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I guess I am tired so sorry if this makes no sense.

Alright I dated a woman for two years ... we broke up about two months ago ... during that time me and another woman hung out a total of twice.

Following that we drifted apart and did not talk for weeks at a time.

Now all the suden she finds out I am dating (I did not know I had to inform her of my relationship status) and freaks out. She also manages to find my gf's myspace profile (I told my gf about what happened)

Now my gf writes her a reply on myspace dripping with love for me (which she knows will get under this girls skin)

I guess I am just curious if I did anything wrong ... I mean I dont feel guilty but things between me and this other girl just tanked in the last two days and I feel bad I did not mean to hurt her I just did not know. And I did not mean to be mean I just did not know.

But in the end I look like an ass trying to play two girls even if I was not

Grr relationships

I guess I am tired so sorry if this makes no sense.

Alright I dated a woman for two years ... we broke up about two months ago ... during that time me and another woman hung out a total of twice.

Following that we drifted apart and did not talk for weeks at a time.

Now all the suden she finds out I am dating (I did not know I had to inform her of my relationship status) and freaks out. She also manages to find my gf's myspace profile (I told my gf about what happened)

Now my gf writes her a reply on myspace dripping with love for me (which she knows will get under this girls skin)

I guess I am just curious if I did anything wrong ... I mean I dont feel guilty but things between me and this other girl just tanked in the last two days and I feel bad I did not mean to hurt her I just did not know. And I did not mean to be mean I just did not know.

But in the end I look like an ass trying to play two girls even if I was not

Grr relationships

Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned, that is all I can really say on the matter. You basically have to break up as politely as possible, and "remain friends" for about a week or so at the least, so that things don't get mental.

Or that's my experience on the matter, anyway.

I guess I am tired so sorry if this makes no sense.

Alright I dated a woman for two years ... we broke up about two months ago ... during that time me and another woman hung out a total of twice.

Following that we drifted apart and did not talk for weeks at a time.

Now all the suden she finds out I am dating (I did not know I had to inform her of my relationship status) and freaks out. She also manages to find my gf's myspace profile (I told my gf about what happened)

Now my gf writes her a reply on myspace dripping with love for me (which she knows will get under this girls skin)

I guess I am just curious if I did anything wrong ... I mean I dont feel guilty but things between me and this other girl just tanked in the last two days and I feel bad I did not mean to hurt her I just did not know. And I did not mean to be mean I just did not know.

But in the end I look like an ass trying to play two girls even if I was not

Grr relationships

Feeling your pain right now. One of my best friends is a very attractive young lady, and at times it looked like...well...it looked like I was dating both, given how much time I spent with my friend. Yeah.

my advice? Assume the fetal position in a corner, rock back and forth, sucking your thumb, and singing "it's a small world".

I'd say you're in the clear. from your account of the matter, you did nothing wrong. This girl seems to have made some assumptions, which was her own fault.

:headbang: Yes in deeddy.Women as a general rule of mine are like nature itself. When things are pleasant you can lay back and enjoy the splender,,,but just like nature there are times when the best advice is seak shelter and or hide from thier rath:eek:

Women. Blame women. They're the complicated ones. They're the ones who get bitchy and possessive and try to RUIN YOUR LIFE because they think that a tiny shred of your soul might not yet be THEIR PROPERTY!!! They just can't leave a guy alone, always jumping on you whenever you even talk to a member of the other 50% of the population because youmight have some sort of fleeting attraction to that person which maybe would get in the way of her total possession of your SOUL!!!!!!!



[note: All bitterness and resentment in this post is feigned and is intended to be facetious. I haven't had that many problems with women!]



Really, though, it's their fault and they need to stop bitching (and yes I enjoy male chauvinism:p )

I think the problem here was that this girl assumed that you could somehow tell that she liked you, and as such assumed that if you had a girlfriend it was solely to spite her (never once thinking that you actually MIGHT NOT KNOW!)

my advice? Assume the fetal position in a corner, rock back and forth, sucking your thumb, and singing "it's a small world".

I'd say you're in the clear. from your account of the matter, you did nothing wrong. This girl seems to have made some assumptions, which was her own fault.
I agree

That's what you get for dating chicks with a MySpace page...

I've had chicks that where possesive without actually dating me-though I suspect that it was really that they where hoping I'd grow a pair and actually make a move with them...

But dudes freak out in this kind of way, too-it's not just chicks. I've seen dudes freak out with jealousy with chicks that are only just friends when they talk to another dude. It happens. Collectively grips need to be handed out now and then.

I also doubt the wisdom of keeping a catalog of your personal life available to the general public (myspace, livejournal, etc.). This seems to lead to trouble pretty reliably.

I also doubt the wisdom of keeping a catalog of your personal life available to the general public (myspace, livejournal, etc.). This seems to lead to trouble pretty reliably.

