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My girlfriend just let me go... that in itself however is not what I'm on about here. It was that the final days (which, incidentally, were also the middle days... damm shifty quick girls... but thats another story) were EXACTLY like my only other girlfriend... everything was going smoothly as far as I could tell, then suddenly *BAM! No more girlfriend, but a brickwall instead. Something, I have no idea what, made them change what they thought of me from "awesome boyfriend" to "that guy... anyway, moving on". Exactly the same. Different conditions in the time we spent together, but the way it ended was so similar, it gave me shivers. Whats even more curious is that these two girls kind of hate each other, and yet they reacted in the same way.

Is this something I should get used to, or was it just my own misfortune? It could be my fault too, I could have done the same thing to stuff it up, but I really have no idea what...


Anyway, I was just looking to see whether that female telepathy that you all have gave any of you a hint as to why this happened.

Chalk it up to what experts refer to as "dingy broad syndrome."

Or it could be you. Either/or.

Anyway, I was just looking to see whether that female telepathy that you all have gave any of you a hint as to why this happened.

:eek: i knew it!!


*puts on tinfoil hat*

If it happened exactly the same way, maybe you should look for patterns in your own behaviour?

How old are you, and how old are they?

"Let me go". I hate that euphemism.

Anyway... "The only common factor in all your dissatisfying relationships is you" :D

maybe they got bored of you or something. maybe you were the "awesome boyfriend" for being really nice or really good looking, but then you didn't follow it up with being interesting or fun or whatever. maybe you said disturbing things in your sleep or maybe you have halitosis or flatulence. or maybe you're just attracted to fickle girls *shrugs*

What, were you expecting to get it right on the first try?

:eek: i knew it!!


*puts on tinfoil hat*

You fool, that merely amplifies it!


And it's because you suck.

Get used to it, 99.99999999999% of the relationships in your life will be exactly like that. Then, one day, you'll find the perfect girl, the one that completes you, the one you adore more and more each day, the one you lay naked in bed and share your heart & soul with, the one who makes you smile when all you want to do is cry, the one who would die for, the one who just... fits. There will still come times when it seems like everything is going wrong, in fact, there will be many, but you won't mind, because one glance into her eyes and everything is okay. Chin up, you'll find your Grace, one day

Get used to it, 99.99999999999% of the relationships in your life will be exactly like that. Then, one day, you'll find the perfect girl, the one that completes you, the one you adore more and more each day, the one you lay naked in bed and share your heart & soul with, the one who makes you smile when all you want to do is cry, the one who would die for, the one who just... fits. There will still come times when it seems like everything is going wrong, in fact, there will be many, but you won't mind, because one glance into her eyes and everything is okay. Chin up, you'll find your Grace, one day

And then she leaves you.

Get used to it, 99.99999999999% of the relationships in your life will be exactly like that. Then, one day, you'll find the perfect girl, the one that completes you, the one you adore more and more each day, the one you lay naked in bed and share your heart & soul with, the one who makes you smile when all you want to do is cry, the one who would die for, the one who just... fits. There will still come times when it seems like everything is going wrong, in fact, there will be many, but you won't mind, because one glance into her eyes and everything is okay. Chin up, you'll find your Grace, one day

... I have tears. I love you.

And then she leaves you.

No. Then she says "yes, of course I'll marry you".

... I have tears. I love you.
You guys are giving me cavities. That's it-from now on, you two are The Cavity Creeps. You make holes in teeth.
No. Then she says "yes, of course I'll marry you".
And then she leaves you.

For a guy with a better car.

No. Then she says "yes, of course I'll marry you".
...And, in the end, the inevitable divorce leaves you a penniless, empty, broken man, all alone - so alone - whilst she runs off with her new lover and the proceeds of your life's work :D

Try having your wife and girlfriend find out about each other, then we'll talk.

Something, I have no idea what, made them change what they thought of me from "awesome boyfriend" to "that guy... anyway, moving on". Its hard to convey with so few words exactly how they both went down, but just leave it that they were exactly the same... in fact, the entire relationship was exactly the same.

Is this something I should get used to, or was it just my own misfortune? It could be my fault too, I could have done the same thing to stuff it up, but I really have no idea what.

Ask her about it, maybe?

Don't go Emo on her, just ask her honestly...for future reference, if you like. :)

...And, in the end, the inevitable divorce leaves you a penniless, empty, broken man, all alone - so alone - whilst she runs off with her new lover and the proceeds of your life's work :D
Nope
You guys are giving me cavities. That's it-from now on, you two are The Cavity Creeps. You make holes in teeth.

And then she leaves you.

For a guy with a better car.
We're sugary sweet, and you know you love it.

I think she'll stay.

You guys are giving me cavities. That's it-from now on, you two are The Cavity Creeps. You make holes in teeth.

And then she leaves you.

For a guy with a better car.

I unintentionally did something close to an evil laugh just then. :D

I unintentionally did something close to an evil laugh just then. :D

If I didn't know any better, I'd say you were the one with the better car. :p

What, were you expecting to get it right on the first try?

Or even on the second?

Try having your wife and girlfriend find out about each other, then we'll talk.

Especially when they decide they like each other better than they like you.

