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And I mean in general, not "oh I can't wait 'till he/she gets home from work tonight" kind of lonely, but are you feeling lonely in general?

As for me, yes. I am feeling lonely. quite lonely.

I am not but :fluffle: anyway

Nope.

I am occasionally, but it doesnt last long cause i've got danny and adam, who always come to my rescue when i need someone to talk to.

Meh, TV and the internet is all I need. Who needs friends?

Yes, I get that generally lonely feeling quite often.

I feel Alone.
But I do not feel lonely.

If that makes any sense at all.

I have been very lonely since my wife left me :(

Being on a terror watchlist, you're never quite "alone" actually...

Who needs friends?

:eek: *sulks in corner*

It's my first term at university, so yeah, I do feel quite lonely... quite frequently as well. I just don't have the same network of friends that I have back home, but I'll make a new set here, it'll just take a while because I'm an antisocial bastard.

No, I don't feel lonely often.

*hugs to all the lonely people* feel free to add me to msn if you wanna talk (or send me a nationstates telegram). My msn (and this is a modified version because of spam robots, so just figure it out) is memewowme ["at" symbol] hotmail.com

:eek: *sulks in corner*

Ok fine, want to be my friend? I suppose I could put you on my msn and everything! :)

good to see you again TPE :fluffle:
but no, in general i am no longer lonely. i was, but then i found glitzi :)

good to see you again TPE :fluffle:
but no, in general i am no longer lonely. i was, but then i found glitzi :)
I felt the same until I found my girlfriend. Wo0t for girlfriends, I say! :)

I felt the same until I found my girlfriend. Wo0t for girlfriends, I say! :)

huzzah indeed! :)

TPE, don't despair dude :fluffle: :fluffle:

Ok fine, want to be my friend? I suppose I could put you on my msn and everything! :)

oooh fun! (but the last NS'er who added me on MSN wanted me so you have allot to live up to :p )

I felt the same until I found my girlfriend. Wo0t for girlfriends, I say! :)

woot indeed :fluffle:

huzzah indeed! :)

TPE, don't despair dude :fluffle: :fluffle:
Thanks, but even my mom agrees with me. I AM lonely. :(

:fluffle: to you too, bud :)

oooh fun! (but the last NS'er who added me on MSN wanted me so you have allot to live up to :p )

I'm quite anti-social so we could make it a ceremonial appointment. :)

I have my days..

not "oh I can't wait 'till he/she gets home from work tonight" kind of lonely,
Is that bitterness I detect?

I think we all feel lonely at one time or another. As for me at this moment, not really. I have the finest group of friends one could ever expect to have in high school, and I don’t spend my thinking time doting over some chick as some of my compatriots do.

I'm quite anti-social so we could make it a ceremonial appointment. :)

I hope you washed your hands then ;)

One can never be too alone.

Nope. Life's too hectic for loneliness.

I hope you washed your hands then ;)

well there is some grease on them but I suppose i could rinse them a bit if you want... :p

Jesus loves me.

Just kidding, he hates everyone.

Only the lonely
Know the way I feel tonight
Only the lonely
Know this feelin aint right

There goes my baby
There goes my heart
Theyre gone forever
So far apart

But only the lonely
Know why
I cry
Only the lonely

Only the lonely
Know the heartaches Ive been through
Only the lonely
Know I cried and cried for you

Maybe tomorrow
A new romance
No more sorrow
But thats the chance - you gotta take
If your lonely heart breaks
Only the lonely
couldn't resist. sorry!

Yes.
I'm going to die alone.
No sarcasm.

No, in fact I can't remember the last I felt lonely. I'm not sure I even have emotion.

I try not to think about it. Otherwise, I get depressed.

I don't have enough free time to be lonely.

Be lonely long enough, and it becomes just being alone.

yes, i get quite lonely. i dont know what to do about it.

Be lonely long enough, and it becomes just being alone.

Alone means there is no one trying to boss you around

Alone means there is no one trying to boss you around

Which may be how I got here. Tasty insight!

