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So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?

Now, I'm by no means a lady, but since you got no other replies, I'll shoot first:)
Sorry, but your friend might just put you in many awkward situations with that suggestion... Its a sissy way of dealing with rejection, methinks.

I mean, if you ask in person you show the girl you're confident and mature, but with a business card she'll just note you're afraid of rejection... which is a legitimite fear as rejection hurts like hell, but be a man and suck it up. The card idea is basicly a paper form of cheesy pickup-lines... go get them tiger:)

(and on another note, I had the same idea a few years back, when I was hating women and suck, I wanted to print a card with my name, Adam, which said "The first mr. luv on earth")

I more or less agree with you, but I thought it might be interesting at least. I'm not sure.

Usually I just prefer to walk up and say "Hi" and do my best to engage in conversation, but I thought the business card might add a cute touch. Maybe it would be a good idea to give her the card after establishing mutual interest?

I more or less agree with you, but I thought it might be interesting at least. I'm not sure.

Usually I just prefer to walk up and say "Hi" and do my best to engage in conversation, but I thought the business card might add a cute touch. Maybe it would be a good idea to give her the card after establishing mutual interest?

That is a much better idea:) Also, for humor, tell her that you insist on having sex before marriage, as you won't buy the pig in the sack...:D

I think a card would be good to come back too, like if I went to the bathroom or the trash can and came back to find it on my table or by my drink, that'd be nice... but to have a guy come up, hand it to me, and then leave? No. That's a bit rediculous. Maybe if he came up, we shared a bit of a conversation over a drink in a club, and then the card came out as we were separating would be a better way of leaving it then 'I'll see you later' or asking me for my number... the card is an opening, giving the guy the opportunity to be vulnerable and revealing his info first. That is, if the card has his number or email address or whatever contact info is most useful.

Married lady's opinion, hope it helps.

I think a card would be good to come back too, like if I went to the bathroom or the trash can and came back to find it on my table or by my drink, that'd be nice... but to have a guy come up, hand it to me, and then leave? No. That's a bit rediculous. Maybe if he came up, we shared a bit of a conversation over a drink in a club, and then the card came out as we were separating would be a better way of leaving it then 'I'll see you later' or asking me for my number... the card is an opening, giving the guy the opportunity to be vulnerable and revealing his info first. That is, if the card has his number or email address or whatever contact info is most useful.

Married lady's opinion, hope it helps.

Also a good point. That'd be better than carrying a pen around to write on a napkin or something. It'd have my phone number and an email address.


My only real concern with this would be getting a girl who thinks it would be funny to scan my phone number online. I'd hate to have to get a new phone

Go for honesty.

"Hello, I'm Bookislavia and I hope to get into your pants"


I've heard this actually works sometimes.

Go for honesty.

"Hello, I'm Bookislavia and I hope to get into your pants"


I've heard this actually works sometimes.

That's not actually what I'm after though. I've had my fill of sex for awhile, to be totally honest.

That's not actually what I'm after though. I've had my fill of sex for awhile, to be totally honest.

This doesn't stop my post count from going up.

This doesn't stop my post count from going up.

Yes it does! ZOMG!

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?


Laugh, and then throw it away.
Seriously, a card? How much more impersonal can you get?
My first thought would be, well, he must give that card out a lot, otherwise what's the point in having it in the first place?

Laugh, and then throw it away.
Seriously, a card? How much more impersonal can you get?
My first thought would be, well, he must give that card out a lot, otherwise what's the point in having it in the first place?

Also a good point!

I'm thinking it would be only good for after initial contact.

Also a good point!

I'm thinking it would be only good for after initial contact.

I wouldn't advise it.
Imagine you managed to impress a girl, make her laugh, make her think you might be a nice guy she'd like to meet again... and then you hand her a card that clearly says "You're just the same as the other 100 women I gave that to". How do you think she'd react?

I wouldn't advise it.
Imagine you managed to impress a girl, make her laugh, make her think you might be a nice guy she'd like to meet again... and then you hand her a card that clearly says "You're just the same as the other 100 women I gave that to". How do you think she'd react?

hmm, thinking she'd be a bit disappointed and not at all likely to call. Sounds like it would be a bad idea much more often than it'd ever help.

I wouldn't advise it.
Imagine you managed to impress a girl, make her laugh, make her think you might be a nice guy she'd like to meet again... and then you hand her a card that clearly says "You're just the same as the other 100 women I gave that to". How do you think she'd react?

