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An 18-year-old college student was arrested Thursday, a day after she allegedly abandoned a newborn in a trash bin at the Sandpiper Condominiums.
Simone Walker, who lives in the complex on Harding Highway, wrapped the naked baby in a sheet and stuck him in a trash bag, which she then threw into a trash bin at about 3:30 p.m., Atlantic County Prosecutor Jeffrey S. Blitz said.

After an all-night investigation, Walker was brought to the Prosecutor's Office for an interview and was later arrested.

She is charged with endangering the welfare of a child, which carries a five- to 10-year sentence. Her bail is $100,000 cash.

The suspect was a very close childhood friend of mine going back to when I was seven years old. She was always very sweet and kind hearted, abeit loud and obnoxious too. I would have never, in my wildest dreams, imagine her being capable of something like this.

Also, this is not her child. The father is her older brother, Desmond, who I have not seen/heard from since this happened. The real mother is his fiancee ,who I have never given enough respect to remember her name. This leads me to believe that he conned his younger sister into dumping this child , after which, him and the mother fled.

Not to mention, he named me the godfather a few months ago.

Honestly I don't know what to do/feel.

My childhood friend (http://img.photobucket.com/albums/v723/Luporum/Picture016.jpg)

Sympathies:( Actually this reminds me of a case not long ago where a student dumped her new born child in a plastic bag and left it in the gardens of her hostel, near my high school, scary:(

To just throw your own child away like that is crazy enough, but to get someone else to do it for you makes my brain hurt. :(

that's so sad. I am glad we have safe haven laws here, that type of thing has really cut down. You used to hear it almost every day, now it's less than once a year it seems, unless you count hearing about it happening elsewhere.

I can't imagine getting to the point that you are so desperate that you would throw the baby away, I mean surely you would at least abandon it at the hospital if you couldn't face up and deal with everything that goes along with a baby.

That's vile, you have every right to be angry and upset. But do remember that it's not your fault. You are not repsonsible for the actions of others. So there's no need for you to feel any guilt in this (the tone of your post seems to suggest you may be, apologies if I've read between the lines wrong)

The older brother may have conned his sister into dumping the child but she should also have had the brains and the spine to say "No".

That's vile, you have every right to be angry and upset. But do remember that it's not your fault. You are not repsonsible for the actions of others. So there's no need for you to feel any guilt in this (the tone of your post seems to suggest you may be, apologies if I've read between the lines wrong)

I do feel incredibly guilty even though it's not my fault. That's my god child and in some manner I'm his guardian.

The older brother may have conned his sister into dumping the child but she should also have had the brains and the spine to say "No".

She is very smart, so she deserves whatever sentence the courts hand her. As for her brother...what I'd give to see him again.

Why on earth would she do that? If it's not her child, then it would've been even easier to get help from other people seeing as in that sense it's not her responsibility. I'm her age, and to face 5-10 years in jail at this stage of my life I couldn't bear.

But you shouldn't feel guilty for that. Like you said she's a smart girl, how were you supposed to know that she was going to do that? You're a godfather not a superhero.

I just hope that the child is okay and that he's being looked after well and safely now.

Wow...and to think people are such assholes with other people's kids, not just their own...if someone did that to my Godson, I would be devastated...and want to run that person over with a Sherman tank, assuming they got away with it legally...of course, my Godson's biological father's a fuckhead, but he's got a good stepdad so he's taken care of.

I just hope that the child is okay and that he's being looked after well and safely now.

He's in good condition at the hospital and the neighbors are more than willing to adopt him.

The parents won't get away with it and that's for damn sure.

if you consider this girl a friend of yours you should go talk to her. she probably feels exactly as you do, bewildered that she should have done such a terrible thing. it would be a great kindness to reach out to her. i expect that no one else will.

He's in good condition at the hospital and the neighbors are more than willing to adopt him.

The parents won't get away with it and that's for damn sure.

That's good to hear. :fluffle:

My wife and I have five children, and room for more.

Send the baby our way.

I would have to guess that the older brother has some major legal problems himself to do this and get out of town so qucikly. You say the BabyMama is a lowlife?:mad:

I would have to guess that the older brother has some major legal problems himself to do this and get out of town so qucikly. You say the BabyMama is a lowlife?:mad:

The father never had legal problems as far as I know, but the mama is from the depths of Atlantic City. By depths I mean: "Places you wouldn't go at night."

Anyway I'm just trying to clear my head now because all of this is just making me confused. If you would have asked me, I would never have imagined it possible for them to do this.

ow man, I hope she turns them in. :(

That's good to hear. :fluffle:You took the words from my mouth. Except for the fluffle part. If there was a relieved smiley then I'd use that. We really need more smileys... Or better ones. Less shooting ones might help.

Anyway it's good to know that he's okay. That's the most important thing to begin with.

If anyone wants to discard a baby, they only have to go to a fire station or a hospital or a police station, and they can drop the baby off, no questions asked.

Heck with endangerment, this is attempted murder!

Where's an ice floe when you really need one?

