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I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

Meh.
I'm the same way, and I know there isn't anything wrong with me.

NOthing wrong with as you described things

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?


dont go to a rave with me then..lol...i hate contact also,i was just kidding,i got divorced cause i didn't kiss my wife enough..i hate kissing...that and i had sex with her sister..oops.

dont go to a rave with me then..lol...i hate contact also,i was just kidding,i got divorced cause i didn't kiss my wife enough..i hate kissing...that and i had sex with her sister..oops.
Are you serious?

I would say that, yes, there is something wrong with you, but who cares, really?

dont go to a rave with me then..lol...i hate contact also,i was just kidding,i got divorced cause i didn't kiss my wife enough..i hate kissing...that and i had sex with her sister..oops.
Yeah, I'm thinking the latter was the bigger factor...

I don't like being touched either. Fortunately I give out a pretty good 'don't touch me' vibe.

Though everyonce in a while I encounter the inner-elbow touchers. You know the kind-you tell a joke, make a quip, whatever and they giggle with one hand over their mouth and with the other hand touch the inside of your elbow. Now, I can understand that this might be a flirtation and I should take it that way, but instead I feel like hitting the person with a stun gun.

Everyone to their own end. I personally love being touched. Unless it's other men trying to touch me in certain areas, that I'm not too cool with.

Everyone to their own end. I personally love being touched. Unless it's other men trying to touch me in certain areas, that I'm not too cool with.

Over-compensating...

Over-compensating...

What's that suppost to mean? I only say that because one night last year I got really wasted, was walking home from this party, and I guess I passed out. Next thing I know I'm being dragged into a car by some Mexican guy and I was too wasted to know what was going on really, and then he started trying to molest me (while he was driving), he was trying to unzip my pants and stuff and I kept telling him to quit and he kept at it askin me if I wanted to make a few bucks, etc. I finally ended up jumping out of the car... while it was still going about 35. Not a fun experience.

Personally I hate those cracker-sandwich-things with cheese in the middle. They ltaste and smell disgusting.

wait... what was this discussion about? Oh yeah touching. Well personally I love being touched, but I can't stand being near people and things that smell like those godawfull cheese-cracker-sandwich-things.

And there should be smilies for disgusted. OK my micro-rant is over.

I don't mind hugs or touches from family or close friends. From acquaintances, well, the handshake/hug goodbye is fine.

Students: absolute no-no.
Strangers are likely to get a freezing glare or, if they persist, a "Back off!" Response escalated as appropriate.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

If a random stranger touched me, I would jump on them in a very sexual manner. :D

Meh.
I'm the same way, and I know there isn't anything wrong with me.
Agreed.

I have the same thing...I get by.

Are you serious?

i am serious...

i was walking across the room and i tripped,and my penis went into her...lol..old joke..

but yes,i had a thing with her sister,and i hated kissing....my dad told me to get the third sister and i would have a trifecta!

that was a joke as well,but i reallly fell in love with her sister,and i hated intimacy,well aside from sex,
gotta love the priest at school.

grossed me out with the kissing thing.(the priest..glad he is dead)

i would be in jail if not for my catholic upbringing,too bad they didnt teach the priest to keep his tongue outta my mouth when i was 10.

no worries,my ex and i are best of friends...forever..i was just too young to elaborate my feelings adequately.

no joke there.

I don't mind hugs or touches from family or close friends. From acquaintances, well, the handshake/hug goodbye is fine.

Students: absolute no-no.
Strangers are likely to get a freezing glare or, if they persist, a "Back off!" Response escalated as appropriate.

Aw, I love touching my teachers. I have a hot calculas professor, she's only about 25... MMmmm I'd love to be touchin that fine ass...

i would be in jail if not for my catholic upbringing,too bad they didnt teach the priest to keep his tongue outta my mouth when i was 10..
I’m so sorry.

As to the rest of your post, it sounds like you have an interesting life, and an interesting family for that matter.

People have different tolerances for touching, some need more some need very little. I don't really care to be touched and I like to be alone for days on end. I find people who have to be constantly physically reassured and who can't stand to be alone to be irritating - I think that they are even more unhealthy than people who prefer the opposite.

