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When you're going through a low point or difficult time in your life waht do you do, where do you go, or whose company do you look for to comfort and relax you?

Personally, (I really don't know why) I really like spending time with old people. Strangely, my grandparents never hold a critical attitude towards me.

NS general. its true

Music.

Chocolate, a good book, solitude and a fire in the fireplace.

With my friends. If I'm having a stressful time at home or with school then I can just call a friend and we all go out and have a good time like yesterday when we nearly broke one of my friends trampoline.....She wasn't too impressed....or I read/listen to music/ or sleep.

Being alone, with a good book, in a warm bed.

Uhmm, well, chocolate always seems to do the trick (partially) but what i really need is my best friends. I've just been through a really difficult patch and it sucked cause my friends are sorta of scattered about the place so to get to the nearest one it takes at least 30 minutes, and the one furthest away is living something like 12 hours away (the average is about an hour though).

Normally I just collapse into a small bubble of my own dispair.

Right now, nothing really.

Music? Meh.
Books? Meh.
TV? Meh.
NSG? Yeah, I'm here. Still semi-meh.
Friends? Meh. All gone during the semester break. Or far away, for that matter.
Family? Too far away. And they can't really comfort me right now, either.
Girlfriend? *buzzer sound* Biggest meh ever. None there.

So, what do I have left? Some little spark of hope, some rays of sunshine, what little belief I carry...
And my little balcony and those plants and flowers I grow there.

Other than that, Phil Connors put it quite nicely: "It's gonna be cold, it's gonna be grey, and it's gonna last you for the rest of your life."

Right now, pretty much everything sucks big time and I'm not a happy camper. *frumples* [Orz reference for those who know]

Anyway, I don't know what could cheer me up right now, let alone give me some comfort - http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/zorn.gif

Oh, and I wish my grandparents were still alive - good food, no pressure, just love.

Sex. And Lots of it.

What comforts me:
-Playing the piano, it forces all other thoughts out of my head, as it requires my full attention (I'm not that good, I can't even talk while playing without missing notes).
-A hug from my mom/dad (which are always close, as I still live at home)
-Watching a sunset with lots of brightly glowing clouds
-Walking in the woods behind our neigbourhood
-Walking trough an autumn storm (no rain please)

You could sum the last three up with "being alone in nature", but those three specifically stand out. There's a sort of comfort that flows from the inevitabilaty of nature. All your problems suddenly seem so tiny and irrelevant.
There's still going to be a sunset, long after the human race has wiped itself out. An autumn storm unleashes an amount of energy equal to the power used weekly by a small town.
How can we humans and our petty problems even pretend to be important compared to such might?
I know it sounds more discomforting than comforting that we are so petty, but somehow, it's comforting to me.

I think a hug from my girlfriend would also qualify, but it seems to require a girlfriend to hug. So that one's of the list.

Steam baths, and chocolate.

Food
Sex
My bed
Music
Sex

The Beautiful Darkness :fluffle:

I found another thing that works for me: Riding my bike. It sort of shuts down my brain for I don't have to do any thinking then, but at the same time allows me to have a simple flow of thought at the same time.

So that calmed me down a little, but didn't really help. But the reason why I took that little bike ride might, for it has done so before. I went and got my long-lent DVD back.

Catharsis through Plat00n. Works for me. http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/evil.gif

Rain

Mm, thunderstorms....

When you're going through a low point or difficult time in your life waht do you do, where do you go, or whose company do you look for to comfort and relax you?

Personally, (I really don't know why) I really like spending time with old people. Strangely, my grandparents never hold a critical attitude towards me.

Old people are great. But creepy sometimes.

LIstening to the Raconteurs. Going on walks with dog. Sunsets. Running around in the fog. Pretty much anything to do with nature. Riding bike.

A nice smile from a pretty girl...
Having a good conversation...(forums are a nice subsitute)
Bed...

A nice smile from a pretty girl...
Having a good conversation...(forums are a nice subsitute)
Bed...

Or at least knowing you're making her smile....

