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you had a family member die, just now, what would you do?

How would you react?


Me? I'd just be like, shit, and sit there staring at nothing thinking, what about you?

I think it would depend on who the person was.

Well for some reason I've been thinking about death today, so I'd feel the same way I feel now; blank.

Ugh, I don't want to think about it.

There are too many things left unspoken as of now and I've always thought "Yeah, gotta do that sometime" but never did, so I don't even want to think about that.

you had a family member die, just now, what would you do?

How would you react?


Me? I'd just be like, shit, and sit there staring at nothing thinking, what about you?

I could tell you a very long story on this.. but in a nut shell - It opened my eyes a bit - i left my fiance - then i got angry at the world & I hit the bottle and went a bit nuts for a couple of weeks - then i turned into a work a holic - and it kind of stuck

I think it would depend on who the person was.

*reloads page expectantly*

go phone up whoever has the will


okay, bad joke, be sad and whatnot

Honestly it usually takes about two days to sink in.

My cousin was in intensive care over the weekend/holiday. He ended up being lifelined to Indianapolis. Pancreas is having problems, kidneys failed for a bit so he went on Dialysis several times. They seemed to think he was in fair danger of dying. Still possible.

Somewhat worrying, but like I said, takes a while for it to hit you.

I could tell you a very long story on this.. but in a nut shell - It opened my eyes a bit - i left my fiance - then i got angry at the world & I hit the bottle and went a bit nuts for a couple of weeks - then i turned into a work a holic - and it kind of stuck

I extend my sympathies:(

I've lost a bit of family. Father, grandparents, etc. There is sadness, it passes.

depends...if it were my immediate family, I'd become depressed.
Anyone else, though...I just wouldn't care.

I extend my sympathies:(

thank you

this is the order it worked in for me

numbness

disbeleif

enourmous amount of guilt

anger

more disbeleif

acting out

getting a grip

learning to live with it... u never 'get over' it

It depends, if it was my extended family I probably wouldn't find out, because I quit having contact with them, if it was my "real family" (my husband or one of my kids) I would probably have an extreme emotional reaction, probably some sort of complete mental breakdown. :(

I've lost a bit of family. Father, grandparents, etc. There is sadness, it passes.
How did you lose your father?

I've had it happen 3 times now. It depends on the person.

I never could get into the whole bit of acting like someone was a well-loved saint just because they a) were related or b) died. So, my opinion of their death was a natural extension of what I thought of them in life, and still is.

Reactions have ranged from "Good Riddance!" and no mourning at all, to "Oh no" and stunned silence, followed by delayed mourning.

But even the "oh no" took months to kick in. When others around me are mourning, I don't. I think it's an idea that *someone* has to keep their head on straight, and I'm the one who can do it, so it's me. Then later on, I started to miss the person, especially at times I would have loved to have consulted him about something in his area of expertise, and realized that he wouldn't be on the other end of the phone. And his personality in general. And I miss him right now, typing this.

But when I'm not reminded of such things, life is just normal.

you had a family member die, just now, what would you do?

How would you react?


Me? I'd just be like, shit, and sit there staring at nothing thinking, what about you?


It would depend on who it was. If it were my mother, my daughter or my son. I would get busy refinancing my house, putting myself even further in debt, so I could pay for the funeral. After which, I would cry.

If it were my sister, brother or many cousins, it would probably have little or no impact because I have had no contact with these people for years, and the contact I did have with them was not good.

How did you lose your father?

Cancer. He was 43, I was 16.

I think it would depend on who the person was.Indeed. If my mother died, I'd be distraught. If my father or uncle died, I'd crack open the bubbly. If any of the others died, I'd probably think it unfortunate, but wouldn't much dwell on it.