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How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

heh, just around my parents, I am tired of them. The good thing is though, since I get it all out at home, out in the world I am very calm and don't lose it.

I think I have a temper. I get very angry very easily.

But, I've been told that I'm not as bad as I think I am.

So, whom do I trust?

I used to have a pretty short fuse, but through prayer and meditation have become more calm and patient with others, however, this weekend I am pretty snippy because I am in a lot of pain......and carrying on like normal (because I am stupid)

heh, just around my parents, I am tired of them. The good thing is though, since I get it all out at home, out in the world I am very calm and don't lose it.

Yeah....that's my problem...while I can keep myself calm in public, I tend to become irritable and let it all out at home, but nobody here actually deserves it.

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

all the time I have learnt however that I look extremely stupid so I stick to completely crushing there arguments and ridiculing them for idiocy

NSG is my anger management

assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle

:eek: *waits for story*

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

I usually lose mine at the worst times like when gypsies wanted to move into Northampton I passed some rally with people shouting things like: “they will come and sell drugs to our children” and “I hope the floods come and drown them all” (it was planned to be built near a river)

So what I did was calmly shout “replace the word Gypsy with Jew and what would you call yourself?” luckily I managed to knock them all into shock so I could escape before they hung me from the nearest tree:D

I have a temper, but it's very cold and very controlled, if also quite savage and bloodthirsty at times.

It almost never gets me to do things without thinking.

Depends..

There are days where I go insane, others where I can just shrug it off.

I have a fuse the length of a bee's dick.
I don't get violent though, i just swear even more than usual.

:eek: *waits for story*

Ehh...I suppose that makes it sound worse than it was, I wasn't really assaulted as such, although it could possibly be construed as such according to the law. A lady got upset waiting for someone to come and fix a problem...nobody was coming to give me support and I don't have supervisor rights to fix problems like that, so I had to wait for someone who did to come fix it up. I can't remember what the exact problem was now since it was well over a year ago. Anyway, she got upset and smashed the sauce bottle on the counter. I didn't suffer any injury, a couple of splatters of sauce and some glass shards is all. She then ran off and left her trolley full of groceries behind.

I usually lose mine at the worst times like when gypsies wanted to move into Northampton I passed some rally with people shouting things like: “they will come and sell drugs to our children” and “I hope the floods come and drown them all” (it was planned to be built near a river)

So what I did was calmly shout “replace the word Gypsy with Jew and what would you call yourself?” luckily I managed to knock them all into shock so I could escape before they hung me from the nearest tree:D

Oooh, testy. I approve of that one. Hopefully it made a few of them think. :)

I have a temper, but it's very cold and very controlled, if also quite savage and bloodthirsty at times.


How do you mean? You feel like initiating violence? I'll admit, I do get that, but only when extremely worked up.

I get angry, but only show it if someone really pushes my buttons when I'm pished.

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

Have you been looking for another job? Sounds like you need one. I don't think I could put up with that kind of abuse. If it's all from customers, you need to talk to your employer. No one has the right to treat anybody that way.

I have a fuse the length of a bee's dick.

do bee's have penises :confused: (and by the size of there bodies I expect a bees penis to be comparatively enormous )

SNIP

she clearly wants you :D

Oooh, testy. I approve of that one. Hopefully it made a few of them think. :)

well it made my mum love me most (my brother was at the rally)

Of course that love was soon lost…

I'm pretty good at keeping my temper, it usually takes a lot before I lose it.

If people swear at me & abuse me at work, I just tell them that I won't continue to speak to them if they carry on. If they do it again I tell them I'm hanging up & do so. Face to face it's more difficult.

If people swear at me & abuse me at work, I just tell them that I won't continue to speak to them if they carry on. If they do it again I tell them I'm hanging up & do so. Face to face it's more difficult.

you was abused over the phone *imagines*

Yeah....that's my problem...while I can keep myself calm in public, I tend to become irritable and let it all out at home, but nobody here actually deserves it.
Same. I usually snap at my parents for nothing if I'm in a bad mood from day at school/work/out in general, which is very often. Human stupidity never ceases to amaze me sometimes.