Things that comfort me: Hugs. Being with my friends. Listening to music (usually at high volume). Chocolate. Playing with my dog. Working out. Cooking. Bubble baths. Singing really complicated pieces of music used to work because it would force all other thoughts out of my head, but these days it's not as useful since I don't do much singing anymore. Other things too, I'm sure, but that's all that comes to mind right now.

When you're going through a low point or difficult time in your life waht do you do, where do you go, or whose company do you look for to comfort and relax you?

Personally, (I really don't know why) I really like spending time with old people. Strangely, my grandparents never hold a critical attitude towards me.
I sleep. It helps as long as you don't have nightmares.

Or at least knowing you're making her smile....

exactly but unfortunately I lack the basic skill to understand that someone likes me until its too late :( I am like a stupid anime boy in love affairs.

I sleep. It helps as long as you don't have nightmares.
At least I do sleep now and I'm getting back to a normal day/night cycle again.

But it's not resting sleep, more exhaustion, and when I wake up I feel like crap. As in "not well rested"... :mad:

At least I do sleep now and I'm getting back to a normal day/night cycle again.

But it's not resting sleep, more exhaustion, and when I wake up I feel like crap. As in "not well rested"... :mad:Speaking of being able to sleep again, did anyone else have a horrible time sleeping during the full moon from thursday to friday? I had a hard time trying to wring some sleep out of the four hours that I had time for it :mad:

Women...and lots of them...scantly clothed.

exactly but unfortunately I lack the basic skill to understand that someone likes me until its too late :( I am like a stupid anime boy in love affairs.

I got lucky: she told me outright.:p Granted, I had to tease and goad her into it.....:D But yeah, I know the feeling.:)

Speaking of being able to sleep again, did anyone else have a horrible time sleeping during the full moon from thursday to friday? I had a hard time trying to wring some sleep out of the four hours that I had time for it :mad:

I barely noticed. I haven't been sleeping much anyway....

Speaking of being able to sleep again, did anyone else have a horrible time sleeping during the full moon from thursday to friday? I had a hard time trying to wring some sleep out of the four hours that I had time for it :mad:
http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/L-Werewolf.gifAlways. And that waking up naked somewhere around town...http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/R-Werewolf.gif

star trek
laughing
being alone
being with amy
hugs
sleep
hiding under duvet

:)

star trek
laughing
being alone
being with amy
hugs
sleep
hiding under duvet

:)

Naturally.:p

Hey PM - how long were you the lone wolf before Amy happened to you? Maybe the answer will give me some hope and comfort?

Shockingly enough, NS General, but not only that.

Escapist fiction is great for giving me comfort. So are good movies. I drink a bit when I'm down, and that's a bit comforting, and other people are pretty comforting as well.

My lovely mates
My not as lovely mates
My music collection
My nice warm bed
My girlfriend
My good mate alcoholism

http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/L-Werewolf.gifAlways. And that waking up naked somewhere around town...http://i6.photobucket.com/albums/y223/GermanNightmare/R-Werewolf.gif
Hehe. Reminds me a bit of the round of Never Have I Ever... (Ich hab noch nie...) that we played yesterday. "Never have I ever woken up and not known where my underwear was." :D

Hehe. Reminds me a bit of the round of Never Have I Ever... (Ich hab noch nie...) that we played yesterday. "Never have I ever woken up and not known where my underwear was." :D
There's only two choices here - on or off :D

There's only two choices here - on or off :DRemember the Simpsons where Marge tells Homer "You must have thrown them away in a fit of passion!"? My excuse for having to drink to that one :D

Remember the Simpsons where Marge tells Homer "You must have thrown them away in a fit of passion!"? My excuse for having to drink to that one :D
Ah... I don't know all those Simpsons by heart. But I'll take your honest word for it ;)

Drunk Commies Deleted

Chatting with some NSGers on Gabbly has definitely cheared me up - so whoever participated, thank y'all. You know who you are! :fluffle:

Music.
Thoughts of destruction.
My friends.
Myself.
Overcast/rainy/stormy weather.

star trek
laughing
being alone
being with amy
hugs
sleep
hiding under duvet

:)
Awww :) :fluffle:

Hey PM - how long were you the lone wolf before Amy happened to you? Maybe the answer will give me some hope and comfort?
I "happened to him" (:p) when he was about 20 and a half, and this has been his first relationship so, that long.

