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Reading the "Free Hugs" thread inspired this one. So, how big is your personal space? Me, I have a pretty big personal space. I like to hold people off at arms length (mine), and that's what I'm most comfortable with. The only time I ever let anyone come close to me is 1. I know them very well and is comfortable with them being that close to me or 2. I can't avoid the cramp situation. So tell us, how big is your personal space?!

Small. But I worked to get it there. It's needed when you intend to peg 400+ people.

Small. But I worked to get it there. It's needed when you intend to peg 400+ people.

Now when you say peg.

Attach a peg to them without their knowledge. They find it later, and if we're lucky, go to the website printed on the peg :)

Hope it didn't happen to you.

No one likes to get close to me, except for a handful of friends and family members. The sentiment is reciprocated in both cases.

Reading the "Free Hugs" thread inspired this one. So, how big is your personal space? Me, I have a pretty big personal space. I like to hold people off at arms length (mine), and that's what I'm most comfortable with. The only time I ever let anyone come close to me is 1. I know them very well and is comfortable with them being that close to me or 2. I can't avoid the cramp situation. So tell us, how big is your personal space?!

HUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUG!

I'm a hugger. I like people close to me and being close to people. I've hypothosized that it has to do with my sense of touch being somewhat stronger than my other senses--as evidenced by my hyper-sensitive skin, which is both easy to damage and easy to please--and as such I like to hug and be hugged. Hugging is good, Wilgrove. It's a good thing. Makes people feel better. If the world were a huggle world, it would be a happy world.

...

Or at least happier, anyway.

No one likes to get close to me, except for a handful of friends and family members. The sentiment is reciprocated in both cases.

Your phrasing worries me.. I'm always up for a hug, But I'm not going to try to force a hug on you. All my friends are huggy (Almost at least). But here there isn't the whole 'stranger danger' that other countries get.

Depends entirely on the situation.
When standing in a queue, my personal space in my back is about arm's length. All those people who have the nasty habit of crawling up the back of the person in front of them (in a subconsciuos effort to make the queue move faster, no doubt), tend to make me extremely aggressive. I normally react by turning around abruptly for no reason, with slightly raised elbows. A short "Oh, sorry, didn't know you were standing that close behind me", and they ususally keep a bit of distance after that.

Other than that, my personal space is comparatively small.

Extremely small. I work at a grocery store so, it has shrunk alot. Its basically "as long as we are not touching".

HUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUG!

I'm a hugger. I like people close to me and being close to people. I've hypothosized that it has to do with my sense of touch being somewhat stronger than my other senses--as evidenced by my hyper-sensitive skin, which is both easy to damage and easy to please--and as such I like to hug and be hugged. Hugging is good, Wilgrove. It's a good thing. Makes people feel better. If the world were a huggle world, it would be a happy world.

...

Or at least happier, anyway.

Eh my big personal space is based on past experience with human interactions.

HUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUGHUG!
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HUGHUGHUG ~HUGS~

HUGHUGHUG ~HUGS~

Hey, I want one, too! :(

Eh my big personal space is based on past experience with human interactions.

The other--much more probable--reason has to do with my emotional immaturity, which is still a factor today, ashamedly.

What happened to yah?

The other--much more probable--reason has to do with my emotional immaturity, which is still a factor today, ashamedly.

What happened to yah?

Well let's just say that in the past, human interactions have not been kind to me, and since then I've seen my big personal space as a way of protecting myself.

Hey, I want one, too! :(

*misses and hugs the dog*

Its like that dog is magnetic or something.:confused:

Ok Ok, Hugs for all who want one!

~HUGS ALOT OF PEOPLE~

Happy? That's as far as I go I'm afraid. Not even fluffles unless you're special.

Well let's just say that in the past, human interactions have not been kind to me, and since then I've seen my big personal space as a way of protecting myself.
...

*slap*

I hate it when people use the good old "I refuse to bear my emotions to other people because I've been hurt before and I might hurt or be hurt again1" argument. AIYAH. It's not worth it. All you do is bottle your emotions up and make it worse. You gotta trust people again. It's all part of living.

New Zealandium: Yayhug.

Ok Ok, Hugs for all who want one!

~HUGS ALOT OF PEOPLE~

Happy? That's as far as I go I'm afraid. Not even fluffles unless you're special.

:fluffle:

Aproximately 15 billion light years in diameter:I.E. the universe. All of yall are in it btw. Please leave.:D

...