I'll admit, I do get that, but only when extremely worked up.

It's bigots who do it - especially self-righteous religious homophobes who just won't listen to reason, ever.

Sometimes I get scared at how vicious my mental response to that can be. Most of the time it isn't bloodthirsty, but it comes too close for comfort.

I'm too much of a softie to ever think of actually personally harming anybody, though, even when I'm really furious. And I think that's a good thing.

I rarely lose my temper.

I used to be a complete psycho, having a go at anyone who would criticise me.

But for some reason I've mellowed right out. Most of mates have said, at one time or another, that I'm probably the most laid back person they know.

I'm also pretty certain I get ignored by most on this forum, so that alone is a good lesson in not getting annoyed.

Have you been looking for another job? Sounds like you need one. I don't think I could put up with that kind of abuse. If it's all from customers, you need to talk to your employer. No one has the right to treat anybody that way.

Yeah, now that i'm done with uni, I have been (and for a while before that, but nothing came up). I don't plan to leave until I can get something else lined up though, naturally.

The manager can't really do anything. It's a big chain supermarket and this is all recognised as part of customer service. ;) Everyone who works there gets the same sort of treatment to some degree or another so it's not like i'm alone or special.

she clearly wants you :D

Ew. I don't really remember what she looked like, but she was old.

well it made my mum love me most (my brother was at the rally)

Of course that love was soon lost…

Heheh. Inter-family political disagreements are amusing. :p

I'm pretty good at keeping my temper, it usually takes a lot before I lose it.

If people swear at me & abuse me at work, I just tell them that I won't continue to speak to them if they carry on. If they do it again I tell them I'm hanging up & do so. Face to face it's more difficult.

That'd be awesome. I suppose I could say "if you continue treating me like this, i'll call my supervisor" except half of my supervisors are high-school aged girls and younger than me....so that isn't really going to help.

Same. I usually snap at my parents for nothing if I'm in a bad mood from day at school/work/out in general, which is very often. Human stupidity never ceases to amaze me sometimes.

I think i'm contemplating becoming a hermit, myself...

It's bigots who do it - especially self-righteous religious homophobes who just won't listen to reason, ever.

Sometimes I get scared at how vicious my mental response to that can be. Most of the time it isn't bloodthirsty, but it comes too close for comfort.

I'm too much of a softie to ever think of actually personally harming anybody, though, even when I'm really furious. And I think that's a good thing.

I'm the same, then. I don't know that i've ever actually injured someone out of anger...in self defence, a couple of times when I was in high school, and only once after that (and none of these incidents were serious). However, i've never actually been so annoyed by something that i've descended to the level of using violence as an answer to it. I'll agree that it's a good thing.

But occasionally...I have really, really wanted to.

It's really hard to piss me off these days. After my year in Iraq everything else kinda had the volume turned down a bit.

I rarely lose my temper.

I used to be a complete psycho, having a go at anyone who would criticise me.

But for some reason I've mellowed right out. Most of mates have said, at one time or another, that I'm probably the most laid back person they know.

I'm also pretty certain I get ignored by most on this forum, so that alone is a good lesson in not getting annoyed.
I listen to you on this forum, because I find you to be quite the reasonable person.

Anyway, you pretty much laid out how I used to be as well. I still can occasionally fly off the handle at times, all part of my emotional immaturity problems I'm still working through, but on the whole, I'm a damned sight more laid back than I used to be.

I used to be rather short-tempered as a kid. As in, shouting at teachers when feeling treated unjustly, or even shouting at people in general for interrupting me. Good thing I've grown up since that. Nowadays I shrug off almost everything. Except when I'm in a sufficiently bad mood anyway...

I'm also pretty certain I get ignored by most on this forum, so that alone is a good lesson in not getting annoyed.