*big hugs* there is always hope... :) :fluffle:



For me....:
huw :) :fluffle:
food
books or certain tv shows and films (for distraction)
cuddles
kisses
reassuring words
walks (to think)
time to myself
sleep
talking to someone
looking into proactive ways to help things
nice memories

:)

I "happened to him" (:p) when he was about 20 and a half, and this has been his first relationship so, that long.

*big hugs* there is always hope... :) :fluffle:
Thank you, Glitziness. Sorry for the wording.

I'm 'just' sometimes (like now!) on the verge of complete desperation - in the real sense of the word. (Not just 'desperate'.)

So, while life doesn't suck big time overall, it sucks enough for me to feel it.

I dunno. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, at least not really seriously wrong (anymore) - but it's tough and I don't like it...

Bah - enough of the negative thoughts. Thanks for the "Chin up!" http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/umarm2.gif

Hey PM - how long were you the lone wolf before Amy happened to you? Maybe the answer will give me some hope and comfort?
LOL :D
Chatting with some NSGers on Gabbly has definitely cheared me up - so whoever participated, thank y'all. You know who you are! :flufle:
That reminds me....
Awww :-) :fluffle:


I "happened to him" (:p) when he was about 20 and a half, and this has been his first relationship so, that long.

*big hugs* there is always hope... :) :fluffle:



For me....:
huw :) :fluffle:
food
books or certain tv shows and films (for distraction)
cuddles
kisses
reassuring words
walks (to think)
time to myself
sleep
talking to someone
looking into proactive ways to help things
nice memories

:)
*takes notes*
Thank you, Glitziness. Sorry for the wording.

I'm 'just' sometimes (like now!) on the verge of complete desperation - in the real sense of the word. (Not just 'desperate'.)

So, while life doesn't suck big time overall, it sucks enough for me to feel it.

I dunno. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, at least not really seriously wrong (anymore) - but it's tough and I don't like it...

Bah - enough of the negative thoughts. Thanks for the "Chin up!" http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/umarm2.gif

She's awesome, isn't she?:)

Prayer and select Bible passages.

Sleeping with a girl.. shes not my girlfriend tho...
But it comforts me.

LOL :D
I thought I had phrased that innocently enough :)
She's awesome, isn't she?:)
Oh, from what I hear and see - she's great. And I'm really happy for PM, too. I've been around long enough to have "met" him here B.A.

So, not only does it give me hope to maybe bump into Miss Right sometime (hopefully soon!), but Glitziness also knows how to comfort the disturbed (to borrow from LG's signatorial wisdom). [Is signatorial a word?!?]

Which reminds me of the question I posed earlier today (and which is now part of my sig) :D

When you're going through a low point or difficult time in your life waht do you do, where do you go, or whose company do you look for to comfort and relax you?

Personally, (I really don't know why) I really like spending time with old people. Strangely, my grandparents never hold a critical attitude towards me.

Reading, listening to music, and talking to friends helps.
So does a good cry, or playing with a pet.

Sleeping with a girl.. shes not my girlfriend tho...
But it comforts me.
You make me sad.:(
I thought I had phrased that innocently enough :)

Oh, from what I hear and see - she's great. And I'm really happy for PM, too. I've been around long enough to have "met" him here B.A.

So, not only does it give me hope to maybe bump into Miss Right sometime (hopefully soon!), but Glitziness also knows how to comfort the disturbed (to borrow from LG's signatorial wisdom). [Is signatorial a word?!?]

Which reminds me of the question I posed earlier today (and which is now part of my sig) :D
Yeah, they're so lucky.:) I dunno if the one I've now got is Miss Right or not, but she sure makes me happy.:D
Reading, listening to music, and talking to friends helps.
So does a good cry, or playing with a pet.
Like a Kat?:p

I pray, and read my Bible.




(no that's not a smartassed coment, it's the truth)

I pray, and read my Bible.




