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How do you view yourself? Do you have a positive self-image, or a negative one? And what most effects how you feel about yourself?

I personally have a self-image that varies from time to time. I consider myself unattractive, so that may have a negative impact. I am usually somewhat confident in myself, as long as I have recently had good test scores or grades. Sometimes my self-esteem drops during the summer because I feel like I haven't had any chances to prove my worth.

So, how is your self-esteem, and what most effects it for you?

I don't feel.

Self-esteem is one of the stupidest things thought up. Are you going to feel bad at times? Yes. Are you going to feel good at times? Yes. Will there be times when one outweighs the other? Yes. Just do what you ought to do and things will work out.

We're raising a generation of cry-babies.

That's not really what you wanted to discuss, I know. This is just one of those issues that bothers me. A lot.

I don't feel.

You dirty robot bastard! Get your metallic hands off me!

"Fairly negative" would probably be the best way to describe.

I choose "waffle," for in my current psychoemotional state, I vacillate extremely minute to minute.The slightest thing can send me totally ass over tea kettle.

for the most part I like myself, there are things about myself that I don't like and I strive to change, but everyone has that I suppose.

I tend to focus more on things I can control, like it's not really an issue to me that I am unattractive because I can't do anything about it, however I am trying to be more results oriented rather than getting obsessive with details.

you know?

i think i'm great, i just don't believe anyone else would think that :p.

i don't really know where that puts me on that scale.
i just voted according to how this attitude manifests in my relationships to others.

for the most part I like myself, there are things about myself that I don't like and I strive to change, but everyone has that I suppose.

I tend to focus more on things I can control, like it's not really an issue to me that I am unattractive because I can't do anything about it, however I am trying to be more results oriented rather than getting obsessive with details.

you know?

Yeah, that makes sense. I'm just sort of a perfectionist, so if I mess up on anything, I feel horrible about myself.

Yeah, that makes sense. I'm just sort of a perfectionist, so if I mess up on anything, I feel horrible about myself.

I totally get that, I have OCD, so in addition to feeling like a failure over every little mistake I have the compulsion to double fix it. ;)

Its not high, thats for sure.

I totally get that, I have OCD, so in addition to feeling like a failure over every little mistake I have the compulsion to double fix it. ;)

:) It takes me a long time to forgive myself for every wrong answer I give. I think I'm getting better at it, though.

I'm awesome.

A lack of self-esteem is only for the weak.

I have a very high, but realistic self-esteem.

Self-esteem is one of the stupidest things thought up. Are you going to feel bad at times? Yes. Are you going to feel good at times? Yes. Will there be times when one outweighs the other? Yes. Just do what you ought to do and things will work out.

We're raising a generation of cry-babies.

That's not really what you wanted to discuss, I know. This is just one of those issues that bothers me. A lot.

Blah, Blah, Blah.

As for me, I have a very strange sense of self.

I am extremely narcissistic and extremely self-confident, to a point. However, I seem to have an extreme fear of failure, and more importantly am very concerned with others observing my failure, which leads me, even when I am extremely sure of myself, to be very hesitant and reserved.

I put neutral because I am a bit of a roller-coaster between extreme self-confidence and extreme self-doubt.

Well... I'm pretty sure that everyone hates me. I know they're all talking shit about me behind my back. They ignore me because they know I am a good-for-nothing, dumbass, fat, ugly loser!!!

But I don't care. So where would that fall?













Ok, I care a little bit. :(

I neither over- nor under-estimate myself. I cannot say I love myself, nor that I hate myself -- I simply work with what is at my disposal. Ergo, it is neutral.

But I don't care. So where would that fall?
In the realm of reality. Dunno what it says about your self-esteem though.

i think i'm great, i just don't believe anyone else would think that :p.

i don't really know where that puts me on that scale.
i just voted according to how this attitude manifests in my relationships to others.

i think i am decent enough fella,always lend a helping hand to anyone in need.

i have lots of friends that love me,i am pretty easygoing,except when i am drunk and get riled(but who doesnt over react whilst intoxicated..lol)
but i am mostly a happy drinker..or so my ex tells me...i turn into a social butterfly while drinking...when i am sober i am pleasant but guarded.

self esteem...wtf is that...if i had a shred of it the world would be a better place,as i would be more confident and work to make life better for all...but alas,i hate my appearance,love my intelect,love my compassion for the less fortunate,love my attitude of tomorrow is another day.

self esteem is tricky...it can translate into over confidence and arrogance,yet it also can help one ignore the day to day trials and tribulations of youth.

alas i am not a youth,so i just stay home now.

wishing i was goodlooking and girls could see the real me...but that ship sailed long ago.

wish i had paid more attention in pshyk class..lol

this juxtaposes quite well with the "good guy thread"

whole other can of worms.

i will say,i had 3 rum and cokes and a xanax ladder..so i asume i will be incoherent but happy shortly..is that self esteem?

I have my days where I feel like shit, but I have my days where I feel great about myself.

