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I'm feeling a bit low right now and went through friends I could talk to/visit in my head. I came up with 0.
Not because I don't have any friends, simply because they all live too far away for me to pay them a short visit right now. Even those that live in Dublin live at least an hour on the bus/DART away. Well, one would live closer, but he's on vacation in Tunisia right now.
Most of my friends are scattered over the entire globe, some live in Canada, some in different cities in Germany, one on the Philipines, one in South Africa...

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?

It became big and lonely yesterday when it started raining on my house.

when we grew up:(

Ewww. growing up is icky.

when we grew up:(

*snif* I miss my childhood too...*sigh*

when we grew up:(

I knew why I never wanted to grow up... I just wanted to grow out of my family...

Ewww. growing up is icky.
That's why I worked at Toys'R'Us until they fired me for riding around on all the kiddy toys and breaking them.

That's why I worked at Toys'R'Us until they fired me for riding around on all the kiddy toys and breaking them.

Hehe.... I used to work at a comic book store for much the same reasons. But I didn't get fired :p

I knew why I never wanted to grow up... I just wanted to grow out of my family...
lol ... yeah, that's the truth.

Could ye not arrange to meet one of the hour-away friends half-way between? :)

I knew why I never wanted to grow up... I just wanted to grow out of my family...
did you know that i cryed on my thirteenth birhtday becaues i did not want to get old:(

That's why I worked at Toys'R'Us until they fired me for riding around on all the kiddy toys and breaking them.
:)

When did the world become SO big and lonley?
When ownership of motor vehicles became commonplace. Next question, please.

*weeping and wailing* OH CRUEL WORLD! WHY MUST WE GROW OLD AND BECOME BORING AND SERIOUS! WHY MUST WE GET BAGGY AND DIE! WHY WHY WHY?????!!!!!

Hehe.... I used to work at a comic book store for much the same reasons. But I didn't get fired :p
I was lieing, I never worked at Toys'R'Us and I would never be able to break the kiddy toys anyway, with the increasing obesity problem and strength of materials, toys for really young kids are cleared for more than I weigh.

When ownership of motor vehicles became commonplace. Next question, please.

Nowhere else is that more evident than in my county. One person per car- all cars, save the occasional family vehicle, and stupid teenagers.

lol ... yeah, that's the truth.

Could ye not arrange to meet one of the hour-away friends half-way between? :)

That wouldn't really be the same... and it would be a bother for both, really.
Back home I could count on one of my friends just dropping by every other evening for a chat and a cup of tea. Nothing planned, nothing arranged. :)

did you know that i cryed on my thirteenth birhtday becaues i did not want to get old:(
*patting you on the back* There, there ... I do think at 13 that's just a tad ... dramatic. I remember a young fellow I worked with years ago who freaked at turning 25. I was a good ten years older than he was and found it amusing. I wonder how he handled 30, 35 or 40?

I'm all alone too everyone’s gone on a holiday and I didn't want to come and whoever is left doesn’t want to hang around with me :(

so here I am all alone one hand on the penis one hand on the phone...(I'll be back to normal in a few days promise)

oh and the weathers terrible which is probably why I'm really upset (1st August how predictable)

*patting you on the back* There, there ... I do think at 13 that's just a tad ... dramatic. I remember a young fellow I worked with years ago who freaked at turning 25. I was a good ten years older than he was and found it amusing. I wonder how he handled 30, 35 or 40?

I know I'm going to be one of those people that has a complete breakdown when I turn 40- gonna have a heyday with that.


This whole discussion is very appropriate for me. I'm cold, it's raining, the day is moving slowly... it's depressing.

Why dya think i spend so much time on NS. My friends are all drifting apart, or busy, or i'm busy, or gah. Its depressing, except I feel like I've made friend on NS, so thats good.

Well, chin up. This, too, shall pass. I'll make a note to get the dead, black roses, black ballons emblazoned with "Over The Hill," and all that 40th birthday crap ready. When would that be, by the way?

I'm feeling a bit low right now and went through friends I could talk to/visit in my head. I came up with 0.
Not because I don't have any friends, simply because they all live too far away for me to pay them a short visit right now. Even those that live in Dublin live at least an hour on the bus/DART away. Well, one would live closer, but he's on vacation in Tunisia right now.
Most of my friends are scattered over the entire globe, some live in Canada, some in different cities in Germany, one on the Philipines, one in South Africa...

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?