Sure do. I generally only get a chance to hang out with my friends once every two weeks to a month. The rest of my life consists of taking abuse at work and then coming home and playing computer games all night for lack of anything better to do. No girlfriend either, of course.

And I mean in general, not "oh I can't wait 'till he/she gets home from work tonight" kind of lonely, but are you feeling lonely in general?

As for me, yes. I am feeling lonely. quite lonely.
Eh, somewhat, but not that much, all things considered.

Not particularly. To be truthful, I tend to feel more relaxed and comfortable when I'm by myself, as I am right now (roommates left for the holidays already). But, eh... that's just me.

At the moment, I'm afraid I'm very lonely indeed. My entire social network is upwards of 1000 miles away, and I'm going through a particularly rough time lately. :(

yes, i get quite lonely. i dont know what to do about it.

:fluffle:

Yeah, but i'll get over it.

Very. What do you expect when you live in a city as horrible as mine. Really I think LA would have nicer people.

I try not to think about it. Otherwise, I get depressed.

...ugh, I know that one. :(

I'm not lonely usually. I'm a decent fan of solitude.

I'm lonely. :(

I'm lonely. :(

I'm only a rainbow my friend
And if you could see what others see
You wouldn't feel so bad
And I'm telling you
Cuz I've been there too
That storms are like rainbows, too.

They fade away, fade away, fade away away
Stormy days drift away
And may someone be holding you now.
:fluffle:

I'm sorry we are all lonely, friends :(

I'm only a rainbow my friend
And if you could see what others see
You wouldn't feel so bad
And I'm telling you
Cuz I've been there too
That storms are like rainbows, too.

They fade away, fade away, fade away away
Stormy days drift away
And may someone be holding you now.
:fluffle:

I'm sorry we are all lonely, friends :(

It wouldn't be so bad if maybe I wasn't so self-conscious.

I never really feel lonely, but then again, I've always prefered solitude for the most part anyway. I guess you could say, I'm my own best freind.

I never really feel lonely, but then again, I've always prefered solitude for the most part anyway. I guess you could say, I'm my own best freind.

do you have good fights with yourself

i know i do

do you have good fights with yourself

i know i do

Yep, and I always get my ass kicked.

Come to think of it, I always win as well.

Thanks, but even my mom agrees with me. I AM lonely. :(



There's just one cure for that, you know? Talking to people.
Doesn't matter if you do it over the internet (I personally find it easiest to talk to strangers here until they're no longer strangers), or in RL.
It does take a bit of effort on your part, though, and you will come across a lot of idiots and assholes. Just keep going. ;)

:fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

Yep, and I always get my ass kicked.

Come to think of it, I always win as well.

same

I'm sorry we are all lonely, friends :(

Yeah... I hate the feeling, but it happens from time to time...

Crazy...
I'm crazy for feelin' so lonely.
I'm crazy,
crazy for feelin' so blue...

I don't really do "lonely". The only way I can manage it is if there are other people about.

This thread is depressing. :(

Fluffles for everyone! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

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Yes I feel lonely, almost all the time. Infact, feeling lonely when surrounded by people, strangers or friends, is worse than actual solitude. I just have a problem of not feeling loved, ever, by anyone, so essentially that means continual loneliness.

"Little do men perceive what solitude is, and how far it extendeth. For a crowd is not company, and faces are but a gallery of pictures, and talk but a tinkling cymbal, where there is no love." - Francis Bacon

Basically... Yes.

I don't have enough free time to be lonely.

I suspect this is me. You could certainly say I'm alone, but I don't feel lonely, as a rule.

This thread is depressing. :(

Fluffles for everyone! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

;) :fluffle:

Sometimes, my girlfriend left just over 4 years ago and it's been just my son and me from then (he's 5 years old now). I miss the companionship, but I have one or two good friends and my son who have all been a great support.

;) :fluffle:

:eek: Why Pedro... The wink... I had no idea! ;) :fluffle:

And I mean in general, not "oh I can't wait 'till he/she gets home from work tonight" kind of lonely, but are you feeling lonely in general?

As for me, yes. I am feeling lonely. quite lonely.

Trying to get laid?

