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A friend of mine from Germany is coming to visit. Which is nice.

Except for the following: She's a she, she used to be my love interest, and our friendship was on decidedly shaky grounds at the end of 9th Grade when I left Germany. The most awkward moment of my life so far was in front of her house on my last day in Germany...the two of us only having started to speak to each other again a week earlier after a massive fight and aftermath which dragged on for probably six months or so.

So she's coming to visit and stay at my place a few days. Which might be awkward enough as it is, except...

She met a guy, another tourist from Germany, and the two are now travelling together. And he's gonna stay here as well, thanks to my incredibly helpful mother. :rolleyes:

I have no idea whether the two are doing anything more than travel together, but for some reason I am not at all keen to find out by hearing a bed squeak in the room next door. In fact, I'm decidedly pissed at the thought.

Which tells me that apparently I still haven't dealt with her, after five years. :rolleyes:

Any tips on how to make these days pass without total disaster?

Wow, it's like a Home & Away episode.

Wow, it's like a Home & Away episode.
Exactly. I hate soap operas!

Exactly. I hate soap operas!

Good. They deserve to be hated.

Well... step one is to brutally suppress any feelings you may or may not have for her. Don't let them interfere unless she initiates something.

Not that you should listen to me necessarily; my track record is awful.

Well... step one is to brutally suppress any feelings you may or may not have for her.
Mmmh, repression and bottling things up. I like it. :D

*takes advantage of pontetial*

Threesome?



Okay, now that I've said that. I do not envy your situation. That is not any fun at all.

Okay, now that I've said that. I do not envy your situation. That is not any fun at all.
Well, maybe it won't be that bad. I just have to somehow manage to get a virtually 24-7 program going so we're always too busy to think or talk about anything.

In the most boring city in Australia.

I'm doomed!

Get crazy drunk and pathetic, confess your feelings for her in brutal and horrible detail(the more confusing, the better), get the worst rejection in your life.

Feel like shit for a week.

Move on.

(This is based on my own horrible experiences, the nastier the rejection, the easier it is to move on. Thing is, the moment you give up hope you can move on much more easily.)

Thats my angle of it, atleast...

A friend of mine from Germany is coming to visit. Which is nice.

Except for the following: She's a she, she used to be my love interest, and our friendship was on decidedly shaky grounds at the end of 9th Grade when I left Germany. The most awkward moment of my life so far was in front of her house on my last day in Germany...the two of us only having started to speak to each other again a week earlier after a massive fight and aftermath which dragged on for probably six months or so.

So she's coming to visit and stay at my place a few days. Which might be awkward enough as it is, except...

She met a guy, another tourist from Germany, and the two are now travelling together. And he's gonna stay here as well, thanks to my incredibly helpful mother. :rolleyes:

I have no idea whether the two are doing anything more than travel together, but for some reason I am not at all keen to find out by hearing a bed squeak in the room next door. In fact, I'm decidedly pissed at the thought.

Which tells me that apparently I still haven't dealt with her, after five years. :rolleyes:

Any tips on how to make these days pass without total disaster?
Don't be silly, he'll have to sleep on the couch in the lounge and she'll get the bed or you'll get relegated to the couch while he has your bed.

I doubt your mother would let them 'get cousy'...

*takes advantage of pontetial*

Threesome?

seconded. in fact bring a friend I suggest a trusty NSG man who loves to please *straightens tie* ;) :D

Why not just hop a train and bum around for a few weeks? Never fails. Avoiding conflict is simple and effective.

I doubt your mother would let them 'get cousy'...
Hmm, my mother can be surprisingly open about these things. Though I'm not sure that the problem is really tackled, even if they are seperated. Or indeed if he's gay or something.

It's not so much the fact that they might be getting it on as it is the fact that it would bother me if they were.

seconded. in fact bring a friend I suggest a trusty NSG man who loves to please *straightens tie* ;) :D
Sausagefest Ahoi!

Now, before we get the mods after us, let's get back to the Bible Belt. Like Soheran said: Repress and bottle up. ;)

Why not just hop a train and bum around for a few weeks? Never fails. Avoiding conflict is simple and effective.
From what she's told me, I'm sorta the main reason she's coming to Brisbane at all. So I can run, but I can't hide.

alcohol. lots and lots of alcohol.

in fact, the more alcohol, the better, because it always helps to forget the squeaks.