Absolutely not. You're well and truly part of the old-timers club. :)

I'm mellow. I'm pretty sure people already know what gets me, but not much does.

I generally can take alot if it is directed at me.

When it is directed at a friend or coworker, then it is on. I've called the cops on a drunk before. She was serving him a drink, he tried to cop a feel, so she had me cut him off. He threatened her, so I told him he was to leave and not come back, he refused, I called the cops. Sadly, that wasn't even snapping...that was just my protective side coming out.

Either way, if you get me to the point of snapping, it is never pretty.

Absolutely not. You're well and truly part of the old-timers club. :)

Yeah, but that doesn't mean I don't get ignored...

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p


Yah. I have a really bad temper. So bad I had to start working for myself.

I do recognize that my behaviour is bad however.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean I don't get ignored...

I, for one, tend to enjoy your posts.

I don't believe any of you, but thanks anyway :)

I'm calm for the most part. Though certain situations make me very uneasy and anergy.

too calm, my friends always keep asking me if I'm high or something, not really, maybe its what my brain produce (naturally). I used to be hot tempered all the time when I was younger (probably because of the daily fights and heated debates with other kids) but that all changed at 15. I look at the world differently. Being angry is not really worth it, it’s just waste of energy. I believe, if you show your anger, that’s a second defeat (you lose to an argument or something and you also lose your temper-a two time loser) but I really enjoy making other people lose their temper and watch how they become irrational.

I have a fairly hot temper, but I don't tend to stay angry long. Generally, if someone really pisses me off, I simply excuse myself for thirty seconds, punch the nearest object that will neither be damaged by punching nor damage me, and promptly calm down completely.

I actually wish I were better at staying angry, oddly enough; it might help me be less of a doormat.

I have a crappy temper. The only times I lose my temper is if someone cheats at a game of some sort. I can take insults or stuff no problem, but if you steal from the bank in monopoly...:mad: Overall I'm pretty mellow though.

you was abused over the phone *imagines*

Yeah, someone said to me "You just don't get it do you, you fucking idiot."

The conversation ended pretty soon after that.

Hmm, a lot calmer than I was. And people tend to ask me in the mornings whether I'm stoned or not. Or drunk. I get that a lot at school.

Uh.

A lot more, but uh, I mostly take it out at home, especially on my little sister. But when one wakes you up by running through the house and smashing the doors closed I think that person deserves it a wee bit.

Normaly I'm quite calm. But I can get quite angry quite quckly.

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

I haven't lost my temper for the past 2,5 years. I'm kind of apathetic so I don't care about anything anymore.

Yeah, but that doesn't mean I don't get ignored...

Lies! Your age and postcount both command respect and attention! ;)

...at least, that's what I tell myself when i'm in an "everyone hates me" mood anyway. :p

Lies! Your age and postcount both command respect and attention! ;)

...at least, that's what I tell myself when i'm in an "everyone hates me" mood anyway. :p


Hah! so do mine, but I'm like an old school cult favourite or something. Bah! What do those 05/06 nations know really?

had money thrown at my head

you call that abuse? ;)

i can't remember the last time i lost my temper probably against my sister or something, but the last year we kind of ignored eachother.
the only thing i do, or at least that is what people tell me, is being silent all the time and ignoring people. my parents always say i don't talk enought etc. :rolleyes: . and mostly on the phone i sound mad for some reason. and my facial expression is "bored/angry" but that just means i'm relaxed.

Hah! so do mine, but I'm like an old school cult favourite or something. Bah! What do those 05/06 nations know really?

Exactly. But don't worry, they'll come around in time. We're all so awesome that they simply have to, right?

right?

Hah! so do mine, but I'm like an old school cult favourite or something. Bah! What do those 05/06 nations know really?

My original join date was something like March '05, sooo close to the deadline.

you call that abuse? ;)

Coinage, yes, but notes, no. :)

Exactly. But don't worry, they'll come around in time. We're all so awesome that they simply have to, right?

right?

