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I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

Jeez, or perhaps he has supprise for when you get home?

Or perhaps he just don't do the whole money spinning, today is the only time you are allowed to say 'I love you' to your loved one, ohhh yeah and don't forget the overpriced flowers and chocs. Shit I know I don't.

If you care that much about your boyfriend buying you things, he should dump you.

Also, how do you know he's not planning some manner of suprise for later?

Not everyone believes in it and some prefer to express love through means other than gestures of material wealth. *shrugs*

Or he might have a surprise planned for you when he gets home.

Meh.

happy and huggy saint cupids day to you

=^^=
.../\...

Maybe he just didn't feel like celebrating valentines day first thing in the morning

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.



please note...

and also, he told me that he hadn't done anything. He said he felt pretty bad about it and that he was a crap boyfriend etc when I gave him his stuff...he spent all his money at the weekend on beer and cigarette's and hence has none left to spend...but it wouldn't cost him anything to make a card, or bring me a coffee in bed or something....

One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday.

that is stupid. your birthday is especially about you. valentine is just a stupid holliday, invented to get people to buy unnecesary things (did valentine's day even exist 10 years ago?).

Is he some sort of anarchist communist with a grudge against consumerism? That might explain it...
Also, he may have some sort of maligment cancer that is affecting his memory.

Is he some sort of anarchist communist with a grudge against consumerism? That might explain it...
Also, he may have some sort of maligment cancer that is affecting his memory.

Hehehe. I like you. You're funny. :)

Roses are red,
Violets are blue,
how about I just give you this link to click on, and get this line to rhyme with blue by ending it with glue (http://images2.jokaroo.net/flash/ilikeyou.swf),

Seriously though, you need to have a talk to your boyfriend about how much he values your relationship.

When was the last time he planned a surprise for you - like cooking and then washing up dinner and renting out a film to watch together? Hint that home baked cakes are always welcome, especially if they have coffee in them. :)

that is stupid. your birthday is especially about you. valentine is just a stupid holliday, invented to get people to buy unnecesary things (did valentine's day even exist 10 years ago?).

I think it was always sorta there, but Hallmark stepped it up recently.

that is stupid. your birthday is especially about you. valentine is just a stupid holliday, invented to get people to buy unnecesary things (did valentine's day even exist 10 years ago?).

Oh, Saint Valentine's Day has been around quite a while. Not sure when it got its current conotations though.

I'm so lonely...I have nobody...To call my own:(

that is stupid. your birthday is especially about you. valentine is just a stupid holliday, invented to get people to buy unnecesary things (did valentine's day even exist 10 years ago?).

There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine's Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer's daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it "From Your Valentine". Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.
Gradually, February 14 became the date for exchanging love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. The date was marked by sending poems and simple gifts such as flowers. There was often a social gathering or a ball.

I'm so lonely...I have nobody...To call my own:(

No body?

Red Alert! Disembodied Spirit! I need an excorcist STAT!

Oh, Saint Valentine's Day has been around quite a while. Not sure when it got its current conotations though.Blame Chaucer.

No body?

Red Alert! Disembodied Spirit! I need an excorcist STAT!

I'm an exorcist!

I think it was always sorta there, but Hallmark stepped it up recently.

Oh, Saint Valentine's Day has been around quite a while. Not sure when it got its current conotations though.

i just read the wiki article about it and it seems to be around for a while, but i think it's only recent that it became so omnipresent. a little bit like halloween (here in Belgium that is).

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

aw :( :(

you can have a fluffle from me :)

:fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle: <-- see? :)



http://www.hlj.me.uk/pics/protest/happy%20vday%20cari.jpg

Oh PM! You are the worlds best ever person ever in the world.

I am going to wave REALLY hard out the window.....


:fluffle:

There are varying opinions as to the origin of Valentine's Day. Some experts state that it originated from St. Valentine, a Roman who was martyred for refusing to give up Christianity. He died on February 14, 269 A.D., the same day that had been devoted to love lotteries. Legend also says that St. Valentine left a farewell note for the jailer's daughter, who had become his friend, and signed it "From Your Valentine". Other aspects of the story say that Saint Valentine served as a priest at the temple during the reign of Emperor Claudius. Claudius then had Valentine jailed for defying him. In 496 A.D. Pope Gelasius set aside February 14 to honour St. Valentine.
Gradually, February 14 became the date for exchanging love messages and St. Valentine became the patron saint of lovers. The date was marked by sending poems and simple gifts such as flowers. There was often a social gathering or a ball.

