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According to reaseach, the words "I'm Sorry" and "Help Me" are the hardest words in the english language for a person to say.

But Why?

Personally, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and apologising to someone if I've hurt their feelings, or insulted them, or offended them etc. But when does it stop? At what point do you stop feeling the need to apologise and just walk away from it if it's a dead loss?

The "Help Me" thing is different, I do find it incredable hard to admit when I need help, because pride gets in the way.

Is it just me?

Er, bump?

Mail me tomorrow?

Sorry, I did not understand. Can you help me to do it?

Er, bump?

Mail me tomorrow?

cant, not here tomorrow. I will wednesday.

and I didn't think until I'd posted that you might think it's relevant.


I was honestly just curious about what people thought.

Sorry, I did not understand. Can you help me to do it?

Well apparently people find it difficult to admit they are sorry or to admit they need help.

I was just saying that I dont find it hard to say sorry, but I do find it hard to ask for help.

And wondered if other people agree that it's hard, or if they think it's easy.

My post was written to show that I am not afraid or find hard to say those words, that's all. I think it is a cultural thing of anglo saxon people and countries, but then again I could be wrong.

Well apparently people find it difficult to admit they are sorry or to admit they need help.

I was just saying that I dont find it hard to say sorry, but I do find it hard to ask for help.

And wondered if other people agree that it's hard, or if they think it's easy.

I think that was the point she was attempting. She said sorry and help me in the same post. So did I. Yay. Holding strong. Hi-five, Aelosia!

My post was written to show that I am not afraid or find hard to say those words, that's all. I think it is a cultural thing of anglo saxon people and countries, but then again I could be wrong.

ah

see, i'm a bit slow today

you'll have to forgive me, it's the copious amounts of pain killers and 6 coffee's that I currently have in my system.

;)

and I agree with you

I think that was the point she was attempting. She said sorry and help me in the same post. So did I. Yay. Holding strong. Hi-five, Aelosia!

*High-fives*

:fluffle:

Oh, burn! And i was right! Burn! Burn the whole frickin nation!

I think that was the point she was attempting. She said sorry and help me in the same post. So did I. Yay. Holding strong. Hi-five, Aelosia!

yes yes thank you mr smarty pants

*does the crackhead dance*

ah

see, i'm a bit slow today

you'll have to forgive me, it's the copious amounts of pain killers and 6 coffee's that I currently have in my system.

;)

and I agree with you

Uhm...Hon, do not mix painkillers and coffee, you can get several severe health disturbances for that. Just a piece of advise coming out of my personal experience.

*does the crackhead dance*
is that like the dance from the becks ad?

love that ad

Uhm...Hon, do not mix painkillers and coffee, you can get several severe health disturbances for that. Just a piece of advise coming out of my personal experience.

I dont usually

but lack of sleep from back pain = painkillers and coffee

I'll get my back looked at in the next few days - I think its sciatica because my leg hurts too

*shrug*

The sorry one means you acted wrongly. The help one often means you acted without thinking something through. Few people enjoy declaring that they are so far from perfect in such a pointed way.

is that like the dance from the becks ad?

love that ad

No (lol, i love it too) it's one my friend made up. I'll teach you! Okay, you look at the ground, hop from one foot to the other, and as you change feet, act like you are holding a cane, and swing your hands from side to side and bobble your head.

No (lol, i love it too) it's one my friend made up. I'll teach you! Okay, you look at the ground, hop from one foot to the other, and as you change feet, act like you are holding a cane, and swing your hands from side to side and bobble your head.

wow

that's awsome

i'll pass on the hopping thing just at the minute.

wow

that's awsome

i'll pass on the hopping thing just at the minute.

Hard for me, too, cuz I gots a stress fracture that I still haven't been ambitious enough to go out to the doctor and get looked at. I also don't want to look down cuz I got a cold and a new carpet.

No (lol, i love it too) it's one my friend made up. I'll teach you! Okay, you look at the ground, hop from one foot to the other, and as you change feet, act like you are holding a cane, and swing your hands from side to side and bobble your head.