I know what you mean :(, The one person i really want to talk to the most -bf- I seem to never be able to reach, he lives far away too, but he's either working, sleeping, phone not working, not being able to email, etc...etc... Then my friends who i want to see, talk to, whatever, it seems like we need to plane ahead to be able to:( It all becomes so depressing after a while of not being able to reach anyone

Uhm, how about this (http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=3556060921591652755&q=giraffe)? Worth a giggle? :p

Uhm, how about this (http://video.google.com/videoplay?docid=3556060921591652755&q=giraffe)? Worth a giggle? :p

Hehe... I always wanted to be kissed by a giraffe :D

Hehe... I always wanted to be kissed by a giraffe :D
Maybe I should have posted it on one of the kissing threads. :p

I'm feeling a bit low right now and went through friends I could talk to/visit in my head. I came up with 0.
Not because I don't have any friends, simply because they all live too far away for me to pay them a short visit right now. Even those that live in Dublin live at least an hour on the bus/DART away. Well, one would live closer, but he's on vacation in Tunisia right now.
Most of my friends are scattered over the entire globe, some live in Canada, some in different cities in Germany, one on the Philipines, one in South Africa...

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?
i don't know. i think its always been that way, really. childhood is just... different (for most)


thankfully my very much isolated (big and far-flung) world has recently taken some steps towards being more normal again in that many of my old friends from school and college have moved back home to their parents after finishing their degrees (or failing, as the case may be :-S), which is kinda cool. but i've found that having been in full time employment for the last year and a half (near enough) has kinda removed me somewhat from the student way of thinking. i don't like getting drunk, going out to clubs (or even pubs that much), doing drugs, don't have the time to go off to randomly see friends or gigs or whatever.... either i've become more boring, or i've miraculously "matured", or a combination of both...

mixed blessing, really. met up with an old friend tonight (including the last 3 years of uni, where we didn't see each other much, we've been friends for about 12 years) but actually feel more isolated and alone than i did yesterday :(

i don't know. i think its always been that way, really. childhood is just... different (for most)


thankfully my very much isolated (big and far-flung) world has recently taken some steps towards being more normal again in that many of my old friends from school and college have moved back home to their parents after finishing their degrees (or failing, as the case may be :-S), which is kinda cool. but i've found that having been in full time employment for the last year and a half (near enough) has kinda removed me somewhat from the student way of thinking. i don't like getting drunk, going out to clubs (or even pubs that much), doing drugs, don't have the time to go off to randomly see friends or gigs or whatever.... either i've become more boring, or i've miraculously "matured", or a combination of both...

mixed blessing, really. met up with an old friend tonight (including the last 3 years of uni, where we didn't see each other much, we've been friends for about 12 years) but actually feel more isolated and alone than i did yesterday :(


I know what you mean. You just live in a different world as a student. And some jobs have much the same effect, and people you once felt close to drift away.
But there are some people around that will always be close, at least to me, no matter what they're doing. I've been to university when they were working, no I work and they're at university (or even back at school), but there's never this feeling of distance. Well, if it wasn't for the geographical distance, that is.

It started when the Argoblots started to build additions to certain islands in order to make a fortune off its sale. Then the Shitzomensch stole their idea and built an addition fourth and first floor to the earth. This happened in only 20 years.

*snif* I miss my childhood too...*sigh*

I'm not going to miss it. I'm a self-absorbed whingy little git! Roll on full..Err... Adultivity.

did you know that i cryed on my thirteenth birhtday becaues i did not want to get old:(
I feel similar. Us poor old people.

But there are some people around that will always be close, at least to me, no matter what they're doing. I've been to university when they were working, no I work and they're at university (or even back at school), but there's never this feeling of distance. Well, if it wasn't for the geographical distance, that is.
that's good :) can you not talk to these people, even if its just on the phone, or arrange for a visit or to meet them somewhere in dublin town centre for lunch or something? feeling alone isn't a particularly nice state to be in...

as for those sorts of people myself, i don't think i have any. in the last week i've met up with three of my closest old friends from school and couldn't really get on with any of them any more. my world consists mostly of a commited relationship, responsibility at work, meeting deadlines and managing my own projects, trying to better myself and grow my skillset, living with parents, and not drinking, smoking or doing any drugs any more.
their worlds tended to be parties, music, gigs, booze, getting laid, weed, videogames, and working only 12 hours a week (or not at all)... even with work we had nothing much in common as they're shelf-stackers for beaurocratic multinationals and i'm an IT manager in a small, everybody-pitches-in not-for-profit org. it just doesn't work - tonight his main problem was with what hours his manager had given him, wheras my problems are... just different, and there's not much to talk about. bah :(

at least i have amy, but she's a good hour away and won't be seeing her again till sunday...



(sorry to rant in your thread, cabra... just could do with getting some thoughts out if you know what i mean)

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?
Because your friends all did the same thing that you did... move to other countries.

I'm not going to miss it. I'm a self-absorbed whingy little git! Roll on full..Err... Adultivity.

I said about 100 days ago then realised I had about 100 days to grow up for the army at which point I rang a friend up for a hug only to end up having one of those "I can't be arsed conversations"....I hate having to grow up its terrible and I know its only going to get worse (plus my childhood funniness seems to of died)

Because your friends all did the same thing that you did... move to other countries.

is this harsh? nasty? Anti-social?