Right!


umm maybe

you call that abuse? ;)

i can't remember the last time i lost my temper probably against my sister or something, but the last year we kind of ignored eachother.
the only thing i do, or at least that is what people tell me, is being silent all the time and ignoring people. my parents always say i don't talk enought etc. :rolleyes: . and mostly on the phone i sound mad for some reason. and my facial expression is "bored/angry" but that just means i'm relaxed.

I ws doing that for a while, then I realised I was bored.

I ws doing that for a while, then I realised I was bored.

hmm that should have said my default facial expression. people constantly think i'm angry (or something like that a little bit less, i don't know the right expression, let's just say: "not happy") for no reason. it gets annoying when they keep on asking me: "what's wrong?" when nothing is.

I have a temper, but it's very cold and very controlled, if also quite savage and bloodthirsty at times.
Bloodthirsty? Ever acted on it?

At any rate, I am calm almost to the point of being schizothymic. I can lose my temper, but very rarely (usually I just keep quiet, wishing I could silence the cause of it is human) - usually it's over issues of authority, and people trying to substitute their judgement for mine (or disagreeing vehemently with me) ; but I do not hold grudges. People simply are not worth it most of the time. So I assume stoic says it all.

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

Sounds an awful lot like my job actually. Except replace tomato sauce bottle with mashed potatoes, and a jalepano. And the money thrown at my head. Never had that happen. In fact, I think I could deal with that. I have also had a coworker attempt to insert tongs into my anus. He failed. Due to the fact that I wear pants (normally). I've never lost my cool at a customer. At all. I can deal with the worst of them with a smile. But I've shredded a couple of coworkers.

I am famed at school for having an almost limitless patience, but there was a point last term, where I was wound up enough that I became angry, and stayed that way for the best part of three days, and the four people that had angered be that much, did not have a fun time in those days. But this hasnt happened before or since and I think that people learned not to mess about with me.

I am famed at school for having an almost limitless patience, but there was a point last term, where I was wound up enough that I became angry, and stayed that way for the best part of three days, and the four people that had angered be that much, did not have a fun time in those days. But this hasnt happened before or since and I think that people learned not to mess about with me.

what did they do to you? and what did you do to them?

I am calm, collected, polite and reasonable, even in the face of relentless stupidity. On the outside, at any rate. I frequently reach the point where I want to flay people alive and boil them in brine, but sadly it would be illegal to do so, and most people aren't worth the punishment, so we hold it in. I've not snapped for quite a long time.

I will bear a grudge, though. Almost indefinitely. But I also remember favours.

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I usually lose mine at the worst times like when gypsies wanted to move into Northampton I passed some rally with people shouting things like: “they will come and sell drugs to our children” and “I hope the floods come and drown them all” (it was planned to be built near a river)

So what I did was calmly shout “replace the word Gypsy with Jew and what would you call yourself?” luckily I managed to knock them all into shock so I could escape before they hung me from the nearest tree:D

Excellent example of how losing your temper can sometimes be good. Bravo!

I never hold grudges. I can't even stay angry at anyone for more than a few minutes. Sometimes, when I think my anger was justified, this annoys me substantially.

Bloodthirsty? Ever acted on it?

No. I don't really believe in that kind of violence, I always maintain self-control, and I'm not really that bloodthirsty.

Usually the only noticeable effect is a temporary loss of my sense of humor, coupled with perhaps a few comments to a nearby friend about how much I fucking hate people like that.

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Does that answer your question?http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/zorn.gif

I'm a typical taurus, if you will :p - veeeery slow to anger but if it happens it can be terrifying.

I do get angry just as much as most people, I guess, but a real "explosion" is very, very rare. In fact, I can remember exactly 3 times in my life when that happened - and I managed to snuff the third one right when it began.
At those times, something clicks in my brain and I just lose it, tunnel vision and blood roaring in my ears and all that. But, um, even then I'm still awfully tame, luckily. :p I just yell (really loudly, though ;p) and fume, really.