*slap*

I hate it when people use the good old "I refuse to bear my emotions to other people because I've been hurt before and I might hurt or be hurt again1" argument. AIYAH. It's not worth it. All you do is bottle your emotions up and make it worse. You gotta trust people again. It's all part of living.

New Zealandium: Yayhug.

Only trusting a few select people is actually working out pretty well.

oh and *slaps back, but harder*

:fluffle:

Damnit, who am I kidding, I truely am a whore at heart. :fluffle:

Aproximately 15 billion light years in diameter:I.E. the universe. All of yall are in it btw. Please leave.:D

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:gundge:

I don’t actually have one in fact I tend to get stressed when I’m not surrounded by people comes from being an insecure attention whore with no sense of what is socially acceptable I guess

Though its not fun when your angry for people to cuddle you and say how sweet you look, dammit I’m a volcano of rage not a cuddly teddy bear:mad:

:gundge:

*dies*

I don’t actually have one in fact I tend to get stressed when I’m not surrounded by people comes from being an insecure attention whore with no sense of what is socially acceptable I guess

Though its not fun when your angry for people to cuddle you and say how sweet you look, dammit I’m a volcano of rage not a cuddly teddy bear:mad:

These people could be using "Free Hugs" as a way to lure people into large groups so they can be more effective with their whole suicide bomber mentality.

you never really know.

I don’t actually have one in fact I tend to get stressed when I’m not surrounded by people comes from being an insecure attention whore with no sense of what is socially acceptable I guess

Though its not fun when your angry for people to cuddle you and say how sweet you look, dammit I’m a volcano of rage not a cuddly teddy bear:mad:

*pets the teddy bear on the head* :D

*pets the teddy bear on the head* :D

*hides*

*hides*

*uses as shield*

EDIT:w00tage

Only trusting a few select people is actually working out pretty well.

oh and *slaps back, but harder*

...

Ow. :(

These people could be using "Free Hugs" as a way to lure people into large groups so they can be more effective with their whole suicide bomber mentality.

you never really know.

well I never hug backpackers but that’s because they tend to smell :p

*pets the teddy bear on the head* :D

I am not cuddly :mad: :headbang: :gundge: :p

...

Ow. :(

Well you slapped me first, and you wonder why I have a big personal space. :(

Damnit, who am I kidding, I truely am a whore at heart. :fluffle:

:fluffle:

I get lonely without human contact, I love hugs. :D

That said, they have to be from the right person, people who are constantly in my face freak me out, and if I don't want someone close, I can get claustrophobic, no matter who it is.

I am not cuddly :mad: :headbang: :gundge: :p

Awww you're just cranky, yes you are! *holds out treat* :D

:fluffle:

I get lonely without human contact, I love hugs. :D

That said, they have to be from the right person, people who are constantly in my face freak me out, and if I don't want someone close, I can get claustrophobic, no matter who it is.

I wub people around. It's just that I get Crowd-induced claustrophobia, that's why I took up parkour, so that I can always get away from people. Stampeding crowds (Like those coming out of a cinema or stadium) scare the fuck out of me. I cannot stand that.

I wub people around. It's just that I get Crowd-induced claustrophobia, that's why I took up parkour, so that I can always get away from people. Stampeding crowds (Like those coming out of a cinema or stadium) scare the fuck out of me. I cannot stand that.

I can understand that, though it's not so bad for me. I have more of a problem with one on one. Sometimes for no apparent reason, I just need to leave whoever I'm with and be alone for a bit.

Fortunately I've built up a reputation of eccentricity. If I'm not comfortable in a situation, no-one bats an eye if I scream nonsense syllables or words, run in a circle three times, then jump off a two meter fall onto grass and burn off into the horizon.

Fortunately I've built up a reputation of eccentricity. If I'm not comfortable in a situation, no-one bats an eye if I scream nonsense syllables or words, run in a circle three times, then jump off a two meter fall onto grass and burn off into the horizon.

Oooooookaaaaayyyyyyy.

Well you slapped me first, and you wonder why I have a big personal space. :(

Well, the idea was to put some sense into you. A bad one.

...*stretches out arms* Want a hug?

I can understand that, though it's not so bad for me. I have more of a problem with one on one. Sometimes for no apparent reason, I just need to leave whoever I'm with and be alone for a bit.

*HUG*

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Oooooookaaaaayyyyyyy.

