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Ok, say i like this guy (who is somewhat older than me). How am i supposed to be able to tell if he likes me back? What do most of you guys out there do to show a girl you like her.
Bear in mind the guy in question is really really shy, and was completely oblivius so small quantities of staring and pointing in roleplay yesterday when we were gossiping about it.

If he starts taking his pants off whenever you're around and following you home and hiding in the tree outside your bedroom window then he likes you.

Go up to him and kiss him. If he kisses you back, he likes you on at least some level. ;)

Ok, say i like this guy (who is somewhat older than me). How am i supposed to be able to tell if he likes me back? What do most of you guys out there do to show a girl you like her.
Bear in mind the guy in question is really really shy, and was completely oblivius so small quantities of staring and pointing in roleplay yesterday when we were gossiping about it.

Look for the boner making his pants look funny.

Go up to him and kiss him. If he kisses you back, he likes you on at least some level. ;)

You must seriously have no concept of emotional preservation...

If he plays "splashy-splashy/swimmy-swimmy."

/Eddie Izzard

Ok, say i like this guy (who is somewhat older than me). How am i supposed to be able to tell if he likes me back? What do most of you guys out there do to show a girl you like her.
Bear in mind the guy in question is really really shy, and was completely oblivius so small quantities of staring and pointing in roleplay yesterday when we were gossiping about it.

Ask him?

if he's shy, like me, he'll probably be trying not to let it on if he does like you. you gotta be direct - don't be subtle or insinuate things... just ask him out or something. this is the 21st century for gods sake...

the big question here is, how old is he and how old are you?

Advice I'd give to a 25 year old woman differs DRASTICALLY from the advice I'd give to a 13 year old girl.

Come to think of it, I'm really not sure I'd even try to give advice to a 13 year old girl...

If he plays "splashy-splashy/swimmy-swimmy."

/Eddie Izzard

it's the rebels sir...um..they're here.

it's the rebels sir...um..they're here.

I think they mean business this time. They've brought a flag.

I think they mean business this time. They've brought a flag.

you can't claim us, we live here...500 million of us.

Do you have a flag?

/threadhijack

you can't claim us, we live here...500 million of us.

Do you have a flag?

/threadhijack

*Steals flag and stomps on it*

/hijacks thread back again

Go get your owne thread. This ones mine!

Im 19, he is 23. Thus why i should probably pounce fast (as he is leaving uni in 2 weeks)

ah, well 19 becomes acceptable....here's an idea, it's difficult, it's tricky, and it might not work, but, find him, go talk to him, and say:

"would you like to go out on a date?"

It's so crazy it JUST might work!

you can't claim us, we live here...500 million of us.

Do you have a flag?

/threadhijack

No flag, no country. These are the rules...that I've just made up.

(continuing thread hijack ;) )

ah, well 19 becomes acceptable....here's an idea, it's difficult, it's tricky, and it might not work, but, find him, go talk to him, and say:

"would you like to go out on a date?"

It's so crazy it JUST might work!

I think i might try my old fallback tequniqe, ask him out via facebook messages. Its the wimpy option :D

the big question here is, how old is he and how old are you?

Advice I'd give to a 25 year old woman differs DRASTICALLY from the advice I'd give to a 13 year old girl.

Come to think of it, I'm really not sure I'd even try to give advice to a 13 year old girl...

Im 19, he is 23. Thus why i should probably pounce fast (as he is leaving uni in 2 weeks)

ah, well 19 becomes acceptable....here's an idea, it's difficult, it's tricky, and it might not work, but, find him, go talk to him, and say:

"would you like to go out on a date?"

It's so crazy it JUST might work!

That'll never work. You need an overly-complicated plan involving disguises and nerds, which will make the competition for his interests(the head cheerleader) look ridiculous, therefore making him fall madly in love with you. You also need to have a make over, which will involve little more than letting your hear down and wearing contacts. This will somehow make you hugely attractive.

Also, he'll win the big game against the rival school.

Come to think of it, I'm really not sure I'd even try to give advice to a 13 year old girl...

...aside from the old 'go away, leave me alone, we must never be together in the same place unchaperoned'.

