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My parents anniversary just past and my sister and I did not give an anniversary card. My dad demands a card for every occasion even though he'll lose it anyway and forget about it in five minutes. So today at dinner he says rhetorically: "Hey, why didn't we get an anniversary cards from the kids?"

I reply: "You don't give your parents an anniversary card."
He says angrily: "IN THIS HOUSE, YOU DO!"

It ended there. So what is the opinion of NSG...

Poll ahoy!

weeeeeeeeeeeiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiird! I never heard that this was actually done unless you live in another country or the like!

you think that it is somehow incorrect to give your parents an anniversary card?

its not.

if its important to your dad why wouldnt you?

My parents are dead, so this scenario doesn't apply to me.

my option wasnt on there

my parents are dead and when they were alive they didnt make a fuss over their anniversary. they had a big celebration for their 25th but didnt even do anything for their 50th. it had something to do with being married in april and my oldest brother's birthday being in november.

so no, i dont send them anniversary cards.

My parents are dead, so this scenario doesn't apply to me.

Hypothetically assuming they were alive...

you think that it is somehow incorrect to give your parents an anniversary card?

its not.

if its important to your dad why wouldnt you?

Their anniversary has absolutely nothing to do with and I give him cards for Father's Day, Birthday, whatever holidays...plus Hanuka presents

It's never occurred to me to do so.
Besides, I only know when it is because Dad gets Mum a card (and I forget it ever happened after the card is taken down).
And any card I did get would be a "Congratulations, you've stubbornly refused to get a divorce for yet another year, despite loathing each other! Well done!" card.
So it's probably just as well.

I think you should give them an anniversary card. It's an important date for the parents and means a lot to them. It would also show you care. Most parents give their children so much, a roof over their heads, clothes, food, toys, electronics, and so on... I don't think it's to much to ask for a birthday card and gift, anniversary card, mother's/father's day cards and a Christmas gift. That doesn't seem like much for what they fork out for the kids. In my opinion it's the least you could do.

My parents anniversary is August 19th, however, I can't remember exactly but I believe their last anniversary was the 35th.

You'd think it's no work getting a card for them on the occasion, but think about it. Do the math.


$1.45 for each card bought for every year. That totals to $14.50 in ten years. $72.50 in 50 years. $145.00 in 100 years! You will go broke by the time they're one-thousandth anniversary rolls in.

Totally against it.


Get them bagels. 35 cents at Dunkin Donuts.

meh, in the 32 years my parents have been married (22 i've been around for) i only got them anything once for their 25th. most times it passed without my noticing. they're getting divorced now so i don't imagine i'll be getting them anything in the future.

My sister and I always said "happy anniversary" but didn't get anything for them. In our family's way of thinking, it was a sort special thing that was just for them. Only my mom is left now, so I doubt I'll be getting anything in the future.

Hypothetically assuming they were alive...

I wouldn't know whether they'd want one or not; I'm adopted, hah.

Their anniversary has absolutely nothing to do with and I give him cards for Father's Day, Birthday, whatever holidays...plus Hanuka presents

ive never met a man that obsessed with cards. if you are sick of card giving--and who could blame you--you might need to start drawing the line somewhere that doesnt make it seem like you dont care that your parent ever got married.

something like fathers day, birth day, and hanukkah if thats a card giving holiday.

My parents, bless their hearts, told my sister and I not to get them anything for their anniversary explicitly. As my dad explained it, their anniversary was their anniversary, and they would celebrate it by themselves. So, basically the family trade-off was a day without the kids for giving up greeting cards.

I'd say that's a good deal, and if I ever have children that's how I'll do it.

My parents anniversary just past and my sister and I did not give an anniversary card. My dad demands a card for every occasion even though he'll lose it anyway and forget about it in five minutes. So today at dinner he says rhetorically: "Hey, why didn't we get an anniversary cards from the kids?"

I reply: "You don't give your parents an anniversary card."
He says angrily: "IN THIS HOUSE, YOU DO!"

It ended there. So what is the opinion of NSG...

Poll ahoy!

Jeeze is that guy uptight or what. I'd've left the table.

My parents barely acknowledge their own anniversary. I don't think I should go through any effort to remind them of it. :p

Jeeze is that guy uptight or what. I'd've left the table.

Did I mention how he is a control and power freak...if I did that, I wouldn't be posting here now. >_>

My commiserations, Sel Appa. Unfortunately, I'm probably not the best person to advise you in these matters - I upped and left home at seventeen rather than deal directly with an overbearing father.

Good luck and all.

I only have a year and a half or so left in my sentence...which is the same as oyu sort of, but still...

Don't give anyone a card ever. Five dollar pieces of cardboard are teh suck.

My commiserations, Sel Appa. Unfortunately, I'm probably not the best person to advise you in these matters - I upped and left home at seventeen rather than deal directly with an overbearing father.

Good luck and all.

I only have a year and a half or so left in my sentence...which is the same as oyu sort of, but still...

