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What does Sex means to you? I asked this because every once in awhile, when I go into chatrooms, I would get invitation from girls who want to just have sex with me, no strings attatch etc. However, I've never taken them up on it. Why, because, to me, Sex is a way for two people to show love for one another, by joining their bodies as one. If I do ever have sex, I want it to be with someone I've been with for awhile, and someone who I have a deep connection to, a soulmate you might call it. I want my sex to have meaning, not just something you have with anyone and everyone. I dunno, I guess that's why I'm a virgin at age 22. Ah well.

What does Sex means to you?

It means fun, it means release, it means joining, it means sharing, it means energy, it means fantastic. Too fantastic to only share with one person. Too awesome to ascetically deprive oneself of.

It means fun, it means release, it means joining, it means sharing, it means energy, it means fantastic. Too fantastic to only share with one person. Too awesome to ascetically deprive oneself of.

Wow... lol

I'm waiting for love and respect (but not marriage), but I don't care if others want to have casual sex. I may be president of the Virgin Club*, but that doesn't mean I think it's slutty not to be a member.

*Not that I'm really proud of that...I get a lot of grief for being an NBK.

It means fun, it means release, it means joining, it means sharing, it means energy, it means fantastic. Too fantastic to only share with one person. Too awesome to ascetically deprive oneself of.






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What does Sex means to you?
i'm the same i think sex is much better with someone you're in a relationship with who you care about and stuff. unfortunately i have no personal experience to base this on but i've had one-night-stands and they were rubbish and i'm sure sex isn't actually rubbish seeing as other people think it's so great and miss it when they aren't getting any. if i was to base my opion of sex on my own experiences only i'd say it was shit and i don't want to do it again. luckily there are other people in the world with contrary information so i'm holding out hope for some good sex at some point in my life :p

every once in awhile, when I go into chatrooms, I would get invitation from girls who want to just have sex with me, no strings attatch etc.
Beware, those are never the actual girls...

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What?

Beware, those are never the actual girls...

As the saying goes, there are no girls on teh intarwebs, only men pretending to be girls.

Beware, those are never the actual girls...

Yeah, their Porn Bots.

My cousin was tricked, went on the site, and got lots of viruses on their computer. Plus, he was pretty sure the girls there were actually guys who privately talked to him. Because they were convincing him in a way to visit the site in what a guy's perspective would do.

Sex without some sort of emotional attachment is basically assisted masturbation.

Sex is that thing I go to church to forget about.

Sex without some sort of emotional attachment is basically assisted masturbation.
That's why God tells us to wait for marriage.

As the saying goes, there are no girls on teh intarwebs, only men pretending to be girls.

Yup, and sometimes they are actually dogs just pretending to be men.

What does Sex means to you? I asked this because every once in awhile, when I go into chatrooms, I would get invitation from girls who want to just have sex with me, no strings attatch etc. However, I've never taken them up on it. Why, because, to me, Sex is a way for two people to show love for one another, by joining their bodies as one. If I do ever have sex, I want it to be with someone I've been with for awhile, and someone who I have a deep connection to, a soulmate you might call it. I want my sex to have meaning, not just something you have with anyone and everyone. I dunno, I guess that's why I'm a virgin at age 22. Ah well.


Yeah but what your talking about isn't sex its making love, which are two totally different things. Sex is sex, just done for fun with whomever or sometimes done in actual relationships that contain love but the two are just wanting to have a night of fun. Making love is everything you mentioned above. There is nothing wrong with either and certainly nothing wrong with wanting to wait, if your able to have the will power and good for you!

I'm waiting to have sex myself, and I'm almost 24. I have no issues with those who want to have casual sex, but I personally consider sex to carry with it responsibilities (to each other), and this means I do not wish to have sex with anyone that I don't believe I will be with for long periods of time. Ideally for me this would be with the person who is to be my life partner, but since I can't know for certain who that will be, someone with whom I have had a long relationship with would suffice.

My current girlfriend and I have been together for almost 4 years now, and still no sex. And, all things considered, I don't think of it as a loss. She doesn't want it, and I'm not going to press the issue. Ultimately I believe it would be a violation of the responsibilities those in a relationship have towards one and other to press on issues which are ultimately a consensus of both members of a relationship.

NT

There is nothing wrong with either and certainly nothing wrong with wanting to wait, if your able to have the will power and good for you!
hah! i wish i could say it was will power stopping me from having sex or making love or whatever. more like terminal shyness about the whole thing, bleh.

What does Sex means to you?
For me?

Sex == love.

I'm pretty much of the same opinion as you: I like my sex to have meaning. I've so far only had sex with a single partner, and he's a man I loved more than anyone(even him) could imagine, and with whom I would have gladly spent my whole life(we shared a stable, loving and faithful relationship for 3 years).

Destiny, however, has seen to fit to see us part. Now I'm just waiting for the next man to cross my path with whom I can forge a bond strong enough for me to want to express my love physically to him.

I'm another one of those rather silly people who likes sex to be about love, and thus doesn't do sexual things outside of fairly serious relationships. There's no question for me that my biggest and most important erogenous zone is inside my brain; if I don't have real feelings for someone, he simply won't turn me on, even if he's physically the sexiest thing on two legs. This makes the decision to avoid casual sex pretty easy. :)

Sex without some sort of emotional attachment is basically assisted masturbation.

Have you ever had sex? Because I have a hard time seeing anyone who's had sex saying that.

If you have, maybe it was just shit and you should have more to see that it really doesn't need to be shit, or should be shit.

Well I haven't experienced true love yet...just a series of crushes on guys whose personalities (and looks) with which I became infatuated. I definitely see love as both carnal and mental. To really say more though I'd need some experience on the matter. As for sex on its own...it need not be out of love.

Have you ever had sex? Because I have a hard time seeing anyone who's had sex saying that.

If you have, maybe it was just shit and you should have more to see that it really doesn't need to be shit, or should be shit.

Maybe it's from having enough sex to know that it is not the be-all, end-all purpose of existence. It's an ingredient in life, not a whole meal. Just because one likes sweet things doesn't mean one wants to sit down and dig into a bag of sugar with a spoon.

Haha, chatroom 'girls'.
They're genuine..

Have you ever had sex? Because I have a hard time seeing anyone who's had sex saying that.

If you have, maybe it was just shit and you should have more to see that it really doesn't need to be shit, or should be shit.
Well, I agree with him, and I'm far from a virgin.