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For some reason I just can't enjoy communicating with others in the real world, I always daze off and start thinking about something else when talking with others, and i just can't focus, when talking directly to others i have a trouble with thinking of something to say, and people always complain about how quiet I am, and when I occasionally say something it's something nobody really cares about, giving them an "Ok..." reaction.

For some reason I just can't enjoy communicating with others in the real world, I always daze off and start thinking about something else when talking with others, and i just can't focus, when talking directly to others i have a trouble with thinking of something to say, and people always complain about how quiet I am, and when I occasionally say something it's something nobody really cares about, giving them an "Ok..." reaction.

It's 'cause you're a big dork, and no one likes you. :D

Just kidding.

For some reason I just can't enjoy communicating with others in the real world, I always daze off and start thinking about something else when talking with others, and i just can't focus, when talking directly to others i have a trouble with thinking of something to say, and people always complain about how quiet I am, and when I occasionally say something it's something nobody really cares about, giving them an "Ok..." reaction.

I don't know.... do you have any disorders that you know of?

It's 'cause you're a big dork, and no one likes you. :D

Just kidding.

Everybody loves me :S except a few stupid jerks.

I don't know.... do you have any disorders that you know of?

Nah, I'm healthy to the bone, not been diagnosed with anything. But I've never done any tests though.

Do you have ADD or something?

Stop smoking so much weed, and maybe you'll feel like paying attention.

Nah, I'm healthy to the bone, not been diagnosed with anything. But I've never done any tests though.

do you have anything 'strange' about you other than the social problems?

maybe you have like ADD, or something...

I have OCD and it causes all types of problems for me.

Maybe you just don't want to talk to these people? In which case, don't. If there is someone that you enjoy talking to, then the words will flow and you'll be thoroughly engaged. If they don't interest you, ignore them.
Sure, this may mean that you only ever notice .001% of the people in the world, but that still leaves you with over 60,000 conversational partners, and that is more than you'll ever need.

Do you have ADD or something?

I don't think I have ADD, I'm a incredibly calm and relaxed person, i don't hit people or do anything like that.

Maybe you just don't want to talk to these people? In which case, don't. If there is someone that you enjoy talking to, then the words will flow and you'll be thoroughly engaged. If they don't interest you, ignore them.
Sure, this may mean that you only ever notice .001% of the people in the world, but that still leaves you with over 60,000 conversational partners, and that is more than you'll ever need.

Í consider them friends, they are nice, and even if sometimes I find people I can talk to really easily, the next day I can't talk to them that easily anymore .s

I don't think I have ADD, I'm a incredibly calm and relaxed person, i don't hit people or do anything like that.

I don't think ADD means you go around hitting people, I think it means you can't focus on anything and your mind drifts from subject to subject and can't attend to the task at hand. In your case the task at hand is paying attention to someone else during a conversation. I'm not a doctor though. Maybe you should go see one.

Also it could be the weed like Kimchi said. I used to feel a little like you described when I used to smoke weed a lot.

Everybody loves me :S except a few stupid jerks.

Then I'd, like, you know, just be cool with it.

ADD doesn't mean you go around hitting people, it means you can't focus on anything and your mind drifts from subject to subject and can't attend to the task at hand. In your case the task at hand is paying attention to someone else during a conversation.

Also it could be the weed like Kimchi said. I used to feel a little like you described when I used to smoke weed a lot.

Well, that certainly does sound like me, but we can't be sure since I'm not diagnosed. and I'm not gonna go to a psychiatrist.

Well, that certainly does sound like me, but we can't be sure since I'm not diagnosed. and I'm not gonna go to a psychiatrist.

Why not? It might be fun. Tell him you've got the power to read people's thoughts and that satan talks to you from inside your sneakers. You might end up getting some interesting meds.

Its called not being interested what people are saying its normal and involves times when you just don’t want to talk

So I say make sure your getting enough alone time and learn to change the subject

Well, that certainly does sound like me, but we can't be sure since I'm not diagnosed. and I'm not gonna go to a psychiatrist.

You're 14 and you think way, way too much about how the people around you react to you. Trust me on this, seriously, they are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Relax. When you have something to say, say it, otherwise, cultivate the mysterious silent thing. In a few years you won't even remembr this.

You're 14 and you think way, way too much about how the people around you react to you. Trust me on this, seriously, they are just as worried about what you think of them as you are about what they think of you. Relax. When you have something to say, say it, otherwise, cultivate the mysterious silent thing. In a few years you won't even remembr this.