You can tell someone fancies you if they're still interested in dating you if you've not seen them for a year and even though you never actually mentioned any interest in them except briefly before you learned they were fifteen and not seventeen as you once thought they were. Of course, the person in question here is crazy, like almost everyone else I've dated. :(

You must seriously have no concept of emotional preservation...

I've been around too long to waste time. ;)

I think i might try my old fallback tequniqe, ask him out via facebook messages. Its the pathetic option :D

Fixed for accuracy.

That'll never work. You need an overly-complicated plan involving disguises and nerds, which will make the competition for his interests(the head cheerleader) look ridiculous, therefore making him fall madly in love with you. You also need to have a make over, which will involve little more than letting your hear down and wearing contacts. This will somehow make you hugely attractive.

Also, he'll win the big game against the rival school.

Note, the "let the hair down and put contacts on" method only works if you have a long staircase to decent, having just let your hair down and put contacts on. This way various friends, parents, and best friend/obnoxious bitch who is in it for her own self interests who just helped you do your exhausting make over by letting your hair down and taking your glasses off can stare at you and make various comments such as "wow".

Do you have a staircase? Can you borrow one from friends?

Additionally you will require soft lighting and slow motion. I also suggest accompanying music. Perhaps something by Lisa Lobe or Avril Lavine.

Im 19, he is 23. Thus why i should probably pounce fast (as he is leaving uni in 2 weeks)

I should think the answer is obvious, if you're not hideously ugly and bitchy.

Additionally you will require soft lighting and slow motion. I also suggest accompanying music. Perhaps something by Lisa Lobe or Avril Lavine.

And vaseline. Lots of vaseline. For smearing over the lens to give that soft-focus look.

I should think the answer is obvious, if you're not hideously ugly and bitchy.

I like you more with each post you make. :D

Note, the "let the hair down and put contacts on" method only works if you have a long staircase to decent, having just let your hair down and put contacts on. This way various friends, parents, and best friend/obnoxious bitch who is in it for her own self interests who just helped you do your exhausting make over by letting your hair down and taking your glasses off can stare at you and make various comments such as "wow".

Do you have a staircase? Can you borrow one from friends?

Additionally you will require soft lighting and slow motion. I also suggest accompanying music. Perhaps something by Lisa Lobe or Avril Lavine.

Yes, the staircase is a must. The best time to use the staircase is immediately before the prom. Though don't use it if you have psychic powers, cos you'll only end up covered in pig's blood and killing most you your classmates

Yes, the staircase is a must. The best time to use the staircase is immediately before the prom. Though don't use it if you have psychic powers, cos you'll only end up covered in pig's blood and killing most you your classmates

Scotland is little known for its High School Proms, unless I've missed something.

Yes, the staircase is a must. The best time to use the staircase is immediately before the prom. Though don't use it if you have psychic powers, cos you'll only end up covered in pig's blood and killing most you your classmates

Carrie FTW!

Scotland is little known for its High School Proms, unless I've missed something.

Inconsistencies like this should simply be ignored.

Ugh...shy guys...well, when a shy guy likes you he's really, really shy around you. But a shy guy is also shy around you when he doesn't like you. The trick is to tell the difference between like-shy and not-like-shy. No problem really, see!

If you manage to figure this out, we have some string theory equations we'd like to have you take a look at.

Ugh...shy guys...well, when a shy guy likes you he's really, really shy around you. But a shy guy is also shy around you when he doesn't like you. The trick is to tell the difference between like-shy and not-like-shy. No problem really, see!

Go up to him and kiss him. If he kisses you back, he likes you on at least some level. ;)I have had this happen to me before... and it worked... at least I think it worked, because I kissed back and everything.

If you manage to figure this out, we have some string theory equations we'd like to have you take a look at.

My car needs fixing, too.

I've had the same problem (with men anyway). What works for me is to ask them out as soon as possible in a "no big deal" sort of way. This accomplishes the following:
A. It flatters them.
B. You don't have time to obsess and therefore make an ass out of yourself (done it many times myself).
C. Everyone can move on and forget about it. Life returns to normal, ect.
D. You're not hurt terribly because you've built this up in your head for weeks (speaking from experience again).

Once you do it the first time you realise how easy it is.

My car needs fixing, too.

The NSA needs a new supercomputer too, they said something about the laws of reality being too limiting.

