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Update from Zooke's husband

Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:15
I've checked in on you guys a few times and thought I would let you know what is up here. I tried to post a couple other times but I am too slow with my one finger typing and got logged off before I could post. So I will post this and do a lot of little posts to catch you up.
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:17
I'm fine. I went down to the gulf after Katrina helped family make repairs and get back in there homes then went to work for a construction company in Mississippi building cabinets. That lasted about a month before I was laid off and they brought in Mexicans. Fuck it. I figure theyll get what they pay for.
Hydesland
13-06-2006, 23:21
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Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:21
I'm at our home in Arkansas and busy as hell. I turn down more jobs than I take. I just had to get comfortable again in our house without Sandy here. Once I looked around I knew she will always be here in a zillion gazillion ways.
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:22
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You only have 600 some posts. Ask some of the oldtimers who Zooke is.
Drunk commies deleted
13-06-2006, 23:22
I'm fine. I went down to the gulf after Katrina helped family make repairs and get back in there homes then went to work for a construction company in Mississippi building cabinets. That lasted about a month before I was laid off and they brought in Mexicans. Fuck it. I figure theyll get what they pay for.
Sorry to hear that. Good to know you're OK though. Our thoughts are still with you.
The Nazz
13-06-2006, 23:24
Sorry to hear that. Good to know you're OK though. Our thoughts are still with you.
Seconded. Thanks for checking in with us.
Hydesland
13-06-2006, 23:27
You only have 600 some posts. Ask some of the oldtimers who Zooke is.

Ok, sorry to bother.
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:28
I apreciate that. I know she found a lot of good people on here and made a ton of good friends that she loved dearly. I'm sorry I havent kept in touch with you all but this arena is alien to me. Even though I am not comfortable here I didnt think it was right to ignore people she loved and who obviously loved her. I admit that I did read all of the messages you all left and it helped my heart to know she was loved so much
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:33
Ok, sorry to bother.
Didnt mean to hurt your feelings but I don't hang out here and just wanted to send a message to my wife's friends to let them know what is going on and that things are OK. She died a few months ago and was active on here and a bunch of the folks here have been really supportive. They deserve to know what is going on so they wont worry. Ok?
Whereyouthinkyougoing
13-06-2006, 23:34
Thanks for checking in with us. And good to hear you're doing well now, job-wise. Zooke is still missed here.
Hydesland
13-06-2006, 23:37
Didnt mean to hurt your feelings but I don't hang out here and just wanted to send a message to my wife's friends to let them know what is going on and that things are OK. She died a few months ago and was active on here and a bunch of the folks here have been really supportive. They deserve to know what is going on so they wont worry. Ok?

I'm so very sorry, hope you get the support you need.
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:41
Anyway I'm OK working a lot and taking care of business. Not to her standards but good enough to get by. I got another Schipperke pup. Sophie's sister. Her name is Snickers and she bounces around the house just like Sandy did. I sure wish Sandy was here cause she would really love her.
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:46
Thanks for checking in with us. And good to hear you're doing well now, job-wise. Zooke is still missed here.
I miss seeing her talking to her and touching her every day but she is still here in ways I couldnt see at first. Everywhere I look her influence is there. I am in awe how one woman could leave her mark on so many places and people. I always knew she was special. I never knew how many other people agreed with me.
Pure Metal
13-06-2006, 23:47
good to hear from you, and glad things are going well :)
also good to hear you talk about her in the present tense - i liked that. and good to hear you and the family are getting on with life as she'd have liked. of course, she's still missed around here, and i think about her pretty much daily (which must be nothing compared to you :() but the point is she's still here with us, just as she'll always be there with you :)

i think eut/forest took it all pretty hard - thought about TGing/emailing him directly? (or has he been keeping touch anyway?)



on a positive note, sandy would be pleased to know that myself and glitziness are still very much together, in love, and making plans for our future :) (sandy's probably smiling just like this :) reading that :D)
Mr Zooke
13-06-2006, 23:50
I'm so very sorry, hope you get the support you need.


thanks Sandy left me a good support network. All the love she gave came back to me 10 fold. A lot of people here were touched with her love and I just want to let them know I apreciate the love they gave back the efforts they made in her name and to let them know I am OK and Sandy is still at my side.
Mr Zooke
14-06-2006, 00:03
good to hear from you, and glad things are going well :)
also good to hear you talk about her in the present tense - i liked that. and good to hear you and the family are getting on with life as she'd have liked. of course, she's still missed around here, and i think about her pretty much daily (which must be nothing compared to you :() but the point is she's still here with us, just as she'll always be there with you :)

i think eut/forest took it all pretty hard - thought about TGing/emailing him directly? (or has he been keeping touch anyway?)