I used to. The odd part of it is that when I did, I worried that I'd end up being alone for the rest of my life. Now that I don't have that worry, I think I could be alone, by choice, and be fine with that. I think it was the not having a choice in the matter that bothered me. But I think we all have a choice in the matter.

Very. What do you expect when you live in a city as horrible as mine. Really I think LA would have nicer people.Atlanta is that bad?

Lamentably so, however I've only a matter of months to wait until I can leave the macho, moronic dump that is Essex.

Not as much as I'd expect, after the "like you as a friend" bit and all.

*big squeezy hugs for all the people who feel lonely* :fluffle:

I know how much loneliness can hurt :(
One of my worst memories is crying quietly while sitting next to a bunch of people, supposedly my friends, and no-one noticing in the couple of hours sitting there.

Luckily, things have improved greatly for me (and I wish the same for all of you :)) and I'm only occasionally lonely *nods* and Huw, I'm so glad I help you to not feel lonely anymore :-)

There's just one cure for that, you know? Talking to people.
Doesn't work for the kind of loneliness that I have. :(

You know what I mean.
I know how much loneliness can hurt :(
One of my worst memories is crying quietly while sitting next to a bunch of people, supposedly my friends, and no-one noticing in the couple of hours sitting there.
Damn girl, that sucks :(

Generally, just talking to friends is the best way, basically because it forces your mind to not think about being lonely and concentrate on the conversation, as clearly that is going to be more productive than wallowing in your loneliness. But, that's easier said than done. :(

yeh, generally i am lonely. but i have my friends who in their own way help me forget (they also remind me a lot but that's not their fault and overall they make me very content, except i want to be happy and ecstatic and in love, oh well).

:fluffle: for solidarity :)

Yes, because many of my friends live in other parts of the country and are going home for Christmas.

Which may be how I got here. Tasty insight!

Awwww. I won't boss you around! I swear! Here, have a seat, I'll get you a drink. What'll it be? :)

This thread is depressing. :(

Fluffles for everyone! :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

*grabs fluffle*

Many thanks. :)

Yeah, I'm lonely.

I'm the family screwball, and I've been trying to ask out a hot girl. I'm under pressure a lot, and that's not my best thing. So, I have recoursed to the Internet. And there's no one on Gabbly. :(

To help me, get on Gabbly (gabbly.com/http://forums.jolt.co.uk/forumdisplay.php?f=1227). Or, post a fluffle.

I feel alone pretty much all the time. Of course, one has to go further into the more specific meanings of the word to get a better idea of things, and I'll do just that.

I feel alone just being who I am. I've realised in the past month or so that there aren't exactly very many people like me, and even if those people do share my interests, they're most likely not going to be alike, whether it's personality or the way their minds work. I've met a few people who are a lot like me, but they've since gone their separate ways.

I also feel alone quite often because I don't get to see the friends that I do have in real life all that much, nor do I have as much free time as I used to, so my friends on MSN don't get to see me nearly as often as they used to, and vice versa.

And then, I'm alone in the sense that I don't have a significant other, be it a father figure, a mom, or even a girlfriend, in which to confide. When my brother and dad are being less than nice to me, I have absolutely nobody to look to for support. Yes, I have friends with whom I talk about just that, but it's different when you have somebody that's much closer to you. And I don't have that; in fact, I haven't ever had that.

For one, I blame my environment. I've had to help take care of my dad since January of 1998, before I even turned ten years old. I haven't been in public school since I got out of the 3rd grade, and I've since passed up any opportunity of going back, save for college. At the moment, my only means of personal transportation is my bicycle, and that really doesn't get me many places, because my dad is neurotic about my "safety". I'm also mostly unallowed to have friends, simply because our house is devoid of furniture (I'm quite lucky to even have the ones that I do at the moment). So, I'm pretty much stuck until I (somehow, someway) get off to college... Or, something else entirely.