Except for the cane bit and bobble head bit that sounds like the I've-really-gotta-pee dance

Except for the cane bit and bobble head bit that sounds like the I've-really-gotta-pee dance

haha

I don't tend to find saying sorry too hard.

Asking for help is pretty tough though, but for me the hardest words are "I'm (or I was) wrong" although those can usually be replaced with "You're right, what do you know..."

I say I'm sorry only if I'm actually sorry.

Refusal to ask for help, that's pure male pride there. It will piss me off if you attempt to help, and no I won't ask.

Except for the cane bit and bobble head bit that sounds like the I've-really-gotta-pee dance

Oh, real funny...now I feel bad. That dance is very close to my heart. *does it again* Now I feel better. :)

According to reaseach, the words "I'm Sorry" and "Help Me" are the hardest words in the english language for a person to say.

But Why?

Personally, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and apologising to someone if I've hurt their feelings, or insulted them, or offended them etc. But when does it stop? At what point do you stop feeling the need to apologise and just walk away from it if it's a dead loss?

The "Help Me" thing is different, I do find it incredable hard to admit when I need help, because pride gets in the way.

Is it just me?The help me thing is hard to do because it fosters dependence. And some people don't like the feeling that others are dependent on them and will give you bad looks if you've asked for help on certain things often enough in the past. Receiving enough such bad looks is a reason for me to restrain my use of the words "Help me"...

"I'm sorry" is hard for me to say sometimes because I don't want to dilute the meaning of the word by throwing it around carelessly.

I'm fine with saying "I'm Sorry", but I'm not fond of saying help me- I think it's because I'll feel indebted to them for it, which I don't like.

According to reaseach, the words "I'm Sorry" and "Help Me" are the hardest words in the english language for a person to say.

But Why?

Personally, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and apologising to someone if I've hurt their feelings, or insulted them, or offended them etc. But when does it stop? At what point do you stop feeling the need to apologise and just walk away from it if it's a dead loss?

The "Help Me" thing is different, I do find it incredable hard to admit when I need help, because pride gets in the way.

Is it just me?

But I am never wrong! (I wish)

It depends what your apologising for. Its hard to admit when your realllly wrong. Its all about ego. I do apologise when I'm wrong. It gets it over with quicker and you can move on. Yes it sucks having to apologise to some people, but meh what ya gonna do?

I can say sorry pretty easily, although I admit I modify it a little. Somthing like:
[SARCASTIC VOICE]Sorry, fuckface[/SARCASTIC VOICE]

According to reaseach, the words "I'm Sorry" and "Help Me" are the hardest words in the english language for a person to say.

But Why?

Personally, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and apologising to someone if I've hurt their feelings, or insulted them, or offended them etc. But when does it stop? At what point do you stop feeling the need to apologise and just walk away from it if it's a dead loss?

The "Help Me" thing is different, I do find it incredable hard to admit when I need help, because pride gets in the way.

Is it just me?
I personally think people use the word Sorry as a reflex. People say sorry a lot for menial things, often things that arent even their fault. I know I do. If someone gets in my way I say sorry lol Ridiculous.

Almost makes it lose its value.

I personally think people use the word Sorry as a reflex. People say sorry a lot for menial things, often things that arent even their fault. I know I do. If someone gets in my way I say sorry lol Ridiculous.

Almost makes it lose its value.

Yeah I suppose.

Sorry does come pretty easily, but I never say it if I dont really mean it.

According to reaseach, the words "I'm Sorry" and "Help Me" are the hardest words in the english language for a person to say.

But Why?

Personally, I have no problem admitting when I'm wrong and apologising to someone if I've hurt their feelings, or insulted them, or offended them etc. But when does it stop? At what point do you stop feeling the need to apologise and just walk away from it if it's a dead loss?

The "Help Me" thing is different, I do find it incredable hard to admit when I need help, because pride gets in the way.

Is it just me?
No, it's not just you ... it's easier for a woman to say "I'm sorry" and "help me" than it is for men. Men have had things like "be independent" and "stand on your own two feet" drilled into them since birth, so those words are very difficult to say. Also difficult for men is asking for directions, for much the same reasons.