NationStates Jolt Archive

So I was talking with a friend of mine, Sean (21 years old) (the same guy from a previous post I made about when he pissed my roommate's bed while staying the night after a party), it turns out he's gotten back with his ex boyfriend (yes, he's gay), Jim (36 years old). So here's the skinny. After a short-lived but very entertaining attempt on his part to live a "straight and normal" life, he has come back to Jim (I guess he's not his ex anymore).
At any rate, their normal routine while they were in their relationship (this lasted for a year, has had a 2 month lull and is now restarting) was pretty formulatic. Their typical time spent together consisted of:
1.) Jim comes to pick him up (as he has no car)

2.) They go out on the lake together in a boat (which Jim bought about 3 months into the relationship so they could go boating together... Sean LOVES boating), then they spend some time on the jetskis (yes, Jim bought jetskis)

3.) They cook out or go out to dinner (Sean rarely gets actual food as he goes to school, even when at home he doesn't get very good fare)

4.) They hang out at Jim's house, spending time playing computer games (Jim's house has two amazing computers), and watching the big screen with the surround sound.

5.) They'll get wasted, well, Sean'll get wasted, Jim remains stone cold sober. They'll provide him with whatever booze he wants (regardless of expense) and occasionally a xanax or something along similar lines (think downers)

6.) They'll have sex.

This all leads me to ask the question: Am I being crazy and is Jim just showing his love through his largesse, or is this seriously a "Neverland Ranch" style situation? Jim manages apartments, much of these gifts are well beyond his means.

I'm not criticizing him for having nice things and sharing them (Indeed, I love to invite my friends to my place to party, where the rule on booze is that I won't serve anyone anything I wouldn't drink myself and things are much nicer than the average college living setup, if I say so myself), but I feel like this is just a weird situation. What do you guys think?

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Your friend is a big boy. He can handle himself.

sounds like jim is insecure.

It doesn't sound all that awful a conundrum.

:sniper: just like my little trigger happy buddy suggests... get them on the receiving end of a barrel and scope and bore their ill-developed brains out... two 7.62mm rounds should solve your little homo problem. :mp5: or an automatic could be of assistance also, I heard it takes a silver bullet to truly kill a fag though.

It just seems so odd to me. The whole much older guy meets much younger guy on the internet and showers him with gifts he can't afford in order to win him over? Come on.

:sniper: just like my little trigger happy buddy suggests... get them on the receiving end of a barrel and scope and bore their ill-developed brains out... two 7.62mm rounds should solve your little homo problem. :mp5: or an automatic could be of assistance also, I heard it takes a silver bullet to truly kill a fag though.
Someone's looking for a ban.

:sniper: just like my little trigger happy buddy suggests... get them on the receiving end of a barrel and scope and bore their ill-developed brains out... two 7.62mm rounds should solve your little homo problem. :mp5: or an automatic could be of assistance also, I heard it takes a silver bullet to truly kill a fag though.

You lose as life.

jim is the sugardaddy, like when Moe went out with Renee on the simpsons. sean just has to take an ass pummeling every now and then. sounds like a good deal...till the money runs out

I'm not criticizing the fact that he's gay. I'm fine with him being gay, the first thing I said when he came out to me is that who he likes doesn't change a thing about who he is- he's still my friend. I'm not asking him to stop being gay (I strongly disapproved of his attempt to live "straight and normal", but didn't say anything), I'm just asking him to consider his situation.

It just seems so odd to me. The whole much older guy meets much younger guy on the internet and showers him with gifts he can't afford in order to win him over? Come on.

Much older guys do the same to much younger girls all the time. I find it faintly creepy then, too, but then, that's why I choose not to go out with much older guys who want to shower me with expensive gifts. Just because feeling vaguely prostituted isn't my cup of tea doesn't mean it's not for anyone else. ;)

If he wants to buy these things, who are we to judge?

Ass pummeling! haha... funny. Ohh, and I was mistaken! I just dropped a faggot walking his dog on the street with my window mounted .50 caliber, it turns out regular bullets DO kill them and their groomed-poodles... and yes, they also do bleed actual blood, that I was doubtful about.

Death threats and bragging about committing crimes = no more nation. :rolleyes:

Can we get Erie banned?

Actually, I'll add that the only part that is unambiguously unhealthy is the recreational use of Xanax or similar meds. Xanax is a prescription drug for a reason, and mixing it with alcohol is stupid and dangerous. It's also potently addictive. Regardless of your opinions of your friend's lovelife in general, it might be worthwhile to suggest that he skip the sedative and alcohol cocktails.

yeah i agree. whatever happened to just shooting heroin and chugging ghb? oh the kids these days!!

I think the mix of downers and booze is to "soften him up". Though I could be wrong. I'm just really creeped out, I just don't think getting messed up EVERY TIME you have sex with your significant other is exactly healthy.

Eire made the mistake of posting his inanities IN A THREAD WITH A MODERATOR POSTING IN IT. I don't think you need to ask.

As for your friend... it doesn't seem very different from what heterosexual men often do when trying to win over a young woman or keep her. If you're really concerned, you might talk to your friend or even the boyfriend, but try to keep it civil.

I have a problem with it when older men do it to younger women, I think it's wrong no matter how it's done. I've tried talking with my friend and all he says to me is that I don't understand.