Yeah, it's true, I just asked two mates if it's an accurate summation of me. I got the replies "I would not be surprised" and "that is true there".

Shame, but yes. Of course, that's not the usual thing for me to do, but a genuine option, yes.

I always wondered: if millions of people had one large group hug...could it attract a comet/bring the Moon out of orbit?

I can understand that, though it's not so bad for me. I have more of a problem with one on one. Sometimes for no apparent reason, I just need to leave whoever I'm with and be alone for a bit.

~Dances~ Would you prefer, Waltz, or Foxtrot?

I always wondered: if millions of people had one large group hug...could it attract a comet/bring the Moon out of orbit?
...

Uh, no.

...

Uh, no.

What if they began dry-humping?

What if they began dry-humping?

Despite how much the video's would sell for, it would not change the orbits of any celestial body. Sadly.

*HUG*

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Aww, thank you gorgeous. :fluffle:

~Dances~ Would you prefer, Waltz, or Foxtrot?

Waltz, I vaguely recall the steps. :p

No one likes to get close to me, except for a handful of friends and family members. The sentiment is reciprocated in both cases.

Pretty much the same here. :p

Aww, thank you gorgeous. :fluffle:



Waltz, I vaguely recall the steps. :p

*waltzes with TBD of into the sunset
:fluffle:



.... yes, I do feel lightheaded today. Must be the cough syrup.

*waltzes with TBD of into the sunset
:fluffle:



.... yes, I do feel lightheaded today. Must be the cough syrup.

Our mature Irish woman dancing away with our young Australian beauty...it's not fair I tell you. Not fair. :(

the only person who can get near me,is my girl

Our mature Irish woman dancing away with our young Australian beauty...it's not fair I tell you. Not fair. :(

Mature? Mature??!!??
What am I, a slice of cheddar? :mad:

Our mature Irish woman dancing away with our young Australian beauty...it's not fair I tell you. Not fair. :(

Aww, here....*takes Cabra's cough medicine and hands it to you* Good for what ails ya.

I got dibs on the rest of her stuff, since I don't think she's coming back.

Mature? Mature??!!??
What am I, a slice of cheddar? :mad:

*sniffs*

No, a hint of gorgonzola.

But chin up, hey? They say cheese gets better with age.

Of course, it also gets more smelly, but that's the price you pay, I suppose.

Mature? Mature??!!??
What am I, a slice of cheddar? :mad:

er no

Mature? Mature??!!??
What am I, a slice of cheddar? :mad:

:eek:

I didn't mean it like that! I meant it in a nice way! You know, the kind of woman that's sophisticated, that's been around town and knows how it works, that kind of thing!

Mature? Mature??!!??
What am I, a slice of cheddar? :mad:

I think they were implying a fine wine.

*OK enough a$$kissing for me today*

:eek:

I didn't mean it like that! I meant it in a nice way! You know, the kind of woman that's sophisticated, that's been around town and knows how it works, that kind of thing!

Ahahahaa, you're putting your foot in it now.

Aww, here....*takes Cabra's cough medicine and hands it to you* Good for what ails ya.

I got dibs on the rest of her stuff, since I don't think she's coming back.

Heh. You'll be paying and arm and a leg having that all shipped to Australia.

Heh. You'll be paying and arm and a leg having that all shipped to Australia.

As long as it's not my arm and/or leg, that's okay.

*sniffs*

No, a hint of gorgonzola.

But chin up, hey? They say cheese gets better with age.

Of course, it also gets more smelly, but that's the price you pay, I suppose.

*douses herself in perfume*

:eek:

I didn't mean it like that! I meant it in a nice way! You know, the kind of woman that's sophisticated, that's been around town and knows how it works, that kind of thing!

*lol
Wouldn't "experienced" be a better word, then? ;) :p

As long as it's not my arm and/or leg, that's okay.

Whose arm/leg did you have in mind?

*douses herself in perfume*

Ewwww.

Perfume = bad.

Heh. You'll be paying and arm and a leg having that all shipped to Australia.

yes its not cheap,then your have to wait for it to get the ok from customs

I think they were implying a fine wine.

*OK enough a$$kissing for me today*

Call me Chateau du Pape, then :D

Ewwww.

Perfume = bad.

Well, better than gorgonzola aroma any day. :p

*lol
Wouldn't "experienced" be a better word, then? ;) :p

Well...I thought mature expressed it better. Remind me not to try to compliment people...:(

Kanabia: Ssssh!