Although I'm stuck in a crappy situation, I'm not one to just sulk and whine about why things shouldn't be happening this way. Life is what you make of it, and I'm doing the best I can at the moment. And I'll say this: I'm not going to be held in shackles and watch my hopes and dreams die very slowly, just because my dad wants to move us to fucking New Mexico and rot. He can take his fucking life as a ghost and live in the middle of nowhere. I'm actually going to do something with my life, and going to New Mexico to rot until I finally stop breathing is not it, nor will it ever be.

I can envision myself with a family, a nice house, and a great life in a great place. I can make it happen, and I won't be alone anymore. But, if I go off to New Mexico as my dad wants, I'll never reach my goal. And I can't allow that to happen.

your big post snipped

you seem to have as shit a circumstance as there is on NS. and that sucks balls. but, in the year i've been here i'd takeyou to be one of the strongest and rational people out there. young and inexperienced you might be, but you are endowed with a sense which, used the right way, will get you whatever you want. with that you have what most people can't even fathom, including myslef, a trully free will. go with it , cuz it's the best any of us can have. (and btw you have this because of you not because of anying outside of you. don't squander it and don't denigrate the lack of it in others, big :).)

you seem to have as shit a circumstance as there is on NS. and that sucks balls. but, in the year i've been here i'd takeyou to be one of the strongest and rational people out there. young and inexperienced you might be, but you are endowed with a sense which, used the right way, will get you whatever you want. with that you have what most people can't even fathom, including myslef, a trully free will. go with it , cuz it's the best any of us can have. (and btw you have this because of you not because of anying outside of you. don't squander it and don't denigrate the lack of it in others, big :).)

I know exactly what I have, and how to use it. That's the reason that I can make friends with anyone, old or young, no matter what political stance. And, even then, I can always make them see my side of things. I turned a friend of mine from a closed-brained, hardcore, no-questions-asked conservative to a wide-eyed, understanding, always-questioning individual. Call me manipulative, but I gave him something he never would've had.

Sheesh, when I was five, I made friends with a fifty-year-old couple from Missouri when I lived in Port Aransas. And not in the "Oh, he's cute!" way, either. I actually had a conversation with them, and they were impressed. It's not as if I'm trying to show people something, either. That's the way I've always been.

I'm not planning on insulting or degrating others for not being like I am in this sense. I'm just tired of living in this very solitary situation... Not that I have a problem with the occasional bout of solitude (so long as it's because I decide to confine myself). But this is getting to me.

You mean you're allowed to have relationships outside of NSG:eek: I thought that was against forum rules

this is something for the mods, surely.

You mean you're allowed to have relationships outside of NSG:eek: I thought that was against forum rules

I wouldn't chance it. Stick with us here in NS and you'll be safe. :)

For those who are lonely as I am, I find that if you find a task or hobby too attach yourself too, it helps out alot. For me, its editing a story, or writing one of my own. Go jogging every morning, get hooked into a video game, study marxist theroy. Trust me, this always helps.

Lonliness and isolation are the main themes of my life.

Indeed, but I know enough to blame myself.

I'm lonely in the "can't wait for her to get home" way.

But I feel justified.

I had arranged to meet her in town yesterday, and get some alone time.

CockBlock #1

Before I leave, a friend randomly pops round for half an hour, can't stay long. Stays about half an hour. Then crashes his motorbike into a lamppost, a few hours later, I'm driving him home, parking the car in town, and going to meet my girlfriend.

Cockblock #2

Her friend is there, she was going to hang out with some guy, who ditched her last minute in exchange for sleeping in. So for a few hours, I'm hanging out with these two broads. (Interesting conversation when a group of Jocks made a dodgy comment, then I informed them I am a guy, very embarrasing for them).

CockBlock #3

So she get's bored of us not talking to her enough, and decides to go home, sad, I hate ditching friends but ok, she'll have more fun that way.
So of course my mate sees us, he's in town for (And he stated) no real reason. Just in case (He comes into town every few months).
So I haven't seen him for half a year or so, so I have to spend time with him.

Fantastic, I end up bringing my mate home (She can't come home with me due to strict rules with parents).


Far too many unreasonable coincidences, so I am lonely, Becuase I didn't get to spend enough time with her the one day I saw her this week. She leaves the city on the 24th, comes back 4th jan.

This is not supposed to happen methinks.