Don't people realoze that most states have laws that allow you to drop off an unwanted child at a fire station or hospital with no questions asked and no penalties? People who would throw away a child like a piece of trash :mad: should have to spend a minimum of 50 years in jail.

Don't people realoze that most states have laws that allow you to drop off an unwanted child at a fire station or hospital with no questions asked and no penalties?

I didn't even know that until this happened actually...

Don't people realoze that most states have laws that allow you to drop off an unwanted child at a fire station or hospital with no questions asked and no penalties? People who would throw away a child like a piece of trash :mad: should have to spend a minimum of 50 years in jail.

10 years is already a long time, especially when you're 18, and you don't know all the conditions under wich she commited the crime.

Don't people realoze that most states have laws that allow you to drop off an unwanted child at a fire station or hospital with no questions asked and no penalties? People who would throw away a child like a piece of trash :mad: should have to spend a minimum of 50 years in jail.
Wow, you're pretty ignorant and really insensative.
No, I would guess a lot of people (me included, and many just on this thread) don't know that.
And you're willing to send a frikking 18 year old girl (who's probably scared to hell and depressed to tears right now) to prison for 50 years just because of a mistake, the details of which you do not and probably will never know?
What the hell is wrong with you?

...yeah, my sympathies, man. I hope you guys can get through this with as little trouble and damage as possible.

I'm really worried about stupid people (see above) who will want to harass the girl and family over this...

Wow, you're pretty ignorant and really insensative.
No, I would guess a lot of people (me included, and many just on this thread) don't know that.
And you're willing to send a frikking 18 year old girl (who's probably scared to hell and depressed to tears right now) to prison for 50 years just because of a mistake, the details of which you do not and probably will never know?
What the hell is wrong with you?


what's wrong with you?

there are about 100 different things to do with an unwanted baby that don't include killing it.

murder is murder.

Wow, you're pretty ignorant and really insensative.
No, I would guess a lot of people (me included, and many just on this thread) don't know that.
And you're willing to send a frikking 18 year old girl (who's probably scared to hell and depressed to tears right now) to prison for 50 years just because of a mistake, the details of which you do not and probably will never know?
What the hell is wrong with you?

...yeah, my sympathies, man. I hope you guys can get through this with as little trouble and damage as possible.

I'm really worried about stupid people (see above) who will want to harass the girl and family over this...

As far as bad things you can do in life, throwing a baby away has to be in the top 5. And there's really no excuse for it either. It right up there with child molestation and child/ elder abuse as unforgivable in any circumstance. Inflicting suffering and/ or murdering the innocent is unforgivable.

My sympathies to the OP.

what's wrong with you?

there are about 100 different things to do with an unwanted baby that don't include killing it.

murder is murder.
True. I don't know a lot, thought. Maybe find family, friends. Then again, family told you to dump it.

No, "murder" is not "murder", unfortunately the world happens to be much more complicated than that.

True. I don't know a lot, thought. Maybe find family, friends. Then again, family told you to dump it.

No, "murder" is not "murder", unfortunately the world happens to be much more complicated than that.

I don't think that it's proper for us to get into this discussion here.

sorry for mussing up your thread Luporum.

I can only offer my very deepest regrets and sympathies to you. The shock of hearing what happened and then to realize that the particpants are friends and relatives must have overwhelming.

I am reading this at work and I would like to mention to those that offered to adopt that if they are serious about the offer there are many children who are placed in foster homes who could be adopted; but because there are no adoptive parents available they must spend another year in a foster home. It is not easy to adopt children who have been in the system for month and years sometimes with multiple problems but these kids need permament homes. Call your local social services agency and ask about children who need to be adpopted. Or, ask about becoming a foster home.

Wow, you're pretty ignorant and really insensative.
No, I would guess a lot of people (me included, and many just on this thread) don't know that.
And you're willing to send a frikking 18 year old girl (who's probably scared to hell and depressed to tears right now) to prison for 50 years just because of a mistake, the details of which you do not and probably will never know?
What the hell is wrong with you?

...yeah, my sympathies, man. I hope you guys can get through this with as little trouble and damage as possible.

I'm really worried about stupid people (see above) who will want to harass the girl and family over this...

In the present circumstances, 50 years is probably too much. The baby survived. If it had died, then what?

If a person gets drunk, drives, and kills a family, should we consider their feelings and that they are probably already feeling guilty and not punish them for it? If they simply injure the others, should we just assume that their guilt is enough and stay out of it from a legal standpoint?

I don't think it is wrong to expect a harsh punishment for a crime like this. She may feel guilty. She SHOULD feel guilty. If she doesn't, she's inhuman. But she should also accept her punishment - and it should be very harsh. Yes, she may feel very bad about it, but that doesn't excuse her from taking responsibility for her actions.

To the OP: I know how difficult it is to read something like this and then realize that you know those involved. I've never been as close as you to the victim or the criminal, but I have read something like this in the news when the criminal was a girl I went to grade and high school with. It was devestating. But it is not, in any way, your fault. If you are still a part of the child's life, be there for the child - that is your role as godparent. You cannot be expected to control the parents or those close to them.