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How can you tell if you are flirting with people?

Llewdor
06-02-2007, 23:04
Taking a cue from Nova Magna Germania's thread...

In the past, it has been suggested that I tend to flirt with my colleagues/staff. However, anything of the sort has been entirely without motive or intent on my part, so how can I tell what I'm doing that's giving people this impression? At the very least I want to understand the source of the complaints.
Cluichstan
06-02-2007, 23:09
If they're complaining about your flirting, you're doing it wrong. :p
IL Ruffino
06-02-2007, 23:11
*is having the same problem*
Khadgar
06-02-2007, 23:14
I don't flirt, atleast not consciously.
Londim
06-02-2007, 23:16
I've been told I flirt with many girls I speak too including ones I've known for years. I've only rarely noticed this but whatever gets me a phone number at the end of the night is fine by me.
Fassigen
06-02-2007, 23:16
My dick tends to be hard. Next question?
Orlzenheimerness
06-02-2007, 23:20
I REALLY don't know.
There's this boy that I like, and I flirt alot around him, so I'm a total pathetic give away. I wish I knew when I was..... :(
Whereyouthinkyougoing
06-02-2007, 23:21
Taking a cue from Nova Magna Germania's thread...

In the past, it has been suggested that I tend to flirt with my colleagues/staff. However, anything of the sort has been entirely without motive or intent on my part, so how can I tell what I'm doing that's giving people this impression? At the very least I want to understand the source of the complaints.
Why are you asking us, who don't know you and have never seen you in real life, let alone in one of the situations where you've been accused of flirting?

If people in your real life have already suggested to you that you are flirty in inappropriate settings why not ask them what makes them think you are?

Is that too logical?


*is having the same problem*
What, you're not flirting with me? :eek: :(
IL Ruffino
06-02-2007, 23:35
My dick tends to be hard. Next question?

Is it large?
Llewdor
06-02-2007, 23:36
Why are you asking us, who don't know you and have never seen you in real life, let alone in one of the situations where you've been accused of flirting?
I liked the symmetry.
If people in your real life have already suggested to you that you are flirty in inappropriate settings why not ask them what makes them think you are?
Because I was too taken aback at the time (and I'm cripplingly bad with people).
Morganatron
06-02-2007, 23:37
"Hey, nice shoes..."
IL Ruffino
06-02-2007, 23:37
What, you're not flirting with me? :eek: :(

With you? No.. :p
IL Ruffino
06-02-2007, 23:38
If the person you're talking to's boyfriend shows up with a flaming broom...

Personal experience?
Cannot think of a name
06-02-2007, 23:38
If the person you're talking to's boyfriend shows up with a flaming broom...
The Pacifist Womble
06-02-2007, 23:41
how can I tell what I'm doing that's giving people this impression? At the very least I want to understand the source of the complaints.
See if their eyes are dilated, that means they're excited.

I've been told I flirt with many girls I speak too including ones I've known for years. I've only rarely noticed this but whatever gets me a phone number at the end of the night is fine by me.
I would settle for more than a phone number if I were you!

I REALLY don't know.
There's this boy that I like, and I flirt alot around him, so I'm a total pathetic give away. I wish I knew when I was..... :(
Look in his eyes.

Is it large?
Is he going to say no?

I'm cripplingly bad with people.
And yet you're a big flirt?
Londim
06-02-2007, 23:42
I would settle for more than a phone number if I were you!

I didn't say when the night ended ;)
Whereyouthinkyougoing
07-02-2007, 00:01
I liked the symmetry.

Because I was too taken aback at the time (and I'm cripplingly bad with people).Fair enough. :p

With you? No.. :p http://i96.photobucket.com/albums/l192/whereyouthinkyougoing/p1010408-1.jpg
Jello Biafra
07-02-2007, 00:10
Do you laugh a lot for no apparent reason? Do you touch people at the slightest provocation? Do you give 'the look' a lot? If so, congrats! You're flirting with people.
IL Ruffino
07-02-2007, 00:11
http://i96.photobucket.com/albums/l192/whereyouthinkyougoing/p1010408-1.jpg

AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!!

