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Quick recap as to my personal life:
Last year, after 5 years together my g/f decided to call it quits. She did this in a not-very-particularly pleasant or tactful way. Namely by coming home after being on holiday for 2 weeks and telling me she hated me, was sick of the sight of me and I had 2 days to move out before she was changing the locks and chucking my stuff out on the footpath.
I managed to calm her down enough to agree to give me 2 weeks to find a place. Which I somehow managed to do. During that fortnight she would continually harrangue me about how much she hated me and would go on, at length, about my shortcomings and numerous faults. She also 'threw away' my cat a few days before I was moving out, because she 'was sick of the sight of it'.
Oh, and did I mention that I had just lent her ~$10000US? Coincidently just before she went on holiday. And let's not forget the other $10k that I'd given her over the previous 12 months in money and gifts.
All-in-all, a particularly stressful time for myself. I had to take out a loan to cover moving and buying stuff and work wasn't too nice at that time(componded by lousy personal life).
All in the past now, etc etc.

Anyway, getting to the point of this thread:
Last weekend we slept together. Well, not exactly slept. More humped like bunnies. And no, she's not giving me the money back. She views it as a gift. And yes, when we went to China on Saturday to get a massage and do some shopping I paid for the trip.

So my question is this:

I've been trying to think of a good english word but somehow 'idiot', 'fool', 'moron' or even 'Fucking dumbass' doesn't seem to quite fit the premise here.
Then I thought of 'schmuck' which I thinks might be rather appropriate. And that's a Jewish word, AFAIK. Which got me thinking:

Is there any word in any other language to describe me in this situation?

What was the reason for the very sudden change in opinion?

tunari

So my question is this:

I've been trying to think of a good english word but somehow 'idiot', 'fool', 'moron' or even 'Fucking dumbass' doesn't seem to quite fit the premise here.
Then I thought of 'schmuck' which I thinks might be rather appropriate. And that's a Jewish word, AFAIK. Which got me thinking:

Is there any word in any other language to describe me in this situation?

Okay, so, I don't know you, but everything I've seen of you says you're a decent sort that would deserve to have the escape-pod door held for you, but...

As its been explained to me, the term schmuck was originally a noun referring to the discarded foreskin during a circumcision, and came to be used as a description for people when "they threw the wrong part away after your circumcision".

Unfortunately, it also refers to an occasionally hapless fellow who might permit himself to be poorly used, and come back for more.

So, if my Yiddish is correct (and if anyone can correct me, please do), you are, it appears, not without a certain schmuck-like quality at this time.

Sorry, dude.

Is there any word in any other language to describe me in this situation?German is nice, because you can fit words together to make new ones. Hirnverbrannter Vollidiot (brain-fried total idiot) would probably be appropriate.

My condolences :(

Well,I suppose you have a few words in Arabic...

Ghabi(Stupid),'Abeet(Idiot),Ahmaq(Idiot,That's really old-fashioned,though),Zaki(Smart,but most of the time in Arabic,it's used in a sarcastic tone),Ahbal(Moron).

Well, here are some french words:
Garce (slut),
Tu as le cerveau d'un lézard de saut qui a été pressé par le gros fond de votre mère ( you have the brain of a leaping lizard that has been squashed by your mother's fat ass)
Mai les puces d'mille chameaux infestent vos aisselles ( May the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits)

Bonne chance mon ami/e!
Good luck!

tunari
Not just.

Saatanan tunari.

Baka?
Stultissimus?
:p

Tu as le cerveau d'un lézard de saut qui a été pressé par le gros fond de votre mère ( you have the brain of a leaping lizard that has been squashed by your mother's fat ass)
Mai les puces d'mille chameaux infestent vos aisselles ( May the fleas of a thousand camels infest your armpits)


Babelfish and other "automatic translators" are not your friend. ;) That's not so much French as a string of French words forced into an English syntax in an utterly meaningless way.

Otário (someone who can be easily cheated on; easy to fool)

or some more obvious ones:
Estupido (stupid), parvo (dork), burro (dumb).
Roughly translated.

