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How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:

Hooray for clinical depression! I don't have to deal with ego issues, because I no longer have one!

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:

Hmm. My ego is "destroyed" when I am defeated intellectually--it's rarely intact. But I'm generally rather cheerful. :)

i never get chosen for solos or get varsity spots when ppl of more or less experience do get them. and btw being an old lady isnt bad, i know a girl who plays the part of a guy in most musicals/plays.

Well, considering I spend most of my time staring at this screen, in a house in a lousy neighborhoor, ALONE...yeah, I'm gonna have to go with "Ego? I lost that AGES ago.." *sigh*

i never get chosen for solos or get varsity spots when ppl of more or less experience do get them. and btw being an old lady isnt bad, i know a girl who plays the part of a guy in most musicals/plays.

But what I feel about musical theatre is alot like what you feel about sports. I know I'm a damn good singer, and yet people who are just so-so, but quite attractive, get all the lead parts. I get to sing like two lines before Eliza interrupts me! All I can do is make those two lines so good that the audience thinks I'm better than her and wonders why I didn't get the lead.

My ego is indestructable.

To revive an aging internet Meme
Chuck norris once roundhouse kicked my ego, causing every bone in his leg to shatter.O nly Mr. T's pity was able to restore Chuck Norris to his former self.

(Okay... two aging memes, so sue me.)

But what I feel about musical theatre is alot like what you feel about sports. I know I'm a damn good singer, and yet people who are just so-so, but quite attractive, get all the lead parts. I get to sing like two lines before Eliza interrupts me! All I can do is make those two lines so good that the audience thinks I'm better than her and wonders why I didn't get the lead.

Well, seems you've a plan already, don't mind me...I'm no doubt biased already :p

Uhhh....yeah....lesse...I lost the ego thing around second grade.

Also, I thought this said Egg Blows.

Also, I thought this said Egg Blows.

Your posts are dangerously close to spam...

Your posts are dangerously close to spam...

Oy, alright, geez...Can't imagine I've said anything unusually spammy, you see it all the time, but eh...I'll just be away..for a while. :)

Oy, alright, geez...Can't imagine I've said anything unusually spammy, you see it all the time, but eh...I'll just be away..for a while. :)

You know, I meant your posts generally, not just now. I get the feeling you just like talking.

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.

They don't.

Destroy my ego?
Poor thing is barely kicking. It's been beaten down so many times.

Lately, it's to do with my size. Because I'm much bigger (I weigh between 230~240lbs depending on my exercise regime) than the Chinese I'm viewed of as fat. As in grossly fat.

Regardless of being 10-15% bodyfat, having a 45bpm heart rate, being able to bench press 370lbs, having competed nationally in 4 sports (holding, at one time, 6 records in one of them) and internationally in 1 and, back in NZ at least, always having everyone immediately assume I'm a bodybuilder (never tried - can't face the dieting).

Here, I'm just FAT. Obese.


typical e.g.
A few weeks back, one of the other teachers at work noticed I didn't have any lunch (I just didn't feel like it) and commented that she wished she could skip a meal, and that I'm so FAT that I could probably skip a week without noticing.
This she thought was hilarious enough to repeat several times to some other colleagues. I bit my tongue and tried to point out that I'm not fat and that I really don't like being called fat, because it's very insulting. She acted confused and said, "But you are fat! So I can call you fat!"
No you can't. Because I'm not fat, and it's rude.
"But you are fat!" etc etc



My problem is that I was pretty fat as a kid, and my mum teased me relentlessly about it, so I have a pretty screwed-up body image and am particularly hurt (more than I know I should be, but I can't help it) when people call me fat.



What depresses me more is I've been called fat by over 1/2 the female teachers at that school at one time or another. And if we assume that they're a pretty good sample of HK women, I really don't have much hope in meeting anyone here (fatties are way at the bottom as potential partners here). But damned if I'm going to slim down for anyone. I like being strong and fit.

You know, I meant your posts generally, not just now. I get the feeling you just like talking.

Eh, I do, sorta. People round these suburbs are generally boring, so I gotta talk to the intrest folks here on NSG. Although I don't like the sound of my own voice...too deep, can't hold a tune for anything...The piano can do my musical talking.

Regardless of being 10-15% bodyfat, having a 45bpm heart rate, being able to bench press 370lbs, having competed nationally in 4 sports (holding, at one time, 6 records in one of them) and internationally in 1 and, back in NZ at least, always having everyone immediately assume I'm a bodybuilder (never tried - can't face the dieting).



45pbm? Is that even possible? I run 3 times a week, and mine is practically twice that.

Eh, I do, sorta. People round these suburbs are generally boring, so I gotta talk to the intrest folks here on NSG. Although I don't like the sound of my own voice...too deep, can't hold a tune for anything...The piano can do my musical talking.

I'll teach you to sing. I'm good. Really good.

*snip*

...If they got invited to NZ, would they all be seen as anorexic?

I'll teach you to sing. I'm good. Really good.

Heh...Looks like we've an ego fit as ever, that's cool. So how exactly would internet singing lessons work?

