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Ok, need a bit of advice here.
If you want to go out with someone, just a casual bit of fun, how old can you go before people start going "EWWWWW"?
Is 9 years older too much?

Ok, need a bit of advice here.
If you want to go out with someone, just a casual bit of fun, how old can you go before people start going "EWWWWW"?
Is 9 years older too much?

It depends on the starting point. 36 and 27 is no big deal, but 26 and 17 is.

Depends how old you are, in my opinion. For example, if you're 14 then someone nine years your senior would be too old. If on the other hand you're 30, then dating someone who is 39 would be fine.

My two cents.

I'm old enough to be your dad. That would be major eeeeeuuuw.

Ok, need a bit of advice here.
If you want to go out with someone, just a casual bit of fun, how old can you go before people start going "EWWWWW"?
Is 9 years older too much?
I wouldn't give a shit what people think if I liked the person I was with.

yeah, it's really what you're talking about.

50 and 59, no problem.

30 and 39, not a real issue

20 and 29...pushing it

17 and 26? that's getting pretty bad.

below that is pretty skeezy territory.

18 plus 9 is 27. i think. so, no cuz 27 isn't old, nor is 28 if i guessed your age wrong.

If people think you're his daughter, he's too old. Unless he's near death and very rich.

so you think 28 isnt that bad then? Thats alright.

26 and 17 is.

:(

I wouldn't give a shit what people think if I liked the person I was with.

lies make baby Jesus cry

my input is as long as there over 16 maturity is more the question (and if your both not 2 years is the limit) I could give you a more detailed table with things like 34 and 44 year old but that would take too long

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lies make baby Jesus cry

my input is as long as there over 16 maturity is more the question (and if your both not 2 years is the limit) I could give you a more detailed table with things like 34 and 44 year old but that would take too long

Well thats ok then, he really isnt very mature (i met him in the university trampolining club, that really says it all for his maturity levels. Especially as he goes "Weeeeeee" when he bounces.)

if people keep mistaking you for his mother, also kinda creepy.

how old are you? are you going 9 years older or 9 years younger?

its fine for "fun" but until both of you are over 18, not a good idea for romance.

Can we come up with a formula? Or a percentage? 150%, or 1 1/2 times your age? Higher? Lower?

No, I don't think that's too old at all. I don't even think you'd get too wierd of looks. Screw other people anyway. If that's the person who will make you happy, it won't matter anyway.

Dont worry, i am 19 so its just the right age for fun.

Especially as he goes "Weeeeeee" when he bounces.)

:eek: *has dirty mind*

Dont worry, i am 19 so its just the right age for fun.

I would have you know 17 is the right age for fun old timer:mad:

imo from the age of 16 onwards this should be your own choice.

:eek: *has dirty mind*

I would have you know 17 is the right age for fun old timer:mad:

Now thats a very very dirty mind! See, you gone and dirtyed mine too now. Shame on you.

Depends on the individuals involved. My father was 36 and my mother was 21 when they got married. Stayed together till death they did part.

A handy rule of thumb I've heard is: divide your age by 2, then add 2 years. That's the minimum age you should date. That, or the statutory minimum ;)

Umm.... that would be 11.5 for me. No, just NO.

Ok, need a bit of advice here.
If you want to go out with someone, just a casual bit of fun, how old can you go before people start going "EWWWWW"?
Is 9 years older too much?It depends on the kind of fun.
If you go out for fun with your kids to disneyland, I don't think age really matters.

Depends on the individuals involved. My father was 36 and my mother was 21 when they got married. Stayed together till death they did part.

A handy rule of thumb I've heard is: divide your age by 2, then add 2 years. That's the minimum age you should date.

And the reverse for max age?

imo from the age of 16 onwards this should be your own choice.

ah its not your own choice its what other people think (though the he here is the elder so he will be the one getting the "pedo" flack)

Now thats a very very dirty mind! See, you gone and dirtyed mine too now. Shame on you.