Maybe he didn't buy you presents because he was mad at you for neglecting to mention sources, especially when directly quoting paragraphs at a time. I know that is why my sister and her boyfriend broke up.

I'm an exorcist!

Well, you see, I need an Excorcist. It's like an exorcist, only without the conotations to the movie where everyone dies.

I'm not disembodied...at least I don't think I am.

I am; however, a lonely cynic who's given up on love.

I'm not disembodied...at least I don't think I am.

I am; however, a lonely cynic who's given up on love.

That's okay. Excorcists can handle those too. It's in their brochure.

Well, you see, I need an Excorcist. It's like an exorcist, only without the conotations to the movie where everyone dies.

Ah, my mistake.

Oh PM! You are the wrolds best ever person ever in the world.

I am going to wave REALLY hard out the window.....


:fluffle:

awww yay! :D

but you only really need to say it once ;) :p



you're a nice person and i like you, so anything i can do to help (even if its just to get you to smile) :) :fluffle:

ps: i have cookies. i could try to throw you one if you like :P

That's okay. Excorcists can handle those too. It's in their brochure.

Really?! Can you get me a woman with a good personality and a great body?

Really?! Can you get me a woman with a good personality and a great body?

No, but they can banish you back to the netherworld from whence thou came.

Or the Netherland. They handle Netherlanders too. They're very flexible.

No, but they can banish you back to the netherworld from whence thou came.

Or the Netherland. They handle Netherlanders too. They're very flexible.

Wew...For a second there I thought you were going to banish me to Hoboken, NJ.

My computer has gone mad and is running amok! it posts over and over all on its own....it must be possessed!

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

:fluffle:

If you think that's bad, I got a jury summons. Wonderful. :rolleyes:

(Yesterday, that is. It's now the 15th here).

From experience, I can tell you that if he forgets Valentine's day, he's just not that into you (even if you are living together)...

Anyone can forget a birthday, but with all the advertising, it's impossible to miss Valentine's Day - unless he's been in a coma for 6 months and only woke up yesterday.

I mean, if he said he "forgot" it was Christmas, would you believe him? No..

Dump the lazy SoB..

From experience, I can tell you that if he forgets Valentine's day, he's just not that into you (even if you are living together)...

Anyone can forget a birthday, but with all the advertising, it's impossible to miss Valentine's Day - unless he's been in a coma for 6 months and only woke up yesterday.

I mean, if he said he "forgot" it was Christmas, would you believe him? No..

Dump the lazy SoB..

Oh dear.

I didn't get anything either *pouts*

although it's like 8:30am and hubby hasn't been home since 5am and he probably didn't want to wake me.......and even then he isn't required to get me anything, even if I do get him something.

whatever.

*goes to bake a cake*

Lonely ladies of NSG. All your prayers are answered. I am a tall, lean young man with roguishly good looks and an infectious personality...and I'm single;)

...and completely alone:(

:fluffle:

If you think that's bad, I got a jury summons. Wonderful. :rolleyes:

(Yesterday, that is. It's now the 15th here).

WoohoO! It's tomorrow in Australia - the world hasn't ended! </threadhijack>

Not yet it hasn't.......

...there should be a rule that only single people are allowed to bitch about Valentines day in any way.

You should now go and get into a big pointless argument over a piece of paper. :rolleyes:

I am whining on here so I DON'T have a big argument over a bit of paper...

...there should be a rule that only single people are allowed to bitch about Valentines day in any way.

You should now go and get into a big pointless argument over a piece of paper. :rolleyes:

I agree on both counts.

Oh, Saint Valentine's Day has been around quite a while. Not sure when it got its current conotations though.

It caught whatever Christmas caught, probably from Christmas

I am; however, a lonely cynic who's given up on love.

Bah, by all means be alone, but don't be lonely

...there should be a rule that only single people are allowed to bitch about Valentines day in any way.

But then in the unlikely event of me building and maintaining a relationship... I won't be able to complain about the Christmas's illness, and how it will soon infect every day of the year!

...there should be a rule that only single people are allowed to bitch about Valentines day in any way.