You need to have that Miata pimped before she gets there. When is she coming?

the nastier the rejection, the easier it is to move on. Thing is, the moment you give up hope you can move on much more easily.)

Thats my angle of it, atleast...

mine too. I spent 3 years in romantic limbo with a very friendly guy who would never accept romantic advances but spent huge ammounts of time with me anyway. the fact he was nice, understanding, and was ok with my still hanging around him constantly just made it harder to deal with. brutal rejection is almost nicer, overall.

You need to have that Miata pimped before she gets there. When is she coming?
And end up with him after me rather than her?

And end up with him after me rather than her?
If he is chasing you down the street, it will be much easier to disguise as an accident.

It's not so much the fact that they might be getting it on as it is the fact that it would bother me if they were.
It would also bother me.

And end up with him after me rather than her?

If he is gay, then she is single, no?

If he is gay, then she is single, no?

or maybe she's a man?

or maybe she's a man?
Who?

or maybe she's a man?
Hmm...that might solve the issue.

A friend of mine from Germany is coming to visit. Which is nice.

Except for the following: She's a she, she used to be my love interest, and our friendship was on decidedly shaky grounds at the end of 9th Grade when I left Germany. The most awkward moment of my life so far was in front of her house on my last day in Germany...the two of us only having started to speak to each other again a week earlier after a massive fight and aftermath which dragged on for probably six months or so.

So she's coming to visit and stay at my place a few days. Which might be awkward enough as it is, except...

She met a guy, another tourist from Germany, and the two are now travelling together. And he's gonna stay here as well, thanks to my incredibly helpful mother. :rolleyes:

I have no idea whether the two are doing anything more than travel together, but for some reason I am not at all keen to find out by hearing a bed squeak in the room next door. In fact, I'm decidedly pissed at the thought.

Which tells me that apparently I still haven't dealt with her, after five years. :rolleyes:

Any tips on how to make these days pass without total disaster?


Chloroform them, tie them up and drive out into the wilderness(is there still wilderness in Germany?) Then leave them fifty miles from nowhere in all directions, naked and without supplies. Even if they survive, they'll probably get the hint. :)

or maybe she's a man?

That could make afore mentioned threesome a little akward.

Sausagefest Ahoi!

how could one woman refuse 3 (4?) guys :D

As I see it, you have two options.

1) You can completely ignore the situation & pretend that there are no unresolved feelings between the two of you. It will probably fester away, but nothing too dramatic should happen.

2) You can get really drunk & confess your long held feelings, in all their gory details. This can be excruciatingly painful, but would at least resolve the situation, one way or another.

I prefer the second option, because "what ifs" are a pain in the arse. Have a crack, it's better to fail than to not try. The first option is definitely much easier though, it can be extremely difficult to spill your guts.

Hmm...that might solve the issue.

definately :D

That could make afore mentioned threesome a little akward.

oh no, not at all! there's just more love to go around!

how could one woman refuse 3 (4?) guys :D

lol...:rolleyes: something tells me that's not a selling point for most women...

Chloroform them, tie them up and drive out into the wilderness(is there still wilderness in Germany?) Then leave them fifty miles from nowhere in all directions, naked and without supplies. Even if they survive, they'll probably get the hint. :)
And show them "Wolf Creek" on DVD the night before. Sounds like a plan.

lol...:rolleyes: something tells me that's not a selling point for most women...
Then you hang out with the wrong women.

I prefer the second option, because "what ifs" are a pain in the arse. Have a crack, it's better to fail than to not try. The first option is definitely much easier though, it can be extremely difficult to spill your guts.
Hey, I haven't seen her in five years, and only got into email contact again about six months ago. I'm not gonna spring her with unresolved issues, rest assured.

I reckon there needs to be plenty of alcohol involved, and then we'll see how things go. Nothing I can do about the guy, other than hope there's nothing going on, if only because I hate being the third wheel. I always end up being the third that makes it a crowd.

I'd much prefer a woman who was all for me and her. And if she was going to bring in more people, lets not have more saugeses, eh.;)

Then you hang out with the wrong women.

haha - I'm gay. the context of my relationships with women involve ice cream and romantic comedies. not really...but I've never had the occasion to try and talk one into sex with me.

Hey, I haven't seen her in five years, and only got into email contact again about six months ago. I'm not gonna spring her with unresolved issues, rest assured.

