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Well actually, which should I ask out?

When I first started on my current course, I met a beautiful ginger-haired girl with a sexy slim figure, beautiful enticing eyes, and a personality similar to mine. Oh and she's bi, which is cool (and yes, I know it doesn't mean automatic threesomes with her and another girl).

After a while, I stopped having classes with her and hardly ever saw her. I met a girl who is taller, maybe not quite as fit (but still fit) and with a friendly personality. As part of my course, I've kissed this girl in an acting class (it was part of the script, so you could say it's "not a proper kiss" (ie not a smoochy lips-moving-about one), though it would certainly have looked like one, minus tongues). I started liking her a LOT, and pretty much stopped thinking about the ginger girl.

But now I'm sharing classes again with the ginger girl (the first girl), and she is SO fit and I still love her personality.

I THINK I may have more chance with the Second girl (or at least I thought I would have, but now I'm not sure). But 'm not totally sure what her personality is like, just that she's friendly. I know the first girl is a bit random (like me), friendly (like me), and a bit nuts at times (like me). But I don't know how likely it is she'll say yes to going out with me, and I don't want anyone I ask out to think they're "a second choice".

So who should I ask out?!

Go for the sexy one, then if you get shot down you can go and cry on the shoulder of the less sexy one. And by 'cry on the shoulder of' I mean 'have pity sex with'.

Oh, and this thread needs a poll.

Stacking!

Down both of them.

Stacking!

Down both of them.

erm means wtf in English (as in English, not as in American-"English" or Australian-"English")?

Whichever one actually would agree.

Well actually, which should I ask out?

When I first started on my current course, I met a beautiful ginger-haired girl with a sexy slim figure, beautiful enticing eyes, and a personality similar to mine. Oh and she's bi, which is cool (and yes, I know it doesn't mean automatic threesomes with her and another girl).

After a while, I stopped having classes with her and hardly ever saw her. I met a girl who is taller, maybe not quite as fit (but still fit) and with a friendly personality. As part of my course, I've kissed this girl in an acting class (it was part of the script, so you could say it's "not a proper kiss" (ie not a smoochy lips-moving-about one), though it would certainly have looked like one, minus tongues). I started liking her a LOT, and pretty much stopped thinking about the ginger girl.

But now I'm sharing classes again with the ginger girl (the first girl), and she is SO fit and I still love her personality.

I THINK I may have more chance with the Second girl (or at least I thought I would have, but now I'm not sure). But 'm not totally sure what her personality is like, just that she's friendly. I know the first girl is a bit random (like me), friendly (like me), and a bit nuts at times (like me). But I don't know how likely it is she'll say yes to going out with me, and I don't want anyone I ask out to think they're "a second choice".

So who should I ask out?!

The second one...

...seriously, avoid the crazy ones. *wisenod*

The second one...

...seriously, avoid the crazy ones. *wisenod*

but I LOVE craziness in girls, and apparently am a bit crazy meself

The second one...

...seriously, avoid the crazy ones. *wisenod*

I second the avoision of crazy girls.

I second the avoision of crazy girls.

read:

but I LOVE craziness in girls, and apparently am a bit crazy meself

read:

Well some craziness is good, we can all agree on that.

neither I say they both sound like pretty shitty choices especially 2 because the golden rule is never ever….ever go out with your Drama working people type things

Of course number 1 isn’t so good either cause that’s that good classmates friends crap so I say go somewhere and pull like a Horse after all its Saturday!

edit: I mean Friday...

actually, the more I think about it, the more I think I know who to ask out... the ginger girl... but I'm not sure HOW... any tips?

First girl, if you are sure that you actually like her personality best, and since you said you don't know much at all about second girl. You know, the crazy one might actually agree! Can't hurt to ask.

actually, the more I think about it, the more I think I know who to ask out... the ginger girl... but I'm not sure HOW... any tips?

you an NS'er drink would help....

but I LOVE craziness in girls, and apparently am a bit crazy meself

I said the same thing....then I went out with a "crazy"

Scarred me for life, I'll tell ya.

A little nuttiness is OK, but "crazy", even if limited at this time, is a slippery slope just waiting for you to fall on your ass.

erm means wtf in English (as in English, not as in American-"English" or Australian-"English")?

Erm... must be a local thing then... or a rugby thing... in my corner of England...