I have a pretty big need for personal space. I can stand being a little bit closer to members of my family and to people I trust (there are very few people outside of my family whom I trust enough to hug, however).

Well...I thought mature expressed it better. Remind me not to try to compliment people...:(

Kanabia: Ssssh!

Ah, don't worry about it... it's just easy to misunderstand people on the interwebs, is all. ;)

Ah, don't worry about it... it's just easy to misunderstand people on the interwebs, is all. ;)

Hoo boy do I know that one. In an e-relationship for three years then it turns out she was using me for her own twisted amusement the whole time!

Well...I thought mature expressed it better. Remind me not to try to compliment people...:(

Kanabia: Ssssh!

my girl is only one year old then me ,but if i say only mature to her or others in front of her, she will hit me
but if i say experienced mature female iam safe

Hoo boy do I know that one. In an e-relationship for three years then it turns out she was using me for her own twisted amusement the whole time!

Oh shit... that's bad. :(

Oh shit... that's bad. :(

Bah, don't worry about it. That ended close to two years ago now. I learned a lot of valuable lessons during that time. A LOT.

Reading the "Free Hugs" thread inspired this one. So, how big is your personal space? Me, I have a pretty big personal space. I like to hold people off at arms length (mine), and that's what I'm most comfortable with. The only time I ever let anyone come close to me is 1. I know them very well and is comfortable with them being that close to me or 2. I can't avoid the cramp situation. So tell us, how big is your personal space?!

I have it the same way. I'd say my need for personal space (including a big need to be alone) is quite big, I Friggin' hate crowds.

Hoo boy do I know that one. In an e-relationship for three years then it turns out she was using me for her own twisted amusement the whole time!

what a elg'caress .bitch.

Hoo boy do I know that one. In an e-relationship for three years then it turns out she was using me for her own twisted amusement the whole time!

Yowch. Really, Yowch. Been there, done that, but not for three years!

Hoo boy do I know that one. In an e-relationship for three years then it turns out she was using me for her own twisted amusement the whole time!

Coulda been worse.....

If you don't smell bad, then I don't care.

:fluffle:

Coulda been worse.....

Yes, indeedy. I could have been arrested and charged with sexual assault!

But that's another story for another time. (And I was completely innocent.)

EDITSU: Well, what a shock, that killed the thread. Look, if it worries you that much, it had to do with an overzealous parent on her side, okay? I didn't do a thing.

Yes, indeedy. I could have been arrested and charged with sexual assault!

But that's another story for another time. (And I was completely innocent.)

At least you didn't get married.

20 centimetres

*waltzes with TBD of into the sunset
:fluffle:



.... yes, I do feel lightheaded today. Must be the cough syrup.

:D What a beautiful scene! ^_^ :fluffle:

And, mm, cough syrup. :p

Ewwww.

Perfume = bad.

I love perfume. Do I make you want to be far away from me irl? :p

my Personal Space just got smaller

At least you didn't get married.

...ehehehe...yeah, tell that to my younger self. "OH I LOVE HER AND WILL MARRY HER! I'LL MOVE TO WHERE SHE LIVES AND WE'LL LIVE HAPPILY EVER AFTER!"

Yes. I was that stupid. Aiyah...I swear, if I ever met my younger self from those days...

:D What a beautiful scene! ^_^ :fluffle:

And, mm, cough syrup. :p


Ugh.. you never had to take Benylin, right?


I love perfume. Do I make you want to be far away from me irl? :p

Speaking of which... I need to make a new thread.

Thanks for giving me the idea. :fluffle:

Ugh.. you never had to take Benylin, right?



Speaking of which... I need to make a new thread.

Thanks for giving me the idea. :fluffle:

Lol, Never heard of the stuff. :p

And, it's my pleasure. ;) :fluffle:

I suppose my personal space is reasonably large, theres only very few people I feel comfortable with being close to. I like hugs, but not too often (I have a friend who has a great need for hugs and sometimes it gets a bit too much, if done too often it seems to lose its meaning), and only with good friends/family, though my family is not very touchy. I often get claustraphobia from crowds, so don't like crowded trains/buses/pubs (the worst has been being just across the river from the London Eye at New Years *shudder*), and have a habit of taking extended toilet breaks to fulfill my need for perceived isolation (though that has some other causes).

hehe it's hard to have any personal space if you live and work in London. 'Specialy if you use the tube system.