Luipaard,

Walk up to him, making good eye contact. Hold him in your arms, and whisper in his ear, "It is not possible to make a mistake."

He'll let you know if he fancies you then.

I have had this happen to me before... and it worked... at least I think it worked, because I kissed back and everything.

I feel vindicated!

"i say honk dude. if you blow chunks and she doesn't bolt, i'd say it was meant to be :)"

yay for Wayne's World! (quote may be kinda wrong.... :()

Damn with so little time, you will have to spread your legs to make him notice you.

If I was him, I wouldnt put a lot of effort in college love considering he is leaving so soon. To make him notice you, you will have to work a lot.

Also, if I were him, I wouldnt invest in nothing more than a one-night sex affair.

It's so crazy it JUST might work!

That's what George S. Patton said about Operation Overlord.

And it worked.

...

Damnit!

Don't listen to the people telling you to approach him. He'll only bolt into traffic, and his death will be on your hands.

Leave a trail of D&D cards, and then trap him (humanely) with a snare, gentling him with quotes from Star Trek and Doctor Who.

Once you're certain his heart won't explode from the stress of being in your presence, you can ask him if he'd like to play Warhammer with you sometime.

:p

Repeat after me:

"Do you fancy me?"

Preferably do so in his presence.

If he says "yes", then he does. If he says "no" or just laughs, then he doesn't. If he says "er... I don't know", or otherwise doesn't respond, he's trying not to hurt your feelings, which means he doesn't but is too chicken to say so.

Variations on this (i.e. "Do you want to come back to my room for hot sex?", etc.) can be attempted as well, although they may be slightly more risky.

"Do you want to come back to my room for hot sex?"

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Don't listen to the people telling you to approach him. He'll only bolt into traffic, and his death will be on your hands.

Leave a trail of D&D cards, and then trap him (humanely) with a snare, gentling him with quotes from Star Trek and Doctor Who.

Once you're certain his heart won't explode from the stress of being in your presence, you can ask him if he'd like to play Warhammer with you sometime.

:p

ROFL!!!! That just may work..... Asking him to join the worshipers of cthulhu society with me worked so..

Repeat after me:

"Do you fancy me?"

Preferably do so in his presence.

If he says "yes", then he does. If he says "no" or just laughs, then he doesn't. If he says "er... I don't know", or otherwise doesn't respond, he's trying not to hurt your feelings, which means he doesn't but is too chicken to say so.

Don't ask the shy guy. NEVER ask the shy guy. As a former shy guy myself, this is a horrible idea. Most guys like that are shy because of some deep seated mistrust or fear of other people. You ask him he's either going to be flustered, or fear for the worse like you're just trying to embarass him.

He will then attempt to be "cool" and brush it off, trying to give you the "cool guy" (or what he thinks is the cool guy) response of trying to say yes while seeming casual. He will do this just in case you are screwing with him, to try and say yes without it really sounding like yes so in case it's a joke, he can try to blush it off with a "oh, I knew that". He will blunder this badly, leaving him embarassed, and you unsure.

NEVER ask the shy guy.

Tell him what you want him to know, directly, succintly, and to the point. Be blunt.

yeah, trust me, men dont like beating around the bush and playing the guessing game. if u want to know something, like if he likes u, or would go out with u, then u will have to come right out and tell him!


:fluffle: :gundge:

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I would soooo sig this if not for the fact that I'd need to make room for it first.

Ilaer

Ohh thats really easy, go an lick their face if they don't punch you, they fancy you!:D

From a guy's perspective: PLEEEEEEEEEEAAAAAAAAAAAAAASSSSSSSSEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE go up to him and tell him ya like him.

Especially if it's me :)

If you have to ask, you don't deserve the cock.

Don’t listen to the people telling you to approach him. He’ll only bolt into traffic, and his death will be on your hands.

Leave a trail of D&D cards, and then trap him (humanely) with a snare, gentling him with quotes from Star Trek and Doctor Who.

Once you’re certain his heart won’t explode from the stress of being in your presence, you can ask him if he’d like to play Warhammer with you sometime.

:p
Swap Star Trek and Doctor Who for Star Wars and Red Dwarf, and I would gladly have babies with whoever did the above.

Fuck, I’d love it if a girl did that to me. I’ve said it before and I’ll say it again: geeky girls are hot.