Stacking - when you're drinking holding two drinks at once is 'stacking' and if someone calls you on it you have to down both drinks at once.

Similar 'rules' apply in most rugby clubs.

So what i was saying is you should do both of them.

re: asking the ginger girl out... whatd'ya make of this?:

me: "Do you go for personalities or looks more?"

her: "Personalities"

me: [bit of a pause]
me: "Will ya go out with me?" or "Do you drink?"
her: "yes"
me: "Fancy going out for a drink with me sometime?"
her: "no"
me: "Fancy going out for a meal with me sometime then?"

If you're going to date an actress, wear a seatbelt.

Really, I'd avoid it.

If you're going to date an actress, wear a seatbelt.

Really, I'd avoid it.


I wouldn't. They're both lovely.

re: asking the ginger girl out... whatd'ya make of this?:

me: "Do you go for personalities or looks more?"

her: "Personalities"

me: [bit of a pause]
me: "Will ya go out with me?" or "Do you drink?"
her: "yes"
me: "Fancy going out for a drink with me sometime?"
her: "no"
me: "Fancy going out for a meal with me sometime then?"

Skip the first bit. Just ask her out for dinner. Don't say 'sometime' - give a day.

SNIP

no no invite her to a party!

no no invite her to a party!

so I can get her drunk and f*ck her?... nah, aint that kinda person

so I can get her drunk and f*ck her?... nah, aint that kinda person

No, let her get drunk then take her home and not fuck her. Then in the morning she'll (hopefully) remember you not taking advantage of her and all that, which should be a +1 for you.

I wouldn't. They're both lovely.

Alot of actresses are hot as hell. And batshit insane.

Or as a friend put it once, insecure extroverts. The only chick that would be a bigger rollercoaster to date would be a stripper.

so I can get her drunk and f*ck her?... nah, aint that kinda person

Woah... He's saying that ( i think) becauase then it sets you against a fun social setting and she sees that you have friends and can ahve a good time. It also takes the pressure out of the situation compared to a date.

Woah... He's saying that ( i think) becauase then it sets you against a fun social setting and she sees that you have friends and can ahve a good time. It also takes the pressure out of the situation compared to a date.

well getting girls drunk enough to shag em seemed to be the aim at parties I've been to

No, let her get drunk then take her home and not fuck her. Then in the morning she'll (hopefully) remember you not taking advantage of her and all that, which should be a +1 for you.

Very good idea, but still seems a bit sly

well getting girls drunk enough to shag em seemed to be the aim at parties I've been to

you've been to some fine ass parties then :p

and I think you fail to understand you will be just as pissed and so what happens if she takes advantage of you think about it! (and fucked on whatever else you can find)

well getting girls drunk enough to shag em seemed to be the aim at parties I've been to

a. That's not always the case.
b. If you're not that sort of person then why are you only going to those sort of parties.
c. Most women are not angelic and innocent - women enjoy sex too.
d. If you have to get a woman drunk to get her to sleep with you your game is pretty lame

you've been to some fine ass parties then :p

Nope, crap ones... not surprisingly, the girls ended up feeling like crap the next day and never spoke to pretty much every guy at the party again

and I think you fail to understand you will be just as pissed and so what happens if she takes advantage of you thin about it! (and fucked on whatever else you can find)

I never get so pissed that I don't know what I'm doing. I like to be able to protect people if anything kicks off.

a. That's not always the case.
b. If you're not that sort of person then why are you only going to those sort of parties.
c. Most women are not angelic and innocent - women enjoy sex too.
d. If you have to get a woman drunk to get her to sleep with you your game is pretty lame

a. true, but it was the case in said parties

b. To meet new people (a few people turned out to be decent dudes/dudettes)

c. There's a difference between consensual sex and someone getting you so mashed on some head-mashing substance (like alcohol or drugs) so that they can have sex with you (which incidentally, is technically rape under the Sexual Offences Act, at least if the woman is very drunk anyway - eg. drunk enough to shag a guy she wouldn't normally shag)

d. I don't want to

c. There's a difference between consensual sex and someone getting you so mashed on some head-mashing substance (like alcohol or drugs) so that they can have sex with you (which incidentally, is technically rape under the Sexual Offences Act, at least if the woman is very drunk anyway - eg. drunk enough to shag a guy she wouldn't normally shag)

Full agreement - but your comments before seemed to imply an idealised view of the women you are after, putting them up on a pedistal of virtue and purity. Which is rarely (if ever) the case.