In the realm of reality. Dunno what it says about your self-esteem though.


Reality is for people who can't cope with drugs.

:p

I, by and large, love who I am. I've worked hard to get where I am.

This isn't to say I don't want some things to change, but I don't let them get me down.

I have an extremelly low self-esteem.

I have more of a realistic approach towards self-esteem. I'm proud of myself when I succeed, and I'm ashamed when I make a blunder. That being said, I am slightly over-critical of myself. This sometimes leads to moments of unnecessary negativity, but I consider it mostly positive. I challenge myself.

I have a pretty good self esteem these days, certainly much improved on what it was 6-7 years ago.

How do you view yourself?

I love me. I love me so much, I stroke me every day.

Oh wait.... family forum? Damnit.

I think I have a very healthy and accurate self-image for a god. :cool:

I have a bit of a god complex..

I have a bit of a god complex..

Will you be my God?

Will you be my God?

Don't tempt me.

How do you view yourself? Do you have a positive self-image, or a negative one? And what most effects how you feel about yourself?

I personally have a self-image that varies from time to time. I consider myself unattractive, so that may have a negative impact. I am usually somewhat confident in myself, as long as I have recently had good test scores or grades. Sometimes my self-esteem drops during the summer because I feel like I haven't had any chances to prove my worth.

So, how is your self-esteem, and what most effects it for you?

It's a damned sight higher than it used to be, that's for certain. I'd say it's about moderatly positive now, for the most part.

Also, to those who say we're "raising a generation of crybabies": go to hell. I am so sick of machoism and all that bullshit. A person's psychological state of mind matters a damned sight more than you realize. It's true of everyone, whether you admit it or not. If we'd stop acting so much like you would have us act, and start talking everything out and recognizing that we all have the full range of emotions and whatnot, maybe people in general would be a lot less violent.

I, by and large, love who I am. I've worked hard to get where I am.

This isn't to say I don't want some things to change, but I don't let them get me down.

I love me. I love me so much, I stroke me every day.

Oh wait.... family forum? Damnit.

I think I have a very healthy and accurate self-image for a god. :cool:

I have a bit of a god complex..

I'll take one of each, I think.

I put the lowest self-esteem option. I'm horrible with self-esteem.

But I mask it all with a large amount of cockiness and over-confidence. All imaginary, but it keeps the rapists away!

Well... I'm pretty sure that everyone hates me. I know they're all talking shit about me behind my back. They ignore me because they know I am a good-for-nothing, dumbass, fat, ugly loser!!!

But I don't care. So where would that fall?


Ok, I care a little bit. :(

That's ridiculous, and you know it. You're a cute, warm, loving and lovely person all around. :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

I love myself. I love who I am and what I am. It took me a VERY long time indeed to get to this point, changing both internally and externally, but I'm happy with myself now.

I am useless.

I'm awesome.

I am useless.

pwnd.

if i didnt have great selfesteem, i would be a liar.

if i didnt have great selfesteem, i would be a liar.Fuck it, I'll take both.

After all, what's a more interesting waste of time than a confident bullshitter?

Honestly? Almost non existent. I feel like I have little or nothing to be confident about.

I'm happy enough with who I am to not bother contemplating being different. Besides, being me is easy, and easy is good.

How do you view yourself? Do you have a positive self-image, or a negative one? And what most effects how you feel about yourself?

I personally have a self-image that varies from time to time. I consider myself unattractive, so that may have a negative impact. I am usually somewhat confident in myself, as long as I have recently had good test scores or grades. Sometimes my self-esteem drops during the summer because I feel like I haven't had any chances to prove my worth.

So, how is your self-esteem, and what most effects it for you?

True self-esteem isn't something you "build" as a separate entity, it's developed over time through a long series of small and not-so-small accomplishments. In other words, self-esteem, like most things, is earned.

Fuck it, I'll take both.

After all, what's a more interesting waste of time than a confident bullshitter?

i think at this stage in life, it is undeniable that i am the co-most fantastic guy in the world.

i think at this stage in life, it is undeniable that i am the co-most fantastic guy in the world.

I'm the other most fantastic guy in the world, right?

I'm the other most fantastic guy in the world, right?

possibly. caus ei dont know who you are. the second guy does go to ucd.

possibly. caus ei dont know who you are. the second guy does go to ucd.

That'll do. Huzzah for another title to add to my sig.


Boo for having to go to a maths lecture :(

That'll do. Huzzah for another title to add to my sig.


Boo for having to go to a maths lecture :(

what do you do? i have maths lecture too. but i dont go of course.

Self Esteem
La la la la la la la la la la

Meh.

I'm just a sucker with no self esteem.

Self Esteem
La la la la la la la la la la

Meh.

I'm just a sucker with no self esteem.

amazing song.

amazing song.

It amazes me how a band that sold out so terribly and began to produce the musical version of runny shite could make such a masterpiece of an album.