It should be only people in relationships are allowed to bitch because we have buy stuff and do romantic sappy things. Sing people get the day off

It should be only people in relationships are allowed to bitch because we have buy stuff and do romantic sappy things. Sing people get the day off

Yes, but your bribery will lead to teh secks.

Well, happy cupid day

Awww. :(

Here, have a fluffle, some flowers (http://www.forever-florist-thailand.com/images/Graduation%20Images/rose_lilies_vaseINFO.gif) and chocolate-covered strawberries (http://www.jackiesbaskets.com/images/berry_assortment_bg.jpg) from me. :fluffle:

If you care that much about your boyfriend buying you things, he should dump you.

QFT.

I've never done anything for my gf for this stupid holiday, and she's fine with it. She understands that I view it as a materialistic bullshit holiday. You should do nice things for your SO because you want to, not because it's expected of you and you feel you have to.

I don't understand why Valentine's day is at all romantic. It's just a way of selling overpriced cardboard with nauseating messages and useless pink tat. If you care about someone you'll do something about it without being prompted by inaccurate drawings of hearts :rolleyes:

My girlfriend claimed she bought me a Valentine's card, but she didn't send it to me, so that's OK.

Gah! I'd managed to avoid thinking about Valentine's day for six hours, and now, because of this thread, I'm getting angry! Grr!

Deep breaths, happy thoughts... It'll be a nice normal day tomorrow, no flogging pink shit... Deep breaths...

QFT.

I've never done anything for my gf for this stupid holiday, and she's fine with it. She understands that I view it as a materialistic bullshit holiday. You should do nice things for your SO because you want to, not because it's expected of you and you feel you have to.

Besides, doing something romantic on any other day of the year would be much more appreciated.

If Valentine's Day means something to you, and it appears that it does, you should say something to your boyfriend. Don't let it go. As for all these "Valentine's Day is teh ebil profiteering made-up holiday" guys, ignore 'em. It takes five minutes and two bucks to buy a card, and so what if that money goes into the coffers at Hallmark? And yet we have guys here getting all bent out of shape about it. Makes one wonder.

Besides, doing something romantic on any other day of the year would be much more appreciated.

Again, QFT.

Again, QFT.

Hell yeah, I'm on a roll.

If Valentine's Day means something to you, and it appears that it does, you should say something to your boyfriend. Don't let it go. As for all these "Valentine's Day is teh ebil profiteering made-up holiday" guys, ignore 'em. It takes five minutes and two bucks to buy a card, and so what if that money goes into the coffers at Hallmark? And yet we have guys here getting all bent out of shape about it. Makes one wonder.

I think that's a cop out "it's not hard, just suck it up and do it".

I don't even care about materialistic aspects of it. It's the idea that TODAY I should be expected to make a romantic gesture.

Doesn't the fundamental meaning of such a thing become irrelevant when compelled? I always thought such things should be done because you WANT to, not because it's february 14th. Reducing it to the point makes it no more than just something else to do that day, along with showering.

I think that's a cop out "it's not hard, just suck it up and do it".

I don't even care about materialistic aspects of it. It's the idea that TODAY I should be expected to make a romantic gesture.

Doesn't the fundamental meaning of such a thing become irrelevant when compelled? I always thought such things should be done because you WANT to, not because it's february 14th. Reducing it to the point makes it no more than just something else to do that day, along with showering.

Precisely.

Oh, and showering? Don't you mean sitting on front of the computer and drinking? :p

Precisely.

Oh, and showering? Don't you mean sitting on front of the computer and drinking? :p

screw you hippy, I got a job, one that requires me to wear a suit, unfortunatly.

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

ok you have 2 choices (supposing you want to keep him).

you change your attitude or you change his attitude.

he doesnt care about valentines day. he will NEVER care about valentines day. you could realize that and stop trying to force him to be someone he isnt. when the girls at work go on and on about what they got you can look at them and say "my boyfriend treats me like a queen every day, he doesnt need to make a fuss one day a year." and if this guy is worth keeping that should be true. if its not true maybe you should re-evaluate. in any case stop letting those bitches make you feel like crap over a minor issue. if you have a good man that is what matters not whether or not he sends you flowers one day a year.

if you just cannot get over this obsession with valentines day, you have to let him know in no uncertain terms that this is the last time you go without anything on feb 14th. since he will never care about valentines day you have to make him care about not pissing you off by making his life HELL for the next week or so. put him firmly in the dog house and leave him there until he understands that it is unacceptable to overlook your feelings about this day. next year you dont leave it to chance but let him know starting at the beginning of february exactly what he must do to stay in your good graces. do this every year as long as you are together. dont ever expect him to spontaneously remember how important valentines day is. that is a recipe for misery.

