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my mother in law has a myspace

Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 20:46
and that just seems wrong to me, I went to check it out and all of hubby's aunts have them too, so does his Grandma :eek: glitter letters and all.

I bring this up because I am disturbed that it disturbs me.

I know that a lot of you would probably be shocked, disturbed, or otherwise weirded out to find out that I am in a band. I know that I get a lot of :eek: in real life when people find out. It's funny to me that people assume certain things based on arbitrary rules that make them comfortable.

I, alas, have fallen victim as well, since although I really miss my pink hair, I am not going to dye it again, because I feel like it wouldn't "be right" (whatever that means) for me to have pink hair now.

So, what do you guys think? are there certain things that you can be 'too old' to do? what other arbitrary rules are there? are they arbitrary?

:confused:
Neesika
15-01-2007, 20:48
I hate to deflate you here Smunkee...but some of us saw through your 'good Christian wife' persona AGES ago, and details like that (having a band) are not shocking in the least :P

But I also have a penchant to defying arbitrary conceptions of who I am...I love to dress very conservatively when dealing with fellow activists, because it makes them uneasy...
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 20:48
If you're too old to do something it's either because you think you're too old to do it, or because you're physically incapable of doing it due to your age.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 20:49
I hate to deflate you here Smunkee...but some of us saw through your 'good Christian wife' persona AGES ago, and details like that (having a band) are not shocking in the least :P

it's still shocking to a lot of people.
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 20:49
I hate to deflate you here Smunkee...but some of us saw through your 'good Christian wife' persona AGES ago, and details like that (having a band) are not shocking in the least :P

Yeah, that too. You're the least stereotypical fundie in existence.
Neesika
15-01-2007, 20:50
it's still shocking to a lot of people.

It wouldn't be worthwhile otherwise :D

(what is the last rebellion open to the rebellious? the appearance of uber-normality...)
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 20:51
Your mother in law is a loser, then. Myspace = unforgivable.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 20:52
It wouldn't be worthwhile otherwise :D

well, it kind of disturbs me that people IRL that are shocked just don't know enough about me to infer that I might be in a band......like people I work with, they somehow don't notice that I can't ever do anything on Friday nights, no matter how many times they invite me out and I say "I have a gig"

WTF? do they think I mean by that?
Farnhamia
15-01-2007, 20:52
Shocked and disturbed by you being in a band? Of course not, dear Smunkee, I'm surprised I didn't have it on my Things Smunkee's Already Done list. :p

You're what? 25, I think was what you owned up to a little while back? If you want pink hair, you can have pink hair. Your kids do get veto powers, though.

As for the question in general, I hate to say that there are age boundaries beyond which one cannot do things (with the exception of backwards baseball caps in men - there is a maximum age at which that is cute: 18 months). I think one has to ask, do I look like an idiot doing this? For instance, 65-year-old women wearing mid-thigh miniskirts generally look like idiots. There may be exceptions, but not many. Kids can be invaluable gauges here. Try whatever it is out on your kids or the nieces and nephews, the neighbors, whomever. If the kids giggle and make fun of you, you probably don't want to do it. Within moderation, of course. For example, children should never be allowed to state opinions on music. Whatever we listen to is classic, beautiful, meaningful, a joy forever and their music is crap. This is a Universal Law.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 20:53
Your mother in law is a loser, then. Myspace = unforgivable.

I don't have one.........well, I did have to sign up to read her blog.......she doesn't really say anything nice about me. :(
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 20:54
Hell, young people shouldn't even use MySpace..
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 20:56
Hell, young people shouldn't even use MySpace..

Nobody should use Myspace, ever. Even the people who own it. But that goes without saying.

+1
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 20:56
I don't have one.........well, I did have to sign up to read her blog.......

Then you must already know why they are awful... unless of course you like a bunch of gawdy static background images, rolling and blinking text accompanied by awful music on autoplay, with a dash of java applets that bring your browser to a crawl...

she doesn't really say anything nice about me. :(

She's your mother in law. That's par for the course.
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 20:59
Nobody should use Myspace, ever. Even the people who own it. But that goes without saying.