In general, I do get angry if someone is being a jerk and I get grumpy quite easily, but I also always stay mostly calm and am often "the voice of reason" that tries to talk the fighting parties back to sanity.

So yeah, that bitch with her "fucking idiot" would have left me speechless and fuming and angry for days, but I wouldn't have exploded at her.

*hugs Kanabia*


Yeah, but that doesn't mean I don't get ignored...
I never thought you were being ignored. :confused: I'm not ignoring you, anyways. :)

I vent my anger quite a bit, or better put, my irritation/fustration. Sometimes I get pushed too far (where one is antagonized routinely and viciously over an extended period of time, this doesnt happen too often) and I go into red mode (which is simply put psychotically angry ie no consideration for the consequences of actions intended to cause maximum damage and mayhem), very rarely happens and a good thing too.

And In Their Hour Of Need
He Sent Forth Unto Them
The Berserker Rage

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

In about two and a half years at my job, i've been verbally abused, had my sexuality questioned, spat on, assaulted with a tomato sauce bottle, slapped, (nearly) urinated on, had money thrown at my head, and had drinks spilt on me deliberately by customers. A lot of the time i'm treated like human excrement. But i've never lost my cool.

Today, though, I came very close. A customer reported me to my supervisor for "backchatting" her after she called me a "fucking idiot".

I zipped up my mouth, but I was positively fuming inside.

Anyway - do you have a temper? Have you ever let fly? Tell us all about it. :p

that fucking sucks man :-S
i worked at mcdonald's for a while and the other staff there were kinda like that to me. largely because i was the only one who actually did any fucking work lol, but still they were dicks. i managed to keep my cool though.

however that was a number of years back. following that i went through a long time of having a violent and very quick temper. very quick indeed. i used to bite my hand as a way of distracting myself from the rage and giving the frustration a way out.

but since i've been on meds for depression i've calmed down a lot. i still get angry at probably too many things, but am a lot better at dealing with it :)

I used to have quite the temper. Quite a violent temper as well. I've hit my sister over the head and made her bleed, thrown gum in a girls hair, caused a friend to start bleeding profusely from the nose and mouth (I can't quite remember how that happened), I've broken lots of stuff, and hit a friend with a ruler. This last one doesn't sound too bad, but the ruler was either wooden and broke, or metal and didn't break. I can't remember which. Either way it caused him to crumple up and drop to the floor.

Despite all this I had a reputation for being really mellow, innocent and chilled out at school. So much so that I also had a reputation for being a stoner and an alky. I'm not sure how those last two were compatible with innocence, but hey. The probably got the stoner and alky bit because I frequently used to come to school, hold my head for the register and then promptly drop my head to table and either sleep, doze or day dream. Ocassionally I might mumble something to someone. I usually had 10 hours of sleep and didn't do drugs or anything, so I have no idea why I was chronically tired all the time.

Actually, I tell a lie... There was this one time when I brought a bottle of whiskey (500ml maybe) into school and offered it round, but drank most of it in the maths classroom at lunch time. Some of the 'cooler' kids were worried about me and talked to a teacher. It was brought up at parent's evening a week or so later, at which I promptly denied all allegations against me and was believed by both my teacher and my mother due to my reputation for innocence. Seriously, I could commit murder at my school and everyone would believe me if I denied it.

But yeah, tempers, don't really lose it anymore. In recent years (last five or so) I've only ever lost my temper with two people - my mum, and a friend. I guess I got angry by these people, because they'd let me down and I'd placed absolute trust in them. My Mum is my Mum and gets absolute trust for all the times she's been there for me. She's only human, so she makes mistakes, but I just find that hard to cope with. Whereas my friend... Imagine being in a foreign country, in a city in which a variety of three different languages are spoken, which you only the know the pleasantries of. He was my lifeline, and I would have been lost in a strange place with no way of communicating without him. I didn't realise how much trusted him until after I left the country. He let me down when he said he would get some books out of the library and translate some passages for a talk we were supposed to giving. It was a week before the talk and I asked if I could see what he had done, even if it wasn't finished yet as we really needed to start the infomation into a talk. He said he hadn't done anything, and I lost my temper and shouted at him. I guess I must have been placing so much trust in him, which he never betrayed, that this one unexpected betrayl of that trust was just too much for me. It's weird how I only get angry at people I trust. Of everyone else, if they do something bad, then it's just what I would expect from such people.