45pbm? Is that even possible? I run 3 times a week, and mine is practically twice that.
I think I have a naturally low heart rate. I have a pretty large heart and both my parents have low h/r (~60), even though neither of them do any regular exercise.

When I was training hard-core, it got down to 36. But that was a few years ago now, and I've never managed to get it below 40 since.



Most Tour de France cyclists have heart rates between 30 and 40.

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:
If you know you're the better singer, then you have no reason to feel inferior. Instead, feel sorry for the audience who has to listen to a semi-good singer an entire night instead of being able to enjoy your wonderful voice.

Destroy my ego?
Poor thing is barely kicking. It's been beaten down so many times.

Lately, it's to do with my size. Because I'm much bigger (I weigh between 230~240lbs depending on my exercise regime) than the Chinese I'm viewed of as fat. As in grossly fat.

Regardless of being 10-15% bodyfat, having a 45bpm heart rate, being able to bench press 370lbs, having competed nationally in 4 sports (holding, at one time, 6 records in one of them) and internationally in 1 and, back in NZ at least, always having everyone immediately assume I'm a bodybuilder (never tried - can't face the dieting).

Here, I'm just FAT. Obese.


typical e.g.
A few weeks back, one of the other teachers at work noticed I didn't have any lunch (I just didn't feel like it) and commented that she wished she could skip a meal, and that I'm so FAT that I could probably skip a week without noticing.
This she thought was hilarious enough to repeat several times to some other colleagues. I bit my tongue and tried to point out that I'm not fat and that I really don't like being called fat, because it's very insulting. She acted confused and said, "But you are fat! So I can call you fat!"
No you can't. Because I'm not fat, and it's rude.
"But you are fat!" etc etc



My problem is that I was pretty fat as a kid, and my mum teased me relentlessly about it, so I have a pretty screwed-up body image and am particularly hurt (more than I know I should be, but I can't help it) when people call me fat.



What depresses me more is I've been called fat by over 1/2 the female teachers at that school at one time or another. And if we assume that they're a pretty good sample of HK women, I really don't have much hope in meeting anyone here (fatties are way at the bottom as potential partners here). But damned if I'm going to slim down for anyone. I like being strong and fit.

The answer to that, of course, is, "And you're apparently stupid and rude, so I shall announce that everytime I see you as well."

...If they got invited to NZ, would they all be seen as anorexic?
Almost definitely. They weigh ~100lbs.
The one who so happily insulted me weighs 90, and she definitely looks anorexic. All bones and wriggly veins. eww...I don't know how her husband can sleep with her - it'd be all sharp angles.

I think I have a naturally low heart rate. I have a pretty large heart and both my parents have low h/r (~60), even though neither of them do any regular exercise.

When I was training hard-core, it got down to 36. But that was a few years ago now, and I've never managed to get it below 40 since.



Most Tour de France cyclists have heart rates between 30 and 40.

Wow...that's intresting...I figured doing 60 was curious. Bah...Can't decide if I should exericise, finish a paper, or keep posting.

Heh...Looks like we've an ego fit as ever, that's cool. So how exactly would internet singing lessons work?

I dunno. Record your voice on one of those sites, and I'll laugh at you....er, I mean give you some tips...

I dunno. Record your voice on one of those sites, and I'll laugh at you....er, I mean give you some tips...

Laughing works too. Then the voice is useful for something...now...for a recording device...

The answer to that, of course, is, "And you're apparently stupid and rude, so I shall announce that everytime I see you as well."
Except I have to work closely with her, as she's technically my superior/local support.
And from what I understand, it's actually a local Cantonese thing. They don't see anything wrong in pointing things out. So telling someone they're fat isn't viewed as rude to them.

Except I have to work closely with her, as she's technically my superior/local support.
And from what I understand, it's actually a local Cantonese thing. They don't see anything wrong in pointing things out. So telling someone they're fat isn't viewed as rude to them.
Nope. Especially with the one-child policy nowadays, the children are so spoiled that many of them are overweight. It's common for family and parents to laugh at these children for being fat and it's not viewed as being rude. But I know from personal experiences that it hurts like hell.

Except I have to work closely with her, as she's technically my superior/local support.
And from what I understand, it's actually a local Cantonese thing. They don't see anything wrong in pointing things out. So telling someone they're fat isn't viewed as rude to them.


Well hell, if thats the case then you pointing out that she is too stupid to know the difference shouldn't bother anyone.....:p

Except I have to work closely with her, as she's technically my superior/local support.
And from what I understand, it's actually a local Cantonese thing. They don't see anything wrong in pointing things out. So telling someone they're fat isn't viewed as rude to them.


But repeating something which someone has told you is upsetting them is certainly rude.

You'd be pointing out that she is continuing to upset you, which is bad manners.

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:

you gotta get past that. it going to happen over and over again. an actress needs a solid ego or she just wont make it.

try to up your public image some so that you can compete on the popularity thing with girls like this. otherwise just keep working on your skills. its not important how many parts you get NOW, its important how many roles you get later when you are relying on them for your income.

it sucks to be chosen over a less talented actress but its the way the acting biz works. learn to deal with it now and youll have a much easier time of it later.

trouble from the chinese


Tell them "build me a railroad."