If people get within approximately 9-12 metres of me, I am apt to change direction so that I might avoid them by the widest possible margin. If they get any closer, I switch to defensive fight/flight mode, normally signified by a faint turning of the forearm and tensing of the knees in preparation for a groin strike and/or swift escape. Saying anything to me tends to yield no visible reaction but causes massive hormonal releases that I can barely control to avoid simply running in the other direction. Only one non-relative has ever tried to hug or touch me, I didn't find out which; I performed a variation of the double arm grab self-defense maneuver (i.e. straighten the forearm to stop the other person's hand motion, then grab their nearest wrist and twist it around, bringing the other arm around to push downwards on the wrist, potentially breaking it), while explaining to her that I wasn't exactly the most physical-contact type of person.
I've come to accept relatives slightly more, but even they don't try much because they know I don't like it and am making enough of an effort by being there in the first place.

Aproximately 15 billion light years in diameter:I.E. the universe. All of yall are in it btw. Please leave.:D
*invades personal space*
Mwahahaha
If people get within approximately 9-12 metres of me, I am apt to change direction so that I might avoid them by the widest possible margin. If they get any closer, I switch to defensive fight/flight mode, normally signified by a faint turning of the forearm and tensing of the knees in preparation for a groin strike and/or swift escape. Saying anything to me tends to yield no visible reaction but causes massive hormonal releases that I can barely control to avoid simply running in the other direction. Only one non-relative has ever tried to hug or touch me, I didn't find out which; I performed a variation of the double arm grab self-defense maneuver (i.e. straighten the forearm to stop the other person's hand motion, then grab their nearest wrist and twist it around, bringing the other arm around to push downwards on the wrist, potentially breaking it), while explaining to her that I wasn't exactly the most physical-contact type of person.
I've come to accept relatives slightly more, but even they don't try much because they know I don't like it and am making enough of an effort by being there in the first place.
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Mine's pretty small. Hugs=win :)

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... Damn, and I was hoping people would eventually forget, too.

Well, the idea was to put some sense into you. A bad one.

...*stretches out arms* Want a hug?

*hugs*

I don't like to be touched by strangers, and I don't like it when they stand too close (too close being defined as less than 2 feet). Actually I don't really like being touched by anyone except close friends/family.

It's wierd, I was completely opposite as a teenager. I developed the oogies to being touched later in life. It's also getting worse as the years go on. I think I'm going to seal myself in a plastic bubble of some kind.

Reading the "Free Hugs" thread inspired this one. So, how big is your personal space? Me, I have a pretty big personal space. I like to hold people off at arms length (mine), and that's what I'm most comfortable with. The only time I ever let anyone come close to me is 1. I know them very well and is comfortable with them being that close to me or 2. I can't avoid the cramp situation. So tell us, how big is your personal space?!

anything under my clothes is my personal space. other than that...

Depends how well I know the people I'm with I suppose. If it's people I don't know, then they can keep away, seriously. If it's people I'm great friends with, then they can spend all day attached to my arm and it wouldn't bother me.

My personal space isn't big. I go to an American high school, there's not much personal room there at all. And I <3 hugs. :)

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*waltzes with TBD of into the sunset
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.... yes, I do feel lightheaded today. Must be the cough syrup .

S-Syrup?

SYRUP!

SYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUP SYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUPSYRUP!!!!!!!!!!!!

*Calms down*

Sorry. I can't help it sometimes.

Reading the "Free Hugs" thread inspired this one. So, how big is your personal space? Me, I have a pretty big personal space. I like to hold people off at arms length (mine), and that's what I'm most comfortable with. The only time I ever let anyone come close to me is 1. I know them very well and is comfortable with them being that close to me or 2. I can't avoid the cramp situation. So tell us, how big is your personal space?!

Elbow length.

My personal space isn't big. I go to an American high school, there's not much personal room there at all. And I <3 hugs. :)

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*hugs*

I don't like anyone being close enough to touch me unless it's someone I really trust (family, boyfriend, best mate)

New York City subway during rush hour will disapear your conventional notions of personal space. And I like hugging anyway. :)

*hugs self*

My personal space is inversely proportional to the attractiveness of the person in question. If I find a person unattractive, I need more personal space.

Is this shallow? Probably*. Do I care? Not really.

*Well, maybe. I'm not attracted just by appearance, personality goes a long way.