NationStates Jolt Archive

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Well, I'm unemployed, but I don't really have a girl problem...Unless being a womanizer counts. But that really sucks, man.

...the temp agency won't hire me because I have long hair (I'm a guy, by the by).

Is there a reason why you can't get a haircut? If that was their only objection, I'm sure they'd be satisfied.

Your problems may seem daunting now, but remember, things could be worse. You could be in this guy's situation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Douglas_Wells).

See? Things could be worse. Hang in there. :)

beggars can't be choosers...I would cut the hair. If your dad has a construction business ask for a hand up...if he just works construction but can get you a job...maybe a semester off is in order. As for the women...you don't have the stability to worry about women...take care of yourself then worry about everything else.

Dude ... pass me that bottle and let's sing old pirate songs. Always cheers me up.

I've been in a relationship with this girl now for a little more then two years. We started dating in high school (she graduated this year, me a year before). I loved her very much, and still do. We, like all high school couples thought we were special, that we would last forever. She still thinks that, while I am getting the urge to "sow wild oats" as it were, to experience other women, to enjoy my youth. I still care about her very much, and would like to see where a future with her would go, but as I said, I'm finding it harder to want to stay with her alone. We're also fighting alot more, and I just feel like something's gone that used to be there between us. The problem being, she was a very fragile person when I first met her. She was negelected and abused as a child, and her father left deep psychological scars on her. She still has issues with abandonment, self-esteem, and confidence, though she no longer has panic attacks. She has become very emotionally dependent on me, though, and does not know anything is wrong. I'm afraid that if I leave her now, it will do deep emotional damage to her. She's just starting a new job, and we're going to college on the fall. I just can't bring myself to hurt her. So, I'm stuck in a dependent relationship with a woman I still care about, but may or may not still be in love with.
Ahh.. Fuck man.

While my gf didn't have an abusive father, she had those same sort of issues from bfs before me. We've bene going out 16 months now.

Wow, it just sounds like the exact same situation I'm in and it sucks so bad. I'm too scared to break up with her because fuck knows what she'll do. It's damn hard.

Normally I’d say something insensitive, but this just sucks way too much

Well that is crappy. I've only ever had one girlfriend and she left me after a week, so I was more angry than anything. As for money, I only make $7.75 an hour (Canadian) but since I still live with my parents, that really isn't an issue for me. I hope this stuff works out in the end for you....

Your problems may seem daunting now, but remember, things could be worse. You could be in this guy's situation (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Brian_Douglas_Wells).
Man, I'd never heard of that crime. Sounds like it came right out of 'Saw'.
Freaky.

I have long hair too and it sometimes just becomes a pain in the ass in terms of keeping it nice and clean. Cutting it, getting yourself a good looking suit(if you dont have one) and talking your way into a nice paying job is what you need today.
- a good shave and hair cut makes a person feel refreshed
- right clothes for right job gives a sense of duty which mentally helps to endure the hardships

Seek your families help, even if they are not in the condition to help you at least you can have a chit chat, have some socail support, a pat on the shoulder helps.
If you are using alcohol, pot etc stop it right now. You need to work, not subsitute. You can smoke a bit but not much :p
And about the girls, I wouldnt worry about her right now in this condition. First you need to resolve your priority problems to stay alive. To fully enjoy womens pleasures one must be in good shape, not bleeding in teh ass.


Thats what I think about situation hope it helps you to resolve your dillemas a bit.

Hello! .... Pirate songs! .... bah ... bastards.

Normally I’d say something insensitive, but this just sucks way too much

Allow me then...

Get off your ass and do something about your problems, rather than drinking and spending time expecting to get life-changing advice on teh intarwebs.

my advice would be

money: see if your parents can help you out with a loan (doesn't have to be a handout). if not, try the bank maybe?
there's probably other jobs out there, too... like mcdonalds maybe (don't know whether they pay less though)?
also, campaign for a national health service in your country. having to pay for mandatory shots and essential medication like that is stupid and should be government-subsidised at least. i was unwell yesterday and just dropped into my local NHS walk-in centre, which is about 10 minutes walk from my house. after a 20 minute wait i was seen, diagnosed, and left without having to pay a penny. fantastic :) anyway, enough of my semi-political rant :p


girl: tough one. have you tried talking to her about it? perhaps you could break it down into smaller issues to talk about rather than lumping it all together at once and potentially hurting her? i don't know much else than that cos its all very specific about how she feels about certain things or how she'd take things... i don't know enough about your situation to advise much more than to just reiterate that talking about problems is always the best solution.