True that. I don't use MySpace much, and keep my journal entries very vague for a reason.

I also doubt the wisdom of keeping a catalog of your personal life available to the general public (myspace, livejournal, etc.). This seems to lead to trouble pretty reliably.
I dont personaly ... my name is up there thats about it (not even sure of my passwords) and my gf is about the same

It was one of thoes things just to see what are friends are up to (then I realized how emo it is)

To be honest I am not quite sure how she found her name much less her myspace ... kind of freaks me out that she was so persistant or snoopy

your exgf is a bit of a nut.

she may just let it go, she may decide that she needs to break up your current relationship. (if she has a really bad day she may take it farther but no sense worrying about that unless it happens)

the key to making sure that she cant break you up is to keep excellent communication with your current gf and to have NO contact whatsoever with the exgf. no talking to her about it, no trying to reason with her, no nothing. a psychobitch can find devious ways to make it look like you are the one who wants the contact. dont feed into it at all

no you didnt do anything wrong. once you break up with someone, you arent required to discuss your new lovelife with them. (the exception being if you decide to date one of her close friends) some people have a hard time letting things go. you arent responsible for your exgf being nutz.

your exgf is a bit of a nut.

she may just let it go, she may decide that she needs to break up your current relationship. (if she has a really bad day she may take it farther but no sense worrying about that unless it happens)

the key to making sure that she cant break you up is to keep excellent communication with your current gf and to have NO contact whatsoever with the exgf. no talking to her about it, no trying to reason with her, no nothing. a psychobitch can find devious ways to make it look like you are the one who wants the contact. dont feed into it at all

no you didnt do anything wrong. once you break up with someone, you arent required to discuss your new lovelife with them. (the exception being if you decide to date one of her close friends) some people have a hard time letting things go. you arent responsible for your exgf being nutz.

What makes it even more intresting is my current gf is my ex gf ... we broke up for like 2 months (that is when I met the crazy chick)

What makes it even more intresting is my current gf is my ex gf ... we broke up for like 2 months (that is when I met the crazy chick)

Ah. That does make the crazy chick sound somewhat less paranoid.

I also doubt the wisdom of keeping a catalog of your personal life available to the general public (myspace, livejournal, etc.). This seems to lead to trouble pretty reliably.
I agree.

Yeah okay, a couple years ago I broke up with my boyfriend, said it wasn't working out, he hadn't made some changes that I'd asked him to make, okay. We don't see each other for a couple weeks, then he starts hanging out as "just friends." Then we start hooking up again, but I make it clear that we are still apart and I am looking for somebody else to date, cause he hasn't changed a thing. Fine, he says. Then we go to a bar (separately) and he sees me make out with a guy. FLIPS OUT. Tells me I'm a whore and he doesn't love me anymore. I'm hurt, but whatever, that's what happens.

Weeks go by, he has completely cut off communication from me, and I figure that's the best thing anyway cause otherwise we'd end up hooking up again. A month and a half later, I start dating somebody. He hears about it I guess, and starts emailing me and IMing me like crazy saying he still loves me, etc. I see him, he's lost basically all his body fat from not eating. Long story short, we get back together, he's fixed up his shit like I asked him to in the first place, and 3 years later we're still together.

So, guys are crazy too.

Ah. That does make the crazy chick sound somewhat less paranoid.
I only hung out with the crazy chick twice ... broke it off and did not talk to her for months. (I mean litteraly hung out a grand total of twice) now she is calling my family and trying to message my girlfriend with all this shit that is not true

I guess I am tired so sorry if this makes no sense.

Alright I dated a woman for two years ... we broke up about two months ago ... during that time me and another woman hung out a total of twice.

Following that we drifted apart and did not talk for weeks at a time.

Now all the suden she finds out I am dating (I did not know I had to inform her of my relationship status) and freaks out. She also manages to find my gf's myspace profile (I told my gf about what happened)

Now my gf writes her a reply on myspace dripping with love for me (which she knows will get under this girls skin)

I guess I am just curious if I did anything wrong ... I mean I dont feel guilty but things between me and this other girl just tanked in the last two days and I feel bad I did not mean to hurt her I just did not know. And I did not mean to be mean I just did not know.

But in the end I look like an ass trying to play two girls even if I was not

Grr relationships


Men are so much simpler.

Apparantly your problem is that you are entirely too sexy!

Men are so simple.
Heh heh...:rolleyes:

Men are so much simpler.
No they're not. See Ilie's post.

No they're not. See Ilie's post.

I dunno. There's a line to be drawn between "complicated" and "utterly unstable".

I dunno. There's a line to be drawn between "complicated" and "utterly unstable".
Since men have nothing less than women in terms of emotions, intelligence and sex drive, and both sexes are raised with plenty of contradictions, I don't see how one could be more complicated than the other. Perhaps womens' complications are more socially acceptable?