Good point :)

Cards for one night stands might be a good idea though... "I'm free for sex tonight, but I prefer if you leave before dawn, give me a ring if interested. -Jeff." :D

Good point :)

Cards for one night stands might be a good idea though... "I'm free for sex tonight, but I prefer if you leave before dawn, give me a ring if interested. -Jeff." :D

Oy! Not quite that sexy, otherwise it'd work, lol.

I'm not real interested in one-night stands anyway. Well! Back to just walking up and saying hi!

Sorry to say this, but anyone that has prepared a number of cards to distribute to ladies he is interested in would come accross as very desperate to me. thats trying too hard and wouldn't make me feel too special ("has he printed and given 50, 100 or 200 of these cards to other girls")

you indicate that you're looking for something more long term and meaningful then you need to take the time to converse and get to know a girl/lady.

Oy! Not quite that sexy, otherwise it'd work, lol.

I'm not real interested in one-night stands anyway. Well! Back to just walking up and saying hi!

Just remember the tip for when you are then;)

Sorry to say this, but anyone that has prepared a number of cards to distribute to ladies he is interested in would come accross as very desperate to me. thats trying too hard and wouldn't make me feel too special ("has he printed and given 50, 100 or 200 of these cards to other girls")

you indicate that you're looking for something more long term and meaningful then you need to take the time to converse and get to know a girl/lady.

Nah that's the kind of feed back I'm looking for.

I'm just kind of at a loss for meeting girls, for these reasons:

1. I don't want to ask a girl from class, because I feel like I'm trapping her in some way. She has to say something, and I don't want her to feel like she's got to say yes because we've got a class together and she doesn't want to be awkward every day.

2. I don't go out drinking, not only can I not afford it but I suffer from the assumption that I'd rather not meet a girl in a bar.

3. My group of friends is very small and close-knit. No one knows any girls, not even the girls within the group. (Being only one, who is dating someone....within the group.)

So...just not much good at this single-scene thing.

A card with "Jeff thinks you're a cutie"????????
If you are still in grade school this might work or even (at a push) recent grad. You say you've had your fill of sex but now want something "more". That's lovely but how about you start how you mean to go on? Saying 'you're a cutie' just doesn't do it longterm. I would chuck it in a bin & though I am a cutie would hate :mad: to be treated like a 12 year old.

Nah that's the kind of feed back I'm looking for.

I'm just kind of at a loss for meeting girls, for these reasons:

1. I don't want to ask a girl from class, because I feel like I'm trapping her in some way. She has to say something, and I don't want her to feel like she's got to say yes because we've got a class together and she doesn't want to be awkward every day.

2. I don't go out drinking, not only can I not afford it but I suffer from the assumption that I'd rather not meet a girl in a bar.

3. My group of friends is very small and close-knit. No one knows any girls, not even the girls within the group. (Being only one, who is dating someone....within the group.)

So...just not much good at this single-scene thing.

Try the internet, honey. Worked for me. :)

Nah that's the kind of feed back I'm looking for.

I'm just kind of at a loss for meeting girls, for these reasons:

1. I don't want to ask a girl from class, because I feel like I'm trapping her in some way. She has to say something, and I don't want her to feel like she's got to say yes because we've got a class together and she doesn't want to be awkward every day.

2. I don't go out drinking, not only can I not afford it but I suffer from the assumption that I'd rather not meet a girl in a bar.

3. My group of friends is very small and close-knit. No one knows any girls, not even the girls within the group. (Being only one, who is dating someone....within the group.)

So...just not much good at this single-scene thing.


In this case, get a good hobby where you can meet girls(hint: avoid star-trek gatherings) like drawing or maybe take some dance courses... lots of lovely ladies to be met there, plus you get to be the one to dance with them! (there's often a shortage of males at dancecourses)

Try the internet, honey. Worked for me. :)

The internet is not working so hot for me lately. BAD TUBES!

In this case, get a good hobby where you can meet girls(hint: avoid star-trek gatherings) like drawing or maybe take some dance courses... lots of lovely ladies to be met there, plus you get to be the one to dance with them! (there's often a shortage of males at dancecourses)

We ARE going...umm...some sort of like, Renaissance Dancing Class? It's those weird group dances you always see in movies taking place any time 1600 or before, you know? Like..square dancing almost.

Might be someone there!

The internet is not working so hot for me lately. BAD TUBES!