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?
By not responding to my posts on NS General. I react by logging off.

By not responding to my posts on NS General. I react by logging off.

You're still young yet.

By not responding to my posts on NS General. I react by logging off.


Oh please. *points at crown* I am the QUEEN of thread-killing...aside from the mods. For some reason, deleted seems far more dead than just being inactive.

BAH, egos are for you little people, I have no need for such!

Oh please. *points at crown* I am the QUEEN of thread-killing...aside from the mods. For some reason, deleted seems far more dead than just being inactive.
Ah, to be a thread-killer! That would be glorious! No, my fragile ego is crushed because the threads just go on without me *sobs*

Yeah, I seem to kill RPs on a regular basis. My showing up apparently causes the fluids in other posters' brains to boil and explode. And then the thread dies. 'Tis sad, really. Imagine all that mess.

I actually used to have ego issues, but then, somewhere around the beginning of sophomore year in high school, I became a bit of an egomaniac. And I still am now. It's kind of nice, I look at everyone who irritates me/disagrees with me as in need of guidance. Like the British Empire.

I'm... the British Empire?

As I have essentially no ego, it takes only a very small force to crush it entirely. And annoyingly enough, every time I start to build it up a little, something happens to take me back to square one. Its mainly due to a potent cocktail of poor self esteem, poor body image, and a disturbing lack of talent in... pretty well everything, to be honest.

Terrorist Cakes, if you want your ego really crushed, how about posting some recordings on here?[/serious suggestion, apart from the ego crushing bit]

Terrorist Cakes, if you want your ego really crushed, how about posting some recordings on here?[/serious suggestion, apart from the ego crushing bit]

This is a recommendation I support. Also apart from the ego-crushing bit.

Yeah, I seem to kill RPs on a regular basis. My showing up apparently causes the fluids in other posters' brains to boil and explode. And then the thread dies. 'Tis sad, really. Imagine all that mess.

I actually used to have ego issues, but then, somewhere around the beginning of sophomore year in high school, I became a bit of an egomaniac. And I still am now. It's kind of nice, I look at everyone who irritates me/disagrees with me as in need of guidance. Like the British Empire.

I'm... the British Empire?

Yeah, it can go in three directions, I believe -- low self-esteem, becoming egomaniacal, or not particularly giving a shit. The third is quite soothing sometimes.

Hoorah for apathy. Ego shmeego.

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:
When I started playwrighting in group table reads for other budding playwrights I was always asked to play the bastards-if there was a dick in the play, I read him. When one of the playwrights I actually supported needed me to fill in for a production where someone who had bailed I played a rapist. First day after the play ended no one would talk to me when I came out. The remaining nights the girls would come out with me to show "He's not a monster, he just played one." I hate acting a lot. I'm glad others enjoy it, cause I hate it.

My ego was completely destroyed years ago in a mind-numbingly boring job with a boss who's half as intelligent as top-soil, but who has total control over what I do for 8 hours a day. I will be retiring soon, I frequently wonder what she's going to do when she realizes that no one else will want to do what I do.

My ego was completely destroyed years ago in a mind-numbingly boring job with a boss who's half as intelligent as top-soil, but who has total control over what I do for 8 hours a day. I will be retiring soon, I frequently wonder what she's going to do when she realizes that no one else will want to do what I do.

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PS: Click on the smilie

I usually have a low ego, though it can shoot through the roof in a few specific situations, usually involving the presence of the terminally stupid.

Haha! Nothing anyone does can ever hurt my ego. I'm so much better than everyone else, and they're just stupid for thinking otherwise. If I weren't so egotistical, I wouldn't survive for very long at school, what with the constant barrage of insults and all. Goddamn stupid, ignorant rednecks. They wouldn't know majesty if it went up and bit them in the face.

OK. The fact that I have seemingly killed this thread hurts a bit. Everyone hates me, I know.

How do people destroy your ego on a regular basis? How do you react?

I've just been cast as an old lady in musical for like the fifth time, while a girl ten times more attractive, fashionable, and popular than myself gets to be Eliza. And people wonder why I have body image issues... :rolleyes:

Because you're a wonderful versatile actor of course!
Old lady roles = awesome actors! :)

OK. The fact that I have seemingly killed this thread hurts a bit. Everyone hates me, I know.
Meh! Hate you? You're too insignificant to even think about. Now stop wasting our time with your posts and log off.

I really don't have to worry about ego blows because I usually just don't care. I can laugh at myself and stand other people laughing at me.

I really don't have to worry about ego blows because I usually just don't care. I can laugh at myself and stand other people laughing at me.

The best philosophy, as far as I can tell.

During middle school I had a few really bad experiences asking girls out, and it really hurt my ego (but that was middle school so it is to be expected) to the point where for my first two years in high school I was afraid to ask a girl to go on a date. This year I remembered why I was that way. There were four girls I tried asking out at various points in the year. One girl kept postponing until I gave up, one "had work to do," one was busy and now has a bf, and one went out with me but thought it was just as friends. That hurts the ego a bit.

I used to care about the world until I discovered that the only purpose of life was to rustle up some more alcoholic beverages.

I keep my ego shaved.