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I consider myself an intelligent guy. I am graduated college with honors, achieved a 96 percentile on my GMAT after studying for a grand total of 5 hours. However, I have what I would call a low EQ. I'm fidgety, almost like a 12 year old at times. Last night I was watching a "Friends" rerun, of all things, and got so mad at one of the characters that I got up and stomped around the room, imagining myself cracking him over the head with a tennis racket. Needless to say, I live alone, so others are somewhat safe from my outbursts. Do you have a low EQ, and if so, how do you deal with it?

Edit:Sorry. EQ stands for Emotional quotient. I'm not precise on it, but I think it has to do with the emotional development of a person. A person with a high EQ is very level-headed, no matter the circumstances. A person with a low EQ is very moody, and easily angered.

WTF is an EQ?

WTF is an EQ?
Emotional Quotient. I.E. the equivalent of I.Q on emotions.

WTF is an EQ?
Your perception of other peoples' emotions and your own, mainly. I think.

WTF is an EQ?
An inability to define abbreviations.

"Emotional" Quotient.
The little sister of Intelligence Quotient.

Basically how emotionally aware you are, for yourself and others.
I've been gifted with high scores in both. :) Not excessively high in either, but certainly well above average.
Top 2% in IQ... not sure about my percentile rank for EQ.

Your perception of other peoples' emotions and your own, mainly. I think.
Oh, then I think mine is pretty high. I'm in touch with all my emotions. Lust, anger, rage, hate, apathy, envy, and lowbrow humor, the whole set.

I took an E.Q. test and only missed one question. My psychologist about passed out. I also have a pretty high I.Q.

well i got 127 or something similar (high) in the Tickle EQ test a while back, but that was mostly to do with recognising, evaluating and dealing with emotions in others... not myself.

so in that sense i have a high EQ, mostly thanks to some good empathy, but in this sense i'd say no... i do not stay 'level headed whatever the situation' - i am prone to angry outbursts (though not over little things like friends eps lol :p mostly anger at myself) and selfharm (deal with the anger) by biting myself a lot (woo big permament bruise)

I just did a search for an EQ test, and got 167. :P The description was funny.

"150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar."

I didn't like the test, though, as it was only two possibilities per question. I'll try to find a better one.

Do you have a link?

Sure: http://www.blogthings.com/eqquiz/

Sure: http://www.blogthings.com/eqquiz/
I got an 80

You've got more emotional intelligence than the average frat boy. Barely.

The test sucked. On many questions neither possible answer applied to me. I don't think the score it gave me is correct. It might actually be lower.

Thank you.

I got an 80



The test sucked. On many questions neither possible answer applied to me. I don't think the score it gave me is correct. It might actually be lower.
It's bullshit to be honest.

I voted no, but when I took the test it said I was an even 100. =/

I found one I like better.
There's more options for the answers, although I dislike the rating scale at the end, and how they phrase where you are.

http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/eqtest2.htm

"You scored 90% correct!
Your score falls in the high EQ range."

'correct' implies that there's only one good way to react to a situation... I suppose, maybe there is a 'better' way to react for your own emotional health, as well as that of others... but there were a few where I thought a couple of the options seemed healthy and normal, even if I don't do some of those things.

Dunno. It probably changes as frequently as my moods. I haven't taken any tests or anything, but I imagine it's fairly high with regards to others' emotions, but practically nilch with mine. I have no idea what I'm feeling or if I'm just feeling what others are feeling. I DO know, however, that I am so f***ing confused.

I voted no, but when I took the test it said I was an even 100. =/

100 is average. :) Nothing wrong with that.
If it's set up like IQ, there's nothing wrong with being in the norm. You still function well.
It's only with extremely low scores that you might run into problems dealing with people, and your own emotions.
A high score just indicates that you might be a bit more empathic towards how people are feeling, and why you feel a certain way.
It's certainly not a curse to be average on this scale. ;)

I tend to have a LOT of people talk to me about problems they have in a variety of situations. I always listen, but sometimes it gets a bit tiring when people know you're a good listener... because people with lower scores can't 'feel' that I may want to talk about happier things, too, and they should move on from their self-pity. ;)
Sometimes people just worry about nothing.

My bad, I voted yes... I guess I underestimated my EQ AND mistyped my first post. :headbang:

Seriously though, with all the times people have called me a spazz, I'm more than surprised I made even an average score.

I found one I like better.
There's more options for the answers, although I dislike the rating scale at the end, and how they phrase where you are.

http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/eqtest2.htm

"You scored 90% correct!
Your score falls in the high EQ range."