Full agreement - but your comments before seemed to imply an idealised view of the women you are after, putting them up on a pedistal of virtue and purity. Which is rarely (if ever) the case.

seconded

Full agreement - but your comments before seemed to imply an idealised view of the women you are after, putting them up on a pedistal of virtue and purity. Which is rarely (if ever) the case.

That wasn't the intention. I know they aint all virtuous or pure. But wow the ginger one is FIT :)

Nope, crap ones... not surprisingly, the girls ended up feeling like crap the next day and never spoke to pretty much every guy at the party again

isn't one of the key facts of parties to feel like crap the next day?

and sure the girls never spoke to the guys again :rolleyes:

I never get so pissed that I don't know what I'm doing. I like to be able to protect people if anything kicks off.

that’s just sad learn to enjoy yourself!

That wasn't the intention. I know they aint all virtuous or pure. But wow the ginger one is FIT :)

We demand pics.

isn't one of the key facts of parties to feel like crap the next day?

and sure the girls never spoke to the guys again :rolleyes:


It's a well known fact that no woman who sleeps with a guy after getting drunk at a party ever speaks to him again. I don't know ANY couples who started out their relationships in such a manner...:rolleyes:

Seriously Multi - just ask them both out, take them on (seperate) dates. Decide which one you prefer after actually going out on a date or two and go for that one.

Or try for threesome....

The first one, redheads rock.

We demand pics.

Seconded!

Seconded!

Thirded.

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Thirded.

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Hell Yeah!

Fourthed.

I met a beautiful ginger-haired girl with a sexy slim figure, beautiful enticing eyes, and a personality similar to mine.
But now I'm sharing classes again with the ginger girl (the first girl), and she is SO fit and I still love her personality.
:p
Maybe you should date yourself?

Boy, you'll learn in romance you almost never get to choose a woman unless you're a billionaire with women hounding you after your money.

It's like buying a new car.


Take them both for a test drive, then see what you think..

Oooo. Close friend from long ago comes back while you have a new close friend. Which one to choose? The new girl.

Asking for relationship advice on teh intarwebs = YOU LOSE

Go for the most attractive one. otherwise every moment you spend with the other one you will know that you could have had someone better, and it will torment you endlessly.

Ideally you would need to see them both naked for a more accurate comparison, and then rate their individiual body parts on a scale of 1 to 10, and do a graph just to be sure.

Well actually, which should I ask out?

When I first started on my current course, I met a beautiful ginger-haired girl with a sexy slim figure, beautiful enticing eyes, and a personality similar to mine. Oh and she's bi, which is cool (and yes, I know it doesn't mean automatic threesomes with her and another girl).

After a while, I stopped having classes with her and hardly ever saw her. I met a girl who is taller, maybe not quite as fit (but still fit) and with a friendly personality. As part of my course, I've kissed this girl in an acting class (it was part of the script, so you could say it's "not a proper kiss" (ie not a smoochy lips-moving-about one), though it would certainly have looked like one, minus tongues). I started liking her a LOT, and pretty much stopped thinking about the ginger girl.

But now I'm sharing classes again with the ginger girl (the first girl), and she is SO fit and I still love her personality.

I THINK I may have more chance with the Second girl (or at least I thought I would have, but now I'm not sure). But 'm not totally sure what her personality is like, just that she's friendly. I know the first girl is a bit random (like me), friendly (like me), and a bit nuts at times (like me). But I don't know how likely it is she'll say yes to going out with me, and I don't want anyone I ask out to think they're "a second choice".

So who should I ask out?!

Why place yourself in that position? Date them BOTH! :D

What about an open relationship or maybe polyamory?

Just get involved with both. It'll be easier for the bi girl as well, she can keep on seeing other girls. Just make sure you don't lie about your sexual encounters to any of them, or you'll risk losing both.

How old are you and how old are they?
Are they both on the drama course?

That's nothing. I just started university a few weeks ago and I'm deciding between four guys. :confused:

isn't one of the key facts of parties to feel like crap the next day?

and sure the girls never spoke to the guys again :rolleyes:



that’s just sad learn to enjoy yourself!

