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I just met this incredible girl while on a church trip from my home in CA to San Antonio, TX. She's from Pennsylvania. We are in touch and she has said she will visit me, but not a definite time. I've never been able to keep such a relationship going for very long. My question: can such relationships work and, if yes, how?

how many times a year do you reasonably think you're going to see her?

Well I ticked no, but if you met her through church then you might not want to sleep with her, in which case I dont forsee a problem. other than that the relationship will be no more than a friendship.

been there bought the teeshirt.

but the minuite you start second guessing her, who she is out with, why isnt she answering the phone, its time to reassess things.

I second that!

I just met this incredible girl while on a church trip from my home in CA to San Antonio, TX. She's from Pennsylvania. We are in touch and she has said she will visit me, but not a definite time. I've never been able to keep such a relationship going for very long. My question: can such relationships work and, if yes, how?

Mine is sort of long distance but not at the sametime. My gf and I attend the same university but live on the opposite side of the state. We keep the communications line open through instant messege as well as cell phones.

Yes long distance relationships can work but only if you keep the communications line open while you are apart. Try to save up and go see her if you can. Granted, it will be more difficult for you due to distance but just do what you can. If possible, send her gifts through the mail. That way, she'll know that you are thinking about her. If you have email, email her all the time. I do not know about cell phones. That'll depend on the company and the plans that you two have.

I hope this helps.

one of my ex-flatmates was in a long-distance relationship for 4 years with a guy from california. they've only just recently broken up because changing circumstances mean that she is only going to be able to see him 2 weeks a year which isn't really enough. they used to see each other several times a year and she'd go over there for a month at a time. unless you manage to see each other a few times a year for a significant time you probably will just end up being pen-pals. of course it's still possible to keep romance alive as pen-pals but it's not really a relationship.

I have no idea how far apart those places are, but I'd say that long-distance relationships can work (having one with about and hour and quarters distance myself).

It depends upon:
-how much effort you're willing to put in
-whether the relationship is worth that effort
-aspects such as trust/jealousy/communication (ie, how strong the relationship is)
-what you each need/want from the relationship

If you're willing to deal with the negative sides of it, and put in the effort to travel and keep up communication in between visits, and you can both trust each other, and both of you are still getting things out of the relationship... it can work. It's not an ideal situation, but, if the relationship is good, it won't negate that.

I have no idea how far apart those places are, but I'd say that long-distance relationships can work (having one with about and hour and quarters distance myself).

It depends upon:
-how much effort you're willing to put in
-whether the relationship is worth that effort
-aspects such as trust/jealousy/communication (ie, how strong the relationship is)
-what you each need/want from the relationship

If you're willing to deal with the negative sides of it, and put in the effort to travel and keep up communication in between visits, and you can both trust each other, and both of you are still getting things out of the relationship... it can work. It's not an ideal situation, but, if the relationship is good, it won't negate that.

They are roughly 2500 miles apart. Where in PA is she Whithy Windle?

having one with about and hour and quartersThat’s your definition of a long term relationship? Crazy Brits
Really, I don't think Britain is big enough to have a long distance relationship. At least England, anyway.

This guy is talking over 2000 mile separation.

That’s your definition of a long term relationship? Crazy Brits
Really, I don't think Britain is big enough to have a long distance relationship. At least England, anyway.

This guy is talking over 2000 mile separation.
it makes being together every day difficult (or near enough impossible), so in that sense its 'long distance' in terms of the same practical traits of a "proper" long-distance relationship, even if the distance isn't that great.

I just met this incredible girl while on a church trip from my home in CA to San Antonio, TX. She's from Pennsylvania. We are in touch and she has said she will visit me, but not a definite time. I've never been able to keep such a relationship going for very long. My question: can such relationships work and, if yes, how?

Yes. I've been with my girlfriend for six weeks, and it's working out great. But we've never met in person, though.

I've had a failed long distance relationship, and a one that worked out really well.

and it's all down to the effort and the strength of love.

If you really want it, you make it work. Yes it can be difficult, and some times one person wants it more than the other, and if you sense that then you need to end it because at the end of the day who ever is making most of the effort will make of the sacrafice, and it's possible that person will become resentful.

I always find they work whit; compromise, communication, lots of talking on line and via phone etc, and keeping in mind the end goal. :)

Me and my wife kept up our relationship for more than a year with me in Texas and her in NY (about 2200 mile apart). Its possible if the two parties are willing to put the effort into it. We did and are now very happily married.

No, *add synical phrase here*
It's spelled cynical.

Now here's the important question: What was a church congregation from Texas doing in Pennsylvania?

Now here's the important question: What was a church congregation from Texas doing in Pennsylvania?

You mean a Congregation from PA and CA doing in TX.