Don't ask the shy guy. NEVER ask the shy guy. As a former shy guy myself, this is a horrible idea. Most guys like that are shy because of some deep seated mistrust or fear of other people. You ask him he's either going to be flustered, or fear for the worse like you're just trying to embarass him.

He will then attempt to be "cool" and brush it off, trying to give you the "cool guy" (or what he thinks is the cool guy) response of trying to say yes while seeming casual. He will do this just in case you are screwing with him, to try and say yes without it really sounding like yes so in case it's a joke, he can try to blush it off with a "oh, I knew that". He will blunder this badly, leaving him embarassed, and you unsure.

NEVER ask the shy guy.

Tell him what you want him to know, directly, succintly, and to the point. Be blunt.

Completely agree. As a current shy guy myself, I know I have a deep mistrust of anyone claiming to want to go out with me, thus making me turn down anyone who has ever done so in case they're joking.
Following Arthais' advice is probably best.

Ilaer

Completely agree. As a current shy guy myself, I know I have a deep mistrust of anyone claiming to want to go out with me, thus making me turn down anyone who has ever done so in case they're joking.
Following Arthais' advice is probably best.

Ilaer

Trust me, the odds of it being a joke are not worth considering.

Or do you actually believe that women go around wasting their time trying to make a joke out of you?

Trust me, the odds of it being a joke are not worth considering.

Or do you actually believe that women go around wasting their time trying to make a joke out of you?


Yeah I agree, just go up and ask him out, if he bolts then thats his problem huh!

Trust me, the odds of it being a joke are not worth considering.

Or do you actually believe that women go around wasting their time trying to make a joke out of you?

Um... Yes!
It's happened at least twice that I know of.

Ilaer

Um... Yes!
It's happened at least twice that I know of.

Ilaer

then you must be that 1 in a billion...

Um... Yes!
It's happened at least twice that I know of.

Ilaer

Shit then i respectfully say to you grow some balls man, some wimmin are horrid, some wimmin will fuck you up in the head, but if you grow some balls, shrug off rejection, then you will undoubtedly get more....nudge nudge you know wot I mean, a nods as good as a wink to a blind bat!:D

Leave a trail of D&D cards, and then trap him (humanely) with a snare, gentling him with quotes from Star Trek and Doctor Who.

As the great philosopher Paris Hilton said, "That's hot."

Leave a trail of D&D cards

Um... what on Earth are "D&D cards"?

(Did I just fail an Intelligence check?)

Ok, say i like this guy (who is somewhat older than me). How am i supposed to be able to tell if he likes me back? What do most of you guys out there do to show a girl you like her.
Bear in mind the guy in question is really really shy, and was completely oblivius so small quantities of staring and pointing in roleplay yesterday when we were gossiping about it.

If he passionately taps your ass every time he passes you in the hallway then he likes you. :p

Um... what on Earth are "D&D cards"?

(Did I just fail an Intelligence check?)

cards for dungeons and dragons i think.
no it was more of a nerdy-ness check.

If you only have 2 weeks, I am assuming you just want to hookup with him for a bit of the old rumpy-bumpy eh? ;)

You do not have time. Do not beat around the bush, do not ponder whether he likes you or just thinks of you as a friend, or any of that other crap.

If he is really shy, they you do NOT put him on the spot by going up to him and saying something like “Do you fancy me?”. You do need to be direct and to the point though. Rather than putting the shy guy on the spot, why not have the courage to do it yourself. Tell HIM that you fancy him.

Say something along the lines of “I know you are leaving in two weeks, so I just wanted to tell you that I really fancy you. We don’t have much time, so if you fancy me, we should make the most of what we have.”

If you want something a little more substantial than just a one night stand, you really don’t have the time to mess around (you know what I mean).

Get him alone, look him in the eye, and tell him what you think about him.

Trust me, the odds of it being a joke are not worth considering.

Shyness isn't rational. You are assuming rational responses to something that is, by definition, irrational.

Someone who is aracnophobic can know, with all certainty, absolutly KNOW, that this little spider can not possibly harm them in any way.

That doesn't stop that person from being positively terrified of it.

I would soooo sig this if not for the fact that I'd need to make room for it first.