That friend who I lost my temper with is the only person I've ever truly been scared off. As I said I trusted him pretty much absolutely. However, whilst in his home country I must have said something to upset him. I can't remember what it was, all he said was 'You should be careful what you say. You wouldn't like me when I'm angry'. Since he was my lifeline in the country and I placed so much trust in him that this absolutely terrified me. It was just the tone he said it in, the way he corner me all alone to say it to me privately. I was so freaked out that I thought he might have the intention of seriously harming me or even killing me. Which, now in hindsight, is incredibly hilarious,especially as we're such close friends.

So yeah... I've just rambled on about a significant part of my life for no apparent reason to people I hardly know on a web forum. All I can say is 'I hoped you enjoyed reading it'.

edit:Yeah, but that doesn't mean I don't get ignored...Oh yeah, I was going to mention that too. Heh, I feel ignored all the time. No one on this site is familiar with me, respects me or even reads my posts. I feel that all the time. At time like that I just imagine that NSG is good practice for my typing and writing skills. Less than 2 posts per day? Of course no one reconises me. Hah!

You're not ignored. You are recognised. Both of you.

We're watching you.

I'm very calm, I don't remember the last time I lost my temper. The only times I am at all vocal in my annoyance are during activites where I feel my personal performance has been particularly bad e.g. while playing badminton. Only other times seem to be at some computer games, but I'm not sure why. I lashed out a few times when I was younger, but haven't done in several years. I suspect I would be pretty wild if that happened.

I rarely lose my temper, but if I do it can be quite wild. Especially at work-it takes one obnoxious customer to really rile you up on a saturday morning when all the deliveries are coming in. One customer treated me and my friend like personal shoppers, and got really bitchy when we brought her the wrong item-we get treated like slaves, a lot of the time. It's a whole lotta bullshit.

I'm so cool, calm and collected I need to tell everyone on NSG about just how cool, calm and collected I really am.

I'm a typical taurus, if you will :p - veeeery slow to anger but if it happens it can be terrifying.

*snort* I guess that fits me too.


At those times, something clicks in my brain and I just lose it, tunnel vision and blood roaring in my ears and all that.

That happened to me once. I literally saw red. I was somewhat worried i'd burst a capillary in my eye or something, which helped to nullify the anger. :p

So yeah, that bitch with her "fucking idiot" would have left me speechless and fuming and angry for days, but I wouldn't have exploded at her.

*hugs Kanabia*

Eh, what actually happened is that this lady spilt a punnet of strawberries on me and promptly told me it was my fault... and then she bunch of items she bought elsewhere on the conveyor belt on the register. When I tried scanning them she got worked up, said "fucking idiot" (as well as other nasty things) and then I remarked "But...why were they put on the conveyor?"

Which was a stupid move on my part, since I should know my place. Heh.

-snippage- Heh, I feel ignored all the time.

TL;DR.

;) (joking :p)

In real, actual life, with people that I can see, I'm genuinely very chilled out, unless of course they're racists, or too prejudiced one way or another, in which case I get pissed off. I don't engage in physical violence much, the last time I got really involved was when some BNP knob-end or another started on one of my friends basically because his skin is *is shocked* slightly darker than many in York. So I nutted him when he punched my mate, and he ran off, which was nice.

As for accidents, though, I'm very chilled out indeed. When a comrade of mine from college fell over and dislocated her knee, instead of standing around going "OH MY GOD ARGH SHE MIGHT DIE AND SUCH!" I called an ambulance straight away, which was probably a much better solution.