Well, get it working again, then ;)

Well, get it working again, then ;)

I'm a little 'net gun-shy, I met my ex online, and well...she stole my life, and thousands of dollars.

Were you suggesting an actual dating site though? Those cost money, heh.

We ARE going...umm...some sort of like, Renaissance Dancing Class? It's those weird group dances you always see in movies taking place any time 1600 or before, you know? Like..square dancing almost.

Might be someone there!

Yup, girls love those fancy dresses. Too bad we men ain't too hot in tights and stay-ups;) Otherwise Jazz, Salsa and Rumba might work, for that lovely latino goodness:)

Yup, girls love those fancy dresses. Too bad we men ain't too hot in tights and stay-ups;) Otherwise Jazz, Salsa and Rumba might work, for that lovely latino goodness:)

I loves me some Swing, I had a date teach me some one night and I picked it up pretty quickly, so I may have some hidden aptitude for dancing.

edit: So, something I've always wondered and is barely related to this topic: How does one put on cologne effectively? If I apply it under my clothes I'm almost certain it's undetectable, but I don't want to be overpowering because it's not classy.

I'm a little 'net gun-shy, I met my ex online, and well...she stole my life, and thousands of dollars.

Were you suggesting an actual dating site though? Those cost money, heh.

Sorry to hear that... I've had a rather unfortunate relationship myself that started online.
But I found a really good one now :)
Yep, dating sites. There are free ones, too. Try www.flirtbox.com

I loves me some Swing, I had a date teach me some one night and I picked it up pretty quickly, so I may have some hidden aptitude for dancing.

Then USE it boy, I've seen ugly motherfuckers hit up hot chicks just cause they dance like gods and I know girls who say that there's nothing sexier than a guy who can dance well.

Then USE it boy, I've seen ugly motherfuckers hit up hot chicks just cause they dance like gods and I know girls who say that there's nothing sexier than a guy who can dance well.

I don't remember any of it, she didn't give me instruction really, she'd stop to explain some stuff and we'd just add it to what she had already shown me. I was having such a good time I didn't even pay attention, lol.

I don't remember any of it, she didn't give me instruction really, she'd stop to explain some stuff and we'd just add it to what she had already shown me. I was having such a good time I didn't even pay attention, lol.

And that's why you should take classes. Not because you can't dance(which you obvioulsy can) but to learn different dances. To my knowledge, salsa is a great dance, it's sexy, ladies love it, fairly easy to get the basics down and if you dance with a not-so-hot girl you can always visualize Salma Hayek in a G-string and keep goin':D

How does one put on cologne effectively?

Hold it about six inches from your armpit (with your shirt on) and do one quick, small spray. Repeat with the other 'pit.

Hold it about six inches from your armpit (with your shirt on) and do one quick, small spray. Repeat with the other 'pit.

Ah! I shall try this!

And that's why you should take classes. Not because you can't dance(which you obvioulsy can) but to learn different dances. To my knowledge, salsa is a great dance, it's sexy, ladies love it, fairly easy to get the basics down and if you dance with a not-so-hot girl you can always visualize Salma Hayek in a G-string and keep goin':D

I dunno what dances our college offers, I will look into this though. It'll also contribute to my campaign of getting into shape!

In this case, get a good hobby where you can meet girls(hint: avoid star-trek gatherings) like drawing or maybe take some dance courses... lots of lovely ladies to be met there, plus you get to be the one to dance with them! (there's often a shortage of males at dancecourses)

This is a very good idea.
Gigs as well, at least then you have something to discuss (you must have some similarities in music taste and you can ask about her tastes).

its not normally a good idea to have a relationship with classmates or someone that is in your group of friends normally - but it is a good idea to meet the friends of your classmates and friends of your friends. i met the love of my life through a uni classmate 8 years ago at a NOFX gig (we were the only two in the place that decided it was terrible and moved swifty to the bar and things kicked off from there (conversation)

also excellent advice is not to look for love. the minute you are content and happy with your singleness then all the girls will come flocking. desperation just is not a good vibe.

This is a very good idea.
Gigs as well, at least then you have something to discuss (you must have some similarities in music taste and you can ask about her tastes).

its not normally a good idea to have a relationship with classmates or someone that is in your group of friends normally - but it is a good idea to meet the friends of your classmates and friends of your friends. i met the love of my life through a uni classmate 8 years ago at a NOFX gig (we were the only two in the place that decided it was terrible and moved swifty to the bar and things kicked off from there (conversation)

also excellent advice is not to look for love. the minute you are content and happy with your singleness then all the girls will come flocking. desperation just is not a good vibe.