Then I'll simply recommend you spend the time in his presence engrossed in reading books.

I only have a year and a half or so left in my sentence...which is the same as oyu sort of, but still...

oh i didnt realize you are still at home

wait til he throws the cards he go away, pick one out of the trash, and give it to him next year. it will make him feel good and you will enjoy it too. win/win

It was my parents anniversary literally three days ago and my sister, brother and I did.

The only time I ever got anything for my parent's Anniversary is on their 25th.

That being said, I used to call my mother every year on my birthday - to thank her for carrying me to term.

Giving a card, or gift, should be voluntary. Demanding either is totally uncouth. AND while a person should give a thank-you at every opportunity, NO ONE should expect to ever get a thank-you. It is totally uncouth to expect a thank-you.

For my parents last anniversery I made sure I had plans to stay out late. When I was little I used to draw them cards, but I don't think I've gotten them anything for eight or nine years

I'm not even sure when it it, I have my mom's memory for date's like that, my dad is the one who always remembers this type of things, which is kind of funny because sterotypically it is suppose to be the guy that forgets about anniversariesand such.

Yes no yes yes no no yes.

For my parents last anniversery I made sure I had plans to stay out late. When I was little I used to draw them cards, but I don't think I've gotten them anything for eight or nine years

It must be nice having parents that still have sex.. :(

What are you on about? of course you give your parents an anniversary card!

But it's not really essentially unless its a round numbered anniversary (one ending in a 0 or 5)

and if it was one of the big ones (5, 10, 25, 30, 40, 50, 60, 80 etc.) then may god rest your soul, because your parents won't

My parents anniversary just past and my sister and I did not give an anniversary card. My dad demands a card for every occasion even though he'll lose it anyway and forget about it in five minutes. So today at dinner he says rhetorically: "Hey, why didn't we get an anniversary cards from the kids?"

I reply: "You don't give your parents an anniversary card."
He says angrily: "IN THIS HOUSE, YOU DO!"

It ended there. So what is the opinion of NSG...

Poll ahoy!
Fuck that!
Tell them they should never have gotten together, how you hate them and they made worthless protege*

*Not just you but all spawn(i.e. all parents did this, me included.)

No, its not my anniversary and even if I wanted to I couldn't because I don't know when it is.

this seams rather and odd question. why wouldn't you give your parents an aniversary card? and what does "should" or "shouldn't" have to do with it?

i mean, i don't see it as an absolute obligation if there's some big emotional problem about doing so or anything, but i don't see how it could possibly hurt anything otherwise.

well i've only got one of mine among the tangably living and i'm not sure i remember when it was, but i do seem to remember that i used to.

is this a question someone came up with because they were bored and just wanted to come up with one?

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Yes,
I give them an anniversary card, and every 5th year, the kids get together and get them a nice gift.

Why wouldn't you? Don't they get you one?

I've never given them a card before, but maybe I will at some special one like 40th or 50th.

No, it's their anniversary, not yours. Besides, since when have anniversaries warranted special cards anyway?

I couldn't tell you when their birthdays are normally, let alone anniversary.

My parents arn't married and they don't even celebrate the date they met at the the Divorced and (de)Seperate Club.

What is the matter with you people? You don't know when your parents' wedding anniversary is or how long they've been married? I know young people are supposed to have their heads up their fundaments but that's a little much. And since your Dad seems to like getting a card on all occasions, Sel, put your hand in your pocket and spring for a couple bucks to buy one. Hey, you could split the astronomical cost with your sister and probably get it down under a buck. Friggin' kids today, should be drafted into the friggin' army, boys and girls, that'd teach them a thing or to, show 'em what the real world's like, spoiled brats ... *wanders off muttering*

If it makes him happy, why not? Though I do agree that it's a bit silly to do so.

Tell him you didn't this year because Mikhail Bakunin stole all of your money. ;)

It must be nice having parents that still have sex.. :(

I have no idea if they do or not, and it's because I don't really want to know that I give them their space. icky.

i just say "happy birthday" when i see him the first time, and sometimes me and my sisters and mom buy him a new razor or something useful.
my little sister (10 years old) sometimes makes drawings etc.

My parents anniversary just past and my sister and I did not give an anniversary card. My dad demands a card for every occasion even though he'll lose it anyway and forget about it in five minutes. So today at dinner he says rhetorically: "Hey, why didn't we get an anniversary cards from the kids?"

I reply: "You don't give your parents an anniversary card."
He says angrily: "IN THIS HOUSE, YOU DO!"

It ended there. So what is the opinion of NSG...

Poll ahoy!

I don't think it's weird to give your parents anniversary cards... What weirds me out is the ides of your dad angrily demanding one...

I never give anniversary cards and never will. My mother has asked me to in the past, but I never do. It's stupid. I barely even remember to do it for birthdays and I didn't for Christmas last year because I had no time.

My fiance doesn't care for it either. We don't even remember what date we got engaged on, or what our anniversary date is.