Babelfish and other "automatic translators" are not your friend. ;) That's not so much French as a string of French words forced into an English syntax in an utterly meaningless way.
That's the definition of French, isn't it?:p

Gebruikt (used), perhaps?

Is there any word in any other language to describe me in this situation?
Uh ... "desparate?"

Or ... un hombre muy loco. :D

She also 'threw away' my cat a few days before I was moving out, because she 'was sick of the sight of it'.


What happened to the cat?

EDIT - I know I'm not a foreign language speaker but I was concerned.

There is a word, cuckold. Don't give women money. When you loan anyone money write up and agreement or buy one at the store and have it notarized. With 10k on the line get the advice of a legal professional. Don't just walk away from your money unless there is no other choice. Look at this as the first step to being a better you. Unless folding like a lawn-chair and being used is fun. For that matter, you've got rights when you're residing in a place for an extended period, even if your name isn't on the lease. Throwing away your cat was a criminal act, file a police report.

Oooh yes, cuckold is the traditional English word for it.

Poor cat. Was your girlfriend always such a mean nasty excuse for a human or did she somehow become this way on vacation?

China ey, changes peoples whole perspective on stuff.. Maybe seeing another 2 billion people made her reconsider, or something.
But yeh, about the 10k.. Id try to get it back, then, personally, I'd torch her house.. not while shes in it or anything, Im not slack.
You were unlucky though mate, :headbang:
You seem like a good person (from those few lines of text :\ )

EDIT: Ah sorry, dont really have a non english word for you..
'owned' kind of covers it, but im not saying it to be harsh.

Not just.

Saatanan tunari.

"Saatanan tunari" is a really good one. That and "Kämänen pelle" are the best Finnish expressions, I think.

Fjomsopp.

Uh ... "desparate?"
That's the ironic thing. This is the one time I'm not desperate!
In the two weekends preceding this, I've had sex with two other women - which brings the total number of women I've had sex with in the last 8 months to 4 [including the ex], and the total number of times I've sex in that time to slightly more than 4.
But not by much.


It was just kinda weird. I hadn't heard from her since November and suddenly I receive a txt from her a week or so back telling me she's in NZ and did I want her to bring me anything. Thinking this was very odd and figuring nothing would come of it, I txted back a request for some Whittakers chocolate and some Pineapple lumps (any Kiwi will tell you they'd deal with the devil himself to get their hands on either of those). A couple of days later I get a phone call from her informing me she's got the goods and when and where to meet to give them to me.
I figure this is a good chance to ask her about the money and so meet up. And things just kinda went from there.

Anyway, that's not the issue. The money I'd given her during the year (thinking back, it was more than $10US, prob closer to 12 or 13) I have no problems with. For one thing, it was her apartment, so I was helping her pay the mortgage each month and the other dosh was mainly spent on presents that one gives to one's mate.
The other $10k I have a few issues with, obviously.
But two of my big problems are:
I'm too easy-going. Losing that money obviously annoyed me (and caused me a fair amount of stress), but after a while, I just thought 'eh. No point wallowing in the past. Put it behind me and move on'.
I'm too soft on others. I make a lot more than the ex, so all-in-all, she needs that money than me. She'd be screwed financially if she had to pay me back and as badly as she treated me last year, I hate to fuck up her life like that.
I have a very lacksadasical attitude towards money - indeed, I'm almost autistic in that I still find it very bizarre the concept of being given bits of paper for working which I can then give to someone else for things I want. but I digress.


Anway, that wasn't the point of the thread. I was just thinking about how ludicrous my life gets at times and suddenly wondered how I could describe it in other languages.
There's some good stuff here. I'm writing them down. Keep them coming!

In middle-Dutch there is a word that rather neatly fits your description, I Think.

It's: miskleun

(literally: someone who, after falling through ice, walks home dripping with water and freezing with the cold around)

incidentally: eu in Dutch is pronounced like the German ö.

"Bou".

It means "ox" in Romanian. You know, because they're like bulls, only they are missing an essential ingredient... which is why they are always ready to take any command from the driver of the cart.