Good luck trampolining with him now muhuhuhaha :D

imo from the age of 16 onwards this should be your own choice.

i think this is fair enough too. although that opens up potential for impressionable teens to be coerced into sex with sleezy older people. which just creeps me out somewhat. anyway, when i was a teenager anyone over twenty seemed way too old.

Depends on the individuals involved. My father was 36 and my mother was 21 when they got married. Stayed together till death they did part.

A handy rule of thumb I've heard is: divide your age by 2, then add 2 years. That's the minimum age you should date. That, or the statutory minimum ;)

yeah, let's not forget the statutory minimum, otherwise your equation would make it perfectly acceptable for a 24 year old to be with a 14 year old.

It depends on the kind of fun.
If you go out for fun with your kids to disneyland, I don't think age really matters.

You know thats not the kind of fun im thinking of. Its the sort of fun that call to power was thinking of.

when i was a teenager anyone over twenty seemed way too old.

problem is all the wussy boy racers are 19 :p

You know thats not the kind of fun im thinking of. Its the sort of fun that call to power was thinking of.

Well, if you're of legal age, and it's sex, then age doesn't really matter as long as both are consenting adults.

But it's extremely difficult to have any sort of long term relationship with a major age difference.

problem is all the wussy boy racers are 19 :p

There are some very nice 19 year olds out there tho. Anyway, after about 19 guys stop getting any more mature anyway.

I know a couple where the guy's 51 and the girl's 20.

As long as they're both of the age of consent, I don't care what the age difference is.

Could be an 18 year old and and 80 year old...if they're both fine with it, what right have I to be concerned?

Depends on the individuals involved. My father was 36 and my mother was 21 when they got married. Stayed together till death they did part.

A handy rule of thumb I've heard is: divide your age by 2, then add 2 years. That's the minimum age you should date. That, or the statutory minimum ;)
Thats 17 for me. Even though thats legal in my country..Ehh ... No.

As long as they're both of the age of consent, I don't care what the age difference is.

Could be an 18 year old and and 80 year old...if they're both fine with it, what right have I to be concerned?

Well, it does make for uncomfortable situations at family holiday dinners...

problem is all the wussy boy racers are 19 :p

good thing for me i was never attracted to any of them either.

in fact i probably was one of them when i was 19, but without all the car mods, i just drove like an idiot.

Can we come up with a formula? Or a percentage? 150%, or 1 1/2 times your age? Higher? Lower?

According to my SIL, the equation is: The minimum age of your partner should be 1/2 your age plus 7. Therefore you cannot date before you are fourteen.

Maximu age would then be your age, minus seven, then multpilied by two. So an 18 year old could date a 22 year old, while a 40 year old could date a 66 year old.

Mind you, by the time you are forty, you really should have stopped caring about such things.

Well, if you're of legal age, and it's sex, then age doesn't really matter as long as both are consenting adults.

But it's extremely difficult to have any sort of long term relationship with a major age difference.

See, this is the sort of comment i didnt want to hear. Its much better for people to sit here and say "the age difference doesnt matter, no-one will think its odd at all". That way i feel fine about it and off we go on the fun. The fun isnt quite as fun if you know beforehand that its not going anywhere.

There can never be a concrete limit on something like this. It all depends what life stages you're both at. If you're both uni students or whatever, then it's no issue. If one partner has their own high paying job with a house, car, and a kid leftover from a failed marriage...while the other is fresh out of high school...then i'd definitely say that should be avoided.

Well, it does make for uncomfortable situations at family holiday dinners...

Uncomfortable?

Try HILARIOUS! :p

And the reverse for max age?

I haven't heard of a rule for maximum age. I think the sky's the limit there. If you're a 20-year-old dude and want to date Raquel Welch (who's still hot for her age, mind you), have at it. If you're Anna Nicole Smith at age 26 and you can land an 87-year-old Texas billionnaire oilman, props to you.

Depends how old you are, in my opinion. For example, if you're 14 then someone nine years your senior would be too old. If on the other hand you're 30, then dating someone who is 39 would be fine.