It amazes me how a band that sold out so terribly and began to produce the musical version of runny shite could make such a masterpiece of an album.

yeah went down hill after that. altough the last album has some great songs, but still dont as high of a standard as they should have.

Self-esteem? Eh.

Mine fluctuates like a teenager's hormones. :p

I'll take one of each, I think.

You guys sure know how to keep a girl's spirits up around here. ^_^

I like me and I wouldn't trade being me for anything. :)

Mostly very low, interpersed by phases of indifference.

Honestly? Almost non existent. I feel like I have little or nothing to be confident about.
Hmm, I checked for white text, but seems to be none. Uh, you're teh awesome and you know it?

True self-esteem isn't something you "build" as a separate entity, it's developed over time through a long series of small and not-so-small accomplishments. In other words, self-esteem, like most things, is earned.
I agree that actual achievements (or perceived achievements) are one factor in self-esteem, but by far not the only one. Just as many, if not most, people with very low self-esteem don't "deserve" that, and/or don't not deserve self-esteem, many folks with an abundance of self-esteem have little reason to say they "deserve" it.
You guys sure know how to keep a girl's spirits up around here. ^_^

You mean, them guys sure know how to keep us girls' spirits up?

Hmm, I checked for white text, but seems to be none. Uh, you're teh awesome and you know it?

Thanks. *shrugs* I just rarely have any excuse to feel happy with myself. Well, not that it's a bad thing. Encourages me to improve things. Or something.

i have very very low self-esteem :(

i think im ugly, stupid and have too many psychiatric problems to come close to normal.

The good news is i think everyone else is much much worse.

Hmm, I checked for white text, but seems to be none. Uh, you're teh awesome and you know it?


I agree that actual achievements (or perceived achievements) are one factor in self-esteem, but by far not the only one. Just as many, if not most, people with very low self-esteem don't "deserve" that, and/or don't not deserve self-esteem, many folks with an abundance of self-esteem have little reason to say they "deserve" it.


You mean, them guys sure know how to keep us girls' spirits up?

Do you have any clue how "Southern" that sounds?

Thanks. *shrugs* I just rarely have any excuse to feel happy with myself. Well, not that it's a bad thing. Encourages me to improve things. Or something.
Well, you've really got to work on your, uh, perception skills, then. 'Cause I ment it when I said you're awesome, and I'm not easily pleased. There.

Do you have any clue how "Southern" that sounds?

I don't want to know. *cowers in her northern hide-away*

I would rate myself as satisfactory. People tell me I'm negative, but I think I just have high standards and am ruthlessly honest with myself about my flaws. It doesn't make me feel bad to be aware of my flaws, usually, it's just part of my learning process.

Well, you've really got to work on your, uh, perception skills, then. 'Cause I ment it when I said you're awesome, and I'm not easily pleased. There.

Hehe. Well thanks. :)

I like the internet. People think i'm cool there. :cool:

How do you view yourself? Do you have a positive self-image, or a negative one? And what most effects how you feel about yourself?
I say I'm barely negative.

I don't consider myself "attractive" and I tend to avoid social events unless I really know someone who is also attending. (and considering how large my family is, there's alot of family members I really don't know... )

I am shy, to the point where I am a wall flower and tend to stutter and really put foot in mouth when I do try to converse with women.

I always make allowances for my mistakes. My confidence is low to middling...





yeah, I'm a mess in the self-esteem department...

I like the internet. People think i'm cool there. :cool:

You still owe me that Europe trip that you wanted to use to drop by here. I don't forget things. :)

You still owe me that Europe trip that you wanted to use to drop by here. I don't forget things. :)

I'll try and get there within the next decade or so. :p

I'll try and get there within the next decade or so. :p

That's okay; taking into account the breath-taking velocity with which my country lets their uni students move through the hallowed halls of secondary education, I'll still be here.

I say I'm barely negative.

I don't consider myself "attractive" and I tend to avoid social events unless I really know someone who is also attending. (and considering how large my family is, there's alot of family members I really don't know... )

I am shy, to the point where I am a wall flower and tend to stutter and really put foot in mouth when I do try to converse with women.

yeah, I'm a mess in the self-esteem department...
Meh, I don't suffer from low self-esteem anymore, but I am completely inept at conversing with people in real life, beyond set conversations on theory and such (e.g. Economics); anything beyond that leaves me at a loss for the most part. Which makes it all the easier for me to be a complete loner.

Meh, I don't suffer from low self-esteem anymore, but I am completely inept at conversing with people in real life, beyond set conversations on theory and such (e.g. Economics); anything beyond that leaves me at a loss for the most part. Which makes it all the easier for me to be a complete loner.
that's a big plus for you... me, my safe topics are...

Comics, Role Playing Games, and Anime...

that's a big plus for you... me, my safe topics are...