If I didn't know any better, I'd say you were the one with the better car. :p

I don't know whether or not to be offended. Are we treating "better car" as a euphenism here?

*evil laugh again* :p

I had the good fortune to not only get the 'Lets just be friends' line, it was also coupled with the 'It's not you, it's me' line.

I don't know whether or not to be offended. Are we treating "better car" as a euphenism here?

*evil laugh again* :p

Er... :eek: It can't be a euphanism, 'cause I wouldn't know! :p

You guys are giving me cavities. That's it-from now on, you two are The Cavity Creeps. You make holes in teeth.


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"WE MAKE HOLES IN TEETH!"

Er... :eek: It can't be a euphanism, 'cause I wouldn't know! :p

Hehe :p

Especially when they decide they like each other better than they like you.

That would be delicious irony! Your wife leaving you for your girlfriend..

You sound like a young guy so I am going to help you out with some free advice. Eventually circumstances are going to collide and you will wake up one day to find yourself married with children and stuck in a dead end job (the odds of this not happening are very very small.)

Do not rush the occurence of this day. Play the field. Live each day for itself, try not to build up false expectations for how things are going to go in your relationships. When you get to the point where you aren't really concerned with how things are going to 'be' or with whom you are associated you will become a desired object (unless you are fat and ugly or something in which case work out at the gym until your weight is under control and then you are gold. Guys don't have to be pretty to get chicks but muscles go along way for anyone). And if you really want to be successful with girls you need to knock them down off that pedestal you have elevated them on. Just remember that girls have cooties because they really do. Girls are totaly disgusting when it comes right down to it. So treat them that way. They will love you for it.

That would be delicious irony! Your wife leaving you for your girlfriend..

Delicious, indeed. Pity they're going to be the only ones with any sort of taste in their mouths from it.

Teehee.

Get used to it, 99.99999999999% of the relationships in your life will be exactly like that. Then, one day, you'll find the perfect girl, the one that completes you, the one you adore more and more each day, the one you lay naked in bed and share your heart & soul with, the one who makes you smile when all you want to do is cry, the one who would die for, the one who just... fits. There will still come times when it seems like everything is going wrong, in fact, there will be many, but you won't mind, because one glance into her eyes and everything is okay. Chin up, you'll find your Grace, one day

My my, someone got up on the right side of the bed this morning.

*is serious*

Ask her about it, maybe?

Don't go Emo on her, just ask her honestly...for future reference, if you like. :)

Yeah, yeah, I TRIED that. Like I said, they were brickwalling, I couldnt get more than a hi, yeah, nah, or seeya from them.

And I also probably should have waited before posting this thread. Maybe I should go back and edit, it does sound awfully whiny doesn't it...

...And, in the end, the inevitable divorce leaves you a penniless, empty, broken man, all alone - so alone - whilst she runs off with her new lover and the proceeds of your life's work :D

There's one on every forum...

except for NSG, where these sort predominate :D

You sound like a young guy so I am going to help you out with some free advice. Eventually circumstances are going to collide and you will wake up one day to find yourself married with children and stuck in a dead end job (the odds of this not happening are very very small.)

Do not rush the occurence of this day. Play the field. Live each day for itself, try not to build up false expectations for how things are going to go in your relationships. When you get to the point where you aren't really concerned with how things are going to 'be' or with whom you are associated you will become a desired object (unless you are fat and ugly or something in which case work out at the gym until your weight is under control and then you are gold. Guys don't have to be pretty to get chicks but muscles go along way for anyone). And if you really want to be successful with girls you need to knock them down off that pedestal you have elevated them on. Just remember that girls have cooties because they really do. Girls are totaly disgusting when it comes right down to it. So treat them that way. They will love you for it.

Ok, I get where you're coming from, however I feel I must say a few things:

First: False expectations aren't the problem here. I was under no illusions that this was anything but a temporary thing, what gets me is that it was exactly the same break-up as last time, and as far as I can tell I didn't do anythiing drastic in either case. I can deal with the break-up fine, just the repetition that sucks.

Second: I used to be a major porker. I'm talking beached whale. And there is little doubt that I'm still overweight, although I've cut it down plenty, you wouldn't notice my weight problems unless you looked closely. But I have to say, at this stage I'm not horny enough to do that just so I can get laid. Sure it limits my chances, but I have better things to do with my time at the moment than try that hard to appeal to a certain demographic. There is a large number of women that have no problem with my weight, they still think I'm not a bad looker, because they know me. THOSE are the ones I want. Also, its not my lack of excercise or activity that gives me my weight problems. I play basketball, rugby union and I'm a goalie for a waterpolo team, I walk with my dog about 2.5 km a day, plus for my work I walk up and down stairs yelling at people with a big heavy tray. This is a lot more than most people do.

Third: Who said anything about pedestalisation? I treat girls as human beings: that is, they can be kind, caring, attractive, whatever, but everyone has their bad habits. They aren't perfect, but they certainly aren't "disgusting", as you put it.


So, while I understand why you might have said all of that, it simply doesn't apply.

You guys are giving me cavities. That's it-from now on, you two are The Cavity Creeps. You make holes in teeth.

And then she leaves you.

For a guy with a better car.

So obviously I wouldn't leave him for you then.