Relationship Nightmares
PasturePastry
08-08-2006, 05:57
Usually after one has been burned in several relationships, one starts to characterize them to understand what's going on and figure out why one fears getting into another one. Most people I talk to are worried about poisonous relationships: ones as they get worse, one suffers horribly because they can't find a way out and once free, one is loath to get involved in another one.
Those are not the common ones for me. I think I have discovered how to characterize most of the ones I've been in: leprotic relationships. These are the kind where eventually you feel nothing at all and you just watch your life rot away. If it was at least a little painful, there would be an incentive to get out, but the lack of feeling doesn't even allow one to think of escape. It's only when one realizes that their life is imperiled by lack of action that the necessary motivation to escape develops.
Are there other people that have experienced such relationships?
Wanderjar
08-08-2006, 06:13
Usually after one has been burned in several relationships, one starts to characterize them to understand what's going on and figure out why one fears getting into another one. Most people I talk to are worried about poisonous relationships: ones as they get worse, one suffers horribly because they can't find a way out and once free, one is loath to get involved in another one.
Those are not the common ones for me. I think I have discovered how to characterize most of the ones I've been in: leprotic relationships. These are the kind where eventually you feel nothing at all and you just watch your life rot away. If it was at least a little painful, there would be an incentive to get out, but the lack of feeling doesn't even allow one to think of escape. It's only when one realizes that their life is imperiled by lack of action that the necessary motivation to escape develops.
Are there other people that have experienced such relationships?
My friend, I think you're choosing the wrong type of person if thats the way you feel. Try to analyzing why it is you feel this way, and alter it.
Just tryin' to help ya bro!
Not that I support ditching things when they get tough, but if you're convinced that the relationship is going nowhere, destined to rot away to nothing, why are you in it?
More to the point, if that's not what you want to see happen to it, why aren't you trying to fix it? Go do something super-romantic, blow some money on the person, or hell, sit down and have a chat about the direction the relationship's going. Don't let your feelings build up like that, and don't let things go down the crapper when you've got the power to catch them.
Wanderjar
08-08-2006, 06:54
Not that I support ditching things when they get tough, but if you're convinced that the relationship is going nowhere, destined to rot away to nothing, why are you in it?
More to the point, if that's not what you want to see happen to it, why aren't you trying to fix it? Go do something super-romantic, blow some money on the person, or hell, sit down and have a chat about the direction the relationship's going. Don't let your feelings build up like that, and don't let things go down the crapper when you've got the power to catch them.
Good response mate!
Maineiacs
08-08-2006, 07:30
Never had one like that. My last relationship was a doozy, though. She cheated on me 4 times -- that I know of. Only 3 of them were men, and the girl she slept with was the girl I dated before her. I can usually win any "who had the worst relationship" contest with that one.
Worst part is, she's still with the last guy she cheated on me with (at last I knew), and I haven't had even a date in 2 years.
Never had one like that. My last relationship was a doozy, though. She cheated on me 4 times -- that I know of. Only 3 of them were men, and the girl she slept with was the girl I dated before her. I can usually win any "who had the worst relationship" contest with that one.
Worst part is, she's still with the last guy she cheated on me with (at last I knew), and I haven't had even a date in 2 years.
...You're Dante Hicks, and she was Caitlin Bree, right?
Maineiacs
08-08-2006, 07:35
...You're Dante Hicks, and she was Caitlin Bree, right?
No. You mean someone else actually went throught that?
Wilgrove
08-08-2006, 08:01
Hmm let's see. Beside trying to pick up girls who think they are too good for me, (IE they're shallow materialistic bitches who think I'm ugly) I've had one girl who cheated on me while I was in California for surgery, had one who wouldn't go to college because she "might lose intrest" and is now on Welfare, one who was never around much she had her own life with her friends and would only talk to me when she was bored, and yea. Let's face it, I suck in relationships, and yet I keep on getting into them.