Comics, Role Playing Games, and Anime...
It's a plus for me in an academic sense. In a social context, it means I usually have nothing to say (not because I cannot, but I have no idea what to talk about). Being able to talk about RPGs etc. would make it easier for me to befriend like-minded people. It's rare to find anyone my age interested in the things I can talk about... I've tried joining RPG societies etc, but I usually find it impossible to communicate with the people there, who are extraverts (within the realm of their hobby), compared to me who is a natural introvert and dreamer...

that's a big plus for you... me, my safe topics are...

Comics, Role Playing Games, and Anime...

Anime! :D :fluffle:

That's okay; taking into account the breath-taking velocity with which my country lets their uni students move through the hallowed halls of secondary education, I'll still be here.

Excellent. And if i'm still poor and living under a bridge at that time whilst you have lots of money from your professional job and such, you can help me achieve the goal, right?

"Fairly negative" would probably be the best way to describe.

Negative? Pff, we'll have to do something about that. :fluffle:

I picked neutral, though what I really wanted to pick was both "very positive" and "very negative".
Because for one, it varies a lot from one moment to another, and for another I have some aspects of myself where my self-esteem is very positive and others where it is very negative, and for yet another, "very positive" and "very negative" also usually kind of coexist. Not that I really understand how that works, but it does. :/

Well, you've really got to work on your, uh, perception skills, then. 'Cause I ment it when I said you're awesome, and I'm not easily pleased. There.
For once, I agree entirely with SoWiBi. :eek:

Except I would have spelled "meant" correctly. :p

Excellent. And if i'm still poor and living under a bridge at that time whilst you have lots of money from your professional job and such, you can help me achieve the goal, right?

You mean, when I haul in the shitloads of money one makes as a teacher here? Sure thing, lovey. But you must understand that my pedagogic (sp?) training will require me to insist on the principle of teaching self-reliance and such, and I'll not be able to hand over any of my money. I'd have it, sure, but it wouldn't have any educational value to do so..

For once, I agree entirely with SoWiBi. :eek:
I'm torn between the urges to stay and point%laugh at you for your foolishness, and the one to just run, as fast and as far as I can.

Except I would have spelled "meant" correctly. :p

I did; my keyboard messed it up. It's rather discriminating against certain letters, y'know. I know you do.

Very negative. I hate pretty much everything about my appearence and personality, which is never a good start. Plus I find it very difficult to forget things ive done which have been embarassing, to the extent that I'll remember the smallest thing even years later :( No wonder people keep calling me emo lol

No wonder people keep calling me emo lol
You've got a pink sig; you're asking for it.

You've got a pink sig; you're asking for it.

That's the greatest colour there is, fool!

I did; my keyboard messed it up. It's rather discriminating against certain letters, y'know. I know you do.
Does it discriminate against "m"s, too? You better consider your answer well, in light of the most recent regional board incident. :p

On topic:
Plus I find it very difficult to forget things ive done which have been embarassing, to the extent that I'll remember the smallest thing even years later :(
Oh, well, you're not alone with that, unfortunately. I'm totally like that, to a really, really bad degree. And I happen to know that at least one other person on here is like that, too, so I'm guessing it's apparently not as rare as I thought.
Doesn't make it any less stupid and self-defeating, but still. :/

That's the greatest colour there is, fool!

Pink's not a color, but an abomination, fool. And, on a side note, wasn't England a nation, not a country?

Pink's not a color, but an abomination, fool. And, on a side note, wasn't England a nation, not a country?

Booo! its a great colour. -1 point from your "cool" score. And nation/country???? Isn't it both :confused:

Oh, well, you're not alone with that, unfortunately. I'm totally like that, to a really, really bad degree. And I happen to know that at least one other person on here is like that, too, so I'm guessing it's apparently not as rare as I thought.
Doesn't make it any less stupid and self-defeating, but still. :/

Pff I don't believe it's rare at all. Although I did finally get over this one thing I did in....3rd grade, I think? I can think back to it without cringing.

You mean, when I haul in the shitloads of money one makes as a teacher here? Sure thing, lovey. But you must understand that my pedagogic (sp?) training will require me to insist on the principle of teaching self-reliance and such, and I'll not be able to hand over any of my money. I'd have it, sure, but it wouldn't have any educational value to do so..

Aww, crap.

But you'll be making more money than me, who will likely still be bagging groceries at a supermarket in three years. >.<

Maybe if I start swimming, I can get there sooner....hmmm....Oooh, maybe I could build a boat out of soiled mattresses from the rubbish dump?

For once, I agree entirely with SoWiBi.


Aww. :) Maybe it's not the internet that thinks i'm cool, but instead German people. *strokes chin thoughtfully*

Does it discriminate against "m"s, too? You better consider your answer well, in light of the most recent regional board incident. :p
It's not very discriminatory about whom to discriminate against, afaik.

Oh, well, you're not alone with that, unfortunately. I'm totally like that, to a really, really bad degree. And I happen to know that at least one other person on here is like that, too, so I'm guessing it's apparently not as rare as I thought.
Doesn't make it any less stupid and self-defeating, but still. :/
Yeah, I tend to recall all of my awesomeness moments for what seems like ever, too, no matter how small or insignificant they may have been, so maybe it's really not all that uncommon.

