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As long as I can remember I've never really had real friends. I'm so socially awkward and different from most people, it is hard. In school I had a few people I'd hang out with, but never more than 3 or 4 times outside of school. I've been with a girl for 3 1/2 years and shes the same way.

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:

As long as I can remember I've never really had real friends. I'm so socially awkward and different from most people, it is hard. In school I had a few people I'd hang out with, but never more than 3 or 4 times outside of school. I've been with a girl for 3 1/2 years and shes the same way.

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:

I don't. I don't really see the point.

Perhaps that's overstating it. I don't make any effort to meet people, because I don't really like people. However, I found that I did meet people - some of whom I liked - while I was at University. The same can be said of the people with whom I work (I actually really enjoy my current colleagues). Being forced to interact with people is a good way to meet people.

As for other friends, I've met some on the internet. I've never met them, but I talk to them on a regular basis through a private message board.

As long as I can remember I've never really had real friends. I'm so socially awkward and different from most people, it is hard. In school I had a few people I'd hang out with, but never more than 3 or 4 times outside of school. I've been with a girl for 3 1/2 years and shes the same way.

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:
would love to help but i got the same problem :p

dropped out of uni after second year, don't drink, have nothing in common with my old friends, and generally feel very isolated. and have done for the last year.

i met a great girl online though :D (will shortly be celebrating our 6 month anniversary of being together, and 9 or 10 months of being 'involved' :))

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:
Join a club, look for a group activity, you don't have to drink at bars, just ask for orange juice.

I hang out in the entryway of various Wal-Marts and follow people to their cars.

I hang out in the entryway of various Wal-Marts and follow people to their cars.

Would you happen to be this guy? http://www.local6.com/news/9264631/detail.html

I don't. People gravitate toward me over time. But I'm going to uni later this month, so that doesn't help you at all.

would love to help but i got the same problem :p

dropped out of uni after second year, don't drink, have nothing in common with my old friends, and generally feel very isolated. and have done for the last year.

i met a great girl online though :D (will shortly be celebrating our 6 month anniversary of being together, and 9 or 10 months of being 'involved' :))

argh, i'm sorry, and good for you two, but it makes me want to gag! so much happiness! none for me!

oh, and forced social interaction is the good way. coed school = girlfriend. all boys = single. coincidence? of course! :p

what and who are people:confused:

Would you happen to be this guy? http://www.local6.com/news/9264631/detail.html

HOLY COW!! That is more awesome than anything I've read since DCD's story about the serial Arby's masturbater.

God bless local news. :D

what and who are people:confused:
Figments of your imagination.

Figments of your imagination.
ah ok thanks:fluffle:

you can find plenty of new friends wherever you look all that you need to do is "say hello" but if that fails you I'm sure you could meet someone online or you could go to a concert or clubbing (depends on your scene really but both are good and both don't actually have to involve drinking)

but by the sounds of things maybe you like having a small group of close friends I'd advice the army but I'm not going to sell out (though you'll never look back and the grades you must have can get you pretty much anywhere you want) have you thought about maybe contacting some old friends to hang out?

Would you happen to be this guy? http://www.local6.com/news/9264631/detail.html
Nope, that's me.

I don't meet people. Some of us actually have to work for a living.

Let me get this right. You dropped out of college so you could meet people?

erm...

I made a lot of friends in prison.

ah ok thanks:fluffle:
Technically, you just thanked yourself, but you would also like to extend the notion that you are welcome. You are welcome. :p :fluffle:

Hmm.. It used to be the internet a few years ago but things have changed.
Now it's parties.. Just going out with mates or gf.

Hmm.. It used to be the internet a few years ago but things have changed.
Now it's parties.. Just going out with mates or gf.
I never get invited to any. :S

I walk around with my pants down and let the people meet me.

I walk around with my pants down and let the people meet me.
'Splains a lot.:p

Work, school, and myspace.

I've met a very large number of fun people at my work(I work at a theatre, mostly high school/recent graduates there... so all around my age), and have signifigantly increased the people I go hang out with due to it.