This is true. (sigh) I always feel like if I don't look though then nothing will happen.

This is true. (sigh) I always feel like if I don't look though then nothing will happen.

Well, there's a difference between looking and being desperate. There's nothing wrong with looking, in my experience. You can be a happy single and still be looking for a relationship.

Well, there's a difference between looking and being desperate. There's nothing wrong with looking, in my experience. You can be a happy single and still be looking for a relationship.

Which I feel I am! I'm just a little girl-crazy, and always have been. I've calmed down and matured in all areas BUT this, it seems to me. I don't think I'll ever stop being girl-crazy. :rolleyes:

Buuut, I think doing some activities I enjoy will help me more than anything else. It's something I enjoy, and if I meet someone nice while doing it, all the better!

This is true. (sigh) I always feel like if I don't look though then nothing will happen.

OK, new way of thinking required.

You're are a confident young person, intelligent and attractive with lots to offer. you're fun to be with. interesting, excellent conversationalist and listener.

you are open to meeting new people. you would like to meet little miss sexy fox friend, but you have all the time in the world to meet her. and this is not your primary objective. so be relaxed. if it happens it happens. go with the flow

you're open, not hunting (looking always but not drooling and panting).

is this clear or do i sound derranged?

OK, new way of thinking required.

You're are a confident young person, intelligent and attractive with lots to offer. you're fun to be with. interesting, excellent conversationalist and listener.

you are open to meeting new people. you would like to meet little miss sexy fox friend, but you have all the time in the world to meet her. and this is not your primary objective. so be relaxed. if it happens it happens. go with the flow

you're open, not hunting (looking always but not drooling and panting).

is this clear or do i sound derranged?

lol nah I know exactly what you mean. Probably when I get bogged down with shit to do this semester I'll calm down a bit, but right now I'm just full of energy. I like meeting new people and have been wanting to since December. I've got this fire under my ass to go out and do stuff suddenly.

Which I feel I am! I'm just a little girl-crazy, and always have been. I've calmed down and matured in all areas BUT this, it seems to me. I don't think I'll ever stop being girl-crazy. :rolleyes:

Buuut, I think doing some activities I enjoy will help me more than anything else. It's something I enjoy, and if I meet someone nice while doing it, all the better!

Hehe... some people never out-grow being girl-crazy, or guy-crazy, or both. Why would you want to stop it?

go out and do stuff then. the more out there doing stuff you are the more likely you are to meet people. but have fun. relax. go wild. you know what i mean.

Hehe... some people never out-grow being girl-crazy, or guy-crazy, or both. Why would you want to stop it?

I wouldn't honestly, it's part of my personality and it's an aspect I rather enjoy. It makes meeting any pretty girl an adventure all of its own!

I think I'll just take the advice of go out and do stuff. I'm just not sure what there is to DO around here.

Oh, there IS Tai-chi on Saturday mornings I think, I really enjoyed that.

And the dancing once a month, that could be cool!

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.


so the scottish accent thing didn't work then. :)

but the dancing sounds good imo, only, where do you dance salsa?
when i go out we normaly dance on electronic music, i've never heard salsa etc on a party. anyway, a girl that can dance good makes her 2 times as sexy, so i guess the same goes for a guy.

personally i would not be interested, i would rather that the guy came over, introduced himself then started up a good old convo, then if he wanted to he could give me the card :D

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?
In all honesty, I would show that card to my friends for a laugh, but I would never consider actually dating the kind of guy who has cards printed up for that purpose.

I'd be slightly flattered, I suppose, but not very. I'd figure that the guy in question had piles of cards printed up and just flung them at any girl who met his bare minimum standard of fuckability on the off chance that he'd get a call or two. So I wouldn't really take it as much of a compliment.

I had some joke business cards made up at one point during college, when I was really playing the party/pub scene. On the back they had my phone and email info, and on the front they had a great big smiley face with the words, "Smile if you want to sleep with me" in cheerful lettering. Always got a laugh (and, therefore, a smile!).

No! :eek:

Hell no!

Holy crap, if you're looking for the most surefire way to tell the girl in question that you're trying to pick up chicks left and right and that she's just a number in a long line of possible targets that evening, then yeah, go for it.

Will you get a date out of it? Hell no!