It's just like Easter and Christmas: just another way for businesses to get separate you and your money.

screw you hippy, I got a job, one that requires me to wear a suit, unfortunatly.

Hippy? I'm the furthest thing from a hippy, mate. I'd think you'd have picked up on that by now.

It's just like Easter and Christmas: just another way for businesses to get separate you and your money.

I'm not religious at all myself, but at least those holidays have some reason behind them. Valentine's Day is just shite.

I got someone a valentines card for the first time today. Well, I say valentines card, I actually mean a random card with nothing inside it so I could write what I chose without having to put up with a lot of soppy shite I didn't want to say. Fucking well romantic, I am ¬_¬

Anyway, yeah, I think I just got deeply burned over it. I gave it to a girl I've been on-off seeing for a while now, and all she said was "aww, that's cute". Nowt given back like. That was it.

Fucking Valentines day. How to make single men feel like shit in 24 hours.

I got someone a valentines card for the first time today. Well, I say valentines card, I actually mean a random card with nothing inside it so I could write what I chose without having to put up with a lot of soppy shite I didn't want to say. Fucking well romantic, I am ¬_¬

Anyway, yeah, I think I just got deeply burned over it. I gave it to a girl I've been on-off seeing for a while now, and all she said was "aww, that's cute". Nowt given back like. That was it.

Fucking Valentines day. How to make single men feel like shit in 24 hours.

It's days like this that make me glad I'm single... I'm having a great day! :D

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

Guys are dense. What you should do instead of arguing with him is explain why it's a big deal. Generally speaking, guys really don't get it when it comes to holidays. This way, if he gets you something or makes it right you're actually getting something because he wants to get it for you and not because he's trying to appese you.

Guys are dense. What you should do instead of arguing with him is explain why it's a big deal.

But it's not, unless you're a needy, whiny "show me you love me" twat.

But it's not, unless you're a needy, whiny "show me you love me" twat.

thats short sighted.

some women are just obsessed with valentines day. it is wrong to make her miserable one day a year when you could just as easily pick up a damned card and maybe a bouquet of flowers from the store. if you were with a woman like that why wouldnt you want to please her that way?

everyone no matter how wonderful has their own quirks. if her quirk is valentines day you do valentines day knowing that the rest of the year she is a great girlfriend. if she isnt worth putting up with this valentines obsession for maybe you shouldnt be with her at all.

It's days like this that make me glad I'm single... I'm having a great day! :D
Don't taunt me, I might get a rifle and find a bell tower...

thats short sighted.

some women are just obsessed with valentines day. it is wrong to make her miserable one day a year when you could just as easily pick up a damned card and maybe a bouquet of flowers from the store. if you were with a woman like that why wouldnt you want to please her that way?

everyone no matter how wonderful has their own quirks. if her quirk is valentines day you do valentines day knowing that the rest of the year she is a great girlfriend. if she isnt worth putting up with this valentines obsession for maybe you shouldnt be with her at all.

That's the definition of needy and whiny right there.

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....
Sorry! :(

:fluffle:

I think that's a cop out "it's not hard, just suck it up and do it".

I don't even care about materialistic aspects of it. It's the idea that TODAY I should be expected to make a romantic gesture.

Doesn't the fundamental meaning of such a thing become irrelevant when compelled? I always thought such things should be done because you WANT to, not because it's february 14th. Reducing it to the point makes it no more than just something else to do that day, along with showering.

My point was, if the silly holiday means something to your significant other, wouldn't you want to, even though the very thought of it sticks in your craw? And if it bothers you that much, shouldn't you say something to that person? That would at least be participating in the relationship, but all I'm hearing here today is a lot of boohooing from guys who say they're romantic the other 364 days a year and are heroically trying to fight the all-consuming machine that is the Corporate World, but really couldn't be bothered sticking their nose in a card shop.

That's the definition of needy and whiny right there.

so what? if you have an otherwise good woman, is it such a burden to humor her on this one thing once a year?

so what? if you have an otherwise good woman, is it such a burden to humor her on this one thing once a year?