+1

*nods*

Smunkee, could I beg you for her myspace name?! *puppy eyes*
Neesika
15-01-2007, 21:00
well, it kind of disturbs me that people IRL that are shocked just don't know enough about me to infer that I might be in a band......like people I work with, they somehow don't notice that I can't ever do anything on Friday nights, no matter how many times they invite me out and I say "I have a gig"

WTF? do they think I mean by that?

I'm the opposite...I love the assumptions, because I love to deflate them. And the shock factor is fantastic. Maybe it's kind of a kink of mine....hmmmm...
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:01
Then you must already know why they are awful... unless of course you like a bunch of gawdy static background images, rolling and blinking text accompanied by awful music on autoplay, with a dash of java applets that bring your browser to a crawl...
Oh, I know they are horrible, I have only seen one to date that didn't make me want to gouge my eyes out and set myself on fire.



She's your mother in law. That's par for the course.
I suppose the mature thing to do would be to be proud of her insults? some of them are quite funny........
*nods*

Smunkee, could I beg you for her myspace name?! *puppy eyes*

you could beg, but I will not tell.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:02
I'm the opposite...I love the assumptions, because I love to deflate them. And the shock factor is fantastic. Maybe it's kind of a kink of mine....hmmmm...

yeah, I get them everyday though, the fun is gone.
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 21:03
Oh, I know they are horrible, I have only seen one to date that didn't make me want to gouge my eyes out and set myself on fire.

Self-immolation and mutilation. My, you really are old-school Christian.

I suppose the mature thing to do would be to be proud of her insults? some of them are quite funny........

You should print them out and make little badges. Taunt her with your flair.
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 21:04
you could beg, but I will not tell.

Thought so. I want to see teh ebil blog!

*leaves*
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:05
Self-immolation and mutilation. My, you really are old-school Christian.
aye, it's a curse.

You should print them out and make little badges. Taunt her with your flair.

OMFG that's like the best idea ever!
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:06
I'm the opposite...I love the assumptions, because I love to deflate them. And the shock factor is fantastic. Maybe it's kind of a kink of mine....hmmmm...

One among many......
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 21:08
aye, it's a curse.

But you bear your cross so well.

OMFG that's like the best idea ever!

A few years ago I had a t-shirt that said "sodomit" (I guess you can figure out what that means) on it that I wore to spite my mother. Worked a charm.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:09
Thought so. I want to see teh ebil blog!

*leaves*

excerpts

......she seems to be fun for the kids, but she is pretty eccentric, and not in a good way, she makes up holidays to celebrate, and wears weird clothes, she is nothing like anyone I would have picked for my son.

.....I think she might be insane

I can't wait for my son to wake up and realize that she is really too weird to bother with
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 21:11
excerpts

This woman's "insults" are among the lamest I've ever seen. Oooh, she called you "weird". What a front bum she is!
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:12
This woman's "insults" are among the lamest I've ever seen. Oooh, she called you "weird". What a front bum she is!

I guess you would have to know her to understand. Those were the more humorous ones though.
Johnny B Goode
15-01-2007, 21:13
and that just seems wrong to me, I went to check it out and all of hubby's aunts have them too, so does his Grandma :eek: glitter letters and all.

I bring this up because I am disturbed that it disturbs me.

I know that a lot of you would probably be shocked, disturbed, or otherwise weirded out to find out that I am in a band. I know that I get a lot of :eek: in real life when people find out. It's funny to me that people assume certain things based on arbitrary rules that make them comfortable.

I, alas, have fallen victim as well, since although I really miss my pink hair, I am not going to dye it again, because I feel like it wouldn't "be right" (whatever that means) for me to have pink hair now.

So, what do you guys think? are there certain things that you can be 'too old' to do? what other arbitrary rules are there? are they arbitrary?

