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I am in love with someone that I can't ever be with, how do I make it go away?

Suicide is one, probably not exactly advisable, method.

The other, probably more normal, method is just letting time do its work.

Tough choice?

time won't fix it, she is perfection, she is married, she is off limits. is there a third option?

Okay, now you're *really* starting to scare me.

well, she isn't here tonight so I thought I would fix this while she isn't around.

Is this about Smunkee?

everything is about her. :(

everything is about her. :(
She's my e-wife, if I remember correctly.

why doesn't she think you are creepy? she thinks i am creepy, thats why i don't post when she is around

why doesn't she think you are creepy? she thinks i am creepy, thats why i don't post when she is around
...that may be why she thinks you are creepy.

no i sent her some private messages and she said i was creepy and to leave her alone so i did i haven't tried to talk to her since march except when she said she was leaving i posted there but she was already gone but now shes back:(

why doesn't anyoen care?

Ohhh right so you're just joking about? Go on then, which regular are you under that disguise?

Ohhh right so you're just joking about? Go on then, which regular are you under that disguise?
DCD? If this one mentions parrots...

this is......weird…..online obsession…..

I say you find someone else nothing fills me holes like finding someone else (not in a homosexual way of course;) )

have you tried going outside getting your mind off it (combined with outright mental denial every time the thought appears)

She's been "back" for quite some time now.

She doesn't think Ruffy's creepy because he's not. They get along well, like the same songs, and have fun. Oh, and also he's not in love with her, which would help.

She doesn't even know you. As of the time of me writing this, you have all of 29 posts in this forum. You bet that when somebody suddenly came out of the woodworks proclaiming their love for me that I would find that creepy. o.O

I mean, seriously. Having a crush on someone on a forum, okay. But this? Get a grip. Seriously.
However perfect you seem to think she is - face it, she's not. That's nothing against Smunkee, mind you, but whatever picture you seem to have built in your mind is just that - a figment of your imagination. Blown-up bullshit built from the scraps of someone's postings on internet forum.

Ohhh right so you're just joking about? Go on then, which regular are you under that disguise?
Uh, no, unfortunately he's not. This Smunkee thing has been going on for quite some time. :/

I am in love with someone that I can't ever be with, how do I make it go away?
Stop falling in love with cyborgs from other dimensions.

Believe me, I've been there. Down that road lies only pain.

DCD? If this one mentions parrots...

I'll die laughing :D

I don't care what anyone says, that's the single funniest post in the history of this forum.

Uh, no, unfortunately he's not. This Smunkee thing has been going on for quite some time. :/

Seriously? :confused:

But....how? It's the submissive thing, isn't it? Has to be...

But he's got like...no posts on this forum?

I'm majorly confused now...

Seriously? :confused:

But....how? It's the submissive thing, isn't it? Has to be...

But he's got like...no posts on this forum?

I'm majorly confused now...

Just because he's not posting doesn't mean he's not reading. And no, it started way before the submissive thing.

why doesn't anyoen care?

Well, partially because no one can help you - you just have to... you know, move on. Stop coming to these forums altogether if that's the point you have in common with her. If you can't do that, disconnect your internet for a month or two, until you've found someone else. If you know her in real life, go to ALL lengths to cut all ties.

The other reason you probably aren't getting much help is that a lot of people have been in HER shoes, and so don't... have much sympathy. If she has flat out told you that you are 'creepy' and that you shouldn't talk to her, very few people are going to HELP you in your quest to not-even-attempt-to-get-over-her. They're going to be much more likely to ignore this to avoid being 'mean' to you, because the only advice you are going to get is what you've already been given, and have announced you are going to ignore: Get over her. You have to do that ACTIVELY, not just sit around hoping that it'll go away.

It seems like you might be fishing for ways to 'get' her to like you - no one is going to help you with that; she's married and thinks your attention is creepy: you need to move on. Period. You are causing someone you (claim) to love considerable distress (if she felt the need to tell you not to contact her, that discomfort is fairly obvious), and yet you won't take the steps needed to stop doing that?

Doesn't sound like love to me. Sounds like obsession.
Not. Healthy.

...

Also, just because she is not online NOW doesn't mean she won't see this. Are you aware how much this could bother her? That you are dragging her name into this thread when she is married and obviously wants nothing to do with your drama? If you wouldn't say it while she's around, you shouldn't say it on these forums at all - forums are not like real-life conversations, where what's said lasts only temporarily. You might have also considered that her husband may browse these forums - consider the strain that it will cause. He won't want her participating on a forum where a guy is insisting on contacting her and has flat out stated that he doesn't plan on getting over her. Because of your actions, she might be forced to choose between her husband and a forum she enjoys. Pretty shite choice to force on someone agaisnt their will, don't you think?