I have a great woman, and she understands that I think this "holiday" is shite.

I hate getting gifts on fake holidays.... All I want from my lover is for her to ask about my day and then chat with me. Nothing more. Real love is about being there for each other... not roses, candies, and cards.

Also, boys tread lightly... I'm a chick... Not all of us are fretting about Valentine's.

I have a great woman, and she understands that I think this "holiday" is shite.

AOL.

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years...
I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months

Looks like he's been inadequate for more than one day then. Either that or you're exaggerating. But yeah, I think he should have made a card.

I R confoozed.

AOL = "Me Too".

AOL.

I R confoozed.

I'm not getting any Valentine's day love, but you won't see me complaining. Why? Because I've replaced Valentine's Day with a much, much better holiday: Captain Morgantine's Day. It's far more entertaining, and you don't need to have anyone else around to celebrate! :D

But it's not, unless you're a needy, whiny "show me you love me" twat.

He could have told her he didn't want to celebrate the holiday beforehand. They've been together for three years. Seeing as how much this has upset her this year, it leads me to believe that her bf celebrated it for the past two years. You can't just randomly decide to not celebrate something and not tell the other person.

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

Wait til valentines day is over before you start complaining.

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

http://www.bdgift.com/pp%5Cflowers%5Cval%5Cs2.jpg Happy Valentines Day Caris.

:fluffle:

I have been living with my boyfriend for almost 2 years, and this is our third valentines day together as a couple...and I got him Pink Champagne, hand made heart shaped organic dark chocolates and a new sweater....and he didn't even get me a card....:(

I then went to work this morning and had to listen to all the great things everyone else got, it felt really nice when they asked me what I got..and then they all felt sorry for me. One even said it was worse than forgetting my birthday. Then a bunch of roses was delivered and they all said oh it bet these are for you! and of course they weren't. :(

It isn't the fact that I didn't get a card brought for me, it's that he didn't even think about it, he could have made me one.

I have had a year from hell, a really terrible almost intolerable time over the last few months, and I thought that he might do something today to cheer me up...and now I am disappointed and grumpy and I bet when he comes home we will have an argument, and then I will feel even worse...

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....
I'm sorry, how's your daughter?;)

I need sympathy and chocolate.....

or cake....


Not to be unsensitive, but:

OK for needing sympathy, OK for needing chocolate, OK for needing cake...

...but why do you need to get them on the 14th February instead than any other day?
The only thing that springs to my mind when I hear about Valentine's day is a shopkeeper happily counting money. That, and the Valentine's day massacre, you know.

I'm sorry, how's your daughter?;)

Hello Harlesburg, it was lovely of you to remember and ask, she is doing OK.

But we had a terrible shock in December, my Dad has suddenly decided that he no longer wants to have anything to do with me and the children,(we have always been incerdibly close) has started living with two gay guys half his age who have accused me of being a whore, a prostitute, a porn queen on the Internet, accused my oldest daughter of much the same, then told her to make a decent job of killing herself next time, accused me and her of assault and then called the police and made false allegations of assault and kidnapping. They then called my boyfriend a paedophile (solely because we met on the Internet, and the Internet is for paedophiles apparently) They also then tried to blackmail my dad (who is elderly) and now they are living in his house, driving his car and he is not seeing any of his family and hardly any of his old friends. I have involved the police and social services, and they are concerned, have visited my dad three times for over an hour each time, are in consultation with his bank etc. But he is in his right mind, and until he makes a complaint, or they commit a crime, there is nothing the police can do. So THAT is why my year was so shite. I almost had a breakdown before Christmas, but am feeling OK now, I have counseling and am getting on with my life. I am worried sick over my Dad, but he is going around with these two men telling terrible lies about me and the children to explain his behaviour to questioning friends. Life sucks sometimes.

My boyfriend does love and adore me, I am just hugely vulnerable at the moment, he didn't have any money and didn't think to mention to me, he feels pretty lousy about forgetting Valentines day and we didn't have a row at all, we ate take away pizza, drank loads of champagne and had great sex, it turned out to be a good day after all.

we didn't have a row at all, we ate take away pizza, drank loads of champagne and had great sex, it turned out to be a good day after all.

HUGE approvation to your boyfriend!

Happy Valentines day to everyone, especially those who like me, didn't get a card....