:confused:

There are only three thigns I can think of that adults shouldn't do:

Put up a Myspace (unless you are an artist/musician/moviemaker)
Suck your thumb
Read books/watch movies with talking objects of your own free will
Fassigen
15-01-2007, 21:14
I guess you would have to know her to understand. Those were the more humorous ones though.

Look at it from this point: I've only met a few straight men who like women their mothers like. When she starts liking you, then you should start worrying about her influence on your man.
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 21:17
excerpts

*thanks*

Hehe, eccentric Smunk!
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:18
Look at it from this point: I've only met a few straight men who like women their mothers like. When she starts liking you, then you should start worrying about her influence on your man.

very true. She did consult a lawyer once because I wouldn't let her come over and pick up the kids once, it was backwards day and I didn't think it fair for them to miss breakfast that evening.

He advised her that she could not seek custody of the children based on the fact that my eccentricity annoys her.
Zarakon
15-01-2007, 21:18
excerpts

I reccomend blogging about her in return.


"I think she might not like me, for some reason"


You're a fundie?


*Roll to disbelieve*
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:19
*thanks*

Hehe, eccentric Smunk!

hmm.......her sister called me an "evil bitch" on her blog.......

*investigates further*
Zarakon
15-01-2007, 21:20
hmm.......her sister called me an "evil bitch" on her blog.......

*investigates further*

Out of curiosity, does your husband know what a **** his mother is?
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:22
Out of curiosity, does your husband know what a **** his mother is?

he does.
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:23
hmm.......her sister called me an "evil bitch" on her blog.......

*investigates further*

You should give us the links so we can point and laugh at their silliness and engage in an NSG style defense of your character.
Zarakon
15-01-2007, 21:24
he does.


You can post responses on myspace, can't you?

I reccomend spamming her blog with responses such as "HAHAHAHHAAHHAHAAHHAHAHAAHHAHAAHAHAHA I LOVE WHIPPED CREAM!!!"


Yes, my solutions are delibrately antagonistic. You should know this by now.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:26
You should give us the links so we can point and laugh at their silliness and engage in an NSG style defense of your character.

I really am not sure after reading their blogs if I have any character to defend. Yes, I am weird, and insane, and I can be a bitch.......they aren't exactly making stuff up are they?

You can post responses on myspace, can't you?

I reccomend spamming her blog with responses such as "HAHAHAHHAAHHAHAAHHAHAHAAHHAHAAHAHAHA I LOVE WHIPPED CREAM!!!"


Yes, my solutions are delibrately antagonistic. You should know this by now.

I think I am going to make a t-shirt containing all of their comments and wear it to the next family get together.
Swilatia
15-01-2007, 21:26
and that just seems wrong to me, I went to check it out and all of hubby's aunts have them too, so does his Grandma :eek: glitter letters and all.

I bring this up because I am disturbed that it disturbs me.

I know that a lot of you would probably be shocked, disturbed, or otherwise weirded out to find out that I am in a band. I know that I get a lot of :eek: in real life when people find out. It's funny to me that people assume certain things based on arbitrary rules that make them comfortable.

I, alas, have fallen victim as well, since although I really miss my pink hair, I am not going to dye it again, because I feel like it wouldn't "be right" (whatever that means) for me to have pink hair now.

So, what do you guys think? are there certain things that you can be 'too old' to do? what other arbitrary rules are there? are they arbitrary?

:confused:
it's always wrong to have a myspace.
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 21:28
hmm.......her sister called me an "evil bitch" on her blog.......

*investigates further*

:eek:

And here I though you were a good person..

Maybe I should rethink talking to you.. :p
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:29
:eek:

And here I though you were a good person..

Maybe I should rethink talking to you.. :p
:(
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:32
I really am not sure after reading their blogs if I have any character to defend. Yes, I am weird, and insane, and I can be a bitch.......they aren't exactly making stuff up are they?
Aside from being a bitch(which is a symptom of being a woman ;)) those look like good points to me.
I think I am going to make a t-shirt containing all of their comments and wear it to the next family get together.