That's why I'm lonely, I doubt anyones going to read this :)

I'm lonely in the "can't wait for her to get home" way.

But I feel justified.

I had arranged to meet her in town yesterday, and get some alone time.

CockBlock #1

Before I leave, a friend randomly pops round for half an hour, can't stay long. Stays about half an hour. Then crashes his motorbike into a lamppost, a few hours later, I'm driving him home, parking the car in town, and going to meet my girlfriend.

Cockblock #2

Her friend is there, she was going to hang out with some guy, who ditched her last minute in exchange for sleeping in. So for a few hours, I'm hanging out with these two broads. (Interesting conversation when a group of Jocks made a dodgy comment, then I informed them I am a guy, very embarrasing for them).

CockBlock #3

So she get's bored of us not talking to her enough, and decides to go home, sad, I hate ditching friends but ok, she'll have more fun that way.
So of course my mate sees us, he's in town for (And he stated) no real reason. Just in case (He comes into town every few months).
So I haven't seen him for half a year or so, so I have to spend time with him.

Fantastic, I end up bringing my mate home (She can't come home with me due to strict rules with parents).


Far too many unreasonable coincidences, so I am lonely, Becuase I didn't get to spend enough time with her the one day I saw her this week. She leaves the city on the 24th, comes back 4th jan.

This is not supposed to happen methinks.

That's why I'm lonely, I doubt anyones going to read this :)

I read it, it sucks for you. :(

:fluffle:

I read it, it sucks for you. :(

:fluffle:

doesn't affect us though. :p

i read it. i here that having someone you can't see is worse than not having anyone at all. but i don't believe it, not for a second. i think general loneliness has got to be worse than specific loneliness.

still, that sounds like a severely irritating day. *pats on back*

I only feel lonely among others. By myself, I am the universe and everything in it, and can do what I please without having to adhere to any standard set arbitrarily by someone else; among others, I begin to realise that not only is the universe much larger, but I'm the only real person in it.



(I think I just managed to explain, in far more eloquent and well-written language, what a lot of other people have tried to express without the aid of my gift for words. Come on, are you guys going to act grateful or what? :p)

There's this girl where I live but she's so goddamn busy all the time I never get to see her... hell all I want is to reach a conclusion about it so I can move on. Though I would prefer to be with her. But I also agree that general lonliness is worse, not having anyone anywhere is extremely depressing.

I think that's it's not as bad as being alone, but it's very irritating.

It's lonliness, but a different sort.

Thanks for the fluffles, :fluffle: To everyone who gave me one!

"Lonely.... I'm so lonely.... I have no boooody to call my own... wooooo I'm so lonely..."

Yes. :p

im always lonely. i need a g/f... :(

im always lonely. i need a g/f... :(

Do you have the means and ability to go out and find one? If so, and if you're not in a situation like my own, then get off your ass and do it.

Do you have the means and ability to go out and find one? If so, and if you're not in a situation like my own, then get off your ass and do it.

i was seeing a girl the last 2 weeks and then yesterday she decides that we should call it quits. so im bumbed out at the moment...

i was seeing a girl the last 2 weeks and then yesterday she decides that we should call it quits. so im bumbed out at the moment...

I see.

I see.

there are other girls i would liek to ask out, but i dont haev any balls...

At least you are ok with asking out other girls.

Atlanta is that bad?

Yes Atlanta has all of the Bourgeoisie people who think they are better than others but none of the real class that people have in other cities. Hell our Ballet symphony and opera are nearly broke and they wanted to spend money on a nascar museum and they want to build a new football staduim to replace one only 10 years old. People in the ATL are very vain and shallow. They don't talk to you unless you buy clothes from the mall, drive a SUV, BMW, or Mercedes and live in a Mcmansion.

Once I get some money i'm moving from here. Hopefully southern Oregon.

I think I would become a serial killler in that environment.

there are other girls i would liek to ask out, but i dont haev any balls...

Are you over 21?

If so, have a beer and then ask.

If not, try Bawls or Gatorade or something like that... to the extreme.

(Obviously I'm joking.)