Ilaer

Yay! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

If he passionately taps your ass every time he passes you in the hallway then he likes you. :p

damn, I'll have to remember this at my firm's next sexual harassment seminar.

"hey sweet cheeks, wanna grab some coffee?"

damn, I'll have to remember this at my firm's next sexual harassment seminar.

"hey sweet cheeks, wanna grab some coffee?"

Well if he runs away so you don't know its him you know he definitely likes you so that he can doing it. :p

Shit then i respectfully say to you grow some balls man, some wimmin are horrid, some wimmin will fuck you up in the head, but if you grow some balls, shrug off rejection, then you will undoubtedly get more....nudge nudge you know wot I mean, a nods as good as a wink to a blind bat!:D

And I respectfully say to you: take an English class! :D
The proverb is '... to a blind man.' :)

Also, why would I want to totally change my personality in order to do something like that?

then you must be that 1 in a billion...

Yep. English billion, which makes it sting all the more. I'm the tall quiet nerd who has no real social life, absolutely detests the entire concept of popularity and would rather die than be dishonourable.
Sadly, anyone with all those attributes has about as much chance of having a girl really fancy him as a fish has of learning to ride a bicycle.

Ilaer

Nonsense. Absolute defeatist nonsense.

I know exactly where you are coming from and speak from experience when I tell you - specially made bicycles make it plausible for fish to learn to ride.

:D
Great... That's two quotes I can't sig...

Ilaer

Edit: Time warp. Again.

Yep. English billion, which makes it sting all the more. I'm the tall quiet nerd who has no real social life, absolutely detests the entire concept of popularity and would rather die than be dishonourable.
Sadly, anyone with all those attributes has about as much chance of having a girl really fancy him as a fish has of learning to ride a bicycle.

Nonsense. Absolute defeatist nonsense.

I know exactly where you are coming from and speak from experience when I tell you - specially made bicycles make it plausible for fish to learn to ride.

I know what "D&D" stands for.

I've never heard of Dungeons and Dragons cards, though.

maybe the poster, like me, didn't know that the game isn't played with with cards?

cards for dungeons and dragons i think.

I know what "D&D" stands for.

I've never heard of Dungeons and Dragons cards, though.

fucked if i know. i haven't worked out how to let anyone know i like them without getting really drunk to the point where i don't know what i'm doing and then hoping that they're even nearly as drunk as me so they won't notice how grossly incompetent my advances are. as far as i can recall from the few times where i have snatches of memory from the occaison they usually involve telling the person that i think they're either lovely/wonderful/beautiful/fantastic/awesome etc. basically any word that sounds good at the time.

then you must be that 1 in a billion...

happened to me too. admittedly at primary school but it's certainly something that's hard to blobk out when the same situation arises later on.

maybe the poster, like me, didn't know that the game isn't played with with cards?

My mistake, I should have said AD&D cards, but that might be a bit old school. I'm sure a few people out there have some of the monster cards from the board game they could lend the OP in order to create a trail with...

I still think the OP should trap this shyguy. He could then be donated to science after use.

Ok lets break this down to a few simple questions?

Does the guy talk to you first when you meet? Does he make an effort to talk to you when he sees you?

Asks how you are?

Does he talk about how he feels to you, confides little secrets with you?

Does he seek to spend time with you?

If the answers to these questions are yes, then he probably does like you.

Ok lets break this down to a few simple questions?

Does the guy talk to you first when you meet? Does he make an effort to talk to you when he sees you?

Asks how you are?

Does he talk about how he feels to you, confides little secrets with you?

Does he seek to spend time with you?

If the answers to these questions are yes, then he probably does like you.

Does he take pictures of you in compromising situations without your knowledge?

I'm with you. Where female emotions are concerned, I have the perceptions of a doormat.

I second this. Women are a closed book written in a language I can't recognise, let alone read.

if he's shy, like me, he'll probably be trying not to let it on if he does like you. you gotta be direct - don't be subtle or insinuate things... just ask him out or something. this is the 21st century for gods sake...

I'm with you. Where female emotions are concerned, I have the perceptions of a doormat. Actually, any advice on how to flirt without being either perverted, or prim and proper, would be well recieved.

I think it involves emotions and other such sticky things....:D

Pffft, ridiculous. It surely has something to do with cat demons.