Worlds grow up so fast these days. Sigh. :(

I'm feeling a bit low right now and went through friends I could talk to/visit in my head. I came up with 0.
Not because I don't have any friends, simply because they all live too far away for me to pay them a short visit right now. Even those that live in Dublin live at least an hour on the bus/DART away. Well, one would live closer, but he's on vacation in Tunisia right now.
Most of my friends are scattered over the entire globe, some live in Canada, some in different cities in Germany, one on the Philipines, one in South Africa...

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?

I triple dog dare you to march over to your neighbors house and introduce yourself, maybe even bring wine.If the proletariat masses are good enough to fight for and defend and to try to better then they are good enough to be friends with. So do it. It will barely hurt at all.

Why is this thread so depressing?

that's good :) can you not talk to these people, even if its just on the phone, or arrange for a visit or to meet them somewhere in dublin town centre for lunch or something? feeling alone isn't a particularly nice state to be in...

as for those sorts of people myself, i don't think i have any. in the last week i've met up with three of my closest old friends from school and couldn't really get on with any of them any more. my world consists mostly of a commited relationship, responsibility at work, meeting deadlines and managing my own projects, trying to better myself and grow my skillset, living with parents, and not drinking, smoking or doing any drugs any more.
their worlds tended to be parties, music, gigs, booze, getting laid, weed, videogames, and working only 12 hours a week (or not at all)... even with work we had nothing much in common as they're shelf-stackers for beaurocratic multinationals and i'm an IT manager in a small, everybody-pitches-in not-for-profit org. it just doesn't work - tonight his main problem was with what hours his manager had given him, wheras my problems are... just different, and there's not much to talk about. bah :(

at least i have amy, but she's a good hour away and won't be seeing her again till sunday...



(sorry to rant in your thread, cabra... just could do with getting some thoughts out if you know what i mean)

Well, I tried calling two of them, but couldn't reach either. And I can't come to the town center for lunch, because I work out here in the middle of nowhere with no bus service during the day. If I want to meet anybody, we have to arrange it beforehand and generally plan a lot of time just for traveling....

I know what you're talking about. There are some people you can only feel close to as long as you share the same sort of life. As soon as either of you moves on, you suddenly find out that you didn't have a lot in common to begin with. But that's normal. It happened to me many times, and I'm sure it'll happen a number of times in the future.
I know that feeling of suddenly having no friends at all.... happened to me when my last relationship ended. I was living for it before, I had my whole life arranged around it, and suddenly I found myself standing perfectly alone, hurt, deperate, confused and not quite able to cope with it.
It took a while for me to discover that despite me isolating myself over almost 3 years, I still had some friends, even though they didn't live close, who made time to meet me and talk to me and help me.

So hey... England's even closer than where some of my friends live now. If you need someone to talk, just let me know :fluffle:

I triple dog dare you to march over to your neighbors house and introduce yourself, maybe even bring wine.If the proletariat masses are good enough to fight for and defend and to try to better then they are good enough to be friends with. So do it. It will barely hurt at all.

I do know my neighbours. One of them's quite nice, although we live in very different worlds, the rest of them a gits of varying degrees.
The worst is this family living across the road... horrible horrible kids.

mixed blessing, really. met up with an old friend tonight (including the last 3 years of uni, where we didn't see each other much, we've been friends for about 12 years) but actually feel more isolated and alone than i did yesterday :(
*hugs*
I guessed you might be feeling something like that... could hear on the phone but knew you couldn't talk freely. I'm really sorry to hear that :-/

One thing... we have different lifestyles. I'm going to college in a month or so, and the job I have is just as a cashier, 12 hours a week. It's not a student lifestyle like with your friends, but it is different, so how come we get on so wonderfully? Could it be that you're overanalysing the difference? I don't know, but just struck me as a thought, as I read the second post here (the one after the one I'm quoting).

Either way... I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling *hugs*
Your social life won't always be like this, and you'll be able to find friends you have things in common with, and in the future I'll be much nearer :)
I love you :fluffle:

Well, I tried calling two of them, but couldn't reach either. And I can't come to the town center for lunch, because I work out here in the middle of nowhere with no bus service during the day. If I want to meet anybody, we have to arrange it beforehand and generally plan a lot of time just for traveling....


hmm :-S that kinda sucks.... i guess the only thing you can do is do just that - arrange things beforehand and just sweat it out until then. the weekend is coming up, and there's a few days to try to reach them again :)
how about the notion of making some new, local, friends? just a thought :)

I know what you're talking about. There are some people you can only feel close to as long as you share the same sort of life. As soon as either of you moves on, you suddenly find out that you didn't have a lot in common to begin with. But that's normal. It happened to me many times, and I'm sure it'll happen a number of times in the future.
I know that feeling of suddenly having no friends at all.... happened to me when my last relationship ended. I was living for it before, I had my whole life arranged around it, and suddenly I found myself standing perfectly alone, hurt, deperate, confused and not quite able to cope with it.
It took a while for me to discover that despite me isolating myself over almost 3 years, I still had some friends, even though they didn't live close, who made time to meet me and talk to me and help me.

