NationStates Jolt Archive

Got this in an email, credited to "MountainWings." If you're a parent, or plan to be one someday, this is a very sobering thought.


Where you going?

Not "where are you going," but "where you going?"

As I held my shoes and socks in my hand, the six-year-old

repeated the question. After the second repeat the

three-year-old joined in.

"Where you going?"

People think that husbands are often bothered by wives asking

them where they are going. That's nothing compared to the two

little ones.

I was downstairs with them so I replied, "I'm going upstairs."

"But where you going?"

They knew that I did not require socks and shoes to go upstairs.

I could immediately answer them, I knew where I was going,

that wasn't the problem. The problem is that children,

like adults, often don't initially ask the real question.

Invariably, whenever I answer where I am going, I am bombarded

with the next question:

"Can I go?"

"Can I go?"

That's the real question they wanted to ask.

I have made it a point that wherever I am going, it is a place

that I would not mind my children knowing about. Whatever I am

going to do, it is something they can be proud of.

Whether you know it or not,

children eventually find out where you are going.

Eventually they ask of life on some level, "Can I go too?"

A good message in general, but I have to pick nits with the part about being "proud of" whereever it is you're going. "Okay with" or "not ashamed of" would have to do for things like

Going to the store
To get the car fixed
To the dentist or doctor
To pay bills

And other such places of that nature.

Also I doubt that the kids would ask to go too, if it was someplace that they thought sucked. An answer of "The pediatrician's!" would probably produce a decidedly less enthusiastic response! :D

:eek: For a second there I thought this thread was all about me.

What a disappointment. :p

:eek: For a second there I thought this thread was all about me.

What a disappointment. :p


That's ok. I keep thinking the "Peeland Initiation" thread is about me.:p

That's ok. I keep thinking the "Peeland Initiation" thread is about me.:p
Zeah, zou|re not the onlz one. :p Oh noes / the dratted czber lisp is back again, dammit. Grrrrrrrrrr. }goes to restart laptop}

Zeah, zou|re not the onlz one. :p Oh noes / the dratted czber lisp is back again, dammit. Grrrrrrrrrr. }goes to restart laptop}


haha! So that's what Straughn was talking about. I hadnt seen it. I like it. It's almost a new form of l33t but not nearly as lame.

Zeah, zou|re not the onlz one. :p Oh noes / the dratted czber lisp is back again, dammit. Grrrrrrrrrr. }goes to restart laptop}

So THAT is what a cyber lisp is!

I did wonder

I have the feeling it's saying parents shouldn't be doing recreational drugs/partying/having sex-on-the-sly/attending a Democratic convention because these are shameful, shameful(shameful I tell you!) things that a child would be ashamed of, and you'd never want your child involved in - or even to know about - such shameful immoral acts. (Of course, that's ignoring the fact that children aren't born with moral hangups about such things, and that they're only going to be 'ashamed' if the parent has passed along his/her moral hangups to the child.)

I could be completely wrong. But I've come to know the moralizing, child-overprotecting, God-fearing Christian chain email and the thinking behind it, and I'm pretty sure I'm in the ballpark.

haha! So that's what Straughn was talking about. I hadnt seen it. I like it. It's almost a new form of l33t but not nearly as lame.
So THAT is what a cyber lisp is!

I did wonder
Yeah. *shiftyeyes*

I'm almost sure I'm causing it by accidentally pressing some "fuck up" button on the keyboard, but I'm too lazy to figure it out.

Not "where are you going," but "where you going?"


I prefer Whereyouthinkyougoing. :p

I prefer Whereyouthinkyougoing. :p
Excellent choice.

Excellent choice.

I certainly thought so. ;)