(no that's not a smartassed coment, it's the truth)

Whatever boats your float, lady.:p




Sorry, I just couldn't help myself.:D

Yeah, they're so lucky.:) I dunno if the one I've now got is Miss Right or not, but she sure makes me happy.:D
Hell, at least you're on the right track, it seems. I mostly feel like I've reached a dead-end and there is no reverse gear... :headbang:
Like a Kat?:p
I was thinking about asking her something about the possibility of stroking and a feline house animal - and then I got scared and stared at her avatar instead ;)

Jagged little pills.

Like a Kat?:p

Yes, if it's this one:

http://gallery.photo.net/photo/3590483-lg.jpg

Hell, at least you're on the right track, it seems. I mostly feel like I've reached a dead-end and there is no reverse gear... :headbang:

I was thinking about asking her something about the possibility of stroking and a feline house animal - and then I got scared and stared at her avatar instead ;)

Well, like Han Solo says, "If it doesn't help to slow down, then pour it on." I don't know how that applies, but you can figure it out.:D

LOL She likes me, so I'm not too worried about it.:p

Yes, if it's this one:

http://gallery.photo.net/photo/3590483-lg.jpg

As cute as that is, I bet you're cuter.;)

Must.. not.. kill.. kitty..

The Beautiful Darkness :fluffle:

Yes!
Along with sex, chocolate, good books and this place.
:fluffle: :fluffle:

Music helps but writing is supreme for me. Unfortunately though, the lower I get the less that comforts me.

Hmm...

I've got to go with my kitties, and my AK-47.

The kitties are warm and fuzzy and the AK-47 makes me feel safe. It's a good combination actually.

The kitties are warm and fuzzy and the AK-47 makes me feel safe. It's a good combination actually.

You can get both in a good Rottweiler...

You can get both in a good Rottweiler...
Or a velvet-coated AK-47.

Yes!
Along with sex, chocolate, good books and this place.
:fluffle: :fluffle:
I listed what(read: who) helps most first.:)
Unless you meant all at once, in which case I'll have to get back to you.;)
You can get both in a good Rottweiler...
I used to have one of those....
Or a velvet-coated AK-47.

Why velvet? Skin the kitties. *nods*

Thank you, Glitziness. Sorry for the wording.
Heh, don't worry, it just sounded strange to me... :P

I'm 'just' sometimes (like now!) on the verge of complete desperation - in the real sense of the word. (Not just 'desperate'.)

So, while life doesn't suck big time overall, it sucks enough for me to feel it.

I dunno. I don't think there's anything wrong with me, at least not really seriously wrong (anymore) - but it's tough and I don't like it...
Just because it isn't as bad as it could be, or isn't as bad as it has been, that doesn't mean you should play down how you feel. Everyone goes through times like this - it's normal, and it's allowed. That doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't change it/fight it, but you have to kinda accept how you feel to move on. Rather than a strange mixture of feeling totally awful about everything, yet saying that everything's fine and not that bad. You don't need to compare or analyse - just accept how you feel for what it is. (I may be talking bullocks and if so, ignore me, but if this does kinda ring true then.... yeah... *trails off*)

As I said, I think it's fairly normal, so I definitly don't think there's anything "wrong" with you. If it's bad enough to be affecting you on a regular basis though, seeking out help or someone professional to talk to can't hurt.
It could be a depression of some sort, if you've lost the feeling of enjoyment that you used to get things. Or it could just be a phase you're going through. Again, talking to someone can't hurt if you think it's affecting your life and mood a lot. (for a non-professional person, I'm always a TG away :fluffle: (having gone through a childhood of depression, low self-esteem and loneliness, all from which I'm still recovering, but recovering pretty well from))

You can't know what's gonna happen in the future. Which means there is always hope. There are no promises except the existance of the opportunities that are around you every day, every where.

One thing to remember is that a relationship doesn't make everything perfect. Even a really wonderful, strong one. If you have any issues with yourself, or an attitude towards life, or a certain way of thinking, a relationship can definitly help that, but a relationship won't make it all suddenly go away. Be careful not to idealise it in your mind.