1. No, it's to enjoy yourself

2. Well unless a quick "hi" (in response to the guy saying "hi") and a very fast walk away counts, along with slagging the guy off for taking advantage of you (I'm non-judgemental when people wanna talk about personal stuff... I get to know quite a lot)

You absolute bastard! I have enough trouble getting close to one! Although that may have something to do with my general fuglyness...

Anyway, now that I got that out of the way, I have a solution for you. Seeing as the hot redhead is bi, get her to have a threesome with you and the other chick. Wins all round!

This thread is useless without pics.

You absolute bastard! I have enough trouble getting close to one! Although that may have something to do with my general fuglyness...

Anyway, now that I got that out of the way, I have a solution for you. Seeing as the hot redhead is bi, get her to have a threesome with you and the other chick. Wins all round!


Nah, it is true that SOME women place personality above looks. If you're a caring, sensitive guy who respects women (including their views - doesn't mean you have to agree with those views), you still got a good chance with some girls even if you look like a rotting pineapple (but if you smell like one, that's a different matter).

Full agreement - but your comments before seemed to imply an idealised view of the women you are after, putting them up on a pedistal of virtue and purity. Which is rarely (if ever) the case.

Damn that sucks for me then, that's how I like 'em.

Damn that sucks for me then, that's how I like 'em.

So you canbe the one to help them down from those giddeying heights?

I keep thinking about the ginger girl

Then ask the ginger girl out.

But I'm telling you this for your own good. I've been out with several actresses and had a couple more as friends. And we're not talking a little bit crazy. We're talking completely batshit. All creative types are.

So it's your own fault if it all goes wrong, because you have been warned.

*coughselfpitysemigravedigcough*


Date em both. I cant get one either.

Then ask the ginger girl out.

But I'm telling you this for your own good. I've been out with several actresses and had a couple more as friends. And we're not talking a little bit crazy. We're talking completely batshit. All creative types are.

So it's your own fault if it all goes wrong, because you have been warned.

1. No it aint my fault, as I have no reason to trust what you are saying thus I would not be deliberately ignoring information which I believe to be true without good reason.

2. I'm on a similar course. I love crazy people.

3. Don't judge all performers by the actions of a few

Well you didnt need anybody's help here. You are already doing the right thing. This thread started nearly a week ago and you havn't asked one of them out yet. Thats good! Get to know them some more.

When you do finally decide, take the advice of comedian Ron White:

If she gets ugly there is plastic surgery, if she cant see, she can get glasses, there are hearing aids and lyposuction and all sorts of things to have your true love be the apple of your eye that you will allways want her to be!

But let me tell you:

You can't fix stupid!

GL Mul!

This thread still lacks pics. It fails.

I've been working away at three girls for the past week. One I'm seeing tomorrow, one on saturday and one became a fuck buddy on wednesday. It's fine though, because I already know which one I want.

This thread still lacks pics. It fails.

too true.

So who should I ask out?!

I'm kind of old, but when did a date become a commitment? Why not go with both from time to time without going "steady"?

Saw the ginger girl today. Watched a programme that either suggested or said that I might die tomorrow. I'm asking her out by the end of tomorrow's lecture, as I could be dead the next day.

This thread still lacks pics. It fails.

My good mate here is entirely correct.

My good mate here is entirely correct.


she looks a bit like this woman: http://www.desktopexchange.com/gallery/albums/Music-Wallpapers/avril_lavigne_pictures.jpg

she looks a bit like this woman: http://www.desktopexchange.com/gallery/albums/Music-Wallpapers/avril_lavigne_pictures.jpg

That's not a woman. That's a little girl, and an overblown one at that.

Bone 'em all, let god sort 'em out.

When it comes to pussy, as long as you make sure to respect agreements like marriage or "OK, but don't put it in my butt," get what you can, when you can. Stay safe, take care of your responsibilities and don't worry too much unless you honestly believe you're going to marry one of these girls, then just make sure you don't do anything to piss her off.

If one of them's bi then invite them both out together, duh :p

I'm kind of old, but when did a date become a commitment? Why not go with both from time to time without going "steady"?90% of the guy's I dated had no problems with this arrangement The other 10% didn't last long.

That's not a woman. That's a little girl, and an overblown one at that.

nope, it's Avril Lavigne in a uniform and weird pose. Or a look-a-like