Chellis
26-05-2006, 00:23
Meant to post this last night... mehness
I know that my threads are usually pretty bad when they have to do with myself, so if you have read them before and disliked them, you might want to veer clear.
I just want to know whats wrong with me(pr more some advice/answers to the problems below). To give a summary, I've known this girl nichole for about 8 months(the school year so far). She hung out in the same group as me, and was always pretty cool. Both of my best friends were interested in her(as well as a large portion of guys who knew her). She rejected one of my best friends, the other never really made a move on her. She was engaged to one guy, and going out with another at the same time.
Fastforward a bit. I go after one of her best friends, not in our group. I get rejected, after being led on a bit by her. She tells me she's not over her ex, then gets a different guy about a month later.
At the same time I was getting close to her, I was getting closer to Nichole. Every time we hung out not at school, we would get closer.
Senior prom, my date flakes out(I should have known, knowing the girl... but she was too hot to not go after). I ask nichole on short notice(few days before), and she is completely cool with going. We get everything together, and go.
This is where things really started between us. We kissed, basically on accident in the car, and then just kinda went with it the rest of the night, kissing a bit at prom, and a good deal more during the ride home.
Well, now we are basically dating. Hang out together at school whenever possible, hug and kiss when we leave each other, and whatnot.
And before I forget, both of my friends are supportive of me being with her. The one who got rejected is really, really bad with girls, and goes after a crap load of girls with no success. I would never date if I didn't go after girls he'd failed with.
Problems...
1. She is dating another guy too right now. She was dating him first, by a number of weeks. Not that I care about him, but knowing her, I'm not sure if she will break up with him, or even worse, go after other guys while I'm with her.
2. Her best two friends don't really seem supportive of us being together. One pulled me aside, asked me a few questions about what happened when we first got together, and got pretty pissed when I answered. Nichole got pissed at her for getting mad at the situation... Don't even know what to think.
3. Just a general self-esteem issue. I've been trying so hard to raise my self esteem since the beginning of the year, and to others, its working... but not to myself. I'm incredibly afraid she is going to stop being interested in me, or I will do something wrong, etc. I'm also afraid of being too submissive or IW.
4. I can't get her off my mind, despite all these problems. She's the number one thing on my mind recently. She has a really bad past, which she's told me about, and she has emotional problems, etc. It tears me apart to see her hurting, which is alot of the time, and I can only help her so much.
5. I can barely see her. I see her at school, but otherwise, not really. She is indefidentally grounded for failing a class.
One last thing. She's the closest thing I've really had to a girlfriend, which I know is sad.
I know that my threads are usually pretty bad when they have to do with myself, so if you have read them before and disliked them, you might want to veer clear.
I just want to know whats wrong with me(pr more some advice/answers to the problems below). To give a summary, I've known this girl nichole for about 8 months(the school year so far). She hung out in the same group as me, and was always pretty cool. Both of my best friends were interested in her(as well as a large portion of guys who knew her). She rejected one of my best friends, the other never really made a move on her. She was engaged to one guy, and going out with another at the same time.
Fastforward a bit. I go after one of her best friends, not in our group. I get rejected, after being led on a bit by her. She tells me she's not over her ex, then gets a different guy about a month later.
At the same time I was getting close to her, I was getting closer to Nichole. Every time we hung out not at school, we would get closer.
Senior prom, my date flakes out(I should have known, knowing the girl... but she was too hot to not go after). I ask nichole on short notice(few days before), and she is completely cool with going. We get everything together, and go.
This is where things really started between us. We kissed, basically on accident in the car, and then just kinda went with it the rest of the night, kissing a bit at prom, and a good deal more during the ride home.
Well, now we are basically dating. Hang out together at school whenever possible, hug and kiss when we leave each other, and whatnot.
And before I forget, both of my friends are supportive of me being with her. The one who got rejected is really, really bad with girls, and goes after a crap load of girls with no success. I would never date if I didn't go after girls he'd failed with.
Problems...
1. She is dating another guy too right now. She was dating him first, by a number of weeks. Not that I care about him, but knowing her, I'm not sure if she will break up with him, or even worse, go after other guys while I'm with her.
2. Her best two friends don't really seem supportive of us being together. One pulled me aside, asked me a few questions about what happened when we first got together, and got pretty pissed when I answered. Nichole got pissed at her for getting mad at the situation... Don't even know what to think.
3. Just a general self-esteem issue. I've been trying so hard to raise my self esteem since the beginning of the year, and to others, its working... but not to myself. I'm incredibly afraid she is going to stop being interested in me, or I will do something wrong, etc. I'm also afraid of being too submissive or IW.
4. I can't get her off my mind, despite all these problems. She's the number one thing on my mind recently. She has a really bad past, which she's told me about, and she has emotional problems, etc. It tears me apart to see her hurting, which is alot of the time, and I can only help her so much.
5. I can barely see her. I see her at school, but otherwise, not really. She is indefidentally grounded for failing a class.
One last thing. She's the closest thing I've really had to a girlfriend, which I know is sad.