So hey... England's even closer than where some of my friends live now. If you need someone to talk, just let me know :fluffle:
thanks for the offer - i'm kinda over the "shock" today and getting on with my work life as per usual (or will be... am late today :D)

and *hugs* for your relationship thing... i remember you going through some rough times (but obviously i don't know the half of it, not actually knowing you in person or anything... but still, it was evident at the time)

as for the friends like that... i guess it depends on what you base your friendship. if its a deep understanding, love, respect and trust, then you'll be fine whatever either one does (looking at you here, amy!), but if it is simply a matter of sharing lifestyles, then it is quite easy to drift apart (which leads you to question how strong the friendships were in the first place...)
if you still have a few good friends, despite living apart and not being in touch that much, then i do envy you :) and even if its difficult, i think you should try to see them somehow (how does a weekend flight to Canada or back home to Germany sound? ;):D)


i suppose the thing that got me last night wasn't so much 'suddenly having no friends at all', because that happened a year+ ago when i moved back home from uni, but it was the prospect of having friends again, and in the last week having that idea pretty much shattered, that got to me.
ah well, i will try to make an effort to connect to these people again, somehow.

*hugs*
I guessed you might be feeling something like that... could hear on the phone but knew you couldn't talk freely. I'm really sorry to hear that :-/

One thing... we have different lifestyles. I'm going to college in a month or so, and the job I have is just as a cashier, 12 hours a week. It's not a student lifestyle like with your friends, but it is different, so how come we get on so wonderfully? Could it be that you're overanalysing the difference? I don't know, but just struck me as a thought, as I read the second post here (the one after the one I'm quoting).

Either way... I'm sorry to hear how you're feeling *hugs*
Your social life won't always be like this, and you'll be able to find friends you have things in common with, and in the future I'll be much nearer :)
I love you :fluffle:
because our relationship has never been based on synergy of lifestyles or sharing things in common that way. these people are people i went to school or uni with, and its just... different. i can't really explain it - i could sit here and really overanalyse it, but i don't think there's much point except to say our relationship is based on something deeper and more personal, wheras the friendships i had with those people were more of simply being 'in the same boat'...

maybe i've never actually had a properly "close" friendship... us lot were never particularly emotionally close, nor have we really stuck together after school and college ended, nor did anyone reach out a branch for me or make me feel welcome to socialise with them when i dropped out of uni with clinical depression (not even the ones living here). ah well.

the most stunning thing from last night was when we were talking about relationships, and his gf has got a job just north of london now, so as a result they're on a "long distance" relationship just like you and me. i was trying to be helpful, offer what advice and experience i felt i could give, that sort of thing... and he says simply that he's 'not really a committed-relationship kind of person, as, you know... i like being by myself so i can just say "right, i'm going to play some videogames!"'... that kinda made me lose respect for him a little :p (to each his own, of course, but still... i would hardly say that's a mature way of handling a relationship :P)

is this harsh? nasty? Anti-social?
No, I think it's the truth.

I'm feeling a bit low right now and went through friends I could talk to/visit in my head. I came up with 0.
Not because I don't have any friends, simply because they all live too far away for me to pay them a short visit right now. Even those that live in Dublin live at least an hour on the bus/DART away. Well, one would live closer, but he's on vacation in Tunisia right now.
Most of my friends are scattered over the entire globe, some live in Canada, some in different cities in Germany, one on the Philipines, one in South Africa...

And then I remembered how, when I was a teenager in Germany, all my friends would live no more than maye 30 mins away from me, so I could go an visit them anytime, and they did likewise.

When did the world become SO big and lonley?
It always was. You just had yourself fooled before.

*snif* I miss my childhood too...*sigh*
I don't. Painful memories.

when did the world become generally so shit?

Why is this thread so depressing?
It's the energy of the moment. Some of us are just naturally depressed now for no apparent reason.

when did the world become generally so shit?
Since the little voice in your soul said so.

Since the little voice in your soul said so.
:eek: he's back!?

:eek: he's back!?
I...er, he never left.

It always was. You just had yourself fooled before.

how reassuring... :(

how reassuring... :(
The truth isn't always what we'd like. :fluffle:

When did the world become SO big and lonley?


Awwww... :fluffle:

Now drop those pants...

Awwww... :fluffle:

Now drop those pants...
Funny how that killed the thread. :S