All it would get from me would be a confused frown and, after realization, a very withering "You gotta be kidding me" look. The card would be torn up and land in the ashtray.

If you have already met someone and talked to her and the evening is over - then you can maybe make an impression by giving her an actual business card (not a pickup one with silly pickup lines on it!!!) instead of scribbling your number on an old grocery bill you dug out of your pocket. But that should be the extent of business card involvement, period.

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?



I'd much prefer it if you walked up to me, started a conversation with me, and THEN, at the end of the conversation, if I seemed interested, you offered me a card with your number.

The gimmick should come after, and if it's NOT goofy like your friend's idea, but simply a calling card (as from bygone days) you WILL make an impression.

(I'm male, btw)

Get a cute pet and carry it with you everywhere. Perhaps a white mouse?
Not so much with the card, tho :p

I more or less agree with you, but I thought it might be interesting at least. I'm not sure.

Usually I just prefer to walk up and say "Hi" and do my best to engage in conversation, but I thought the business card might add a cute touch. Maybe it would be a good idea to give her the card after establishing mutual interest?

Why don't you wear a sock puppet everywhere you go, and talk to the women through your sock puppet? It's just as silly an idea.

Why don't you wear a sock puppet everywhere you go, and talk to the women through your sock puppet? It's just as silly an idea.

i think that would just be weird.

(I'm male, btw)

Get a cute pet and carry it with you everywhere. Perhaps a white mouse?
Not so much with the card, tho :p

try a little dog, some girls are scared of mice. and i know a guy who takes his dog for a walk, accidently when the most popular bar is filled with girls, it wasn't really succesfull though.

No.

No.

No.

Btw, why give your number? I always ask her. If you just give your number, you will have no clue if she is going to call you. If you get hers, at least you will be able to try, and when you want to.

Its beter to find women on Myspace than giving them your card.

Go for honesty.

"Hello, I'm Bookislavia and I hope to get into your pants"


I've heard this actually works sometimes.

Only in the MASH novel. This guy named Ezekiel Marston went around to the girls in high school and said "Me lay, you lay?" Big hit with the ladies. Got the nickname Me Lay Marston.

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?

I would throw it away, a guy who has calling cards is (in my mind) probably handing them out to random girls to see who will call him back.........probably not at all interested in me personally past the fact that I am female.

You could use this whole NSG experience to your advantage and approach women with the question, "What would you think of a guy who presented you with a calling card ...?"

I think calling cards are elegant (but with no silly pick-up line as in the OP), but then I have to be reminded which century it is, so I'm probably not the best person to ask.

Nah that's the kind of feed back I'm looking for.

I'm just kind of at a loss for meeting girls, for these reasons:

1. I don't want to ask a girl from class, because I feel like I'm trapping her in some way. She has to say something, and I don't want her to feel like she's got to say yes because we've got a class together and she doesn't want to be awkward every day.


first of all NO CARDS.

secondly. stop being so stupid. you have girls in your class. START TALKING TO THEM. start talking to EVERYONE in your class. after a while people will, oh i dont know, LIKE YOU. then you can say "hey lets go get some coffee" or "lets get together and study" or "does anyone here like to swing dance?" and not come off as a desperate creep with scary social skills. who knows, someone might invite YOU out instead of waiting for you to ask them.

shit happens when you are friendly.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?

if she's nice she might throw it away. If she's not she might pin it up in a call cabin. and you might receive some very interesting telephone calls.... or give it to a very homely friend of hers

first of all NO CARDS.

secondly. stop being so stupid. you have girls in your class. START TALKING TO THEM. start talking to EVERYONE in your class. after a while people will, oh i dont know, LIKE YOU. then you can say "hey lets go get some coffee" or "lets get together and study" or "does anyone here like to swing dance?" and not come off as a desperate creep with scary social skills. who knows, someone might invite YOU out instead of waiting for you to ask them.

shit happens when you are friendly.

I think Ash is right, talk to the people you know.

Write "Seeking Serious Relationship" on your chest and stand as naked as law allows in a public area.

so the scottish accent thing didn't work then. :)

but the dancing sounds good imo, only, where do you dance salsa?
when i go out we normaly dance on electronic music, i've never heard salsa etc on a party. anyway, a girl that can dance good makes her 2 times as sexy, so i guess the same goes for a guy.

The accent is still in the works, I thought I had it until I watched a movie with real Scottish actors and was like, "Oh shit. I've got nothing at all..."