I reckon there needs to be plenty of alcohol involved, and then we'll see how things go. Nothing I can do about the guy, other than hope there's nothing going on, if only because I hate being the third wheel. I always end up being the third that makes it a crowd.

what's the context of the recently resumed contact?

not really...but I've never had the occasion to try and talk one into sex with me.

now you know why there are so many straight guys we are in it for the wild sex parties :p

we just er keep it secret

what's the context of the recently resumed contact?
Well, I decided to send a mail to my old school. My teacher answered, and gave the address to a few more people, including her.

So I got a massive (and I mean, massive) email about all the little things that happened to her since then, which I answered with a somewhat shorter "yeah, not too much happening here. uni and stuff."

Then she asked me a few more questions, I answered them. Then nothing for a few weeks, then she asked me about info regarding Australia, because she's always wanted to go there and was planning a backpacking trip.

I wouldn't read anything into anything though. She's one of those really goody-goody people, overly enthusiastic about everything. You know the type.

"A friend in Sydney is getting married all of a sudden and i'm going there for the week, maybe come visit me there instead, byebye"

now you know why there are so many straight guys we are in it for the wild sex parties :p

we just er keep it secret

haha...gay people have more sex. unfortunately for staight guys, it's gay sex. I'm gay and I find it gross sometimes. the things people think of are kind of disturbing, sometimes. (you want to put that WHERE?)

Well, I decided to send a mail to my old school. My teacher answered, and gave the address to a few more people, including her.

So I got a massive (and I mean, massive) email about all the little things that happened to her since then, which I answered with a somewhat shorter "yeah, not too much happening here. uni and stuff."

Then she asked me a few more questions, I answered them. Then nothing for a few weeks, then she asked me about info regarding Australia, because she's always wanted to go there and was planning a backpacking trip.

I wouldn't read anything into anything though. She's one of those really goody-goody people, overly enthusiastic about everything. You know the type.

ahhh - I figured she was in it for the crash-pad...haha. it's just good policy to have at least one continent between you and your ex, on some occasions...:rolleyes:

Does she speak English well enough? Coz if not, you should just chuck in a couple of rude Aussie colloquialisms every time you start to get awkward or pissed off. She won't know what you're saying, but you can be happy in the knowledge that you're not REALLY snapping and making things awkward. Everyone wins!

A friend of mine from Germany is coming to visit. Which is nice.

Except for the following: She's a she, she used to be my love interest, and our friendship was on decidedly shaky grounds at the end of 9th Grade when I left Germany. The most awkward moment of my life so far was in front of her house on my last day in Germany...the two of us only having started to speak to each other again a week earlier after a massive fight and aftermath which dragged on for probably six months or so.

So she's coming to visit and stay at my place a few days. Which might be awkward enough as it is, except...

She met a guy, another tourist from Germany, and the two are now travelling together. And he's gonna stay here as well, thanks to my incredibly helpful mother. :rolleyes:

I have no idea whether the two are doing anything more than travel together, but for some reason I am not at all keen to find out by hearing a bed squeak in the room next door. In fact, I'm decidedly pissed at the thought.

Which tells me that apparently I still haven't dealt with her, after five years. :rolleyes:

Any tips on how to make these days pass without total disaster?
Easy. Go find The Beautiful Darkness and have her pretend to be your girlfriend for the next few days or so.

Easy. Go find The Beautiful Darkness and have her pretend to be your girlfriend for the next few days or so.

Wrong end of the country I'm afraid.

Easy. Go find The Beautiful Darkness and have her pretend to be your girlfriend for the next few days or so.

Lol :p

Ever seen the movie, "Boxing Helena"?


just a thought...

Refuse to wear clothes the whole time she's there.

Chloroform them, tie them up and drive out into the wilderness(is there still wilderness in Germany?) Then leave them fifty miles from nowhere in all directions, naked and without supplies. Even if they survive, they'll probably get the hint. :)

I second this as a reaction to most problems.

Refuse to wear clothes the whole time she's there.
They're Germans, so public nudity isn't going to embarass them one bit.

I suggest Neo starts humping their legs on arrival (either person, either leg).

They're Germans, so public nudity isn't going to embarass them one bit.

I suggest Neo starts humping their legs on arrival (either person, either leg).

I think our ideas would work well together.

I think our ideas would work well together.
Good point.
Neo - get naked and start leg-humping!