I second this. Women are a closed book written in a language I can't recognise, let alone read.

I think it involves emotions and other such sticky things....:D

And, don't forget, chocolate. A bit like a cheat on Mario in amy ways....

Yeah, chocolate is involved somehow.

Pffft, ridiculous. It surely has something to do with cat demons.

And, don't forget, chocolate. A bit like a cheat on Mario in amy ways....

Does he take pictures of you in compromising situations without your knowledge?

Would it also qualify if he does so with my knowledge?

No, I have harder questions than you: How can you tell if a guy likes you more than his girlfriend? How far do you have to go before it's adultery? How idiotic do the two of them have to behave before you're allowed to step in and say, "Just stop trying to make it work!"? How much makes you a whore, and how much makes you human, and how much is only in your head, and how much is reality, and how much is his fault, and how much is hers, and how much is yours?

No, I have harder questions than you: How can you tell if a guy likes you more than his girlfriend? How far do you have to go before it's adultery? How idiotic do the two of them have to behave before you're allowed to step in and say, "Just stop trying to make it work!"? How much makes you a whore, and how much makes you human, and how much is only in your head, and how much is reality, and how much is his fault, and how much is hers, and how much is yours?

it's only adultery if they're married. how about getting the guy to suggest to his girlfriend a threesome with you - then you only have to worry if she agrees. if she doesn't she'll probably dump him and he's all yours. maybe.

if he's shy, like me, he'll probably be trying not to let it on if he does like you. you gotta be direct - don't be subtle or insinuate things... just ask him out or something. this is the 21st century for gods sake...

Worked for me! Well, her. You get the idea! :p

No, I have harder questions than you: How can you tell if a guy likes you more than his girlfriend? How far do you have to go before it's adultery? How idiotic do the two of them have to behave before you're allowed to step in and say, "Just stop trying to make it work!"? How much makes you a whore, and how much makes you human, and how much is only in your head, and how much is reality, and how much is his fault, and how much is hers, and how much is yours?
Was there something you wanted to get off your chest?

And here's some answers:
It's impossible.
Quite far.
Very.
Depends in whose eyes.
As much as you can get without feeling guilty.
Dunno.
The rest.
It's all his. :(

The NSA needs a new supercomputer too, they said something about the laws of reality being too limiting.

Hey... Sounds like a job for my old story! (http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=517872)
*shameless self plug alert over*

Ilaer

Was there something you wanted to get off your chest?


It's not as bad as it looks. I haven't done anything, I just really like this guy, and he's in a sort of casual, on-and-off, maybe, nobody's sure of, etc. kind of relationship (they don't even know if they're dating), and sometimes he's so into his "girlfriend", he doesn't see anything else, and sometimes he doesn't see his girlfriend, because he's all over me. Even though I know she's got her designs on him, I've liked him for quite some time, and I'm still kind of actively pursuing him. I go back in forth between feeling like I have as much a claim to him as she, and feeling like a complete whore with no right to live. I don't honestly know how far I would go with him, knowing they're sort of together. And, to top it all off, she's just the tip of the ice-berg of many, many girls who want a piece of him.

It's not as bad as it looks. I haven't done anything, I just really like this guy, and he's in a sort of casual, on-and-off, maybe, nobody's sure of, etc. kind of relationship (they don't even know if they're dating), and sometimes he's so into his "girlfriend", he doesn't see anything else, and sometimes he doesn't see his girlfriend, because he's all over me. Even though I know she's got her designs on him, I've liked him for quite some time, and I'm still kind of actively pursuing him. I go back in forth between feeling like I have as much a claim to him as she, and feeling like a complete whore with no right to live. I don't honestly know how far I would go with him, knowing they're sort of together. And, to top it all off, she's just the tip of the ice-berg of many, many girls who want a piece of him.

Hun... if they are not even certain they are properly dating he is still fair game.
Go for it! Now! Do not delay!

Every second just solidifies their relationship more and more. Eventually they will be together simply by default (happened to me several times - youve been kind of seeing someone for a while so eventually you just might as well call it a Relationship).

Stake your claim. Tell him how you feel about him. It is up to him to choose.
You never know, he could actually be on the fence between you two, or even dating her because he isnt sure if you are interested and doesnt want to throw away the relationship he has with her if you are going to turn him down.