I imagine you'd go salsa dancing at some sort of community event, similar to the dance I'm going to at the end of this month. It's some sort of ballroom dancing, it's like 3 bucks and they teach you what to do. They apparently do this every month, so I'm looking forward to this.

personally i would not be interested, i would rather that the guy came over, introduced himself then started up a good old convo, then if he wanted to he could give me the card :D

That makes more sense. I was just kinda testing the waters, it seems like most everyone thinks this would be a bad idea. I think I'd rather just find a scrap piece of paper, or ask for hers as someone else mentioned. Of course, it does me no good if I have my pocket notebook with me, then I just look like I'm farming numbers again. Stupid world!

In all honesty, I would show that card to my friends for a laugh, but I would never consider actually dating the kind of guy who has cards printed up for that purpose.

I'd be slightly flattered, I suppose, but not very. I'd figure that the guy in question had piles of cards printed up and just flung them at any girl who met his bare minimum standard of fuckability on the off chance that he'd get a call or two. So I wouldn't really take it as much of a compliment.

Yeah, and I don't want to go around giving women the impression that I'd just take whoever calls, and that definitely seems to be the impression most people are getting from just the idea of doing this.

I had some joke business cards made up at one point during college, when I was really playing the party/pub scene. On the back they had my phone and email info, and on the front they had a great big smiley face with the words, "Smile if you want to sleep with me" in cheerful lettering. Always got a laugh (and, therefore, a smile!).

Kinda funny! I'd try that if I was seriously looking for one night stands, but since that's not really my goal I'll probably pass that for now. Part of my problem is I hate most parties I've been to (Oh, going to one this weekend, totally forgot!).

No! :eek:

Hell no!

Holy crap, if you're looking for the most surefire way to tell the girl in question that you're trying to pick up chicks left and right and that she's just a number in a long line of possible targets that evening, then yeah, go for it.

Will you get a date out of it? Hell no!

All it would get from me would be a confused frown and, after realization, a very withering "You gotta be kidding me" look. The card would be torn up and land in the ashtray.

If you have already met someone and talked to her and the evening is over - then you can maybe make an impression by giving her an actual business card (not a pickup one with silly pickup lines on it!!!) instead of scribbling your number on an old grocery bill you dug out of your pocket. But that should be the extent of business card involvement, period.


Adamant reaction! Seems like this is probably one of the worst ideas I've heard for trying to get out there, I'll definitely avoid it. If I had a serious job I might get some cards, but that's not happening for a bit.

I'd much prefer it if you walked up to me, started a conversation with me, and THEN, at the end of the conversation, if I seemed interested, you offered me a card with your number.

The gimmick should come after, and if it's NOT goofy like your friend's idea, but simply a calling card (as from bygone days) you WILL make an impression.

Ahh, that's a bit better I think. If I wasn't too scared to even consider using any card at this point, this is probably what I would try, heh.

(I'm male, btw)

Get a cute pet and carry it with you everywhere. Perhaps a white mouse?
Not so much with the card, tho :p

Ugh, I hate people who carry animals with them, I wish to not join their ranks.

Why don't you wear a sock puppet everywhere you go, and talk to the women through your sock puppet? It's just as silly an idea.

As creepy as this sounded at first, I am suddenly reminded of a dude who had a sock puppet monkey that was designed to sit on your shoulder. He was decent at making it look like it was "real" so he got a couple of girls talking to him and giggling. I think this was at an amusement park, though, so they might have thought he worked there.

No.

No.

No.

Btw, why give your number? I always ask her. If you just give your number, you will have no clue if she is going to call you. If you get hers, at least you will be able to try, and when you want to.

Its beter to find women on Myspace than giving them your card.

I always feel sleazy asking for phone numbers, I never know why.

I would throw it away, a guy who has calling cards is (in my mind) probably handing them out to random girls to see who will call him back.........probably not at all interested in me personally past the fact that I am female.

Yep. This idea sounds worse every time I hear a girl talk, lol.

You could use this whole NSG experience to your advantage and approach women with the question, "What would you think of a guy who presented you with a calling card ...?"

I think calling cards are elegant (but with no silly pick-up line as in the OP), but then I have to be reminded which century it is, so I'm probably not the best person to ask.

