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How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emoions but are yet different. How does this work?

OK, sloth, pride, greed, lust. Is this 7 deadly sin day on NSG and I just didn't get the memo or what?

Tell me when you find out, I'd like to know.

How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emoions but are yet different. How does this work?

Lust is to want someone. Love is to want someone to be happy and well.

OK, sloth, pride, greed, lust. Is this 7 deadly sin day on NSG and I just didn't get the memo or what?

I stabbed the memo

It's really complicated. Like take me and my girlfriend for instance, we are both sexually attracted to eachother and love eachother emotionally. Is sexual attraction always pure lust? Can you have both love and lust, thus resulting in romance? ;)

Lust is to want someone. Love is to want someone to be happy and well.

...What about both?

i thought i loved a girl in school.

since then i've actually fallen in love with a girl and now know what i felt before was nothing more than lust mixed with an infatuation :)
i say there's no real way to tell bar you'll know when you got it... probably

Some would say that there exists neither love nor lust. Emotions are merely the expressions of various chemical and neurological states within our collective craniums. 'I' as a person itself do not exist, as 'I' am a combination of a very large group of cells working together to keep each other alive, and nothing else.

For that matter, given our view of the universe, how do we even know that we exist at all? Do Sim Citizens know that they aren't real? *wanders off into another subject*

How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emoions but are yet different. How does this work?

Love is arguably an addiction to someone's company (no, not in the business sense :D )

Whereas, lust is the desire to have sex.

...What about both?

Both is defined as romance. I think romantic relationships are the most common and the best. You're fulfilling your human nature by being sexually attracted but at the same time you are emotionally in love.

Sleep with the person. Afterwards, if you wonder what that person is still doing in your bed, it's lust. If, afterwards, you let them pick the pimples on your back, then it is love.

...What about both?

Well, that's both, then. You love someone, and you have sexual feelings about him/her. It's not that uncommon, is it? :)

'I' as a person itself do not exist, as 'I' am a combination of a very large group of cells working together to keep each other alive, and nothing else.

So nothing that is made up of other things exists? A cell does not exist because it is made of molecules? A molecule does not ... etc. I think your reasoning is flawed.

Well, that's both, then. You love someone, and you have sexual feelings about him/her. It's not that uncommon, is it? :)

I suppose. Now, how I go about telling her that...

So nothing that is made up of other things exists? A cell does not exist because it is made of molecules? A molecule does not ... etc. I think your reasoning is flawed.

My reasoning is fine. I'm just bored and waxing theological.

I suppose. Now, how I go about telling her that...

Depends... you'll need to let us know a little more about the situation before we can give advice

How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emoions but are yet different. How does this work?Lust has a lot to do with posession and sex only. Love is more than just being together with someone.

OK, sloth, pride, greed, lust. Is this 7 deadly sin day on NSG and I just didn't get the memo or what?
I was afraid it would happen the moment I saw Edwardis' thread...

I've never really got how people confuse love and lust :confused: Lust is simple physical/sexual attraction to a person. Love is caring about someone, putting their well-being before your own, a deep feeling of emotional connection, seeing and bringing out the best in someone... I can't really explain it, but it's obviously hugely different.

Cabra's distinction was good *nods*

Confusion between infatuation and love is more understandable. I'd say the differences would probably be a) truly caring for the person's well-being over your own b) the long-lastingness of the feelings for the other person c) being able to include reality, honesty, and true judgement of the other person and your feelings for them.

Sleep with the person. Afterwards, if you wonder what that person is still doing in your bed, it's lust. If, afterwards, you let them pick the pimples on your back, then it is love.
Infact, probably a pretty good way of making the distinction...

lust is easy. either you want desperately to fuck the other person or you dont.

love is harder. its a complicated emotion that means more and less than you think it does.

im of the opinion that if you think you love someone, you love them. big freaking deal. the question is how long are you going to love them and how deeply will you love them?

the only way to know if love will last and deepen is to give it time. you dont make plans for the future with someone until you have known them and loved them long enough to go through some tough times and face some alternate temptation.

when youre young its not that the love isnt real, its that it doesnt last. you have bad taste in girlfriends, after a while she moves on to another boy or you get sick of her and her friends. or you realize that you are more attracted to another girl. after a couple of disastrous relationships you realize what you are risking when you give your heart to another and you get more careful and more discriminating before you do so. then you develop more sophisticated relationships with people who are worth the risk you are taking in letting them into your life.

I've just spent 2 hours on the phone with a good friend, trying to help her write a letter to her boyfriend because they are breaking up on Sunday. He's going to Uni.

She's devastated, so I've decided that love is shit! And from now on will only be encouraging people not to fall in love!

I am also about to hang myself because ive had 2 hours of listening to it :headbang: . Someone save me!

Lust is a selfish emotion, love is a sharing one.

How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emoions but are yet different. How does this work?

The easy answer is don't have sex and see if your interest stays up. Lust is a quick "love at first sight" thing. Love takes time to develop. Everyone should date for at least a year without sex to see if love develops. Sex covers a lot of evils that come out after marriage. That is why people wh "shack up" before marriage have a higher divorce rate than those who abstain until marriage.

Lust may be part of love, but love can exist without lust. Love is unselfish, unjudgemental, caring; it means you want what's best for that person, even if what's best does not include a relationship with you.

Love is when you'd rather see them happy with someone else than unhappy with you. Love is when you'd cop a bullet, just so they could take one more breath.
Lust is when you want to lick them all over. Lust is when your muscles tense when you look at them.

Luckily, I get to experience both.

Sleep with the person. Afterwards, if you wonder what that person is still doing in your bed, it's lust. If, afterwards, you let them pick the pimples on your back, then it is love.


Eureka!

Lust is fleeting, Love isn't.

If the feeling of attraction passes before you go to sleep that night, it's lust. If the thought of that person keeps you awake at night, it's love.

Unless he/she was just really bloody ugly, and you're afraid they'd give you nightmares.

Lust means you want to fuck someone, love means you want to make love to that person.

Lust jumps from one person to another, love lingers behind on that significant individual.

How do people tell when they are in love and when they are lusting for someone. I mean people usually have similar emotions but are yet different. How does this work?
Think of the person you're infauted with. Note how you feel about them. Then go whack off. Think about them again.
If the feelings have changed, it's lust.
If not it's love. (probably)


Another way is if you find that when you're looking at porn, you're imagining their head on the body, it's lust.

Lust is when you enjoy making out or banging someone without the emotions. Love is when you enjoy talking to, being with, and caring about the person as much or more as you enjoy the physical stuff. Something like that

Lust is a selfish emotion, love is a sharing one.
Hm. Not that I'd really, actually, truly know, but that seems to be the most decisive difference. Certainly rings true.