My two cents.
Two cents plus two cents is four cents. :)

See, this is the sort of comment i didnt want to hear. Its much better for people to sit here and say "the age difference doesnt matter, no-one will think its odd at all". That way i feel fine about it and off we go on the fun. The fun isnt quite as fun if you know beforehand that its not going anywhere.

This is the problem with the whole thing.

And why casual sex isn't so fun - because you know beforehand that it's not going anywhere.

Well, if you're of legal age, and it's sex, then age doesn't really matter as long as both are consenting adults.

bollocks sexing age doesn't matter much past 15 :p

There are some very nice 19 year olds out there tho. Anyway, after about 19 guys stop getting any more mature anyway.

ah but being 17 I only meet the ones who can't look cool in front of anyone above 12 (and I’m going to mature?:( )

See, this is the sort of comment i didnt want to hear. Its much better for people to sit here and say "the age difference doesnt matter, no-one will think its odd at all". That way i feel fine about it and off we go on the fun. The fun isnt quite as fun if you know beforehand that its not going anywhere.

There's no way to predetermine how a relationship is going to go. Believe me, there are plenty of people your own age that you would have zero in common with. My best friend is 44 and is dating someone who's 60, they get along quite nicely. I've dated people 15 years my senior and had meaningful relationships with them.

And why casual sex isn't so fun - because you know beforehand that it's not going anywhere.

sex without the strings = fun

I'm a bloke though :(

biggest age difference i know of in a couple is 5 years and they were going out for 9 years from the ages of 12 (girl) and 17 (boy). they were weird though.

i know a girl whos been going out with a guy, who's been married before and has a kid and a house and everything, since she was about twenty. i think she lives with him now. this is a girl who apparently used to hang around outside my door with a packet of condoms ready to jump me if i should appear, so i think she might be a little weird too.

bollocks sexing age doesn't matter much past 15 :p

Actually, from a legal perspective in the US, 15 is illegal, so it matters.

As for older ages, I've found that the older the partner, to the extent that they stay in good physical condition, the better and more prolonged and skilled the sex, whether male or female.

Not a hard and fast rule, but a good guideline.

My wife is 11 years younger than I am.

This is the problem with the whole thing.

And why casual sex isn't so fun - because you know beforehand that it's not going anywhere.

Well, i wouldnt say casual sex isnt fun... Its just not as good as having a proper boyfriends
Actually, thats a total lie, i retract that completely.
Some of the best guys i've had have been one nighters, and the worst guy i've had was a boyfriend. So roll on the casual sex! W00T!

this is a girl who apparently used to hang around outside my door with a packet of condoms ready to jump me if i should appear, so i think she might be a little weird too.

I wonder if you will be invited to dinner one day?

Actually, from a legal perspective in the US, 15 is illegal, so it matters.

you and me have vastly different cultures I think

you and me have vastly different cultures I think

Yes.

Well, i wouldnt say casual sex isnt fun... Its just not as good as having a proper boyfriends
Actually, thats a total lie, i retract that completely.
Some of the best guys i've had have been one nighters, and the worst guy i've had was a boyfriend. So roll on the casual sex! W00T!

Well, sometimes it's the luck of the draw as well... It's not like you can see "he's a great fuck" written on his forehead.

So roll on the casual sex! W00T!

woot sex :fluffle:

I dated a girl who was 17 and I was 26, it was a double date I did it for my friend who wanted to date her friend....I couldn't wait for the evening to end, pretty girl but not very mature/dull......my wife was 18 and I 29 when I met her, married 20yrs now....

contrary to common belief the greater the difference in age the more stable the marriage.....apparently women are on average 4 yrs more mature than men the same age as them.....

.....apparently women are on average 4 yrs more mature than men the same age as them.....

That's not been my experience...though I don't think either gender wins a merit badge on this one.

Well, sometimes it's the luck of the draw as well... It's not like you can see "he's a great fuck" written on his forehead.

No, but occasionally you find a guy where its virtually written in there trousers. (thus why spyros, the hot greek guy, has had about half of masson. He has a foot long and everyone knows it.)