:cool:
Llewdor
07-02-2007, 00:15
And yet you're a big flirt?
Well, not on purpose.
Llewdor
07-02-2007, 00:16
Do you laugh a lot for no apparent reason?
That would make me crazy, not flirty.
Do you touch people at the slightest provocation?
This I do. I find people respond better when I provide some small physical contact.
Do you give 'the look' a lot?
I have no idea what that means.
Fassigen
07-02-2007, 00:25
Is it large?

What's it to you?
IL Ruffino
07-02-2007, 00:26
What's it to you?

Why did you answer my question with a question?
Jello Biafra
07-02-2007, 00:30
That would make me crazy, not flirty.Well, I suppose I should've specified that the giggling occurs after the "flirtee" says something.

This I do. I find people respond better when I provide some small physical contact.That's probably it, then.

I have no idea what that means.It's hard to explain what it is, but there's a look that a person has sometimes when they're attracted to you.
Fassigen
07-02-2007, 00:39
Why did you answer my question with a question?

Because I'd like to know the extent of your lust for my cock. I don't blame you - it's one bitchin' cock.
Snafturi
07-02-2007, 01:07
I am teh suck at flirting. Or figuring out when people are flirting with me.
Llewdor
07-02-2007, 01:31
Well, I suppose I should've specified that the giggling occurs after the "flirtee" says something.

That's probably it, then.

It's hard to explain what it is, but there's a look that a person has sometimes when they're attracted to you.
Thanks.

There really should be a book to teach people this non-verbal communication crap.
Jello Biafra
07-02-2007, 01:33
Thanks.

There really should be a book to teach people this non-verbal communication crap.You're welcome. :) There's also things like smiling in a certain way, or smiling a lot, that could indicate that you're flirting.
Your particular problem seems to be the touching, though.
The Chrono Destroyer
07-02-2007, 03:37
The simple solution is to stop being a whore.
Cannot think of a name
07-02-2007, 03:47
The simple solution is to stop being a whore.

Sometimes I wish we had a way of doing a "First Post Prize."









sometimes...
IL Ruffino
07-02-2007, 05:36
Because I'd like to know the extent of your lust for my cock. I don't blame you - it's one bitchin' cock.

I'd just like to know how big the sausage is that comes with my Swedish meatballs. I might be going to Ikea this weekend, you know..
Similization
07-02-2007, 05:55
Because I'd like to know the extent of your lust for my cock. I don't blame you - it's one bitchin' cock.I demand pics.
New Ausha
07-02-2007, 06:08
I demand pics.

Hello everyone, i'm with Interpol's anti-pedophile and just general sick faggot division, i'm looking for someone under the alias "Similization". Hes wanted for lewd conduct on internet forums and indecent exposure at a 7 year old's birthday party.
New Ausha
07-02-2007, 06:09
I'd just like to know how big the sausage is that comes with my Swedish meatballs. I might be going to Ikea this weekend, you know..

I'm fairly certain you pay EXTRA for that.
United Chicken Kleptos
07-02-2007, 06:11
The only way I've been able to flirt with women for a long while is by simply looking at them a lot. I'm too nervous to go up and talk to them. I'm too much of a defeatist also.
Neo Undelia
07-02-2007, 06:13
Same things happens to me occasionally. Just trying to be friendly, put smiles on faces etc. Luckily, I’m far too ugly for anything I do to ever be taken seriously by any of the people I deal with in the course of my day.
Similization
07-02-2007, 06:34
Hello everyone, i'm with Interpol's anti-pedophile and just general sick faggot division, i'm looking for someone under the alias "Similization". Hes wanted for lewd conduct on internet forums and indecent exposure at a 7 year old's birthday party.I'll buy the bolded bit, but the rest?

.. Must've been really fucking drunk.
New Ausha
07-02-2007, 07:02
I'll buy the bolded bit, but the rest?

.. Must've been really fucking drunk.

Either way, its off too jail with you.
Zilam
07-02-2007, 09:11
Taking a cue from Nova Magna Germania's thread...

In the past, it has been suggested that I tend to flirt with my colleagues/staff. However, anything of the sort has been entirely without motive or intent on my part, so how can I tell what I'm doing that's giving people this impression? At the very least I want to understand the source of the complaints.

