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So it started the day before I left from Japan to come back home to Brooklyn, New York. I E-mailed my then-girlfriend, just because, and the E-mail she sent back said simply "we need to talk". I thought this could mean a few things, but mainly I thought it sounds like she wants to break up with me, and that there is no way that she wants to break up with me. Then there was my 13 hour plane ride, and I don't sleep on planes. Then when I got back, it was comfirmed, she did want to break up with me, and when I asked why, she just said that she "changed", and didn't want to be in a relationship. She didn't know how to put it any other way. So, wallowing in self-pity, I acted like a headless chicken and just wandered around in my house (thinking of her), reading (trying to distract myself from her), and online (writing long stupid e-mails to her which I will never send). All of this combined for 35 strait hours without sleep. When I finaly did collapse, it was like 6 AM, and since then, I have just slept and ate whenever I felt like it.

This was my first serious (as serious as high school relationships get, I guess) relationship, and I am not handling being broken up with well. This, combined with my jetlag, means that my whole body clock is screwed up, and I have important (getting into college) stuff that I need to do in a few days, so... either jetlag and/or breakup tips and/or stories would be cool.
(This is day three of being single/being back in home).

Make me laugh, I double dare you!

I don't know about the broken heart(glue?) but if you force yourself to go to bed and wake up at the time you normally do you'll get over jetlag faster.

Go out and get laid.

Or go to Whitecastle....

Harold: I want that.
Kumar: What? A Hot Dog Heaven super chili cheese dog?
Harold: No. I want that feeling. The feeling that comes over a man when he gets exactly what he desires. I need that feeling!
Kumar: Are you saying what I think you're saying?
Harold: We gotta go to White Castle.
Kumar: YES! YES! I knew you had it in you dude!

Sleeping tablets. Serioulsy you need to sleep and not getting into college becuase your tired and were dumped is absurd.

As for you broken heart: Don't listen to love songs. Its not sound advice but you'll only feel worse if you do.


I'm sorry about your breakup but GET SOME SLEEP and you'll feel better in the morning.

Awwww. :( :fluffle:

If I knew how to get over a break-up just like that I'd be writing self-help books and be a millionaire.

But both of these, esp. the latter (as stupid as it sounds) seem to be not all that bad an idea:
reading (trying to distract myself from her), and online (writing long stupid e-mails to her which I will never send).

Or go to Whitecastle....

Harold: I want that.
Kumar: What? A Hot Dog Heaven super chili cheese dog?
Harold: No. I want that feeling. The feeling that comes over a man when he gets exactly what he desires. I need that feeling!
Kumar: Are you saying what I think you're saying?
Harold: We gotta go to White Castle.
Kumar: YES! YES! I knew you had it in you dude!
Pointless trivia: In Europe that film is called "Harold and Kumar Get the Munchies", since us crazy Europeans don't have a Whitecastle. We have real castles though.

Chocolate.

Getting over someone means it's OK to indulge.

So it started the day before I left from Japan to come back home to Brooklyn, New York. I E-mailed my then-girlfriend, just because, and the E-mail she sent back said simply "we need to talk". I thought this could mean a few things, but mainly I thought it sounds like she wants to break up with me, and that there is no way that she wants to break up with me. Then there was my 13 hour plane ride, and I don't sleep on planes. Then when I got back, it was comfirmed, she did want to break up with me, and when I asked why, she just said that she "changed", and didn't want to be in a relationship. She didn't know how to put it any other way. So, wallowing in self-pity, I acted like a headless chicken and just wandered around in my house (thinking of her), reading (trying to distract myself from her), and online (writing long stupid e-mails to her which I will never send). All of this combined for 35 strait hours without sleep. When I finaly did collapse, it was like 6 AM, and since then, I have just slept and ate whenever I felt like it.

This was my first serious (as serious as high school relationships get, I guess) relationship, and I am not handling being broken up with well. This, combined with my jetlag, means that my whole body clock is screwed up, and I have important (getting into college) stuff that I need to do in a few days, so... either jetlag and/or breakup tips and/or stories would be cool.
(This is day three of being single/being back in home).

Make me laugh, I double dare you!
Sounds like you're handling it as well as anyone ever does. Eventually, you'll get around to getting laid, and going to White Castle. Sleeping pills may not be the best idea. Your folks may get the wrong idea :rolleyes:

Pointless trivia: In Europe that film is called "Harold and Kumar Get the Munchies", since us crazy Europeans don't have a Whitecastle. We have real castles though.

Kumar: How were Katie Holmes' tits?
Goldstein: You know the Holocaust?
Kumar: Yeah?
Goldstein: Picture the opposite of that!
Kumar: Nice!

Pointless trivia: In Europe that film is called "Harold and Kumar Get the Munchies", since us crazy Europeans don't have a Whitecastle. We have real castles though.
Any of them white?

Chocolate.

Getting over someone means it's OK to indulge.
Also means the calories don't count *nods*

Sleeping tablets. Serioulsy you need to sleep and not getting into college becuase your tired and were dumped is absurd.