'correct' implies that there's only one good way to react to a situation... I suppose, maybe there is a 'better' way to react for your own emotional health, as well as that of others... but there were a few where I thought a couple of the options seemed healthy and normal, even if I don't do some of those things.
I'm scoring low.
I hate multiple choice tests asking me what I'd do. The choices offered many times don't include the course of action I would actually take.


You scored 20% correct!
Your score falls in the below average EQ range.

The problem with open ended questions where you can say whatever you want is the amount of time it takes to score them.
For the Internet, it's just easier to do multiple choice.
I know I had my IQ tested at a psychologist's office. They probably have EQ tests that they can use where you can answer as you see fit, too.
But those would likely cost you, unless you have real psychological issues for which you can go for therapy under gov't health care.

My emotional reaction to most things is negligible. It's entirely possible that I could take an EQ test and have the results come back as 'n/a'.

i keep the low end of the eq cranked up, does that count?

I just took an IQ test and the iVillage EQ test. I scored a 40% on the EQ test (honestly, i could have scored higher, but I was going on what I would have done in X situation). I scored a 136 on the online IQ test. That seems pretty high, but then it was more or less what I expected. Not trying to be egotistical, just stating what I've known.

Edit: I got a 113 on the EQ test. I think I perform better in theory than reality.

I got 133 with the first test.
131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin.

Question 7 especially.

"Your cousin (who has bad spending habits) asks to borrow $500 from you to prevent getting evicted. You have the money but don't think your cousin will pay you back quickly. You:

Feel guilty saying no so lend your cousin the money anyway
Say no and suggest a credit counseling service to your cousin"

Let me be the first to ask: WTF does this have to do with emotion?!?

Anyway, I got a 140. 'You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt.'

Does anyone have another "EQ" test?

I found one I like better.
There's more options for the answers, although I dislike the rating scale at the end, and how they phrase where you are.

http://quiz.ivillage.com/health/tests/eqtest2.htm

"You scored 90% correct!
Your score falls in the high EQ range."

'correct' implies that there's only one good way to react to a situation... I suppose, maybe there is a 'better' way to react for your own emotional health, as well as that of others... but there were a few where I thought a couple of the options seemed healthy and normal, even if I don't do some of those things.
Your test hates me. I can't get to page 2.

The thing about that iVillage test is that there's obviously a scale of "best" to "worst" with the options, but you only get points if you choose the "best" option.

I got 70% on that one. I got 147 on the other one, the blog one. And 130 on the tickle one.

I'd personally say I have a fairly high EQ, both in understanding others and understanding myself. Far from perfect, and I make mistakes, but I'm generally fairly good at dealing with my emotions, and situations, and at understanding and relating to others.

The thing about that iVillage test is that there's obviously a scale of "best" to "worst" with the options, but you only get points if you choose the "best" option.

I got 70% on that one. I got 147 on the other one, the blog one. And 130 on the tickle one.

I'd personally say I have a fairly high EQ, both in understanding others and understanding myself. Far from perfect, and I make mistakes, but I'm generally fairly good at dealing with my emotions, and situations, and at understanding and relating to others.
And that makes some of us infuriatingly jealous.:p :fluffle:

I got 60% on the second quiz and 127 on the first one.

And that makes some of us infuriatingly jealous.:p :fluffle:
Well, it comes from much fuckedupness, confusion and depression... so don't be too jealous :p But it's one thing I'm quite proud of - how I've learnt from those experiences.
:fluffle:

Well, it comes from much fuckedupness, confusion and depression... so don't be too jealous :p But it's one thing I'm quite proud of - how I've learnt from those experiences.
:fluffle:
How old are you? I'd like to know just how long I can expect it to take for me to transform into you. Or did someone like PM help the transition along?

127. :D

With a 126 IQ. I'm intelligent! yay!!!

127. :D

With a 126 IQ. I'm intelligent! yay!!!
Actually, I think that's an average IQ these days. I took one in 7th grade and got a 148. :P

EQ is also widely known as the "empathy quotient". It is the opposite of the SQ. ("systemising quotient") It isn't related to how much you are in touch with your own emotions, but rather how touchy-feely you are concerning others, how well you instinctively interpret body-language and respond accordingly according to social norms, and how intrested in and good you are at small-talk.

How old are you? I'd like to know just how long I can expect it to take for me to transform into you. Or did someone like PM help the transition along?
I'm 16... It's not so much age as what you've gone through in your life I'd say. Or, mainly, how you deal and respond to things that go on in your life.