Pff I don't believe it's rare at all. Although I did finally get over this one thing I did in....3rd grade, I think? I can think back to it without cringing.
Considering you're only 14, IIRC, that's amazing progress! :p Care to share your secret recipe for non-cringe success?

And I happen to know that at least one other person on here is like that, too, so I'm guessing it's apparently not as rare as I thought.

*raises hand* :p

Aww. :) Maybe it's not the internet that thinks i'm cool, but instead German people. *strokes chin thoughtfully*

Zu Deutschland!

oiled mattresses from the rubbish dump?
Oooh, buddy, bad mistake - you reminded me of the dungeon thread you so thoughtlessly let asphyxiate. :mad: :(

Aww. :) Maybe it's not the internet that thinks i'm cool, but instead German people. *strokes chin thoughtfully*
Yeah, better get working on that mattress raft. I'm sure SoWiBi would let you crash on her couch.

Yeah, I tend to recall all of my awesomeness moments for what seems like ever, too, no matter how small or insignificant they may have been, so maybe it's really not all that uncommon. :rolleyes: :p

Considering you're only 14, IIRC, that's amazing progress! :p Care to share your secret recipe for non-cringe success?

Well, it helps that I forgot preciscisely how they all reacted to it, and only remember it as <insert unfavourable reactions>

Booo! its a great colour. -1 point from your "cool" score. And nation/country???? Isn't it both :confused:
You better take your grubby hands off my cool score, darling. And no, afaik England's a nation withing the country of the UK, or Britain. Please feel free to correct me on my terminology here if I'm wrong, but that's what I recall from my latest BritCiv class.


Maybe if I start swimming, I can get there sooner....hmmm....Oooh, maybe I could build a boat out of soiled mattresses from the rubbish dump?
Been there, tried that, am strongly discouraging you from it.

Aww. :) Maybe it's not the internet that thinks i'm cool, but instead German people. *strokes chin thoughtfully*
Who says it's a difference?

Zu Deutschland!

Zum Deutschkurs!

Yeah, better get working on that mattress raft. I'm sure SoWiBi would let you crash on her couch.
You erroneously assume I have a couch. I'm flattered, though.

Considering you're only 14, IIRC, that's amazing progress! :p Care to share your secret recipe for non-cringe success?

Well, it helps that I forgot preciscisely how they all reacted to it, and only remember it as <insert unfavourable reactions>

Well, it helps that I forgot preciscisely how they all reacted to it, and only remember it as <insert unfavourable reactions>
Buh? Man, you just gave me a bad time warp moment with double posting that! Don't do that again, will ya? :p

Oooh, buddy, bad mistake - you reminded me of the dungeon thread you so thoughtlessly let asphyxiate. :mad: :(

Nahh, I haven't let it die. I'll rejuvenate it tomorrow. (I just finished uni for good yesterday, seee....so i'll have plenty of time to waste)

Yeah, better get working on that mattress raft. I'm sure SoWiBi would let you crash on her couch.

What, they don't have bridges in Germany?


Been there, tried that, am strongly discouraging you from it.

Hmm.

Maybe I could...go to China, and walk from there? I mean, if it was good enough for Marco Polo and crew...

Who says it's a difference?

Some of the posters on here would make me hope that there is, else i think i'll be staying here and hoarding my soiled mattresses, thanks.

Anime! :D :fluffle:

Yeah... and all the girls that will converse with me on this (and the other) subjects are either too young (under 18), already spoken for, or too far away... :(

Yeah... and all the girls that will converse with me on this (and the other) subjects are either too young (under 18), already spoken for, or too far away... :(

You could move to Japan...

*not helpful*

What, they don't have bridges in Germany?
Nah, got rid of them in the late 1930's. Autobahns took up all the building material, and we neve bothered to put them back up.

Some of the posters on here would make me hope that there is, else i think i'll be staying here and hoarding my soiled mattresses, thanks.
If you could just elaborate on the diffeence between that and coming here, now..

Buh? Man, you just gave me a bad time warp moment with double posting that! Don't do that again, will ya? :p

Kie-do.

Nah, got rid of them in the late 1930's. Autobahns took up all the building material, and we neve bothered to put them back up.

That sucks. Where do all your poor people go? Poland?

If you could just elaborate on the diffeence between that and coming here, now..

Erm...your matresses aren't soiled?

*assumption*

That sucks. Where do all your poor people go? Poland?
No, that's where they come from *ducks*

Actually, we export them for ridiculous prices to Autralia. Worked for Britain quite a while ago, and it looks like we're doing fine so far, too.

Erm...your matresses aren't soiled?

*assumption*

When you assume you make an ass out of you and me.. *slaps self*

No, that's where they come from *ducks*

Actually, we export them for ridiculous prices to Autralia. Worked for Britain quite a while ago, and it looks like we're doing fine so far, too.

Oohhhh, so that's where Neu-Leonstein came from....