School is an obvious one. Friends of friends should be mentioned; A good friend from school usually hangs out in the area near my work, and knows everyone around there. Quickly led to me knowing everyone around there.

Myspace... Just friends of friends. Find people that are cool with the friends you have, and add them, talk to them, etc. I've made a few real friends through myspace, though I mainly use it to try to get with girls. I'm sure if you just wanted friends, it would be easier.

Work, school, and myspace.

I've met a very large number of fun people at my work(I work at a theatre, mostly high school/recent graduates there... so all around my age), and have signifigantly increased the people I go hang out with due to it.

School is an obvious one. Friends of friends should be mentioned; A good friend from school usually hangs out in the area near my work, and knows everyone around there. Quickly led to me knowing everyone around there.

Myspace... Just friends of friends. Find people that are cool with the friends you have, and add them, talk to them, etc. I've made a few real friends through myspace, though I mainly use it to try to get with girls. I'm sure if you just wanted friends, it would be easier.
Didn't you read anything? No more school for that one. At least not now.

I never get invited to any. :S
I get invited to lots but don't go to many anymore.

Didn't you read anything? No more school for that one. At least not now.

The threads name is "how do you meet people". I posted how I meet people.

Its not "How can I meet people", is it? I just explained how I meet people, and figured you could maybe use some of the techniques.

Don't have to get all upset.

I get invited to lots but don't go to many anymore.
That doesn't help him if he doesn't get invited.

I don't meet people. Some of us actually have to work for a living.
I meet a ton of people when I work.

The threads name is "how do you meet people". I posted how I meet people.

Its not "How can I meet people", is it? I just explained how I meet people, and figured you could maybe use some of the techniques.

Don't have to get all upset.
Nope. I let them gravitate to me. I'll have to wait a while before that'll happen, but if I need help with it, I'll start my own thread.

And I'm not really upset. It's just that he's the one who needs help meeting people, whatever the thread title suggests. But then that kind of depends on the sort of neighborhood in which he lives, too.

all my friends have a chat handle :p

not really

I've kept some friends from school, but I tend to meet people through work, and just generally going out. I'm pretty approachable, and people tend to talk to me without much effort. I suppose I'm lucky in that respect.

Join a social group?

Nope. I let them gravitate to me. I'll have to wait a while before that'll happen, but if I need help with it, I'll start my own thread.

And I'm not really upset. It's just that he's the one who needs help meeting people, whatever the thread title suggests. But then that kind of depends on the sort of neighborhood in which he lives, too.

Sorry, assumed you were OP, because you were starting to get all uppity.

All I did was say what works for me, and leave it to him to devise his own ways.

That doesn't help him if he doesn't get invited.
Hmm. True, sorry.

I meet a ton of people when I work.

Is that "ton" just a few huge people or many smaller ones?

Sorry, assumed you were OP, because you were starting to get all uppity.

All I did was say what works for me, and leave it to him to devise his own ways.
LOL Nope. I don't start serious threads.:p

Is that "ton" just a few huge people or many smaller ones?
Well, as a freelance scale testor, it's my job to weigh people until I've totalled a ton at the end of the day, so it's a literal ton. I have to say I prefer the larger people because then I get to go home early. For this I usually set up in tourist centers or outside the Hometown Buffet.

Hmm. True, sorry.
LOL I always seem to ruin your posts.:p

I meet people through going out with friends and meeting friends of friends. Going to the park and just strike up conversation styuff like that

I meet people through going out with friends and meeting friends of friends. Going to the park and just strike up conversation styuff like that
The real trick is not being uebercreepy while doing so....

The only people who really like me are Theatre People. Everyone else thinks I'm weird. Okay, so the Theatre People think I'm weird too, but they're more willing to accept me. Of course, there is that added problem of competing with people for roles, so you need to know who is a loyal friend, and who is, well, acting.
Anyways, moral of the story: find something you love, and find others who love it too. There must be somewhere that you "belong."

give up. be a hermit is my advice.

and grow a beard.
























a really long one.