Take time to focus on what you do enjoy, did enjoy (to see if you can bring the spark back), or could enjoy (perhaps things you've always wanted to try). Whatever those things are, whether it's something small, or something obscure, or something strange to everyone else... it doesn't matter if you enjoy it.

Okay, I'm babbling like crazy and have lost my point... :P
I'll just end on the fact that I do know how you feel, definitly, and while it was earlier in life, and for less of a time perhaps, that doesn't change the fact that all my opinions about life, and myself have changed. That I've gone from having no hope whatsoever, to looking forward to life and the future hugely. That... everything's changed, even though I never ever thought it could, and everything I "knew" seemed to say that life just wasn't worth it because it'd always be this way. And yet I'm now happier than I've ever felt before. So, if things can change that dramatically for me (due to therapy, realisations, learning from mistakes, time, hard work... huw :)), then there's no reason they can't for you.

*shuts up* :P

Bah - enough of the negative thoughts. Thanks for the "Chin up!" http://www.studip.uni-goettingen.de/pictures/smile/umarm2.gif
*more hugs* Any time :)

*takes notes*
Different things work for different people - it's finding what is best for your individual self. It also depends on the time, and situation, I find.

She's awesome, isn't she?:)

Oh, from what I hear and see - she's great. And I'm really happy for PM, too. I've been around long enough to have "met" him here B.A.
Aww, thank you both :)
and I laughed at "B.A" :p

Yeah, they're so lucky.:) I dunno if the one I've now got is Miss Right or not, but she sure makes me happy.:D
Then that's all that matters *nods* and we are very lucky :)

Heh, don't worry, it just sounded strange to me... :P


Just because it isn't as bad as it could be, or isn't as bad as it has been, that doesn't mean you should play down how you feel. Everyone goes through times like this - it's normal, and it's allowed. That doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't change it/fight it, but you have to kinda accept how you feel to move on. Rather than a strange mixture of feeling totally awful about everything, yet saying that everything's fine and not that bad. You don't need to compare or analyse - just accept how you feel for what it is. (I may be talking bullocks and if so, ignore me, but if this does kinda ring true then.... yeah... *trails off*)

As I said, I think it's fairly normal, so I definitly don't think there's anything "wrong" with you. If it's bad enough to be affecting you on a regular basis though, seeking out help or someone professional to talk to can't hurt.
It could be a depression of some sort, if you've lost the feeling of enjoyment that you used to get things. Or it could just be a phase you're going through. Again, talking to someone can't hurt if you think it's affecting your life and mood a lot. (for a non-professional person, I'm always a TG away :fluffle: (having gone through a childhood of depression, low self-esteem and loneliness, all from which I'm still recovering, but recovering pretty well from))

You can't know what's gonna happen in the future. Which means there is always hope. There are no promises except the existance of the opportunities that are around you every day, every where.

One thing to remember is that a relationship doesn't make everything perfect. Even a really wonderful, strong one. If you have any issues with yourself, or an attitude towards life, or a certain way of thinking, a relationship can definitly help that, but a relationship won't make it all suddenly go away. Be careful not to idealise it in your mind.

Take time to focus on what you do enjoy, did enjoy (to see if you can bring the spark back), or could enjoy (perhaps things you've always wanted to try). Whatever those things are, whether it's something small, or something obscure, or something strange to everyone else... it doesn't matter if you enjoy it.

Okay, I'm babbling like crazy and have lost my point... :P
I'll just end on the fact that I do know how you feel, definitly, and while it was earlier in life, and for less of a time perhaps, that doesn't change the fact that all my opinions about life, and myself have changed. That I've gone from having no hope whatsoever, to looking forward to life and the future hugely. That... everything's changed, even though I never ever thought it could, and everything I "knew" seemed to say that life just wasn't worth it because it'd always be this way. And yet I'm now happier than I've ever felt before. So, if things can change that dramatically for me (due to therapy, realisations, learning from mistakes, time, hard work... huw :)), then there's no reason they can't for you.

*shuts up* :P


*more hugs* Any time :)


Different things work for different people - it's finding what is best for your individual self. It also depends on the time, and situation, I find.