PM has definitly helped me along *nods*
He helps bring out the best parts in me, and also gives me self-esteem and helps hugely with the ability to see things more positively and calmly.

Just taken the second test, got 70%. That's 133 and 70%.

I'm pretty pleased with that.

Usually when i record vocals, I tend to go for a more high eq. Sometimes when I am equalising it may be slightly low on the bass if im using a particular graphic equaliser that lets you change particularly low frequencies, however genrally i have a high Eq.

what the hell is an EQ? Graphic equalizer?

Why, yes, I have a top-notch EQ.

I'm 16... It's not so much age as what you've gone through in your life I'd say. Or, mainly, how you deal and respond to things that go on in your life.

PM has definitly helped me along *nods*
He helps bring out the best parts in me, and also gives me self-esteem and helps hugely with the ability to see things more positively and calmly.
Oops. Then I've missed the mark. I've gone through a fair bit without much response. I brood a lot....I hear I'm already at the "wise old man" stage, and I'm only 18.
*note to self: find a good significant other to evade "grumpy old man" stage before age 21*

what the hell is an EQ? Graphic equalizer?

Why, yes, I have a top-notch EQ.
You didn't even bother to read the first post?

*note to self: find a good significant other to evade "grumpy old man" stage before age 21*
Nothing wrong with being a young "grumpy old man" - I'm 20 and already at that stage. And I have a very good significant other.

You didn't even bother to read the first post?
You bothered to respond to someone who didn't even bother to read the first post?:p

You didn't even bother to read the first post?
Now where would the fun be in that?

You didn't even bother to read the first post?

such drivel is beneath me.

hehe

Why, yes, I have a top-notch EQ.Oooh! Analog or digital? How many bands? How's the phase response? Is it quite linear, or does it smear the audio audible? How much ripple is there in the frequency response?

(:p)

Oops. Then I've missed the mark. I've gone through a fair bit without much response. I brood a lot....I hear I'm already at the "wise old man" stage, and I'm only 18.
*note to self: find a good significant other to evade "grumpy old man" stage before age 21*
You can't compare lives in this way and say where you "should" be. It's different for everyone and that's just how it is.
If you want to improve EQ, you have to actively do it - seek to improve at recognising emotions in yourself and others, improve at reacting and responding to things, improve in your view of things etc etc
I also had the help of CBT which really was an incredible help.

Nothing wrong with being a young "grumpy old man" - I'm 20 and already at that stage. And I have a very good significant other.
But I don't wanna be you! And I prolly won't have a significant other!
*shakes fist at unreasonably demanding standards*

Now where would the fun be in that?

So that's where I've been going wrong...:p

You can't compare lives in this way and say where you "should" be. It's different for everyone and that's just how it is.
If you want to improve EQ, you have to actively do it - seek to improve at recognising emotions in yourself and others, improve at reacting and responding to things, improve in your view of things etc etc
I also had the help of CBT which really was an incredible help.
But there are patterns, and I'm just having a bit of fun. I have no trouble seeing others' emotions. I just don't know what I feel, no matter how much I think about it. Sometimes I think I confuse others' emotions for my own. I don't need to improve my external view of things; I see those quite clearly. As to reacting and responding, well, I take a passive, cautious approach that usually is the best. The problem is really figuring out what I feel and how those feeling relate to those around me. No amount of activity seems to be improving that.

*note to self: find a good significant other to evade "grumpy old man" stage before age 21*
haha, i'm 21 and a grumpy old man in training *nods*
its not so bad :P

i'm also a dirty old man in training, but that's something altogether different ;) :p

But there are patterns, and I'm just having a bit of fun. I have no trouble seeing others' emotions. I just don't know what I feel, no matter how much I think about it. Sometimes I think I confuse others' emotions for my own. I don't need to improve my external view of things; I see those quite clearly. As to reacting and responding, well, I take a passive, cautious approach that usually is the best. The problem is really figuring out what I feel and how those feeling relate to those around me. No amount of activity seems to be improving that.
Well, I think that largely just comes with time.
Like I said, CBT helped me a lot in forcing me to analyse how I think, and now I'm very aware of my thought patterns and my feelings. Not perfect at it, but pretty good.
I'm off to bed soon, but if you ever wanted some "words of wisdom", I could easily TG you with advice and ramblings...
:fluffle:

haha, i'm 21 and a grumpy old man in training *nods*
its not so bad :P
Hey, in the msn conversation we're having right now, you're far from grumpy-old-man like :P

i'm also a dirty old man in training, but that's something altogether different ;) :p
Haha, you're just dirty fullstop :D (just the way I like you ;) :p)

haha, i'm 21 and a grumpy old man in training *nods*
its not so bad :P

i'm also a dirty old man in training, but that's something altogether different ;) :p
You're not really a dirty old man till you leave a sex shop with porn hidden under your trenchcoat.