Awesome idea. It'll show you're paying attention to them.
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 21:35
:(

Don't worry, you just gave me in idea.
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:35
Don't worry, you just gave me in idea.

Ruffy's having an idea, take cover!
*dives behind a noob*
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:39
Don't worry, you just gave me in idea.

it won't negatively affect my birthday present? right
L-rouge
15-01-2007, 21:43
I'm rather interested in hearing what holidays you "just made up".












So, just me then...
Zarakon
15-01-2007, 21:43
I think I am going to make a t-shirt containing all of their comments and wear it to the next family get together.

This will be awkward.

I demand you make a thread about it afterwards.
Nodinia
15-01-2007, 21:45
I've never looked at myspace, as I presumed it was like "livejournal" - too many teenage girls-which will be ideal when I hit the oul mid-life crisis, admittedly-whinging about crap and comparing "boob" sizes.....
Sumamba Buwhan
15-01-2007, 21:49
I think the next thing your mother in law should get is a tramp stamp.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:50
I'm rather interested in hearing what holidays you "just made up".

they aren't really holidays, more like theme days........for example backwards day, where we do everything in reverse (dinner for breakfast, dessert before the meal, etc.), and 4 letter word day where we don't use any 4 letter words ( the square of 16 letter expression day, where we are unable to use words who possess anything under the portion of letters of the square of 16)

things like that.





This will be awkward.

I demand you make a thread about it afterwards.

I might sell the shirt on Cafe Press, I will link it here when I get it done.
L-rouge
15-01-2007, 21:51
they aren't really holidays, more like theme days........for example backwards day, where we do everything in reverse (dinner for breakfast, dessert before the meal, etc.), and 4 letter word day where we don't use any 4 letter words ( the square of 16 letter expression day, where we are unable to use words who possess anything under the portion of letters of the square of 16)

things like that.

Ah, ok. Weird... and yet strangely interesting...
JuNii
15-01-2007, 21:52
excerpts
I Dunno, it sounds like you're a fun loving person and you make everyday an adventure.

what's wrong with that?

You should give us the links so we can point and laugh at their silliness and engage in an NSG style defense of your character.I agree... Defending Smunkee may be the only reason for me to get on to Myspace...

I really am not sure after reading their blogs if I have any character to defend. Yes, I am weird, and insane, and I can be a bitch.......they aren't exactly making stuff up are they?everyone can be a bitch, weird and insane... so what does that prove? that she's a conformist. :p

cheer up Smunkee, I'll take your character over theirs anyday! :fluffle:

I think I am going to make a t-shirt containing all of their comments and wear it to the next family get together.Use Caf'ePress... then I can buy one to! also have your whole family wear em!
JuNii
15-01-2007, 21:54
they aren't really holidays, more like theme days........for example backwards day, where we do everything in reverse (dinner for breakfast, dessert before the meal, etc.), and 4 letter word day where we don't use any 4 letter words ( the square of 16 letter expression day, where we are unable to use words who possess anything under the portion of letters of the square of 16)

things like that. that sounds like fun days... maybe I should start doing that whenever I babysit my necies and nephews.
Smunkeeville
15-01-2007, 21:54
Ah, ok. Weird... and yet strangely interesting...

you know my kids think it's normal..........

Last year we all spoke in iambic pentameter for an entire weekend once, that was so fun.
L-rouge
15-01-2007, 21:57
you know my kids think it's normal..........

Last year we all spoke in iambic pentameter for an entire weekend once, that was so fun.

And why wouldn't they, it's their mum!
Still, I think it's great. It's much better than doing every day boring stuff and actually makes them think about stuff. That's just great!:D
IL Ruffino
15-01-2007, 21:58
it won't negatively affect my birthday present? right

Not a bit. :)
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:58
you know my kids think it's normal..........

Last year we all spoke in iambic pentameter for an entire weekend once, that was so fun.

Well they were raised with it, of course they think it's normal.