I'm aware of what you're talking about, I know teenagers are a bunch of insecure idiots who think to much and feel different and as if they are alone in this world.
I've thought alot about human behaviour in my short life of 14 years you see.^^

I'm aware of what you're talking about, I know teenagers are a bunch of insecure idiots who think to much and feel different and as if they are alone in this world.
I've thought alot about human behaviour in my short life of 14 years you see.^^

Not idiots, just teenagers. Your brains are quite different than the brains of adults. And everything, every emotion, love, hate, joy, myrth, everything feels so new, it's as if you're the first person who's ever felt it. There's no way to describe it to an adult, hardly any way to describe it to another teen. And my telling you this won't make a whole lot of difference, I know, but really, you need to think about it less. Besides, I get the impression that you function reasonably well, you just seem to think you ought to function differently.

Why not? It might be fun. Tell him you've got the power to read people's thoughts and that satan talks to you from inside your sneakers. You might end up getting some interesting meds.
That, or barefooted with a tin-foil hat!

Eat more iron. Seriously. Iron relates to concentration and ability to focus. You'd be surprised how many people who self-diagnose themselves as ADHD actually have iron deficiencies.

I'm aware of what you're talking about, I know teenagers are a bunch of insecure idiots who think to much and feel different and as if they are alone in this world.
I've thought alot about human behaviour in my short life of 14 years you see.^^
That's called awareness. Some people are overaware of their surroundings, others tend to be more ignorant.
I belong to the first kind, along with giving many things much thought.
Accept it and don't worry about it too much. It really is okay.

Eat more iron. Seriously. Iron relates to concentration and ability to focus. You'd be surprised how many people who self-diagnose themselves as ADHD actually have iron deficiencies.
That is a good advice!

Not idiots, just teenagers. Your brains are quite different than the brains of adults. And everything, every emotion, love, hate, joy, myrth, everything feels so new, it's as if you're the first person who's ever felt it. There's no way to describe it to an adult, hardly any way to describe it to another teen. And my telling you this won't make a whole lot of difference, I know, but really, you need to think about it less. Besides, I get the impression that you function reasonably well, you just seem to think you ought to function differently.

Hm, I prefer my teenager brain I think. NOW AND FOREVERRR

Eat more iron. Seriously. Iron relates to concentration and ability to focus. You'd be surprised how many people who self-diagnose themselves as ADHD actually have iron deficiencies.

I've heard eating Iron is bad for you.. i don't want to throw a fork down my throat.

Not idiots, just teenagers. Your brains are quite different than the brains of adults. And everything, every emotion, love, hate, joy, myrth, everything feels so new, it's as if you're the first person who's ever felt it. There's no way to describe it to an adult, hardly any way to describe it to another teen. And my telling you this won't make a whole lot of difference, I know, but really, you need to think about it less. Besides, I get the impression that you function reasonably well, you just seem to think you ought to function differently.

just couldn't htink of a better word than "idiots"

When you are a teen you're brain is wacked up with nerve threads [Millions of them] but when you start reaching your 20's the amoutn decreases incredibly much.
It's like when you're making a statue, first you get the the stuff you need from it, and then you start cutting out a nice piece of art from it.
Sorry for miss spelling a few words, my keyboard is the worst.

For some reason I just can't enjoy communicating with others in the real world, I always daze off and start thinking about something else when talking with others, and i just can't focus, when talking directly to others i have a trouble with thinking of something to say, and people always complain about how quiet I am, and when I occasionally say something it's something nobody really cares about, giving them an "Ok..." reaction.

i used to be like that. start drinking is my advice, worked for me :D

N.B. never take the advice of a drunk, they are probably drunk.... *hic*

I've heard eating Iron is bad for you.. i don't want to throw a fork down my throat.

Most forks are made from steel, but yeah :D. By "eat more iron" I mean "eat more iron-rich foods", such as liver, sesame seeds, almonds, wheat, beef or turkey.

I've heard eating Iron is bad for you.. i don't want to throw a fork down my throat.

Use a cast iron skillet. You get a very small amount of iron in your food and you get to use a superior cooking implement. (Teflon is crap)

It's 'cause you're a big dork, and no one likes you. :D

Just kidding.
you mean i dont have that title? :p

For some reason I just can't enjoy communicating with others in the real world, I always daze off and start thinking about something else when talking with others, and i just can't focus, when talking directly to others i have a trouble with thinking of something to say, and people always complain about how quiet I am, and when I occasionally say something it's something nobody really cares about, giving them an "Ok..." reaction.

You need to make friend with people who are perfectly willing and able to kick you in the groin if you drift away. It really helps build your focusing skills. :)

Yeah, I'm aware of the fact that I can focus more easily when people constantly tell me to.