On NSG, though, I can be rather aggressive and extremely rude, basically because it's extremely easy to do with some people who are just blatent idiots when you don't have to actually throw it in their face in real life and see the consequences.

See a great deal of my posts, which are riddled with unnecessary swearing, and general arrogance and rudeness, as well as a fair deal of mocking.

I never hold grudges. I can't even stay angry at anyone for more than a few minutes. Sometimes, when I think my anger was justified, this annoys me substantially.
Same here. I cannot bring myself to hold a grudge - it seems psychologically impossible for me to do so. And like you said, it can be annoying (it is as though I saw no fault in what they did). I have seen how people who always hold grudges tend to become embittered though, so perhaps it's a blessing in disguise.


No. I don't really believe in that kind of violence, I always maintain self-control, and I'm not really that bloodthirsty.

Usually the only noticeable effect is a temporary loss of my sense of humor, coupled with perhaps a few comments to a nearby friend about how much I fucking hate people like that.
Indeed. Giving into force is pointless in the end, however temporarily gratifying it may feel.

On NSG, though, I can be rather aggressive and extremely rude,

Aren't we all? :p

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edit:Oh yeah, I was going to mention that too. Heh, I feel ignored all the time. No one on this site is familiar with me, respects me or even reads my posts. I feel that all the time. At time like that I just imagine that NSG is good practice for my typing and writing skills. Less than 2 posts per day? Of course no one reconises me. Hah!
Man, was it with everybody feeling so ignored? :(

I totally know you and read your posts!

Even though the one I just snipped left me more confused than enlightened. :p

I read everybody's posts. Except trollish jerks I hate. Although, mostly I read those too. :rolleyes:

Aren't we all? :p
I try not to be, unless provoked into it.

edit:Oh yeah, I was going to mention that too. Heh, I feel ignored all the time. No one on this site is familiar with me, respects me or even reads my posts. I feel that all the time. At time like that I just imagine that NSG is good practice for my typing and writing skills. Less than 2 posts per day? Of course no one reconises me. Hah!

I'm still convinced no one knows me on thi site, despite over 1,000 posts. I suppose everyone feels like that? We have a very elitist culture here on NSG. It's fun, hehe.

I try not to be, unless provoked into it.

True, I'm the same I suppose. I try to respect people's views unless they are really that bad-like some trolls on here. I can't understand how people think like that, and it can really piss me off. Otherwise, I'm fine.

I'm still convinced no one knows me on thi site, despite over 1,000 posts. I suppose everyone feels like that? We have a very elitist culture here on NSG. It's fun, hehe.
I felt that way as well, even at 3,000 posts. If you keep it up, eventually people will get to know you. I am on good terms with most people I debate with, even ones I completely disagree with. There are exceptions, of course.

True, I'm the same I suppose. I try to respect people's views unless they are really that bad-like some trolls on here. I can't understand how people think like that, and it can really piss me off. Otherwise, I'm fine.
Trolls are individuals who love to get a rouse of of others - semi-professional shock-jocks if you will. Sometimes it is fun to shock people simply for the sake of it, however immature it may be, but not as a permanent habit.

I manage a call center, and get some very very angry callers on the end of my line.......most are justifiably mad at the sheer stupidity of the reps they talked to in prior calls, but some are insistant on fighting, no matter how friendly you are......just have to remain calm, which makes them even more mad.

I manage a call center, and get some very very angry callers on the end of my line.......most are justifiably mad at the sheer stupidity of the reps they talked to in prior calls, but some are insistant on fighting, no matter how friendly you are......just have to remain calm, which makes them even more mad.
It depends on the approach you use. If you tell a person to stay calm, they will get even more angry, as I have learnt. What I tend to do is simply pretend to empathise, with lines such as "Yes, I can understand, you are perfectly justified in feeling angry" and so on. The person will usually not know how to react, and will cool down if they feel you're siding with them. Once they've calmed down you can handle them.