That's not a bad idea at all. Definitely breaks the ice, and gives me a good indication of the type of things she might be into.

first of all NO CARDS.

secondly. stop being so stupid. you have girls in your class. START TALKING TO THEM. start talking to EVERYONE in your class. after a while people will, oh i dont know, LIKE YOU. then you can say "hey lets go get some coffee" or "lets get together and study" or "does anyone here like to swing dance?" and not come off as a desperate creep with scary social skills. who knows, someone might invite YOU out instead of waiting for you to ask them.

shit happens when you are friendly.

I am fairly friendly, but people in Chattanooga, for the most part, don't respond to cheerfulness for some reason. I'm being totally honest, I'm not being all whiny-emo. They've got some weird anti-friendly thing going on, saying hi to people usually gets you a weird look and silence.

Plus, I'm not being that stupid. Given, my campus is largely female (close to 70%) but I suck at approaching people without some sort of context.

if she's nice she might throw it away. If she's not she might pin it up in a call cabin. and you might receive some very interesting telephone calls.... or give it to a very homely friend of hers

Yeah, that was one of the downsides I saw right off the bat.

I think Ash is right, talk to the people you know.

Workin' on that one, hehe.

Write "Seeking Serious Relationship" on your chest and stand as naked as law allows in a public area.

PERFECT!


Phew! All replied!

Thanks for the battery of advice, it should definitely help me in search for a lady Bookislvakia. ;)

I've found hypotheticals to be very helpful.

Laugh, and then throw it away.
Seriously, a card? How much more impersonal can you get?
My first thought would be, well, he must give that card out a lot, otherwise what's the point in having it in the first place?

He could have shot it at you with a sling shot from some distance away. At least this way he's handing it to you.:)

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?

Hahahhahhaha hehhehehh hppphwhwoowhhhahhah.

Umm I mean yeah, do that. That sounds like a sure fire way to win over the ladies heart mppppphhhgagggaggggggajhhahhahhahahah!

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"



Oooh, nothing turns me on more than a form-letter type approach that basically says to me, "I just want to get it on with any decent looking woman that would take me up on it, and if you respond, I may or may not actually try to get to know you."

Women generally like at the very least, the illusion that you are specifically interested in THEM.

I am fairly friendly, but people in Chattanooga, for the most part, don't respond to cheerfulness for some reason. I'm being totally honest, I'm not being all whiny-emo. They've got some weird anti-friendly thing going on, saying hi to people usually gets you a weird look and silence.

Plus, I'm not being that stupid. Given, my campus is largely female (close to 70%) but I suck at approaching people without some sort of context.


you dont have to be cheerful. you just have to chat up the people in your class. you know, things like "could this professor be more obscure?" or "did you get the answer to #14, it really stumped me?"

you have context with every girl in every class you take. you have context with every girl you brush up against at your school. you need to relax. this "gotta get a girl" thing is ruining your approach. start being friendly to EVERYONE. sooner or later a girl you think might be nice to date will respond to you in a postive manner. when she does, ask her out. if it goes well, ask her out again. if not, wait for a good response from another girl you might like a date with.

if you cant bring yourself to chat up girls you see almost every day, how are you going to chat up strangers who have no reason to be nice to you at all?

So, I'm in the single category and trying to think of a novel way of introducing myself, or at least just get my name out there.

My friends suggested I make myself some business cards with my info on them and a short phrase.

On the front would say "Hi! Jeff thinks you're a cutie!"
The back would have my phone number and an email address, as well as the message: "Give me a call, we'll get some coffee!"

And a little drawing of me, by my roommate.

The question is, if someone (let's say reasonably attractive, I won't go overboard and claim I'm way attractive or anything) walked up, said "Hi!" and handed you this and walked away, how would you react?
I'd think you're funny, laugh at you, and possibly make crank calls. Or maybe even give your number to a gay friend just for fun.

you dont have to be cheerful. you just have to chat up the people in your class. you know, things like "could this professor be more obscure?" or "did you get the answer to #14, it really stumped me?"

you have context with every girl in every class you take. you have context with every girl you brush up against at your school. you need to relax. this "gotta get a girl" thing is ruining your approach. start being friendly to EVERYONE. sooner or later a girl you think might be nice to date will respond to you in a postive manner. when she does, ask her out. if it goes well, ask her out again. if not, wait for a good response from another girl you might like a date with.

if you cant bring yourself to chat up girls you see almost every day, how are you going to chat up strangers who have no reason to be nice to you at all?

*quotes for veracity*

Students! Harken to these words...you have built in context with your fellow students...use it!