Beer : Liquid Self-confidence?


:D

I'm underage, but I have heard that.

I think I would become a serial killler in that environment.

I wonder why Atlanta doesn't have more serial killers except for Wayne Williams(ATL child killer). I think their are more killers in the city just that the police cover it up.

Yes.
I'm going to die alone.
No sarcasm.
Yeah,if i was where you're from,i'd be depressed too

there are other girls i would liek to ask out, but i dont haev any balls...

This is a problem. I guess it's okay if you don't plan on having children and take enough hormonal supplements, though. :)

Yep, frequently lonely

Lonely for the company of a chapess but not lonely when one has a good quailty shag in the briar

Question; why does everyone feel that the only way to avert "loneliness" is to head down the relationship slippery slope? If anything that would only cause more loneliness. It's one of those things that simply doesn't make any sense, akin to why people consider sticking sensitive body organs into other people's waste disposal systems an act of intimacy, or why an excess of dopamine in the brain is considered something to strive for while the lack of it is considered a mental illness.

If you think I'm totally insane, this is where I'm coming from... v
I only feel lonely among others. By myself, I am the universe and everything in it, and can do what I please without having to adhere to any standard set arbitrarily by someone else; among others, I begin to realise that not only is the universe much larger, but I'm the only real person in it.

Question; why does everyone feel that the only way to avert "loneliness" is to head down the relationship slippery slope? If anything that would only cause more loneliness. It's one of those things that simply doesn't make any sense, akin to why people consider sticking sensitive body organs into other people's waste disposal systems an act of intimacy, or why an excess of dopamine in the brain is considered something to strive for while the lack of it is considered a mental illness.

If you think I'm totally insane, this is where I'm coming from... v

Sure, when it is just you, you don't have to get anyone to like you, be forced to act a certain way. You can just be yourself! :)

Sure, when it is just you, you don't have to get anyone to like you, be forced to act a certain way. You can just be yourself! :)
That, unfortunately, has escaped more than 90% of the Earth's population, who are somehow convinced that the only way they can alleviate this supposed disadvantage is to find someone slightly similar (or different) whom they'll spend most of the rest of their lives arguing with, being depressed/anxious over, and rescuing from the clutches of the evil Mordak, Lord of the Dark-Throned Wasteland (if you can believe the video games). Why go to all that trouble when you can find the same happiness you might have occasional flashes of with others, on your own?

That, unfortunately, has escaped more than 90% of the Earth's population, who are somehow convinced that the only way they can alleviate this supposed disadvantage is to find someone slightly similar (or different) whom they'll spend most of the rest of their lives arguing with, being depressed/anxious over, and rescuing from the clutches of the evil Mordak, Lord of the Dark-Throned Wasteland (if you can believe the video games). Why go to all that trouble when you can find the same happiness you might have occasional flashes of with others, on your own?

Because, whaddya know, some of us actually get tired being by ourselves.

Don't get me wrong, though. I'm not one of those (very common) serial daters who "plays the field"... I'm the type who actually waits for the right kind of people. It's not like my hormones are totally out of control and I just need a release. :p

That, unfortunately, has escaped more than 90% of the Earth's population, who are somehow convinced that the only way they can alleviate this supposed disadvantage is to find someone slightly similar (or different) whom they'll spend most of the rest of their lives arguing with, being depressed/anxious over, and rescuing from the clutches of the evil Mordak, Lord of the Dark-Throned Wasteland (if you can believe the video games). Why go to all that trouble when you can find the same happiness you might have occasional flashes of with others, on your own?

Because we find it worth it?

I hardly have any relationships other than ones I really want. Which means I'm between girlfriends for long stretches (haven't had one since summer, the one before was while I was in school - 4 years back - and only half-happened anyway).

It sucks on the 'no makeouts!' level but, to each their own.

Personally, my life has become very compartmentalized. I have friends I meet at certain things (my gaming friends, my church friends and a random gang from St Albans I met via my cousin and ex). Being unemplyed I don;t really have any real 'other' group, most of my days are spent solo on jobhunting or angst (or both, it's a fair way to the nearest jobcentre).