Methinks one should find a different forum to take ones private issues to.

Just because he's not posting doesn't mean he's not reading. And no, it started way before the submissive thing.

I've seen people on forums fall in 'love' after talking to each other alot...but this is just weird...

she posts a lot hey do you guys think if i ask moderation to lock this so its gone when she comes back they would do that? i don't want to make her unhappy

Go outside, meet people your age that you can see and talk to in the flesh. Have fun.

I'll die laughing :D

I don't care what anyone says, that's the single funniest post in the history of this forum.
That's some strange taste in comedy you've got there...still....

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It never ceases to impress me how so many extremely selfish people manage to convince themselves that their self-love is actually love for somebody else.

Listen well, little Piggy:

You don't "love" anybody. You have created a love object out of your own mind, and are attempting to force an actual person to become that love object. You don't love them in the least, you only love what you have made up.

You are masturbating. Nothing more, nothing less.

It's okay to fall in love with an object from time to time. Most people do it at least once while they are young and stupid. What is not okay is when you decide to hurt somebody else for your own gratification.

It is plain to everybody that you do not "love" the person you are supposedly pining over. You are not fooling anybody. Save your time and energy and go play and RPG where you can have an RPG-wedding with some hot elf woman who promises to love you and your big sword for the rest of all eternity.

she posts a lot hey do you guys think if i ask moderation to lock this so its gone when she comes back they would do that? i don't want to make her unhappy

You might be able to pursuade them to delete it, which is even more foolproof.

i tried hopefully they will take pitty on a piggy

you guys think i am sick don'tyou?

you guys think i am sick don'tyou?
Misguided might be a better word, unless you've bought nightvision goggles.

You...you haven't bought NVgoggles, have you?

i wouldn't try to get close to her in a way its good we live far away from eachother

you guys think i am sick don'tyou?
I think you're smunkee's puppet trying to see how we react, and that's why you two don't post at the same time.

Don't worry, I won't tell anyone ;)

It never ceases to impress me how so many extremely selfish people manage to convince themselves that their self-love is actually love for somebody else.

Listen well, little Piggy:

You don't "love" anybody. You have created a love object out of your own mind, and are attempting to force an actual person to become that love object. You don't love them in the least, you only love what you have made up.

You are masturbating. Nothing more, nothing less.

It's okay to fall in love with an object from time to time. Most people do it at least once while they are young and stupid. What is not okay is when you decide to hurt somebody else for your own gratification.

It is plain to everybody that you do not "love" the person you are supposedly pining over. You are not fooling anybody. Save your time and energy and go play and RPG where you can have an RPG-wedding with some hot elf woman who promises to love you and your big sword for the rest of all eternity.

Ouch. But, she? speaks the truth. I once had a friend that found a girl online, and they started talking IRL, but never face to face. Just online conversations and such. It ended horribly, I nearly lost my friend. So, it's best to to what everyone else here is suggesting, because you really do sound like a younger person when you throw around the word love like that. She doesn't like you.....you're wasting your time, man.

I think you're smunkee's puppet trying to see how we react, and that's why you two don't post at the same time.

Don't worry, I won't tell anyone ;)
I would give anything to belong to her

you guys think i am sick don'tyou?

I'm guessing your young if your not I'm just going to pretend you are anyways

your not sick your just confused

I would give anything to belong to her

Unfortunately you really don't have anything you CAN give.

And about you being 'sick'... no. I don't think you're sick. I think you are exactly like I was between the ages of 13-17, except you (you lucky person) have people like us to tell you what you NEED to hear instead of what you WANT to hear.

If you only know Smunkee through these forums, leave. Seriously - it will be the fastest, most efficient way to get over her. Go get a calandar right now, and mark off two months of No NS Time (Zero Tolerance). If you find yourself surfing here anyway, make it No Internet Time instead.

And go reread Bottle's post too - the sooner you can recognise that she is saying that because it's true and not because she's A Big Meanie, the better for you.

Perhaps it will help for you to consider this a chance to reduce your pain in the future - learning to actively move on is one of the most helpful, healthy skills you will ever have the oppertunity to acquire. And hell, once you've taken those first baby steps in the right direction, they'll seem less and less painful every time you need to take them.

i have to go to work now good night or morning or whatever it is there