I was mostly kidding about that, I just felt like being extra melo-dramatic. I do have a college interview coming up, but they're easy, and it's just one school and not my top choice.

Any of them white?
I don't know, but I've got some whitewash in my shed.

Also means the calories don't count *nods*

Those are most effectively burnt off when the break-up rage sets in.

I was mostly kidding about that, I just felt like being extra melo-dramatic. I do have a college interview coming up, but they're easy, and it's just one school and not my top choice.

OK! No sleeping tablets for you then!

Jetlag can be easily cured with a combination of deliberate postponement of sleep and some sort of either alcoholic or warm chocolatey beverage. The idea is to time it so that you can have one really good sleep and wake up exactly when you're supposed to. Often, a glass of wine or mug of hot chocolate aids the conscious effort to get sleep, and if done with friends can also prove a nice use of the intermittent time.

As for the heartache, I tend to find that an individual dumping you tends to lessen your feelings towards them. Appreciating the fact that she evidently wasn't the person you thought she was will help you get over her pretty quickly.

Those are most effectively burnt off when the break-up rage sets in.
Rebound sex or smashing furniture? Or both?

Any of them white?
Of course (http://web.wilson.k12.pa.us/buildings/sh/staffpages/clatin/Neuschwanstein.jpg). Really now, you're American! You guys love this shit!

Rebound sex or smashing furniture? Or both?

A vase or so, and then vigorous sessions at the gym pounding away at some bag/machine while scoping out candidates for the rebound sex.

A vase or so, and then vigorous sessions at the gym pounding away at some bag/machine while scoping out candidates for the rebound sex.
Sounds like a plan. *nods*

As for the heartache, I tend to find that an individual dumping you tends to lessen your feelings towards them. Appreciating the fact that she evidently wasn't the person you thought she was will help you get over her pretty quickly.

Unfortunatly, it sounds like she is really depressed right now, and from what I can tell from her friends, she dumped me cause she dosn't care enough for her own happiness to keep up a relationship. Which makes me feel both guilty and wanting to comfort her, even though she made it clear she dosn't want to talk to me, or for me to contact her. Honestly, I think she's in a worse place then I am, or then I will ever be. And she's sick, like dizzy and pukey spells, which also makes it hard.

Sounds like a plan. *nods*

Makes it seem like I've so mush experience with breaking up.

Not that I don't. It just struck me.

So it started the day before I left from Japan to come back home to Brooklyn, New York. I E-mailed my then-girlfriend, just because, and the E-mail she sent back said simply "we need to talk". I thought this could mean a few things, but mainly I thought it sounds like she wants to break up with me, and that there is no way that she wants to break up with me. Then there was my 13 hour plane ride, and I don't sleep on planes. Then when I got back, it was comfirmed, she did want to break up with me, and when I asked why, she just said that she "changed", and didn't want to be in a relationship.
I hate people who do shit like this.
She dumps this "we need to talk" crap on you, knowing full well that you're going to be on a bloody long plane trip with nothing to do but stew about what that means.
She couldn't just do the decent thing and stay silent until you got back.

A similar thing happened to be several years ago, with my 1st proper g/f. We had been together 5 years and were living together.

I was at my parents home over Xmas. New Year's eve, 6pm. I'm just getting ready to head out to have a big NYE bash with some mates and she calls me up to tell me it's all over and that she's moving out to shack up with some other guy. That was basically it: The call lasted less than a minute.
Really made my NYE, I can tell you.
I was more annoyed at her for ruining my nye than anything else. It's not like you come to a conclusion such as that in one day - it obviously takes one a bit of time to decide to break up after 5 years together. So why she couldn't just wait 1 more day and let me enjoy my nye is beyond me.

Just nasty and selfish imo.

Unfortunatly, it sounds like she is really depressed right now, and from what I can tell from her friends, she dumped me cause she dosn't care enough for her own happiness to keep up a relationship. Which makes me feel both guilty and wanting to comfort her, even though she made it clear she dosn't want to talk to me, or for me to contact her. Honestly, I think she's in a worse place then I am, or then I will ever be. And she's sick, like dizzy and pukey spells, which also makes it hard.
If you haven't already, did you consider simply talking to her about it? If you have and she's still done with it, then she needs her own space more than she needs you, and you need to accept that. Otherwise, what're you still doing talking to us?

Rebound sex or smashing furniture? Or both?
I find rebound sex most effective at smashing the furniture ;)

Of course (http://web.wilson.k12.pa.us/buildings/sh/staffpages/clatin/Neuschwanstein.jpg). Really now, you're American! You guys love this shit!
Looks like Disneyland to me :p

Unfortunatly, it sounds like she is really depressed right now, and from what I can tell from her friends, she dumped me cause she dosn't care enough for her own happiness to keep up a relationship. Which makes me feel both guilty and wanting to comfort her, even though she made it clear she dosn't want to talk to me, or for me to contact her. Honestly, I think she's in a worse place then I am, or then I will ever be. And she's sick, like dizzy and pukey spells, which also makes it hard.
Well, then, you win!