I don't need your pity! *takes the pity anyway*

Hello Harlesburg, it was lovely of you to remember and ask, she is doing OK.

But we had a terrible shock in December, my Dad has suddenly decided that he no longer wants to have anything to do with me and the children,(we have always been incerdibly close) has started living with two gay guys half his age who have accused me of being a whore, a prostitute, a porn queen on the Internet, accused my oldest daughter of much the same, then told her to make a decent job of killing herself next time, accused me and her of assault and then called the police and made false allegations of assault and kidnapping. They then called my boyfriend a paedophile (solely because we met on the Internet, and the Internet is for paedophiles apparently) They also then tried to blackmail my dad (who is elderly) and now they are living in his house, driving his car and he is not seeing any of his family and hardly any of his old friends. I have involved the police and social services, and they are concerned, have visited my dad three times for over an hour each time, are in consultation with his bank etc. But he is in his right mind, and until he makes a complaint, or they commit a crime, there is nothing the police can do. So THAT is why my year was so shite. I almost had a breakdown before Christmas, but am feeling OK now, I have counseling and am getting on with my life. I am worried sick over my Dad, but he is going around with these two men telling terrible lies about me and the children to explain his behaviour to questioning friends. Life sucks sometimes.

My boyfriend does love and adore me, I am just hugely vulnerable at the moment, he didn't have any money and didn't think to mention to me, he feels pretty lousy about forgetting Valentines day and we didn't have a row at all, we ate take away pizza, drank loads of champagne and had great sex, it turned out to be a good day after all.

wow that all sucks amazingly :( :(

people are kinda crazy sometimes, its scary. really glad to hear you're getting better now though :fluffle:
must be/have been a really hard time, i can only imagine :-S

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Bloody hell :s
I hope it all gets sorted out in a reasonable manner.

Thank you :fluffle:

I feel like I am living in a Jerry Springer/Jeremy Kyle show. It is all so weird that I have summarised it, but when I went to see the Dr. in December, she told me afterwards that she was assessing my mental health as the story was so mad that she thought that it was possible that I was a paranoid schizophrenic or bi-polar or delusional in some way, she told me that I was suffering from extreme stress and anxiety but my mental health was fine otherwise (which was actually VERY good to hear) she then did some checking with police and my Dad's GP and as a result called the adult protection unit of the police and social services, who are still involved and have been very supportive. But the crux of the matter is, my Dad is totally mentally capable, if a little confused and vulnerable (he is 81) and these two guys are very good at what they do, we know that one of them was involved in something that ended in him defrauding his own mother for a huge amount of money, but that unless he does something that my dad complains about, the police are powerless.

Hello Harlesburg, it was lovely of you to remember and ask, she is doing OK.

But we had a terrible shock in December, my Dad has suddenly decided that he no longer wants to have anything to do with me and the children,(we have always been incerdibly close) has started living with two gay guys half his age who have accused me of being a whore, a prostitute, a porn queen on the Internet, accused my oldest daughter of much the same, then told her to make a decent job of killing herself next time, accused me and her of assault and then called the police and made false allegations of assault and kidnapping. They then called my boyfriend a paedophile (solely because we met on the Internet, and the Internet is for paedophiles apparently) They also then tried to blackmail my dad (who is elderly) and now they are living in his house, driving his car and he is not seeing any of his family and hardly any of his old friends. I have involved the police and social services, and they are concerned, have visited my dad three times for over an hour each time, are in consultation with his bank etc. But he is in his right mind, and until he makes a complaint, or they commit a crime, there is nothing the police can do. So THAT is why my year was so shite. I almost had a breakdown before Christmas, but am feeling OK now, I have counseling and am getting on with my life. I am worried sick over my Dad, but he is going around with these two men telling terrible lies about me and the children to explain his behaviour to questioning friends. Life sucks sometimes.

My boyfriend does love and adore me, I am just hugely vulnerable at the moment, he didn't have any money and didn't think to mention to me, he feels pretty lousy about forgetting Valentines day and we didn't have a row at all, we ate take away pizza, drank loads of champagne and had great sex, it turned out to be a good day after all.
That's really sad, has your dad gone slightly mad?
Do you know how your dad met the gays?

That's really sad, has your dad gone slightly mad?
Do you know how your dad met the gays?

i'm with you on That's really sad