When you assume you make an ass out of you and me.. *slaps self*

*speaks aloud to self* No, I don't believe i'll dignify that with a direct response. *turns up nose*

Oohhhh, so that's where Neu-Leonstein came from....
Nah, he's still from an earlier wave when we expelled the brains because they frightened us :) And then we realized how much fun it'd be to send the poor to go after them and frighten them some, too. :)

*speaks aloud to self* No, I don't believe i'll dignify that with a direct response. *turns up nose*

Your nose looks cute that way. *nods*

You could move to Japan...

*not helpful*
Believe me, I did seriously consider that... :p

Believe me, I did seriously consider that... :p

What kept you? Not fluent enough in Anime talk in Japanese after all?

What kept you? Not fluent enough in Anime talk in Japanese after all?

Not fluent enough in the Language... :p


and because I look Japanese... :rolleyes:

Oh, well, you're not alone with that, unfortunately. I'm totally like that, to a really, really bad degree. And I happen to know that at least one other person on here is like that, too, so I'm guessing it's apparently not as rare as I thought.
Doesn't make it any less stupid and self-defeating, but still. :/
*sings* You are not alone

Yeah, well, you ain't.
Aww. :) Maybe it's not the internet that thinks i'm cool, but instead German people. *strokes chin thoughtfully*
You might be onto something. Although since you never finished my theme song (or did you?) you sink two levels of coolness on my scale. *nods*
Zum Deutschkurs!
Hehehe. Das äst lostig!
What, they don't have bridges in Germany?
Yeah, we go tired of all the trolls. No bridges, no trolls, problem solved.

I'm usually OK with myself - however, I do have some self-esteem issues from time to time. Usually about my appearance. Sometimes I don't feel smart / competent enough...

So I go with "barely negative". (Even if I do try to stay generally positive :) )

Well... I'm pretty sure that everyone hates me. I know they're all talking shit about me behind my back. They ignore me because they know I am a good-for-nothing, dumbass, fat, ugly loser!!!

But I don't care. So where would that fall?







Ok, I care a little bit. :(
I'm sorry, you're wrong. Some of us like you :) :fluffle:

Self-esteem? Eh.

Mine fluctuates like a teenager's hormones. :p

:p Well, that's because you're a-*mumph* :eek:

*Gets gagged and is dragged away by men in cheap suits and dark sunglasses*

Negative? Pff, we'll have to do something about that. :fluffle:

Yea....good luck with that :p

Yea....good luck with that :p

Aye...that might actually be somewhat difficult...I don't suppose knowing that I visualise you as very attractive based on available information would help, eh?

On the one hand, I have bipolar social anxiety disorder (if such a thing exists. "Bipolar" refers to the fluctuation between "just-really-self-conscious" and "staying-in-bed-all-day-and-throwing-sharp-pointy-things-at-anyone-who-walks-into-my-room".); on the other hand, once I get over my insecurity about what everyone else thinks of me I can be one of the most self-centered people on the planet. So I'll put down neutral, I guess.

and Dinaverg.... *shakes head* When will you ever learn?

and Dinaverg.... *shakes head* When will you ever learn?

Ummm...Depends, does someone feel like teaching me?

Ummm...Depends, does someone feel like teaching me?

We tried... ("we" referring to the collective Hive Mind, you shall be assimilated, etc.)

We tried... ("we" referring to the collective Hive Mind, you shall be assimilated, etc.)

...I believe you know too much, sir.

Aye...that might actually be somewhat difficult...I don't suppose knowing that I visualise you as very attractive based on available information would help, eh?

Is it wrong that I don't actually believe you? :p

Is it wrong that I don't actually believe you? :p

Aye. That is clearly what we must work to fix...Gimme a minute, I'll think of something.

...I believe you know too much, sir.

Actually, I know nothing. But the less one knows, the more others think one knows. So therefore, in actuality, only idiots are truly intelligent.

Smoking is not my policy and no, you can't have any.

Aye. That is clearly what we must work to fix...Gimme a minute, I'll think of something.

I'm intrigued...

Actually, I know nothing. But the less one knows, the more others think one knows. So therefore, in actuality, only idiots are truly intelligent.

Smoking is not my policy and no, you can't have any.

Awww, I would've traded you some donuts to...

I picked neutral. I have days when I feel good about myself and days when I feel bad about myself, just like everyone else. On the whole, they even out and I just think of myself as average in terms of just about everything. Have to admit though, for a while I had a pretty big inferiority complex when I was in college.

Awww, I would've traded you some donuts to...

Donuts? How very un-real-man-like....

I'm intrigued...

Indeed, I am...intriguing like that.

Donuts? How very un-real-man-like....

...Huh?

...Huh?

It appears that I go misunderstood as usual. :(

Maybe I can file an application for Misunderstood Genius. Then I get to talk on endlessly about how all matter is made of tiny vibrating loops of energy and nuclear missiles can be transformed into sentient petunias if you fire them enough times, and no-one will think I'm crazy, just misunderstood. Not like they aren't the same thing.