Aww, thank you both :)
and I laughed at "B.A" :p


Then that's all that matters *nods* and we are very lucky :)
I'll never know if I don't try all sorts of things. But I think I'll leave Huw to you.:p

And I don't know about that one, but that's why I'm here.:)


Edit: And yes, it is all that matters. As my class work is finding out the hard way.:p

Jolt died last night when I tried to get an answer sent - so here't goes now:

Well, like Han Solo says, "If it doesn't help to slow down, then pour it on." I don't know how that applies, but you can figure it out.:D
:eek: Never have I ever heard that quote before (and I've spent quite some time looking through all three scripts - some mighty nice quotes have I found, but not this one... When does he say that?!?).
Anyway, I hope to figure that one out pretty soon, for Han also said "Good, I hate long waits."

Heh, don't worry, it just sounded strange to me... :P
and I laughed at "B.A" :p
Good one, eh? Well, please keep in mind that although I'm usually thinking in English when posting here, that doesn't always work ;)
Just because it isn't as bad as it could be, or isn't as bad as it has been, that doesn't mean you should play down how you feel. Everyone goes through times like this - it's normal, and it's allowed. That doesn't mean you shouldn't or can't change it/fight it, but you have to kinda accept how you feel to move on. Rather than a strange mixture of feeling totally awful about everything, yet saying that everything's fine and not that bad. You don't need to compare or analyse - just accept how you feel for what it is. (I may be talking bullocks and if so, ignore me, but if this does kinda ring true then.... yeah... *trails off*)
Oh yeah - my problem is not self-awareness, my problem is accepting that and moving on, something rather hard with a low self-esteem and even lower self-confidence. My mind knows what's going on, but my gut won't listen...
As I said, I think it's fairly normal, so I definitly don't think there's anything "wrong" with you. If it's bad enough to be affecting you on a regular basis though, seeking out help or someone professional to talk to can't hurt.
It could be a depression of some sort, if you've lost the feeling of enjoyment that you used to get things. Or it could just be a phase you're going through. Again, talking to someone can't hurt if you think it's affecting your life and mood a lot. (for a non-professional person, I'm always a TG away :fluffle: (having gone through a childhood of depression, low self-esteem and loneliness, all from which I'm still recovering, but recovering pretty well from))
I've been treated for PTSD the last year after I've tried to go without professional help for about 4 years. Can you say depressive rollercoaster? There's a German saying "Himmelhoch jauchzend zu Tode betrübt" (=Sky/Heaven-high cheering saddened to death) which applies quite nicely to how I feel. Mood swings are a bitch, and not the good kind.
I had realized that something was amiss, nay, definitely wrong, and I didn't know how to "get over it" and "move on". Problem is that while the therapy has definitely helped me and changed things tremendously towards the better, I'm not where I want to be; I'm not my true self again...
Thing is, though: My therapist considers my "cured", she says there's not much she could help me with any longer, my main problem is no longer - and now it's up to me to set things straight(er).
You can't know what's gonna happen in the future. Which means there is always hope. There are no promises except the existance of the opportunities that are around you every day, every where.
I know, and yet I worry way too much about things, especially when they concern me, my future, and how things in the present seem to mess that up.
One thing to remember is that a relationship doesn't make everything perfect. Even a really wonderful, strong one. If you have any issues with yourself, or an attitude towards life, or a certain way of thinking, a relationship can definitly help that, but a relationship won't make it all suddenly go away. Be careful not to idealise it in your mind.
Oh, while there might have been opportunities in the recent past that could have changed things a little, I knew I was too fucked up. How could I have dealt with another person, let alone in a relationship, when I didn't even know how to deal with myself. Anything would have been doomed back then, let me tell you. But now I feel better, and yet I have the feeling like there's some counterpart missing, someone to share with, to talk to, well, you know, the typical stuff. [I don't even want to think about the other good things...]
Take time to focus on what you do enjoy, did enjoy (to see if you can bring the spark back), or could enjoy (perhaps things you've always wanted to try). Whatever those things are, whether it's something small, or something obscure, or something strange to everyone else... it doesn't matter if you enjoy it.
When I'm in the sinister mood you have seen me in yesterday, there's nothing really that can cheer me up for long. It's like being on a boat on the ocean - enough fuel to get my anywhere, the motor's screaming, power is there, but I don't have a bearing. So I'm "happily" speeding in zig-zaggy circles although I know which harbor I want to go to - I can't... [nice analogy, I think!]
Okay, I'm babbling like crazy and have lost my point... :P
I'll just end on the fact that I do know how you feel, definitly, and while it was earlier in life, and for less of a time perhaps, that doesn't change the fact that all my opinions about life, and myself have changed. That I've gone from having no hope whatsoever, to looking forward to life and the future hugely. That... everything's changed, even though I never ever thought it could, and everything I "knew" seemed to say that life just wasn't worth it because it'd always be this way. And yet I'm now happier than I've ever felt before. So, if things can change that dramatically for me (due to therapy, realisations, learning from mistakes, time, hard work... huw :)), then there's no reason they can't for you.
*shuts up* :P
*more hugs* Any time :)
With me, it's the other way around. Everything was good, sometimes great, and while I, when I'm honest in looking back, have always had mood swings of that kind (or another) - it was never as bad and severe as in the last 2 years.
So, I'm trying to get back to how I "simply was" before, I didn't worry like I do now in the past. While I feel that after the help I now know that all the pieces are back with me, I still need to reassemble myself again. Five years of a certain thinking-routine (since Nov. 01) won't be changed in a single day, or a week, or a month. Now it's half a year later and I'm still struggeling to get back on track.
The sad part about this is that I cannot talk to my parents about it, for I don't want to place yet another burden onto them. And they wouldn't understand, because while they know the facts of what happened, they really cannot understand how I felt afterwards. Sometimes I have the feeling they expect too much from me - and that pressure is the last thing I need. Yet again, I certainly don't want to disappoint them, either...
(See? Who's rambling like a maniac now?)
Anyway, my sister would and does understand - yet again, how can she help me? She's got enough problems on her own.
And most of my friends here are either ignorant idiots about the topic, too shallow, too disinterested, too stupid to get it, too ignorant, or whatever. Besides, I don't feel comfortable talking to them about my weaknesses. And my true friends from home are spread out all over the place, and while talking to them certainly helps - hearing about how they manage where I don't doesn't really help to improve my mood.
There's a good reason (besides keeping my English up and learning how to support an argument) for me to be on NSG almost daily. Sometimes I can help, sometimes I can be helped. Give and take...