I don't know. In public, I'm usually collected, and I can give presentations like heck, but I'm also very withdrawn. I have a group of "friends" but many of them complain that I don't connect with people emotionally. I'm aware of the emotions of others, and I'm aware of my emotions, but I just don't know how to have deep, meaningful relationships.

haha, i'm 21 and a grumpy old man in training *nods*
its not so bad :P

i'm also a dirty old man in training, but that's something altogether different ;) :p
On occasion, the dirty old man part peeks through, but I'm not him very well. But at least you have Glitz. I figure I prolly won't be able to enjoy my time with anyone before my grumpy old man training is complete, which I estimate to be by the time I'm 20 at this rate.

Well, I think that largely just comes with time.
Like I said, CBT helped me a lot in forcing me to analyse how I think, and now I'm very aware of my thought patterns and my feelings. Not perfect at it, but pretty good.
I'm off to bed soon, but if you ever wanted some "words of wisdom", I could easily TG you with advice and ramblings...
:fluffle:
I like ramblings and could tolerate the random advice.:) I need no forcing. I have always thought about these things. I understand my thought patterns; it's the emotions that escape me. G'night whenever you happen to leave...if you haven't already.

You're not really a dirty old man till you leave a sex shop with porn hidden under your trenchcoat.
Oooo, ooooo, I've got a trenchcoat! Anyone care to give me all the old porn that's in decent condition that you don't want anymore?:D

I don't know. In public, I'm usually collected, and I can give presentations like heck, but I'm also very withdrawn. I have a group of "friends" but many of them complain that I don't connect with people emotionally. I'm aware of the emotions of others, and I'm aware of my emotions, but I just don't know how to have deep, meaningful relationships.
*kicks shin*
Haha!
*runs off*

I try to stay away from emotions. I hardly ever can tell someone's emotions unless they're trying to get me to notice. Which would make me...I don't know what it would make me.

I try to stay away from emotions. I hardly ever can tell someone's emotions unless they're trying to get me to notice. Which would make me...I don't know what it would make me.
Either a sociopath or unimaginably dense....take your pick.

I'm scoring low.
I hate multiple choice tests asking me what I'd do. The choices offered many times don't include the course of action I would actually take.


same here,i scored 40 on the secont test posted.

i like to think i am usually attuned to others feelings,and tend to squash mine down.

same here,i scored 40 on the secont test posted.

i like to think i am usually attuned to others feelings,and tend to squash mine down.
I'd offer my own perspective of the tests, but the test won't get past page 1.:mad:

EQ is also widely known as the "empathy quotient". It is the opposite of the SQ. ("systemising quotient") It isn't related to how much you are in touch with your own emotions, but rather how touchy-feely you are concerning others, how well you instinctively interpret body-language and respond accordingly according to social norms, and how intrested in and good you are at small-talk.

If that is so, then I don't need some test to tell me that my EQ is verging on zero... especially given that "instinctively interpret body-language and respond accordingly according to social norms part". Experience shows that I completely fail at both.

I don't know. In public, I'm usually collected, and I can give presentations like heck, but I'm also very withdrawn. I have a group of "friends" but many of them complain that I don't connect with people emotionally. I'm aware of the emotions of others, and I'm aware of my emotions, but I just don't know how to have deep, meaningful relationships.

Don't worry, there are refuges for people like you. NS General is one of them. :p

Wait a minute... *scans thread*... he hasn't posted yet?! How did that happen? *invokes Avatar of Dinaverg to keep the universe from disintegrating*

If that is so, then I don't need some test to tell me that my EQ is verging on zero... especially given that "instinctively interpret body-language and respond accordingly according to social norms part". Experience shows that I completely fail at both.



Don't worry, there are refuges for people like you. NS General is one of them. :p

Wait a minute... *scans thread*... he hasn't posted yet?! How did that happen? *invokes Avatar of Dinaverg to keep the universe from disintegrating*
*setting: inside ancient Mayan temple*
guy1: Wait, don't go any further. There could be booby traps.
guy2: That's okay. I like boobies.
guy1: Yeah, good point. Let's go.
guy2[steps forward to be shot with cliche arrow traps]: Hey! Those aren't boobies!
guy1: Haha! You fail at archaeology!