It appears that I go misunderstood as usual. :(

Maybe I can file an application for Misunderstood Genius. Then I get to talk on endlessly about how all matter is made of tiny vibrating loops of energy and nuclear missiles can be transformed into sentient petunias if you fire them enough times, and no-one will think I'm crazy, just misunderstood. Not like they aren't the same thing.

Senile Old Man is so much more fun though.

Senile Old Man is so much more fun though.

Nah, one has to ask random danish people things like "What do you read, my lord?" and get stabbed while hiding in a younger woman's bedroom.

Reminds me, I wonder if any of the mods are still on danish duty... I'm hungry.

Nah, one has to ask random danish people things like "What do you read, my lord?" and get stabbed while hiding in a younger woman's bedroom.

Reminds me, I wonder if any of the mods are still on danish duty... I'm hungry.

Well, yeah, but who doesn't like hiding in a woman's bedroom?

Well, yeah, but who doesn't like hiding in a woman's bedroom?

Good point. Here, have a camel-shaped cookie. Actually, it could be whale-shaped.... or weasel-shaped....

Come to think of it it does look kind of like Vancouver Island...

Whatever, it's still a cookie.

Evenin', I'm off duty for today.

Good point. Here, have a camel-shaped cookie. Actually, it could be whale-shaped.... or weasel-shaped....

Come to think of it it does look kind of like Vancouver Island...

Whatever, it's still a cookie.

Evenin', I'm off duty for today.

*nod* evenin' Kingsy.

*nod* evenin' Kingsy.

damn, 30 minutes to live... I'd better say something memorable! *checks watch*

Indeed, I am...intriguing like that.

So where's this "something" you've promised me? :p

So where's this "something" you've promised me? :p

Hmm, lesse...I think I need to work something out with a large number of random people. I'll be calling in favors and studying mob psychology (by which I mean, reading that one Lemony Snicket book that mentions it)

Donuts? How very un-real-man-like....

Well... It depends on "how" thsoe donuts were carried...



and how many. ;)

Well... It depends on "how" thsoe donuts were carried...



and how many. ;)

http://www.torturedpotato.com/finger_donuts.jpg?

http://www.torturedpotato.com/finger_donuts.jpg?

Joke time:
how can you tell the most popular man in a nudist beach?
He's the one carrying a dozen donuts without a box while holding one cup of coffee in each hand.

That's ridiculous, and you know it. You're a cute, warm, loving and lovely person all around. :fluffle: :fluffle: :fluffle:

I know. :D
The doctors tell me that being a smartass is virtually incurable.

I love myself. I love who I am and what I am. It took me a VERY long time indeed to get to this point, changing both internally and externally, but I'm happy with myself now.

I'm happy with yourself, too. You are absolutely wonderful and even though you are a bazilliongajillion miles away (seems like it) I get warm fuzzies all over from the awesomeness that emanates from you. :fluffle:

Was that too stalker-ish?

I'm sorry, you're wrong. Some of us like you :) :fluffle:

But... what... about... EVERYBODY ELSE?! Well, you're are liked by me in return!:fluffle:

Fluffle quota reached for the day in one post!

I don't have a bad image of myself, but I do lack self-confidence...

I'm usually OK with myself - however, I do have some self-esteem issues from time to time. Usually about my appearance. Sometimes I don't feel smart / competent enough...

So I go with "barely negative". (Even if I do try to stay generally positive :) )


Sounds familiar.. :(

I'm coming to realise how true that saying "You're your own toughest judge" is. You know I think you're great anyway. :) :fluffle:

:p Well, that's because you're a-*mumph* :eek:

*Gets gagged and is dragged away by men in cheap suits and dark sunglasses*

:cool: PWNT.

But... what... about... EVERYBODY ELSE?! Well, you're are liked by me in return!:fluffle:

*Climbs out of the woodwork* :p

I think you're cool. :fluffle:

I think you're cool. :fluffle:

As are you! :fluffle:

I have way exceeded my fluffle count for the week, but I will make an exception for you. So... three down 789,067,897... *runs out of fingers*... to go!

I'm awesome.

I am useless.

pwnd.
Sometimes i get the feeling Monkeypimp doesn't like me very much...

Sometimes i get the feeling Monkeypimp doesn't like me very much...

You're lovely :(

You're lovely :(

*wonders what is worse, being called 'lovely' or being told that one isn't loved...*

You're lovely :(
:)
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My Dad is getting some really awesome stuff from the Golden Oldies Tournament.

Sounds familiar.. :(

I'm coming to realise how true that saying "You're your own toughest judge" is. You know I think you're great anyway. :) :fluffle:

Thanks :) And you're right you know, about how "you're your own toughest judge". I don't know why it happens, but it happens... I don't always like it.

Oh, and I haven't told you today that you're fantastic, and how I love how your mind works, have I? Well you are, and I do ;) :fluffle:


:cool: PWNT.