Anyway, enough of this for now - I'm going outside now and enjoy the sunshine while it lasts!
Much love and give PM my best regards!
GNM

The Beautiful Darkness :fluffle:

Aww! :D :fluffle:

Yes!
Along with sex, chocolate, good books and this place.
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Mmm, agreed with all the above :)

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Also, a hot bath and or a warm fire and good music is nice :)

In Soviet Russia the government comforts you.

Jolt died last night when I tried to get an answer sent - so here't goes now:


:eek: Never have I ever heard that quote before (and I've spent quite some time looking through all three scripts - some mighty nice quotes have I found, but not this one... When does he say that?!?).
Anyway, I hope to figure that one out pretty soon, for Han also said "Good, I hate long waits."

It was in one of the books, actually. Probably considered "unofficial" or something like that.:p

Aww! :D :fluffle:



Mmm, agreed with all the above :)

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Also, a hot bath and or a warm fire and good music is nice :)

Well, you know it's true. You know you're one of my closest friends. You poor, poor girl, you.:p :fluffle:

It was in one of the books, actually. Probably considered "unofficial" or something like that.:p
Which one? I've read quite many when it comes to Star Wars, many in English, too!

What Comforts You?

My smug sense of self-importance.

solitude relaxes me. the company of the thoughtless is the source of my stress.

trees, trains, computers and little furry creatures with big sharp teeth help too.

=^=
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Which one? I've read quite many when it comes to Star Wars, many in English, too!
I can't remember. I've read quite a number of them myself. :S
My smug sense of self-importance.

I find that's usually what distresses me to begin with...