Don't flirt too much with too many people, you end up in my position....having a crap load of not so attractive or personable girls that think you love them. :headbang: If only one of them could be like adriana lima, and think that, then i'd be fricking happy.
Similization
07-02-2007, 09:31
Either way, its off too jail with you.Again? Fuck..
The Brevious
08-02-2007, 08:40
Hello everyone, i'm with Interpol's anti-pedophile and just general sick faggot division, i'm looking for someone under the alias "Similization". Hes wanted for lewd conduct on internet forums and indecent exposure at a 7 year old's birthday party.

That's quite a long, thick, and impressive list you have there, partner. :)
The Brevious
08-02-2007, 08:41
Either way, its off too jail with you.

Or, just as well, a dimly-lit corner of a tiled room with hot water jets, handcuffs, and sympathetic onlookers.
Ilaer
08-02-2007, 19:02
Never mind how do you know if you're flirting with someone, how do you go about it in the first place?
Or, rather, how do you pick up the courage to even consider it?
I haven't been out with anyone at all, so I have no idea what it REALLY entails or what's expected of you or anything...
If only you could declare your undying love for someone and then either have it accepted or have it nicely rejected without everyone finding out...
I can't even summon up the courage to buy a Valentine's rose for the one for whom I feel...
*sighs*
'Tis a good thing to be loved, but it even better to be loved back. Alas, but I do not think many people think highly of love poems nowadays.

Ilaer
Cluichstan
08-02-2007, 19:09
Never mind how do you know if you're flirting with someone, how do you go about it in the first place?
Or, rather, how do you pick up the courage to even consider it?
I haven't been out with anyone at all, so I have no idea what it REALLY entails or what's expected of you or anything...
If only you could declare your undying love for someone and then either have it accepted or have it nicely rejected without everyone finding out...
I can't even summon up the courage to buy a Valentine's rose for the one for whom I feel...
*sighs*
'Tis a good thing to be loved, but it even better to be loved back. Alas, but I do not think many people think highly of love poems nowadays.

Ilaer


Cheer up, emo kid.
Peepelonia
08-02-2007, 19:10
Taking a cue from Nova Magna Germania's thread...

In the past, it has been suggested that I tend to flirt with my colleagues/staff. However, anything of the sort has been entirely without motive or intent on my part, so how can I tell what I'm doing that's giving people this impression? At the very least I want to understand the source of the complaints.


What? What a strange question. Umm if you mean to flirt then you are and if you do not mean to flirt then you are not.

I guess I mean it's all in the intent.
Peepelonia
08-02-2007, 19:11
Never mind how do you know if you're flirting with someone, how do you go about it in the first place?
Or, rather, how do you pick up the courage to even consider it?
I haven't been out with anyone at all, so I have no idea what it REALLY entails or what's expected of you or anything...
If only you could declare your undying love for someone and then either have it accepted or have it nicely rejected without everyone finding out...
I can't even summon up the courage to buy a Valentine's rose for the one for whom I feel...
*sighs*
'Tis a good thing to be loved, but it even better to be loved back. Alas, but I do not think many people think highly of love poems nowadays.

Ilaer

Ahhhh I wonder if that has anything to do with living in Grimsby?

The best thing to do to get a woman is..... well two things really, just bloody talk to them like you would talk to anybody else, hehe and develop a thick skin.
Ilaer
08-02-2007, 20:08
Cheer up, emo kid.

Erm... Ok... I guess I can try...

Ahhhh I wonder if that has anything to do with living in Grimsby?

The best thing to do to get a woman is..... well two things really, just bloody talk to them like you would talk to anybody else, hehe and develop a thick skin.

Not helpful...
The way I talk to people is usually as a physicist/historian/mathematician/philosopher.
I don't do normality.
People don't like that.

Ilaer
Suzinessums
08-02-2007, 21:17
I REALLY don't know.
There's this boy that I like, and I flirt alot around him, so I'm a total pathetic give away. I wish I knew when I was..... :(

*PointAndLaugh*
Only saying, because I know you. No offense of course. :p
Jello Biafra
09-02-2007, 01:39
Not helpful...
The way I talk to people is usually as a physicist/historian/mathematician/philosopher.
I don't do normality.
People don't like that.Hm. Do you like it when people talk to you in such a manner?