*Muphbl!*

How do you view yourself? Do you have a positive self-image, or a negative one? And what most effects how you feel about yourself?

...

So, how is your self-esteem, and what most effects it for you?

i'm fat.
but i have good hair and nice eyes
puffy lips
fat fingers
i went to a smartypants school/college so while i may be quite smart i never felt it, always being overshadowed and the average kid in that school
i dropped out of uni because i couldn't hack it
some days i hate myself
i have clinical depression
i'm a bit slow, terrible at maths and mildly dyslexic so its hard to learn new things
i tend to feel good about myself when i'm helping or doing good for people i care about. when i feel like i'm letting them down it hits me hard.
i don't really care about myself and do most of the things i do out of love and care for those i love and care about.
i'm hypocritical
i'm quick to anger and can be very irritable
i'm lazy
i'm difficult to be with


right now i have pretty low self esteem :(

Thanks :) And you're right you know, about how "you're your own toughest judge". I don't know why it happens, but it happens... I don't always like it.

Yeah, but at least in those times, you can think that other people, at least, think more favourably of you... I guess? :fluffle:

Oh, and I haven't told you today that you're fantastic, and how I love how your mind works, have I? Well you are, and I do ;) :fluffle:

Why thank you, feel free to tell me that whenever you like ;) :p

*Muphbl!*

I wonder where they're taking you? [/angel]

My wife teaches middle school -- 11,12,13 year olds. She had a conference with the parents of a failing student the other day. The student also had had a lot of unexcused absences. After a chat about these items, the kid's mother says "...and I need to check him out early tomorrow, too. We're going shopping to build up his self-esteem". I'm not sure if the mother had the words self-esteem confused with wardrobe, or if she just doesn't get it.

And so I don't get accused of being completely off-topic, I consider my level of self-esteem to be very positive. But then, I'm not a teen-ager anymore and shopping trips don't have the effect they once did. Unless it's to David's Gun Room, or Outdoor World.

.i'm fat.
but i have good hair and nice eyes
puffy lips
fat fingers

I'm extremely lanky. It's at least my strong impression that most people prefer guys that aren't rake-thin.

i went to a smartypants school/college so while i may be quite smart i never felt it, always being overshadowed and the average kid in that school

I went to a relatively average school, and I never did as well as I shoulda/coulda/woulda done. Even so, I was one of the "nerds", routinely bullied and treated like a social outcast for some reason or other.

I would have preferred to be seen as average, like I probably should have been. It's the most comfortable place.

i dropped out of uni because i couldn't hack it

Well, I went through the effort of finishing uni, and am struck with the realisation that i'm back where I started, with no job prospects and a $12,000 debt. Whee!

some days i hate myself

Yeah, don't we all.

i have clinical depression

probably me too, but the real awesome thing is that mental illness runs in the extended family, so you can add a chance of me flipping out one day on top of that. Great, huh?

i'm a bit slow, terrible at maths and mildly dyslexic so its hard to learn new things

I'm too lazy to learn new things. They require effort.

i tend to feel good about myself when i'm helping or doing good for people i care about. when i feel like i'm letting them down it hits me hard.

Isn't that pretty normal?

i don't really care about myself and do most of the things i do out of love and care for those i love and care about.

That's a negative trait?

i'm hypocritical

How? The previous two points don't really show that.


i'm quick to anger and can be very irritable

Yeah, me too. I'm a grumpy bastard.

i'm lazy

Already pointed out :p

i'm difficult to be with

According to whom? I'm pretty sure there's one person in particular who doesn't think so.

So chin up, buddy.

Yeah, but at least in those times, you can think that other people, at least, think more favourably of you... I guess? :fluffle:
Yes, but that's the strangest part... How easily one would listen to the negative - or even create negative implications on someone's statements... "She didn't call, that means she doesn't like me. He paused for a second before responding, that means he doesn't like the way I look in these pants"... - but how difficult it can sometimes be to accept a positive compliment. "You are smart, honestly!" "Pfft! You're just saying that."

I wonder why the mind does this? There is nothing to gain by focusing too much on the negative, yet this does not seem uncommon at all.

But yes, one should listen a bit more to the (positive) input of others. It's usually true :)


Why thank you, feel free to tell me that whenever you like ;) :p
I plan on doing just that ;)

:fluffle:


I wonder where they're taking you? [/angel]

*Thinking:*
She would know! I bet they're her minions! Maybe they want to reunite me with my chocolate? Maybe even let me travel with it? :eek: Or maybe they want to take me down to the waterfront and give me shoes made out of chocolate!

...or concrete. :p

*wonders what is worse, being called 'lovely' or being told that one isn't loved...*
My existence.

My existence.

Hi, Harlesy, long time no see.

Hi, Harlesy, long time no see.
Hello Bitchkitten.:)

I went to a psychiatrist yesterday, and now I feel a little better.:)

I went to a psychiatrist yesterday, and now I feel a little better.:)

hmm..... good on you:)

I fear I may require one soon in any case.