Where do you work, if you don't mind me asking? I have a few friends through work.

A lot are ones I kept through school, but also roommates have become good friends.

Honeslty, I've never had a problem with having friends. I guess I just had a lot in high school, picked up some more in the military, and can't get rid of a couple I'd like too. Definitely college bars, even if you don't drink. But no offense, if I didn't have any friends, I believe I'd be drinking more than I do now.


What about relatives your age? Any that live near you? Friends of theirs?

Crap, I'm on this postition now...sortof and I'm not even out of high school. Joyous...

As long as I can remember I've never really had real friends. I'm so socially awkward and different from most people, it is hard. In school I had a few people I'd hang out with, but never more than 3 or 4 times outside of school. I've been with a girl for 3 1/2 years and shes the same way.

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:

Find a sport you like. In most sports, you'd meet someone to do it with you and eventually be friends. Of course those sports might backfire and make you break your shoulder. :headbang:
Anyway...dont you work? No work friends?
Or you might try going to switch partners party :D
Or join something cultural...

give up. be a hermit is my advice.

and grow a beard.
























a really long one.
*waits for beard to magically extend*

*waits for beard to magically extend*
youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu just wait......


*pulls upa deckchair*

the pub...its the cause and solution to all my problems...

ah no...do you work?i find i meet a lot of people when i get a new job!

youuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuuu just wait......


*pulls upa deckchair*
I shall, but I've got people to do and things to see in the meantime.

but then again...i work in a pub!

(Vicious circle):mad:

I shall, but I've got people to do and things to see in the meantime.
:eek:

but then again...i work in a pub!

(Vicious circle):mad:
You crazy Irish girls never can escape, can you?:p

LOL I always seem to ruin your posts.:p
Indeed. I didn't realise we were meant to be suggesting ways for the OP to meet people. I just read the title. :)

As long as I can remember I've never really had real friends. I'm so socially awkward and different from most people, it is hard. In school I had a few people I'd hang out with, but never more than 3 or 4 times outside of school. I've been with a girl for 3 1/2 years and shes the same way.

Now I'm 2 years out of highschool, and have, until I'm comfortable on my own and figure out what I want to do with my life, dropped out of college. We have no idea how to meet people now, and feel like we are missing out on something everyone else enjoys... We don't drink either, so that whole scene is out. Where do we go to meet people? :confused:
You can meet people anywhere, anytime, so keep your underarms deodorized! ;)

I was much the same way when I graduated from high school: almost painfully shy. College helped a bit, but what really helped me was having it finally sink in through my thick skull that everyone is in the same boat, and that being friendly ( smiling at people, striking up conversations, etc. ) wasn't going to kill me. Like most other skills, the more you practice, the better you become. No one is going to shoot you for trying to strike up a conversation. All you need is a bit of courage to run the risk that they're not going to respond well. If they don't, try again with someone else. Sooner or later, you're going to find someone who's willing to converse.

You crazy Irish girls never can escape, can you?:p

we try...not hard but we do try!!!

You can meet people anywhere, anytime, so keep your underarms deodorized! ;)

I was much the same way when I graduated from high school: almost painfully shy. College helped a bit, but what really helped me was having it finally sink in through my thick skull that everyone is in the same boat, and that being friendly ( smiling at people, striking up conversations, etc. ) wasn't going to kill me. Like most other skills, the more you practice, the better you become. No one is going to shoot you for trying to strike up a conversation. All you need is a bit of courage to run the risk that they're not going to respond well. If they don't, try again with someone else. Sooner or later, you're going to find someone who's willing to converse.


LOL
Sounds like a dating tip, or maybe an excerpt from the girl scout training manual....

Indeed. I didn't realise we were meant to be suggesting ways for the OP to meet people. I just read the title. :)
*shakes head in disappointment*

we try...not hard but we do try!!!
I'm not sure how I feel about that....