ordered a cola instead. (that was after i made i fool of myself in a group outing and we're together 9 years now!!). :fluffle:

Why is it that EVERY SINGLE dating advice thread is essentially the same question?

Look, you can ask him out or you can die wondering. I asked out a girl I really liked quite recently and she shot me down. Before I asked her out, I was a nervous wreck but afterwards I was rather bummed out, but pleased I had done it, and 24 hours later felt better for it. Rejection isn't the end of the world. Seriously.

Why is it that EVERY SINGLE dating advice thread is essentially the same question?

Look, you can ask him out or you can die wondering. I asked out a girl I really liked quite recently and she shot me down. Before I asked her out, I was a nervous wreck but afterwards I was rather bummed out, but pleased I had done it, and 24 hours later felt better for it. Rejection isn't the end of the world. Seriously.

Meh...it can cause problems. Being the subject of workplace gossip fucking sucks, having boyfriends threaten you with violence fucking sucks and losing friendships also fucking sucks.

Still, most of the people asking the question are of the "there's a person in my class that I like but I don't really know them" variety have nothing to lose and could probably end up with a friendship out of it if nothing else.

Well yeah there is that, a lot of guys seem to think that if you steal a girl off them its a sign that they should kill you rather than a sign that they're girlfriend was able to be taken and thus not worth dating. Asking out a workmate probably isn't a good idea in the first place, and the friend thing is one of those things you have to weigh up. I had a crush on one of my good friends a while back and didn't ask them out, and the crush went away. As it was I made the right decision but I understand its not always that easy.

As for your second paragraph, yes.

Actually, the best first step for anything like this is to find out if they're actually available.

Yeah, all true.


my initial point anyway was that you can ask them out or you can not and think about it for months. There's no magical third option that these thread starters seem to think there might be.

No, there really isn't.

Meh...it can cause problems. Being the subject of workplace gossip fucking sucks, having boyfriends threaten you with violence fucking sucks and losing friendships also fucking sucks.

Still, most of the people asking the question are of the "there's a person in my class that I like but I don't really know them" variety have nothing to lose and could probably end up with a friendship out of it if nothing else.

Well yeah there is that, a lot of guys seem to think that if you steal a girl off them its a sign that they should kill you rather than a sign that they're girlfriend was able to be taken and thus not worth dating. Asking out a workmate probably isn't a good idea in the first place, and the friend thing is one of those things you have to weigh up. I had a crush on one of my good friends a while back and didn't ask them out, and the crush went away. As it was I made the right decision but I understand its not always that easy.

As for your second paragraph, yes.

Actually, the best first step for anything like this is to find out if they're actually available.

my initial point anyway was that you can ask them out or you can not and think about it for months. There's no magical third option that these thread starters seem to think there might be.

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class

Perfect excuse for spending time with him right there: homework help.
But, if you dislike the evasive route, simply asking him out for a cup of coffee/tea will do just as well.

Ask him out for a cup of coffee.

But don't expect to get anything if he's the president of Burundi.

Fuck subtlty, ask him does he want a blow job.

I am in need of some help, I need some advice. While I do know the extreme danger, not to mention sheer folly of asking for relationship advice on an internet forum, I am going to do it any way. So feel free to give sarcastic,silly, stupid,down right dumb, or if you feel moved to do, so good advice. Heck you could even throw in a story of your own;)

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, some days I think yes, others no. Any who, I've asked on of my really good friends to find out who he likes, her brother is good friends with this guy. The thing is I think I would like to go to out him, but I am way to shy to ask if he likes me or about the whole dating thing, he is also quite shy. If he does like me should I ask him or should I wait and see what happens or should I tell him that I like him?

As you can see I don't know what to do so any help would be spiffy. Thanks in advance for listening to...well reading, my high school wont matter in 25 years dilemma:)

Spend some time talking to him. If he spends a lot of time looking at your breasts, he likes you.

Do you actually talk to this guy, or just admire him from afar? If you're already talking and friendly, great. Just ask him if he wants to grab coffee after class, or invite him to an event you and your friends are going to. If not, well... what are you waiting for? He's in your class, you have that in common, start talking to him. Chit chat about school, the teacher, the homework, or whatever, and go on from there.

Fuck subtlty, ask him does he want a blow job.

LMAO... Oh you made me giggle really loud :D

Have someone set you two up as a 'blind' date. That way you get out of asking, and have someone to 'blame' it on if it doesn't work out.

Do what you do in 2nd grade. Punch him. And if he punches you back, your going out. Problem solved.

Nail. Head. Hit.

LMAO... Oh you made me giggle really loud :D

My work here is done.

Spend some time talking to him. If he spends a lot of time looking at your breasts, he likes you.Well, your breasts, at least.
And with the appropriate movement of your body you can try to hypnotize him.

Let me understand... you're too shy to ask him out privately, yet you're not too shy to reveal your feelings to a lot of people?:confused:

Its not a lot of people, the only one that I have told is my friend, the only thing that I have told you guys is that I like some guy thats differnt than telling you who he is, but I can wee what your saying and your right it makes no sence. :confused:

Alright so there is a guy that I like in my class, but I don't know if he likes me, some days I think yes, others no. Any who, I've asked on of my really good friends to find out who he likes, her brother is good friends with this guy. The thing is I think I would like to go to out him, but I am way to shy to ask if he likes me or about the whole dating thing, he is also quite shy. If he does like me should I ask him or should I wait and see what happens or should I tell him that I like him?
You should tell him. Just come right out and tell him you're interested, and then walk away and leave it at that. Make him come to you.

If he does, that's great (and he's more likely to now because you've eliminated any fear of rejection), and if he doesn't then he clearly wasn't interested, but you got to avoid flat out rejection.