Just like you fail at life.:p

According to the 2 tests posted, I have excellent EQ. I got 90% on the first one and 153 on the second one...
150+: Two possibilities - you've either out "Dr. Phil-ed" Dr. Phil... or you're a dirty liar.

Edit: wait, does this mean I'm a sociopath since I don't react to anything? :confused:

Weird. I was just in the middle of doing an EQ test when I saw this thread.
I did this one:
EQ Test (http://web.tickle.com/tests/eiq/index.jsp)
You may need to sign up for it, but it's free and they don't bombard your inbox with crap.
Your Emotional IQ is 120.

So, where are you most emotionally smart? Your test results show that your strongest suit is perception — your ability to pick up on what others are feeling.

Because of this, you are unusually good at reading people's verbal and non-verbal cues. You're especially aware of the subtleties of people's actions, and can feel out the vibe of a situation better than many. That gives you and edge many wish they had. People with high perception skills like yours, however, tend to rely on them to the exclusion of others. As a result, they sometimes have underdeveloped abilities in other realms of critical emotional intelligence like managing emotions, empathy, and being expressive.

They have some ok tests. Except this EQ test does have one particular question which can't be answered properly, mainly this one:
36. You are on a plane watching the latest Steven Segal movie. Suddenly, the plane begins rocking violently with turbulence. What do you do?
I'd continue watching the movie — it's Steven Segal
I'd hit the call button and ask the flight attendant what's going on
I'd stop watching the movie and keep on alert to hear if the captain has anything to say

I'm sorry, but there's no way in hell that I'd ever watch a Steven Seagal movie.

WTF is an EQ?

An old MMORPG released by Sony. ;)

(EverQuest)

153, or 90%.

Sure: http://www.blogthings.com/eqquiz/


My score was 133

"131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin."

My score was 133

"131-150: You are remarkable when it comes to relating with others. Only the biggest losers get under your skin."
That's weird. That's what I also got.
*shrugs*

My EQ is fucking huge. Much bigger than all you losers.

I got a 25% (( Super-low ))

:(

My EQ is fucking huge. Much bigger than all you losers.
SEE post about archaeology....:rolleyes:

My EQ is way higher than my IQ, thank the flying spaghettimonster...

My EQ is way higher than my IQ, thank the flying spaghettimonster...
What? You mean it's double digits?

What? You mean it's double digits?

I got an EQ of 15 and an IQ of 12... or so I think, my mom is actually typing this and guessing it's what I want to say by the way my drool drips... It's my way of communicating...

67. Actually, I'm surprised I got that high. What can I say? As we say in Dungeons & Dragons, high intelligence, low wisdom.

I dunno. I've got an 'extreme type A' personality.. Which probably relates to a reasonably low EQ score.

I scored 100 on the first and 40% on the second. I'm average! :D

Emotions are nice to add colour to the world, but it's not really wise to use them for making decisions. Far too changeable and irrational.

Can I sign up for this "Grumpy Old Man" club, too? My friends recon I've been one of those for a while.

Can I sign up for this "Grumpy Old Man" club, too? My friends recon I've been one of those for a while.
You have to take the 'grumpy old man' test. Basically, you watch 3 episodes of Grumpy Old Men, and to qualify you must agree with more than 50% of what is said.

Sure: http://www.blogthings.com/eqquiz/
47. Now get me a shrink.

Well, got 120. Yeah, guess i am more caring on the inside that i tend to show.
What really annoyed me was question 11.
The best times you have with your friends involve...
a) Conversation and a relaxed vibe
b) Partying, lots of drinking, and going crazy
I party by drinking a lot with friends in a relaxed atmosphere and make conversation.

I got an 80



The test sucked. On many questions neither possible answer applied to me. I don't think the score it gave me is correct. It might actually be lower.


mine must be higher i got only a 67

I scored 67.51-70: When it comes to understanding human emotions, you'd have better luck understanding Chinese.That test was full of shit. At least half the Q&As couldn't have applied any less to me. I get the impression it was written by some fucked up teen.

Is there an internet test someplace where we can find out?

...of course there is!

My EQ is 120. 111-130: You usually have it going on emotionally, but roadblocks tend to land you on your butt.

I appear to have trouble expressing my feelings, but it isn't too low... I hope.

You have to take the 'grumpy old man' test. Basically, you watch 3 episodes of Grumpy Old Men, and to qualify you must agree with more than 50% of what is said.
Damnit! I already passed...:(

What? You mean it's double digits?
I know he already responded, but I will anyway. What he really meant was that it passed into positive numbers.:D