on a positive note, sandy would be pleased to know that myself and glitziness are still very much together, in love, and making plans for our future :) (sandy's probably smiling just like this :) reading that :D)

I have to talk about her in the present tense. When she died I thought she was gone and I ran away but when I had to come home I found her here. I flew up to Maryland for her granddaughters graduation a couple of weeks ago. She signed the whole thing. In a couple of years another one of her granddaughters will be going on to college to be a vet. I remember when she taught the manual alphabet to the oldest one and now she is going on to college on a full boat to study special ed for the hearing impaired. and we all know where the other one came up with the idea of being a vet.
Mr Zooke
14-06-2006, 00:11
on a positive note, sandy would be pleased to know that myself and glitziness are still very much together, in love, and making plans for our future :) (sandy's probably smiling just like this :) reading that :D)

I know she would be happy as shit for you. You do know how special you were? I know that if you are happy she is happy. Remember: as we grow older we change. If at some time you change and find you dont love your lady the same way you did then look at your relationship and how it has changed because of your growth and hers find the soul you loved and keep on loving her because of her growth not in spite of it. If youre really lucky she'll do that too.
Corneliu
14-06-2006, 00:15
Glad to see you are doing well Mr. Zooke. I lost my grandfather in March so I know what it is like to lose love ones. Just continue to take it easy. I'll continue to pray for you :)
Mr Zooke
14-06-2006, 00:18
Life isnt perfect but life is good enuf. I've made my peace and live knowing her love surrounds me. I do apreciate your support and your efforts of love. Take the love she gave all of us and do good things. That is her legacy.

WWSD? Love.
Corneliu
14-06-2006, 00:20
Life isnt perfect but life is good enuf. I've made my peace and live knowing her love surrounds me. I do apreciate your support and your efforts of love. Take the love she gave all of us and do good things. That is her legacy.

WWSD? Love.

That is indeed true. I miss her very much.
Mr Zooke
14-06-2006, 01:08
Seconded. Thanks for checking in with us.

Thanks. And thanks for being her friend. Hope this will help.

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=10270839&postcount=1
Sel Appa
14-06-2006, 02:14
You only have 600 some posts. Ask some of the oldtimers who Zooke is.
I've been here quite some time, but never heard of Zooke until we found out what happened...Oh well...One finger typing eh? I used to do that...now i have about four fingers...
Nadkor
14-06-2006, 03:15
Great to see you here Mr. Zooke. She really was a brilliant lady, and I think all of us who remember her miss her here.
GruntsandElites
14-06-2006, 04:46
I'm sorry for your loss, however I don't know what happened. Cold someone possibly tell me? And, if possible, tell me Mrs. Zooke's nation name?
Sarkhaan
14-06-2006, 04:49
Great to hear from you Ricky!

I'm glad to see you've been doing pretty well. Like huw, I still think of her often, and its great to have you pop in every now and then for an update. I gotta admit, I smiled when I read that her grandchild is planning to be a vet. Me and my roommates actually might be getting a pet, and I've been given the permission to name it...I'd say if its a girl, there is a good chance of "Sandy" or else, "zooke"
Sarkhaan
14-06-2006, 04:57
I'm sorry for your loss, however I don't know what happened. Cold someone possibly tell me? And, if possible, tell me Mrs. Zooke's nation name?
Sandy, better known as Zooke (her NS name), was a member on this forum untill she passed away several months ago. No one I have met, be in on this forum or elsewhere, was as kind as as loving as she was, and she made it a point to spread that love around everywhere she went. I personally know she made a huge difference in my life in the time that I knew her, and I know the same for both PM and Eut. There are some threads about here over in the archive...let me go dig those out...