Iambic pentameter FTW.
Sumamba Buwhan
15-01-2007, 21:58
I think the next thing your mother in law should get is a tramp stamp.

oh, and display it at a wierd angle on her myspace page
Free Soviets
15-01-2007, 21:59
I've never looked at myspace, as I presumed it was like "livejournal"

less "my day was soooo awful", more one-liners and photoshopped humor
Ifreann
15-01-2007, 21:59
oh, and display it at a wierd angle on her myspace page

Yes, it's just not a real tramp stamp till you camwhore it on myspace.
Sumamba Buwhan
15-01-2007, 22:06
Yes, it's just not a real tramp stamp till you camwhore it on myspace.


Indeed.
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 07:00
well, I was going to make the T-shirt, and then decided that it was probably a pretty manipulative and immature thing to do.......and that it wasn't really bothering me that she had a myspace, and what was bothering me is that I wanted to do something but was letting other people (people I don't even like) make up arbitrary rules that say "you shouldn't" so I talked to hubby about it, and he was like "what are you asking me for?"

so I dyed my hair pink.

:D

It's nearly midnight and I just got done, and everyone in the house is asleep. I wonder what they will think at the breakfast table tomorrow, since I didn't mention this idea to them at all.

Am I weird? absolutely.
IL Ruffino
17-01-2007, 07:02
well, I was going to make the T-shirt, and then decided that it was probably a pretty manipulative and immature thing to do.......and that it wasn't really bothering me that she had a myspace, and what was bothering me is that I wanted to do something but was letting other people (people I don't even like) make up arbitrary rules that say "you shouldn't" so I talked to hubby about it, and he was like "what are you asking me for?"

so I dyed my hair pink.

:D

It's nearly midnight and I just got done, and everyone in the house is asleep. I wonder what they will think at the breakfast table tomorrow, since I didn't mention this idea to them at all.

Am I weird? absolutely.

:eek:!!

TG me a pic!

*humps*
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 07:08
:eek:!!

TG me a pic!

*humps*

you are going to have to wait for me to get out and get batteries for my camera..... but it's similar to this color........

http://www.dream-gate.co.uk/assetts/images/manic_hair_dye_swatch/Cotton_Candy_pink_hair.jpg
IL Ruffino
17-01-2007, 07:11
you are going to have to wait for me to get out and get batteries for my camera..... but it's similar to this color........

http://www.dream-gate.co.uk/assetts/images/manic_hair_dye_swatch/Cotton_Candy_pink_hair.jpg

I shall call you Lola.

Did you use Manic, or something else like that colour?
Harlesburg
17-01-2007, 09:39
and that just seems wrong to me, I went to check it out and all of hubby's aunts have them too, so does his Grandma :eek: glitter letters and all.

I bring this up because I am disturbed that it disturbs me.

I know that a lot of you would probably be shocked, disturbed, or otherwise weirded out to find out that I am in a band. I know that I get a lot of :eek: in real life when people find out. It's funny to me that people assume certain things based on arbitrary rules that make them comfortable.

I, alas, have fallen victim as well, since although I really miss my pink hair, I am not going to dye it again, because I feel like it wouldn't "be right" (whatever that means) for me to have pink hair now.

So, what do you guys think? are there certain things that you can be 'too old' to do? what other arbitrary rules are there? are they arbitrary?

:confused:
You are completly right Smunkee darling.
Learn to embrace your innner bigot.
Wilgrove
17-01-2007, 09:57
Smunk, it's time for the cynical and non-trusting friend to give you a piece of advice. Anyone who bitches and complain about a person behind that person back is gutless. I mean comon, half the fun of insulting someone is saying it to their faces. I think what you should do is just be brutally honest with her, and do it at a family function, like umm *looks at Calender* Mother's Day! Do it like this.