I'm picky as to who I am touchy with. It takes me a while before I am okay with someone touching me. I have a hard time trusting people and I really have to trust a person in order to let them touch me. This is a problem when I don't get along with a doctor. I get anxious before my appointment. However, when I get along with a doctor, it's fine.

I dont mind hugz from people i'm comfortable with - but I dont like my 'personal' space being invaded - if a colleague or stranger was to get too close i'd just have to move - i get clostraphobic (i can never spell that)

If you have to ask the question, you likely won't enjoy the answer.

--My therapist, 2000.

If you have to ask the question, you likely won't enjoy the answer.

--My therapist, 2000.

A psychic once told me that (free advice, I didn't pay her). However, not one of the six therapists I've seen has said that to me.

A psychic once told me that (free advice, I didn't pay her). However, not one of the six therapists I've seen has said that to me.
I've no idea whether to tell you that this means your therapists have been good or bad. So I'll just nod.

*nods*

Disliking contact isn't bad. I have the same problem. I have a large physical bubble, and it bothers me to have people in it. I get to the point where I feel like anyone within a foot or so of me is too close, and I get defensive.

If you think something is wrong with you, chances are, something is. It may not be what you think it is, but your subconcious knows what's going on in your mind better then anyone.

I dont like it either. Nothing wrong with contact with buddies and lovers, but i cant stand it if someone invades my personal space without my consent. In my wilder years i broke someones nose for doing that.

is there something wrong with me?
I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

Yes, there's something wrong with you*. However this ain't it.








*Then again, there's something wrong with everyone.

I don't particularly like contact but some of my relatives do. Can get very annoying.

I dont mind being touched, as long as its a consentual thing.

But I get quickly annoyed when touched by strangers, unless for scant seconds.

The quickest way to incite me into a phsyical confrontation, is to yell at me, while poking me in the chest.
I promise I will give every effort to break that finger until it fucking snaps off.

You can call me anything you want, however vile, and I wouldnt bat an eye....but poke me, and will go Godzilla on you, or die trying.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

There're such things as antisocial disorders which cause just that, but I'd say it's perfectly normal to be a bit hesitant to allow a stranger into your personal space. The hatred of being touched is a bit uncommon, however.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?



.... I think you are... a weirdo.

Are you SURE you are a mammal at all?

I'm quite used to physical contact, because we always greet with a kiss on the cheek, or a hug (handshakes are more reduced to business), and personally I don't mind contact save when it's excessive or too close.

When a friend told me he disliked when an accountance touched him, and that he only tolerated pokes, hugs, or playful behaviour when it came from a really good friend or a sexual partner, I thought it was quite strange. I really ignored it happens to so many people!

Yeah, I don't like it either, even when parents, siblings or friends touch me, it's just a turn off (except for girlfriends). I don't think there is too much wrong with it, unless you act badly or aggressively when people do touch you. I, personally, never tell people not to touch me even when they do. Do you?

I dont mind being touched, as long as its a consentual thing.

But I get quickly annoyed when touched by strangers, unless for scant seconds.

The quickest way to incite me into a phsyical confrontation, is to yell at me, while poking me in the chest.
I promise I will give every effort to break that finger until it fucking snaps off.

You can call me anything you want, however vile, and I wouldnt bat an eye....but poke me, and will go Godzilla on you, or die trying.

My old technology teacher in middle school did that to me because I proved him wrong on something and made him look like an idiot in class. He dragged me out in the hall and got right up in my face (inches away) and started screaming at me and poking me in the chest with his finger. I calmly told him to step back, and he did not. I asked him again, more firmly, and he screamed at me about it even more saying I was being disrespectful to tell him to step back. That's about the time I pushed him back (hard) into a locker and walked off. I was leaving school grounds when they had some cops roll by and pick me up and bring me back to the principals office. They ended up telling me I'd have to make a written appology to the teacher, and I refused, so I was in turn, suspended for 3 days.

I love a good touch.