Aren't we all? :p
WHAT YOU TRYING TO SAY, EH?

THAT I'M NOTHING SPECIAL? :gundge: :gundge: :gundge:

etc. etc.

I'm still convinced no one knows me on thi site, despite over 1,000 posts. I suppose everyone feels like that? We have a very elitist culture here on NSG. It's fun, hehe.
But you're Arinola, the leader and founder of the Troll Baiting Squad, with tacos and bazookas, and you're from Bovingdon!

And I also assume that you're female, due to the way that you debate things (i.e. sometimes using facts, rather than just insulting people and belittling their way of life etc.) and you're a bit of a leftie, like me!

I´ve been in some very bad situations, yet I´ve managed. When I was a kid, I had some problems, but I never got extremely angry, besides a few times, when I did turn berserk. There was one time when I was like 11 and I berserked and it took 4 adults to hold me.

Nowadays, no one bothers me anymore. I doubt anyone has the courage anyway. The last guy that tried to steal from me got nothing, since I decided I wasnt going to give anything to him no mater what he did, and told him so.

So, people dont bother me, they dont harass me, and that is good enough, which means I never lose my coolness.

Btw, I´m 6.1 and weight 75 kg, so people have to be quite stupid do make me angry.

How often do you lose your temper? Do you ever snap?

I lose my temper easily but I very rarely snap - but I would explode if I had the things you mentioned done to me, although it doesn't surprise me to see how stupid someone can be just to make up for an inferiority complex. What kind of people do that to a person? :mad:

people generally think i'm the most laid-back person ever to the point where it has become a fault. i used to lose my temper all the time when i was a kid and i got into a lot of trouble with it so i really had to learn how to control myself. i only lose my temper now when i'm so drunk i don't even know what i'm doing, one of the many reasons i have given up drinking for a while since i got in trouble with the police the last time. the only person i've lost my temper with in the last 6 years or so while sobre is my mum who just infuriates me sometimes.

I'm much more laid back now then in my younger days. However, I am still somewhat pretty tense sometimes and still have a temper but a lot less compared to a decade or more ago. :D

TL;DR.

;) (joking :p)Buzwuh? Ah, a google was suffcient. Heh. It was just a wee bit too long... c.c
Man, was it with everybody feeling so ignored? :(

I totally know you and read your posts!

Even though the one I just snipped left me more confused than enlightened. :p

I read everybody's posts. Except trollish jerks I hate. Although, mostly I read those too. :rolleyes:Meh, I guess we all feel ignored because of the atmosphere of NSG. So many posters, so much to read, and so many different ways to respond. I know I read loads of posts and not reply. I know I meant to write a post in Neu Leonstein's thread about integration. I never got around to it. I read all the posts in the thread, I just never posted.

And of course because NSG is not only the internet based communication, but forum based as well I think it makes it a lot harder to get to know people.

You read my posts? :D *ego +1* *ego +1 because you're someone I reconise. I have got a personality pinned on your just yet, but your name is reconisable. I think Baratstan was wanting you, me and him to screw over Stalin in Swatila's map*

I'm still convinced no one knows me on thi site, despite over 1,000 posts. I suppose everyone feels like that? We have a very elitist culture here on NSG. It's fun, hehe. No, no. I reconise you, but like Whereyouthinkyougoing I haven't got a personality assigned to you yet. There are only a few people I manage to assign personalities to without pictures. Once I have a facial picture I find it easier to remember people. There's one or two exceptions like Lunatic Goofballs and Fass. But generally I need a facial picture. I know I started remembering more about Neu Leonstein round about the time he posted the picture of him in his backyard reading a book.

There was a time, several years ago, where I was incredibly quick to anger, to the extent that I had a reputation as a problem child at my school. I've developed a lot of self-control since then, so I don't lose my sanity at the slightest provocation, albeit at the price of becoming slow to forgive as well.