"Hey Mrs. (her last name), can we talk? Look I've noticed some of the shit you put on your little "blog" (be sure to do the quotation mark with your fingers) on MySpace, and I just want to say that a 4th grader can come up with better insults than you. Oh and thank you for consulting a lawyer about my (be sure to empathize what I bold) children. You see, because I am "insane" and "eccentric" I just cannot comprehend the responsibility of Motherhood. Nevermind the fact that my children came out of my vagina. However I think I am doing pretty damn well. So here's the deal, you can just march your wrinkled ass back to the kitchen and be the stereotypical grandmother that we see in "Leave it to Beaver" and me and my husband will worry about how to raise our children."

I love my angry rants sometimes.

*drinks some Brandy*
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 15:28
I shall call you Lola.

Did you use Manic, or something else like that colour?

something else like it, that's pretty much the end result.

the girls screamed when they showed up in the dining room for breakfast

the 5 year old said "you look like a real rock star now!"

the 3 year old said "I have a My Little Pony with hair like that"


and hubby said "that's cute, how long until it washes out?"

:p
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 15:29
is she hot?
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 15:36
is she hot?

my mother in law? she looks like a 50 year old Barbie doll.
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 15:37
my mother in law? she looks like a 50 year old Barbie doll.

Well, I look like a 50 year old GI Joe...
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 15:40
Well, I look like a 50 year old GI Joe...

you would probably like her, she is very Stepford.
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 15:48
you would probably like her, she is very Stepford.

Not into Stepford, sorry...
Whereyouthinkyougoing
17-01-2007, 16:00
I just read the thread - and wow, what a bitch! Does she know you know about her page?

And yay for the pink hair!
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 16:03
I just read the thread - and wow, what a bitch! Does she know you know about her page?
I may have sent a link to it to my husband, who was on the phone with her for a while, and then today I went back to look and her blog was deleted.

And yay for the pink hair!
:D *sings*

"I feel pretty, oh, so pretty"
Whereyouthinkyougoing
17-01-2007, 16:05
I may have sent a link to it to my husband, who was on the phone with her for a while, and then today I went back to look and her blog was deleted.
ORLY?

Bitch chickened out, eh?

Ha, at least she'll have been all embarrassed.
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 16:07
ORLY?

Bitch chickened out, eh?

Ha, at least she'll have been all embarrassed.

I really want to know what he said to her, but he won't tell me. He said "you don't worry about it, it's taken care of"

I really want to know what that means.
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 16:10
I really want to know what he said to her, but he won't tell me. He said "you don't worry about it, it's taken care of"

I really want to know what that means.

It means "you don't worry about it, it's taken care of"
Whereyouthinkyougoing
17-01-2007, 16:11
I really want to know what he said to her, but he won't tell me. He said "you don't worry about it, it's taken care of"

I really want to know what that means.
:eek:

In the movies that usually means he had her killed.


I'm just saying.

<.<

>.>
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 16:15
:eek:

In the movies that usually means he had her killed.


I'm just saying.

<.<

>.>

she's alive.....she called me this morning and told me she was sorry for being a bitch.

she also said that she thinks I am a good mom, and that she may not always understand me but, since my husband seems to that it's probably none of her business.
Whereyouthinkyougoing
17-01-2007, 16:36
she's alive.....she called me this morning and told me she was sorry for being a bitch.

she also said that she thinks I am a good mom, and that she may not always understand me but, since my husband seems to that it's probably none of her business.

Hmmm, shall we give her the benefit of the doubt?

Alright. Good on her to apologize. :)
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 16:38
Hmmm, shall we give her the benefit of the doubt?

Alright. Good on her to apologize. :)

I'd love to be there for Thanksgiving dinner... :D
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 16:44
I'd love to be there for Thanksgiving dinner... :D

we don't go to her house for Thanksgiving, because she refuses to cook food we can eat. ;)

we will be there for Sunday lunch though.........and I didn't mention my pink hair.
Eve Online
17-01-2007, 17:01
we don't go to her house for Thanksgiving, because she refuses to cook food we can eat. ;)

we will be there for Sunday lunch though.........and I didn't mention my pink hair.

??? is she serving a turkey made of Spam?
Smunkeeville
17-01-2007, 18:08
I posted a pic........a very closeup pic........of my hair on my blog.