My old technology teacher in middle school did that to me because I proved him wrong on something and made him look like an idiot in class. He dragged me out in the hall and got right up in my face (inches away) and started screaming at me and poking me in the chest with his finger. I calmly told him to step back, and he did not. I asked him again, more firmly, and he screamed at me about it even more saying I was being disrespectful to tell him to step back. That's about the time I pushed him back (hard) into a locker and walked off. I was leaving school grounds when they had some cops roll by and pick me up and bring me back to the principals office. They ended up telling me I'd have to make a written appology to the teacher, and I refused, so I was in turn, suspended for 3 days.

Dude, you kick ass, wanna be friends?*nods*

hmmm...well iam not sure if i feel better or not, but thanks for all of your opinions and or ideas

I like being hugged by frieds family and it can be fun when hot girls hug you at concerts and sometimes later that night ;)

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?
If you're English, it's normal. If you're Mexican, there's something very wrong with you.

I hate being touched by strangers or basically any people I am not related to or having sex with.

If you're English, it's normal. If you're Mexican, there's something very wrong with you.

I'm English and I got no problem if it's women doing the touching. I have a couple of straight male friends who have hugged me in the past. I found it a bit strange but was ok. If a random guy done that though he'd be in for some smiting.

Though everyonce in a while I encounter the inner-elbow touchers. You know the kind-you tell a joke, make a quip, whatever and they giggle with one hand over their mouth and with the other hand touch the inside of your elbow. Now, I can understand that this might be a flirtation and I should take it that way, but instead I feel like hitting the person with a stun gun.

Right on.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?
I think "Seinfeld" had something to say about this...
Jerry wound up being hated in the end, as I remember.

I don't really mind being hugged or anything, but i'm never the first person to do it. I won't walk up and hug someone, but if someone hugs me, i'll hug them back. I'm like that with a lot of things in life though. I'll never be the first person to pick up the phone and call someone, or the first person to IM or e-mail someone, but i'm always willing to talk to anyone who contacts me. I never say i love you first either, but i'll always say it back if i mean it.

I can be a real loner a lot of the time. I like my own company, i have no problem being alone. I like knowing people are around, but i don't feel the need to always be around them or talk to them.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

Maybe you just need a puppy?

I'm English and I got no problem if it's women doing the touching. I have a couple of straight male friends who have hugged me in the past. I found it a bit strange but was ok. If a random guy done that though he'd be in for some smiting.
See? Meanwhile people in Mexico and the rest of Latin America touch all the time.

Ways are changing, my mates huge each other all the time

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?
I don't think you are abnormal, but you need to remember as much as it irks you some people really don't think about that type of thing, so politely say "I don't like to be touched" and don't do the thing that my friend does where he tries to physically hurt you. ;)

Ways are changing, my mates huge each other all the time

I have a few that do - I'm used to it now.

I don't mind hugs. I used to, a lot, but now I kind of like them as long as the person doesn't smother me.

However, since I "have" major sensory defensiveness (http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sensory_defensiveness), if someone comes up from behind me and even does so much as touches me I have been known to swat and yell and attack.

First, let us address the question of what is “normal.” The only answer I can give you to that question is that I don’t know because there is no known normal distribution for huggability (if I may use that term). The fact is that everybody has a different comfort level. You cannot expect more than what you are comfortable with nor should you (barring extenuating circumstances) force yourself into something that you are not comfortable with. With that said, bare in mind that your personality may change as you grow and you may become more comfortable around people, or less comfortable. I sincerely doubt that years can pass without having some effect upon you and your comfort levels and I wish you the best in whatever the next years can offer you.

I cant stand being touched. hugs are some times ok but other than that it just bothers me to no end, if I give some one a hug iam ok same with having some one I asked get the knots out of my back, but if soem random person or even some one I know really well touches me it really annoys me and bothers me. So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?

I'm that way too, specifically when it comes to venepuncture. You see, if they wanted to take blood from my upper arm, I'd be fine. Hand? Cool. Fingertips? All right, good with me. But I don't want ANYONE TOUCHING my cubital fossa >O!! I don't want to be touched there, EVER.

So my question is, is this normal or am I way over reacting?


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