I've been in situations where I kept dating one girl because the relationship was nice, but would have preferred another. One in the hand is worth two in the bush as it were. Broke up with her anyway (wasnt fair to lead her on), but I would rather be in a comfortable but not great relationship than none at all.

So go for it full bore. Just lay it all out and let him decide.
I happen to be polyamorous and dont see a problem with him dating both of you, but that might not be an option for you.

I think i might try my old fallback tequniqe, ask him out via facebook messages. Its the wimpy option :D

LMAO. I did that too once. Just put sexy pics b4 you do that.

Well, I can tell if someone fancies me because then she's probably blind or have some mental disorder. That's an easy way for me to see.

Would it also qualify if he does so with my knowledge?
It's not as certain in that case. Depends how hands on of a photographer he is ;)
No, I have harder questions than you: How can you tell if a guy likes you more than his girlfriend?
Ask him might work. Other than that I got nothin.
How far do you have to go before it's adultery?
They're gonna have to get married first....
How idiotic do the two of them have to behave before you're allowed to step in and say, "Just stop trying to make it work!"?
This is directly proportional to how much they like each other.
How much makes you a whore,
Charging for it
and how much makes you human,
Pretty much anything could qualify as human
and how much is only in your head,
There is no spoon
and how much is reality,
See above
and how much is his fault,
No idea
and how much is hers,
Lets say all
and how much is yours?
Lets say none.
It's not as bad as it looks. I haven't done anything, I just really like this guy, and he's in a sort of casual, on-and-off, maybe, nobody's sure of, etc. kind of relationship (they don't even know if they're dating), and sometimes he's so into his "girlfriend", he doesn't see anything else, and sometimes he doesn't see his girlfriend, because he's all over me. Even though I know she's got her designs on him, I've liked him for quite some time, and I'm still kind of actively pursuing him. I go back in forth between feeling like I have as much a claim to him as she, and feeling like a complete whore with no right to live. I don't honestly know how far I would go with him, knowing they're sort of together. And, to top it all off, she's just the tip of the ice-berg of many, many girls who want a piece of him.

Act as if they're not together until you can be sure. Then lock him in a room somewhere to keep the other wimminz away from him :P

It's not as bad as it looks. I haven't done anything, I just really like this guy, and he's in a sort of casual, on-and-off, maybe, nobody's sure of, etc. kind of relationship (they don't even know if they're dating), and sometimes he's so into his "girlfriend", he doesn't see anything else, and sometimes he doesn't see his girlfriend, because he's all over me. Even though I know she's got her designs on him, I've liked him for quite some time, and I'm still kind of actively pursuing him. I go back in forth between feeling like I have as much a claim to him as she, and feeling like a complete whore with no right to live. I don't honestly know how far I would go with him, knowing they're sort of together. And, to top it all off, she's just the tip of the ice-berg of many, many girls who want a piece of him.
Ok, that sounds like either he's afraid of commitment, in which case you shouldn't bother with him, he doesn't know what he wants, in which case you should make sure that what he wants is you (how you do that is up to you), or he's out for all he can get, in which case you *will* be unhappy in a relationship with him.

Spoken from a guy's perspective, anyway.

Sorry to bump up yesterdays thread, but i just wanted to add an ending to the story.
Turns out you lot really do give good advice with the just ask him thing, so now me and him are going for coffee together :D:D:D:D:D:D
WOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!

Sorry to bump up yesterdays thread, but i just wanted to add an ending to the story.
Turns out you lot really do give good advice with the just ask him thing, so now me and him are going for coffee together :D:D:D:D:D:D
WOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
:eek:

Good for you, though. :)

Um... Yes!
It's happened at least twice that I know of.

Ilaer

Be more willing to laugh at yourself. Better to be the butt of a joke than pass up what could be wonderful. I think it's preferable to regret something one did do than something one didn't.

Sorry to bump up yesterdays thread, but i just wanted to add an ending to the story.
Turns out you lot really do give good advice with the just ask him thing, so now me and him are going for coffee together :D:D:D:D:D:D
WOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!
Hope things work out for the two of you! ;)

And here is what I wanted to post before I couldn't find the thread anymore...

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/QC64.jpg

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