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=459796
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=463641
http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showthread.php?t=465086
The Nazz
14-06-2006, 05:00
Thanks. And thanks for being her friend. Hope this will help.

http://forums.jolt.co.uk/showpost.php?p=10270839&postcount=1
Thank you for that--I really appreciate it.
TheBlackLotusSociety
14-06-2006, 05:10
Though I cannot say I knew Zooke personally, I can say I had heard of her, and what I heard, was good. To lose a good person is a tragedy indeed, in a world where such darkness and pain exists. But I do not believe she is dead, for death is naught but an illusion. I would share my philosophy of beliefs, but they are simply complicated. Suffice to say, I believe she is in a Paradise of her own design, and yet at the same time, is still here with you, in your thoughts, in your dreams, in your memorys, not to grieve you, but to support you, to make you stronger.
GruntsandElites
14-06-2006, 05:16
All I can say is: Wow. She must have been an amazing person. Though I must ask, no disrespect to Mrs. Zooke, a purely scientifical question: How does breast cancer kill you?
Sarkhaan
14-06-2006, 05:43
All I can say is: Wow. She must have been an amazing person. Though I must ask, no disrespect to Mrs. Zooke, a purely scientifical question: How does breast cancer kill you?
iirc, it wasn't actually the cancer that killed Sandy, but complications that arose from the cancer, namely heart failure. That is one of the more common ones.
Most people actually die from a complication with the cancer rather than the cancer itself.
Cancer is a very..weird...disease. It basically spreads throughout your body and, to put it bluntly, eats away at it slowly. Damaged cells are normally destroyed by the body. Cancer cells are not, and reproduce constantly, growing into a tumor. This tumor adds strain to the system, and eventually will basically overwhelm it.
Corneliu
14-06-2006, 14:29
All I can say is: Wow. She must have been an amazing person. Though I must ask, no disrespect to Mrs. Zooke, a purely scientifical question: How does breast cancer kill you?

She died of a heart attack :(
Findecano Calaelen
14-06-2006, 15:07
good to hear from you and that your doing okay.
Keruvalia
14-06-2006, 15:10
Great to hear from you! Glad to know you're doing as well as possible and I hope you stay in touch. :)
Kanabia
14-06-2006, 15:13
Good to see you're hanging in there. Best of luck. :)
Eutrusca
14-06-2006, 15:17
I apreciate that. I know she found a lot of good people on here and made a ton of good friends that she loved dearly. I'm sorry I havent kept in touch with you all but this arena is alien to me. Even though I am not comfortable here I didnt think it was right to ignore people she loved and who obviously loved her. I admit that I did read all of the messages you all left and it helped my heart to know she was loved so much
Hi, Bro. Great to hear from you again.

Yes, we did love her ... still do. I was cleaning up some of my messenger programs the other day and realized that "Zooke" was still listed as a "Friend" on Yahoo Instant Messenger. Didn't have the heart to remove it ... it's still there.

Let me know if you need anything, bro.
Carnivorous Lickers
14-06-2006, 15:18
I apreciate that. I know she found a lot of good people on here and made a ton of good friends that she loved dearly. I'm sorry I havent kept in touch with you all but this arena is alien to me. Even though I am not comfortable here I didnt think it was right to ignore people she loved and who obviously loved her. I admit that I did read all of the messages you all left and it helped my heart to know she was loved so much

Thanks for the update. She was well liked by those that knew her in here-a a special lady thats sorely missed. Not that I need to tell you that.
Best wishes.
Mr Zooke
14-06-2006, 23:59
I get up early and thought I would check to see if I missed anything after I went to bed last night. I did. I thank you all for your kind words. I wanted to let you know that I was OK and to say thanks. Sandy loved analyzing politics and moral issues and hung out here to debate and learn. I like other things. Thanks again for all you have done and thanks for caring about me even though you don't know me.
Sarkhaan: I got another pup a couple of months ago. She's the sister of our Schipperke, Sophie. I named this one Snickerdoodle (Snickers). Snicks never knew Sandy but she drags around one of Sandy's old t-shirts and sleeps on her pillow. Damnedest thing I ever saw how she just loves anything that has Sandy's scent on it. Go figure.

I apreciate your donations to breast cancer research but if any of you have a few bucks to spare please send it to The Families of Spinal Muscular Atrophy Foundation. I send a little ever couple weeks or so.