No, but occasionally you find a guy where its virtually written in there trousers. (thus why spyros, the hot greek guy, has had about half of masson. He has a foot long and everyone knows it.)

What good is a foot long if he only lasts 20 seconds?

I am 8 years older than my wife. I met her when I was 32.

That's not been my experience...though I don't think either gender wins a merit badge on this one.

definitely not. having said that it always seems that in heterosexual relationships (at least the ones i know) the girl always thinks she's more mature and the guy always thinks he's more rational.

i happen to be fairly certain that i haven't matured emotionally or intellectually since i was about 15 and i find rationalism to be overrated. but that's just me i think.

Well, sometimes it's the luck of the draw as well... It's not like you can see "he's a great fuck" written on his forehead.

Life would be so much easier if it was. No need to quietly sneak out the next morning if it was horrible.

What good is a foot long if he only lasts 20 seconds?

Luckily he doesnt, AND he cuddles afterwards.

Luckily he doesnt, AND he cuddles afterwards.

I remember an incident not too long ago, where my wife was screaming (this was during prolonged sex), and a neighbor heard her (the neighbor was walking the dog outside), and called up to us, "Do you want me to call 911?" (911 is the emergency service number in the US).

My wife had been screaming for about an hour.

My wife had been screaming for about an hour.

sure she was ;)

sure she was ;)

yes, this is teh Internets, where EVERYTHING you read is TRUE :fluffle:

ROFL, see as soon as sex is mentioned it becomes a matter of "my wife orgasmed longer than your wife".
Guys are so competative sometimes.

definitely not. having said that it always seems that in heterosexual relationships (at least the ones i know) the girl always thinks she's more mature and the guy always thinks he's more rational.

i happen to be fairly certain that i haven't matured emotionally or intellectually since i was about 15 and i find rationalism to be overrated. but that's just me i think. definitely the case in my home, I'm rational and wife's mature(no fun), she says I've a 18yr old brain......

definitely not. having said that it always seems that in heterosexual relationships (at least the ones i know) the girl always thinks she's more mature and the guy always thinks he's more rational.

i happen to be fairly certain that i haven't matured emotionally or intellectually since i was about 15 and i find rationalism to be overrated. but that's just me i think.

Bolded to make a point...that's what they THINK, but it ain't necessarily so! :p

Maturity is overrated anyways! :cool:

*flings poo*

ROFL, see as soon as sex is mentioned it becomes a matter of "my wife orgasmed longer than your wife".
Guys are so competative sometimes.

I've heard women compete before. Especially when they're competing for the same guy.

Depends. If he's rich, then there's no such thing as too old. Otherwise, it really depends on whether everything's functioning.:p

Bolded to make a point...that's what they THINK, but it ain't necessarily so! :p


that's why the word is there ;)

Everything functions, he has a lovely body (goes to the gym lots and lots) and he also happens to have a very nice job, so has lots more money than me.
Well, i think that about decides that matter.

See, this is the sort of comment i didnt want to hear. Its much better for people to sit here and say "the age difference doesnt matter, no-one will think its odd at all". That way i feel fine about it and off we go on the fun. The fun isnt quite as fun if you know beforehand that its not going anywhere.

Well, it's worth distinguishing between "impossible" and "difficult." It is possible for a 19-year-old and a 28-year-old to have a stable, workable relationship, but it's likely to be pretty difficult, not so much because of your ages as because you're very likely to be in different stages of your lives.

As for other people's opinions, of course many people will think it's odd. It's up to you to decide how much that matters to you.

Everything functions, he has a lovely body (goes to the gym lots and lots) and he also happens to have a very nice job, so has lots more money than me.
Well, i think that about decides that matter.

You knew all this when you started this thread. You're just braggin' on him, aren't you? ;)

No, but occasionally you find a guy where its virtually written in there trousers. (thus why spyros, the hot greek guy, has had about half of masson. He has a foot long and everyone knows it.)

eww what a slut, he must be absolutely riddled with disease. (especially in masson :P)

i hate promiscuity.
(you can tell i'm not getting any, can't you :P)

eww what a slut, he must be absolutely riddled with disease. (especially in masson :P)

i hate promiscuity.
(you can tell i'm not getting any, can't you :P)

Why is promiscuity a bad thing (if he's honest about it)?