*quotes for veracity*

Students! Harken to these words...you have built in context with your fellow students...use it!

*takes notes*

Phew! All replied!

Thanks for the battery of advice, it should definitely help me in search for a lady Bookislvakia. ;)
Wow, and thank you for actually taking the time to reply to all of us! Most people who post this kind of thread don't bother. :D

As for your difficulty approaching people, I am an introvert by nature so I can totally understand that. The only thing that has worked for me was to simply push myself a little bit each day. I seriously started out by just making myself say SOMETHING to somebody in each of my classes one day. "Good morning" counted. Anything. I just had to start somewhere.

One big step for me was making myself ask the people next to me what their names were. In some cases, I'd been sitting next to the same people in lecture for half a semester, but I didn't know their names. Introducing myself to strangers is something I find hard.

If you feel particularly tense about talking to girls, then part of the problem is probably that you are perceiving them all as Potential Lady Bookislvakia. Don't do that. Perceive them as people. Don't look at every somewhat-cute female as a future girlfriend. Just interact with them as people. If there is natural chemistry between you, it will show up on its own.

*quotes for veracity*

Students! Harken to these words...you have built in context with your fellow students...use it!
Who would've thought. We have things in common with our contemporaries. :eek: :p

Pretty much established this is a bad idea. Let's let my shame die, kk?

Pretty much established this is a bad idea. Let's let my shame die, kk?

Nevar! Let the word ring out across the land, Bookislvakia is teh phail!

Pretty much established this is a bad idea. Let's let my shame die, kk?
Only if you promise to give us regular updates on your attempts to find a lady. Not that we're voyeurs or anything, we're just...y'know...interested. Yeah. Interested.

Sorry if this has been said but...
Start with a joke... I know that I am a sucker for jokes.. And most women enjoy them too...

Write "Seeking Serious Relationship" on your chest and stand as naked as law allows in a public area.

Then we can take his pic, and post it on the Internet.

Seriously, whatever happened to just introducing yourself and talking a bit?

Finding activities you like to do with a group of people, and do those activities? You're bound to run into someone who may share your interests, and there's a plausible reason to talk to them and be around them.

Plus, you'll be enjoying yourself already, and that will relax you.

Then we can take his pic, and post it on the Internet.

Seriously, whatever happened to just introducing yourself and talking a bit?

Finding activities you like to do with a group of people, and do those activities? You're bound to run into someone who may share your interests, and there's a plausible reason to talk to them and be around them.

Plus, you'll be enjoying yourself already, and that will relax you.

i think this might be the best advice in the thread so far (of course i don't remember all of it)

Only if you promise to give us regular updates on your attempts to find a lady. Not that we're voyeurs or anything, we're just...y'know...interested. Yeah. Interested.

Today's tactics involved leaving 3x5 notecards with poetry on message boards with an anonymous email.

Just to see what happens.

Then we can take his pic, and post it on the Internet.

Seriously, whatever happened to just introducing yourself and talking a bit?

Finding activities you like to do with a group of people, and do those activities? You're bound to run into someone who may share your interests, and there's a plausible reason to talk to them and be around them.

Plus, you'll be enjoying yourself already, and that will relax you.

Actually used this tactic today and was totally pwned by a home-schooled kid walking up and just taking the conversation away from me. He needs to be socialized!

Actually used this tactic today and was totally pwned by a home-schooled kid walking up and just taking the conversation away from me. He needs to be socialized!

Well, you have my sympathies. I was in Cleveland, TN over Christmas...

Actually used this tactic today and was totally pwned by a home-schooled kid walking up and just taking the conversation away from me. He needs to be socialized!

Hehehe....owned.

Actually used this tactic today and was totally pwned by a home-schooled kid walking up and just taking the conversation away from me. He needs to be socialized!

I guess it just wasn't your day, eh?

just No

I know you've gotten several responses to this effect already, but if a guy came up to me, handed me one of those cards then walked away, I would probably just get a good laugh out of it. If the guy was still in the vicinity and I thought he was cute, I might go up to him and start a conversation. Otherwise I'd just ditch the card.

As to how to attract women... just be a nice, friendly kinda guy. Talk to the people in your classes; ask them about that question on the problem set or commiserate over the excruciatingly difficult exam. If you live in the dorms, ask the person at your table in the dining hall how their day went or strike up a conversation about how awful the meal of the day is. Once you get to know someone a bit, it won't seem nearly as daunting to ask someone out for coffee or dessert or something.