Thanks again and good lives to all of you.
Sarkhaan
15-06-2006, 04:18
I get up early and thought I would check to see if I missed anything after I went to bed last night. I did. I thank you all for your kind words. I wanted to let you know that I was OK and to say thanks. Sandy loved analyzing politics and moral issues and hung out here to debate and learn. I like other things. Thanks again for all you have done and thanks for caring about me even though you don't know me.
Sarkhaan: I got another pup a couple of months ago. She's the sister of our Schipperke, Sophie. I named this one Snickerdoodle (Snickers). Snicks never knew Sandy but she drags around one of Sandy's old t-shirts and sleeps on her pillow. Damnedest thing I ever saw how she just loves anything that has Sandy's scent on it. Go figure.

I apreciate your donations to breast cancer research but if any of you have a few bucks to spare please send it to The Families of Spinal Muscular Atrophy Foundation. I send a little ever couple weeks or so.

Thanks again and good lives to all of you.
haha...not surprising that it would love the smell of her.

btw, I donated a bit to each group...the breast cancer and the SMAF, as well as a human rights group...wish I could have given more to each than I did, but yeah. *shrug*

anyway, always good to hear from ya. Check back in soon bud.
Mr Zooke
16-06-2006, 00:46
If any of you want to email me my email address is 3toe@comcast.net . I would like to visit with you all but this whole nationstates thing is more trouble than I want to deal with. If any of you talk to a nationstates monitor by the name of Katganistan please tell her thanks from my heart and email me if she wants. That is one great lady and I owe her a lot.

Sandy found me loved me and taught me how to have a real life. When I read about how she made real changes in some of your lives all I can do is say "uh-huh. me too". Maybe we can all take what she taught us and make a support network so that we keep on doing things her way and have good lives.

Email me if you want I am here.
Ricky
Mr Zooke
16-06-2006, 01:27
Hi, Bro. Great to hear from you again.

Yes, we did love her ... still do. I was cleaning up some of my messenger programs the other day and realized that "Zooke" was still listed as a "Friend" on Yahoo Instant Messenger. Didn't have the heart to remove it ... it's still there.

Let me know if you need anything, bro.

I didn't do laundry for a couple of weeks and got to the bottom of my underwear drawer and found a St Christopher medal. This woman loved me so much she even tried to bless my fucking bvds. I woke up every morning with a kiss and a cup of coffee and was met with a kiss and a "I love you" every night when I got home from work. You can take her off your yahoo "friend" list as long as you carry her in your heart. I will never taste her lips again and you will never get a message from her. But she isn't gone. She lives on in us. Take what you learned from her and pass it on. Sandy isn't a dead link on some instant messanger list. Sandy was and is a good person. Sandy gave her love and attention to unloveable, unadoptable handicapped kids, unknown troubled kids who just needed to know that some one cared, old farts whose marriages collapsed and wondered why when they thought their worth was measured by what they did in Nam, and anyone who came to her with a hurting heart.

I'm sorry that her death has left you so devasted that you cant stand to delete her from an instant message list. But her life as she shared it with me has impowered me to go on. What is Sandy to you? A "friend" to chat with once in a while or an inspiration? Bro, she loved you. Take the love she gave you and make the kind of life you want. I did.
GruntsandElites
16-06-2006, 03:33
Why are you only typing with one finger?
Mr Zooke
17-06-2006, 00:05
Why are you only typing with one finger?

Because im a woodworker not a secretary. But I have 3 and sometimes 4 fingers flying now. This is too much work for me but another NSer who I visit with pointed out that even with only one or 2 fingers I stilled screwed up on my email address. Im going to let my nation die here in a couple three days but if you want to get hold of me my email address is

3toed@comcast.net

add a d as in duh. Thanks Chad.
Ollieland
17-06-2006, 00:35
Because im a woodworker not a secretary. But I have 3 and sometimes 4 fingers flying now. This is too much work for me but another NSer who I visit with pointed out that even with only one or 2 fingers I stilled screwed up on my email address. Im going to let my nation die here in a couple three days but if you want to get hold of me my email address is

3toed@comcast.net

add a d as in duh. Thanks Chad.

As a relative newcomer to general the only things i know about Zooke are what I've read other people post. Even from that, it seems shes one special lady. Best of luck Mr Zooke
Harlesburg
17-06-2006, 04:47
Because im a woodworker not a secretary. But I have 3 and sometimes 4 fingers flying now. This is too much work for me but another NSer who I visit with pointed out that even with only one or 2 fingers I stilled screwed up on my email address. Im going to let my nation die here in a couple three days but if you want to get hold of me my email address is

3toed@comcast.net

add a d as in duh. Thanks Chad.
Good to see you, yes yay for one finger typing.