Why is promiscuity a bad thing (if he's honest about it)?

you missed the white text :p

i'm just jealous.

plus i'm a hopeless romantic whose scared of getting hurt.

so yeh, just jealous of all the free and uninhibited people :p

eww what a slut, he must be absolutely riddled with disease. (especially in masson :P)

i hate promiscuity.
(you can tell i'm not getting any, can't you :P)

LOL quoting you I found the whiteouts!
I was going to add that I only hate promiscuity when I get left out ;)

Why is promiscuity a bad thing (if he's honest about it)?

Its a bad thing cause i had to make damn sure the condom didnt break, otherwise i would probably get every disease under the sun.
Secondly he also happens to have 2 girlfriends in grease, briefly had a girlfriend here, one in dartmouth aswell, and still sleeps with every girl he can find
Im also sulking with him atm because he is refusing to talk to me, and i have no idea why. I didnt bite him or anything.

Its a bad thing cause i had to make damn sure the condom didnt break, otherwise i would probably get every disease under the sun.
Secondly he also happens to have 2 girlfriends in grease, briefly had a girlfriend here, one in dartmouth aswell, and still sleeps with every girl he can find
Im also sulking with him atm because he is refusing to talk to me, and i have no idea why. I didnt bite him or anything.

Maybe that's the problem?

Its a bad thing cause i had to make damn sure the condom didnt break, otherwise i would probably get every disease under the sun.
Secondly he also happens to have 2 girlfriends in grease, briefly had a girlfriend here, one in dartmouth aswell, and still sleeps with every girl he can find
Im also sulking with him atm because he is refusing to talk to me, and i have no idea why. I didnt bite him or anything.

If he's honest about it, and you think he's diseased, don't have sex with him. It's that simple.

If you don't want to be with someone promiscuous (and they're honest about it), don't be with them. If you knew about the other women from his own mouth, then you accepted that when you had sex with him.

Secondly he also happens to have 2 girlfriends in grease

a bit too much information :p

You know as long as you yourself are happy should it really matter if people are thinking Ewwww?

You know as long as you yourself are happy should it really matter if people are thinking Ewwww?

That didn't work for Michael Jackson, you know.

If he's honest about it, and you think he's diseased, don't have sex with him. It's that simple.

If you don't want to be with someone promiscuous (and they're honest about it), don't be with them. If you knew about the other women from his own mouth, then you accepted that when you had sex with him.

Go see my comment in the alcohol thread as for why i ended up in bed with him. And i didnt know he was a manwhore when i slept with him, i found that out later from my friends (who also happen to be friends with him. Makes it v awkward at dinner when we end up sitting together and he wont talk to me or join in a conversation that i am port of.)

Go see my comment in the alcohol thread as for why i ended up in bed with him. And i didnt know he was a manwhore when i slept with him, i found that out later from my friends (who also happen to be friends with him. Makes it v awkward at dinner when we end up sitting together and he wont talk to me or join in a conversation that i am port of.)

Well, if he was dishonest, then you shouldn't have anything to do with him.

Once a liar, always a liar.

That didn't work for Michael Jackson, you know.

rofl!

Well, if he was dishonest, then you shouldn't have anything to do with him.

Once a liar, always a liar.

Oh, i have no intention of ever getting with him again now i've seen his true colours, but we share the same friends so it would be a lot easier if he would just forget the sex thing and just be friends with me too.
Mind you, he could not be talking to me cause i laughed at the way he talked (to hide the fact that due to my slight difficulty in hearing i cant understand his accent at all.)

Dont worry, i am 19 so its just the right age for fun.

Wait until you have a college degree. Then I would say even 10 or 12 years would be fine. At 19 I know you think you are very mature, but 4 years from now you will have a completely different outlook on life.